Man my life sucks..

[x0thedeadzone0x]

...I think i'm in love with my best friends ex-bf. The problem is, she said she'd kill herself once he gets a new one. She always jokes around and then ends up going out with someone else, but she'll probably never talk to me again if i tell her that i like him. They just broke up yesterday. What's a girl to do...? I think he likes me too but im not sure, he could just have been being really friendly. Anyways... yeah. ((Afraid of getting rejected)) and for losing my best friend forever.

--oh great, the poll i just voted on in his subprofile shows the sns and it shows mine for yes under -- do u like me. guess i have to tel him and get my heart broken.

any advice for me... i really like this guy alot.

[metroidkiller9]

i wish a girl who played games was in love with me... does that help?

[Wshakspear]

Tell her you like him and go from there. You can start from the truth, see where hat goes, or just get into a bigger and bigger pile of lies. You dont want that second bit. Talk with her, either you'll get a "blessing" to go out with him, or every warning under the sun.

Of course, this all depends on why they arnt together anymore, which im not even going to guess

[terribledeli]

weigh your friendship with your friend against the possibility of a relationship with this guy.

Do you think your friendship with your friend will last for a while? Longer than perhaps a relationship with this guy?

[x0thedeadzone0x]

Well, she's been my best friend for years. But I actually think that I really like this guy. And for the other guy, they broke up because he couldn't see her that much, because he stayed back and is in 8th grade instead of 9th (we're all 14 here, though). Although... come to think about it, why would we start going out, I live like 25-30 minutes away from cumberland where they live and they're still in the same town... :(

EDIT: and also, I can't even get ahold of her... I keep calling her cell phone and home phone but she's not picking up. How can I tell her if I can't get ahold of her? She's been away since yesterday once they broke up, but I need to tell him ASAP.. hmm... :cry:

EDIT 2: metroidkiller, if it doesnt work out with him, i'll be ur girlfriend :wink: lol..

EDIT 798: she just signed on! wish me luck with this, ill try to be as nice as possible... :?

[SteveMcQ]

Guys come and go. Friends are forever.

Then again, if she's a friend, she'd understand.

So I guess that leaves you where you started.

Post 100 on love advice on a gaming board of all places!!!!

Good luck.

There's always someone out there for you...always remember that if it doesn't work out. Happy Valentine's Day.

[moiety]

<--This girl's two cents:
If she just broke up with him yesterday, I highly advise against "going for it" just yet. For one, you'd be his rebound so soon after the break-up. Two, your friend would think you've been after him for awhile now and question things. And three, the fact that she joked about killing herself (or was it a joke?) if he got a new bf should raise a red-flag that your friendship will probably end if you go for her ex.

[cruster]

Don't do it. As stated above, friends are "forever" (sometimes) and romances come and go. Let it be a crush, internalize, deal, and walk. Someone else will come along and you'll forget all about this guy. Some guys have a saying: bros before hos. Maybe you could be like...sisters before misters or something. I know, I'm stretching, but hopefully you get the point. In the end you'd just break up with the guy anyway.

[Wshakspear]

"She's been away since yesterday once they broke up, but I need to tell him ASAP.. hmm..."
Why ASAP? Other sharks out there? (j/k) Also, Unles you get the SAME kind of vibe back from him, dont even bother trying. Especially right after he breaks up with someone...Tiny little changes happen in your brain after that...either "Im god!" or "I'm nothing!"...depending on how the break-up went.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

^^ response to girl up from me.

They only went out for about 4 days, so it wasn't even a serious relationship at all. I think she really liked him, but I'm not sure. So, with not even a week relationship, things didnt get serious at all. She didnt even see him during the entire 4 days! I saw him sooner then she did. ((last friday)) where we had a really nice time and I think he was hitting on me or just being extremely nice. I know it was a red flag, but i think hey, its either now or never, because i've got to summon up some courage. Also she always jokes about that stuff. Its just to get attention, i guess. :? but its not funny, u know... I don't know. Now i'm confused. Thanks so much for the advice though u guys.

[extzed]

god I hate to sound all old and everything but you're all so young, crushes like this come and go. I'm not trying to belittle your situation because I've been there many a times before. That being said if you really want to see what can happen with this guy then you should talk to her, let her know whats up. At least that way you will know for sure were she is coming from and what the potential fallout would be

[metroidkiller9]

Well, she's been my best friend for years. But I actually think that I really like this guy. And for the other guy, they broke up because he couldn't see her that much, because he stayed back and is in 8th grade instead of 9th (we're all 14 here, though). Although... come to think about it, why would we start going out, I live like 25-30 minutes away from cumberland where they live and they're still in the same town... :(

EDIT: and also, I can't even get ahold of her... I keep calling her cell phone and home phone but she's not picking up. How can I tell her if I can't get ahold of her? She's been away since yesterday once they broke up, but I need to tell him ASAP.. hmm... :cry:

EDIT 2: metroidkiller, if it doesnt work out with him, i'll be ur girlfriend :wink: lol..

EDIT 798: she just signed on! wish me luck with this, ill try to be as nice as possible... :?

i dont mean this in a bad way dead zone but you are young. chances are that while whatever you could have with this guy might be nice, its not gonna be a life long romance. but your friendship with this girl could very well last for many years to come. i say give it a week or two and if you still have feelings towards this guy then explain it to your friend. im sure that considering youve been friends with her for years and she only went out with him for four days she should hbe alright with it.
anyway i hope it works out with him, cause you and me are illegal in 48 states honey. :)

[Ravaged]

Yea I don't want to give my two cents but im gonna have to. Relationships at this age come and go REALLY quickly. I have never seen a real serious relationship in 8th or 9th grade go on between two people. So if you think you've found your true love or anything, chances are its all a fluke. So go for it i guess, but if your hearts broken weeks, or months later, don't say I didn't warn you. Wait until like 10th or somthing, but I don't see why a BIG time relationship couldn't start now. Plus when you two go to different colleges, its gonna be a big deal and you'll probably wind up marrying someone else, if it even gets that far.

[Wshakspear]

i hear Arkansas is nice this time of year.

Listen to metroid killer on that lat post. thats about the best you can do without things really going in the crapper

[Ravaged]

Also, don't say that your life sucks like that. I used to put my self down a lot. Got horrible grades, didn't have a life or friends, but you can always bounce back from things like this, but always be kind to people, I mean I don't doubt you are kind to others, but its somthing you should remember. Somthing I take for granted, but I still have time to do it, and I still have time to get my grades back up to what they used to be. Just don't wait until college to do that, cause then its just downhill from there. Also never bring yourself down too much, I mean it doesn't hurt to tell yourself your different from other people, but don't let that bring you down. Considering your only in Ninth you still have plenty of time to tell yourself who you really are.

[optimusprime]

If your friend still really likes this guy and is really upset about the breakup, I'm guessing that breaking up was mostly his idea.

That being said, did you ever stop to consider that he'll probably get bored with you, too......a lot of guys are just like that....we just have short attention spans with women......especially at that age (I speak from experience...don't hate the playa, hate the game).

I guess my advice in the end is: don't sell out a good friend for a relationship that might only last a couple of weeks (I know that's not what you wanted to hear, but I think its good advice).

[msdmoney]

Well, she's been my best friend for years. But I actually think that I really like this guy. And for the other guy, they broke up because he couldn't see her that much, because he stayed back and is in 8th grade instead of 9th (we're all 14 here, though). Although... come to think about it, why would we start going out, I live like 25-30 minutes away from cumberland where they live and they're still in the same town... :(

EDIT: and also, I can't even get ahold of her... I keep calling her cell phone and home phone but she's not picking up. How can I tell her if I can't get ahold of her? She's been away since yesterday once they broke up, but I need to tell him ASAP.. hmm... :cry:

EDIT 2: metroidkiller, if it doesnt work out with him, i'll be ur girlfriend :wink: lol..

EDIT 798: she just signed on! wish me luck with this, ill try to be as nice as possible... :?

i dont mean this in a bad way dead zone but you are young. chances are that while whatever you could have with this guy might be nice, its not gonna be a life long romance. but your friendship with this girl could very well last for many years to come. i say give it a week or two and if you still have feelings towards this guy then explain it to your friend. im sure that considering youve been friends with her for years and she only went out with him for four days she should hbe alright with it.
anyway i hope it works out with him, cause you and me are illegal in 48 states honey. :)

I have to agree, although I know it will come off as condescending, you are very young yet. Relationships come and go at your age, friendships do not. I think you really need to ask yourself what or who is more important to you? How well do you really know this guy? Do you know him well enough to consider the word "love" or is your interest more an infatuation or crush. Call me a skeptic, but at your age crushes and infatuation are often confused for love. As an example of the frailty of relationships at your age, look at the example of your friend. She only went out with the guy for four days and shes going to kill herself (I realize this is just an expression) if he finds someone new. Four days isn't a relationship, thats a hook up. Regardless I think you would end up regretting breaking up a friendship, especially with your BEST friend over a guy. I know you will hate this advice, but love can wait at your age, enjoy the relationships with your friends and your teenage years without the attachment of a guy if possible.

On an somewhat unrelated topic, the best advice I can give as someone not to far removed from high school (I just finished college) is start planning for college. College will be the most enjoyable time of your life, without a doubt. Your experiences and freedom in college will make your high school relationships seem small in comparison.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

Thanks for all the really great advice. Foolishly, I didn't check this for awhile.. .and eventually she pried it out of me, bribing me with "you should really tell me, we're not really friends.. its only hurting our relationship"... so i caved in. I told her.. everything. I told her i really liked him. I bet all you guys are probly right, and I realize im young. Fine i can definitely accept that. But i just made a huge mistake to cave in and now i regret it, because you're right... it will only last so long.. I just hope she can forgive me, and maybe this kid and me can go out together with no flames attached :cry: , because it might just be infatuation but i cant stop thinking about him. :? we just had SUCH a nice time together, no sex or anything like kids my age probably want but just talking, playing games, "cuddling" lol :lol: , he even bought me fries... first time meeting him.. and shared his chicken nuggets and drink with me... ok well I think that's sweet, anyways :? . Well, right now i have a depressing away message on AIM saying i'm sorry bout everything to kristie, she's just on the computer screen, not even idle, not even away. Probably juts reading it over and over and crying. And now i feel absolutely horrible. What did I do to our friendship?...You're right, people. I should've never let a guy come between best friends. :cry: :cry: :cry:

[lawyeron]

Ok, well next time listen to us instead of making up your own mind. :)

[VIP]

Your life doesn't suck. In fact, it sounds like an episode off of Dawson's Creek.

[metroidkiller9]

cheer up deadz, if shes your best friend she wont let this guy come between you. and if she does then thatll just show you the friendship wasnt that tight to begin with. just do what makes you happy and good luck with it.

[moiety]

It's all part of learning about life. You grow as a person through your experiences, whether big or small, young or old.

Everything will work out, like many said you are still young and have lots of time. I'm sure things will be fine with your friend in awhile, as well. Keep your head up and try to make the best choices for yourself. And there's always people around willing to lend a hand, as this thread has proved. :)

[daphatty]

Why didn't anyone tell me the key to a girls heart was a box of chicken nuggets and fries! :evil: Damn if only I could be 14 again! I would be the man! :lol:

[D4rkewolfe]

Well, you can use our rule. Sacred rule for a guy, do not jeapordize a friendship over a girl. If one dated her, or both like the same person...well just don't do it. It should be the same for a female. Honestly crushes, loves, likes whatever you want to describe it as, comes and goes, but a true friendship is forever.

Especially if your friend has mentioned the killing herself as a joke...unfortunately it can be as a sign for help. Heck I'd love to be 14 myself, there are so many things I didn't get to do. Fortunately I did meet a female gamer, too bad it's just pokemon, but I'll take that.

Daphatty, chicken nuggets and fries go a long way, but if you just make it a combo it comes with a drink and you can save a few cents. :)

[msdmoney]

Why didn't anyone tell me the key to a girls heart was a box of chicken nuggets and fries! :evil: Damn if only I could be 14 again! I would be the man! :lol:

Lol, I wish I would have known that was all it took as well at that age.

[paz9x]

this is awesome. its like a support group. if only life could revolve around falling in and out of love twice a week.
I say tell your friend to piss off and have some fun with whichever boys you want, its nto like anyones married.

[AvidPs2GMR]

How do u fall in love in 2 days?Unless ur acting on feelings u've had since they were dateing.Which ur friend will kno and be upset about.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

^ Avid:
well i just met the guy. And surprisingly after the clued-in away message i had on, he still didnt get the message... :? but he did leave his cell # since he won't be home after school. I dont think i have the guts to call... I'd much rather wait and tell him on AIM, no laughing openly once i say or anything.. yeah. I met the guy the night he gave me chicken nuggets and fries, and I thought that that was really sweet anyways. he also shared his drink w/ me, and he was kristies bf!! :) i mean, damn. How much nicer could you get? It doesn't take a lot to win my heart over, just be sweet and honest. Not to mention the fact that he's cute. That helps. ;) But seriously, I think i really like the guy. Maybe not love, but I can't stop thinking about him and he's one of the nicest guys I've ever met. So, if I do happen to date him, He'll probably be one of my best bfs ever. Kristie had good taste, but idk. I guess he didn't want to be her gf anymore, he said that he was way too busy. But maybe just maybe, he can make some time for me if he likes me???
Then again, probly not. I live all the way 25-30 mins away, even though i can make time :(. And besides, i'll just most likely be rejected. He feels bad about kristie too, so I'm sure a guilt factor will come into play, and both our hearts will be broken. :cry: :cry: :( Well I can only hope.. that he'll say he likes me too.

[moiety]

he also shared his drink w/ me, and he was kristies bf!! :) i mean, damn. How much nicer could you get?

:-k He was being flirty with you while he was with her, usually not a good indicator of his personality.


I guess he didn't want to be her gf anymore, he said that he was way too busy. But maybe just maybe, he can make some time for me if he likes me???

He liked her and didn't have time...


And besides, i'll just most likely be rejected.
Don't take a negative stance. Best thing is, if it feels right, situationally and emotionally, go for it. At least later on you'll have no regrets.

BTW, how old are you?

[x0thedeadzone0x]

That's exactly what I thought. And for the chicken nuggets and fries incident, I went out... alone. And met him, and his friends. No Kristie there. Hmm..

oh yeah, didn't I already mention this? I'm 14.

[defender]

you dont have to tell us your 14...we already knew that from your original post

[daphatty]

...and both our hearts will be broken...

Lesson of love #1. You can't have a broken heart if you aren't in love. Hurt feelings maybe but not a broken heart. A broken heart comes from years of built up love suddenly being tossed out by a malicious act of disrespect. You are too young to know the difference and that is a good thing. Hopefully you will never know what that is like. Make good decisions about who you let close to your heart and you will avoid having it broken.

My 2 cents.

[daphatty]

you dont have to tell us your 14...we already knew that from your original post

Look up defender. She was responding to moiety's question. It seems moiety hadn't read all of the posts in this thread.

[moiety]

Actually I have, I somehow missed her mention of it :?

[x0thedeadzone0x]

It was in parantheses in the plethora of responses on the first page. don't worry about it too much, at least i didn't have to write the entire thing over. ;)

now they're both at school and away, and he's not coming back for awhile (at his grandfather's house). what do you think i should do? ((im staying home right now by the way, cuz i don't feel too good, i feel nautious and have a headache)). Do u think i should call him (wayyyyyyyy too scared) or wait until he's online? My mom said something vaguely about dragging me to the doctor, i hope she's gonna be dishonest like always and just pretend that she said nothing so I can actually talk to the guy and tell him how I feel. Kristie I think is OK with it now, she said to me "Sorry... just needed time to think OK?" But i was already away lying down, because i felt seriously ill last night. What with all these feelings coming into play. Heh. Well, what next, hmm? By the way, this thread's so long, I feel utterly loved. The longest one of my threads have been on this site has been about, oh per say, 4 responses. But 33! Even with me popping my head in once and a while, that just kicks the shit out of my other ones. Thanks, for making me feel loved, regardless of this guy. :) lol

[RedvsBlue]

Ok we know that your 14 but no one has asked how old this guy is. So, how old is he?

[x0thedeadzone0x]

Err, "we are all 14". He stayed back so he's in 8th grade instead of 9th in the Cumberland Middle School but he's 14, Kristie's in the Cumberland High School, But she's also 14, He just stayed back, meanwhile I'm all the way in Bellingham High School, and I'm 14. Clear 'nuff? ;) :)

[RedvsBlue]

Ok just wondering cause I was getting the impression that he might be older like 18+ or something in which case you should definetly not have pursued anything with him.

[weimerwanger]

::tears up::
this is such a cute story

[pimp tyranny]

wow. you thought you'd get the best support on a video game message board.

and you're in 8th grade, you think you're in love. you can't see the absurdity of that?

finally, i agree with others, this sounds like soap opera for kids.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

I'm not in 8th grade, OMG!! I'm in 9th. jees, can anybody read? HES the one thats in 8th grade, but he stayed back, so he's 14! Read all the threads before you post people.

[pimp tyranny]

so you love someone who failed 8th grade? that's pathetic.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

Excuse me, I didn't tell u to go on here and make fun of who I love. and Besides, he stayed back in 1st grade. I was looking for advice, not hypocrits and criticism. So if you want to be constructive, feel free to post, but if all you're going to do is ridicule me, then post somewhere else OK? I don't need it. I'm about to get rejected anyways and its not your place to make fun of me for who I can and can't love. I'm in 9th grade. And besides, I know plenty of people who stayed back and are very smart. Are you suggesting that your making fun of all the people who stayed back??? :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: god, people like this piss me off... always putting others down and thinking of themself as higher in some way. :evil: He's a great and sweet person, so don't judge him because you dont even know him! :evil:

Phew... sorry people in here :D ... feel free to post..

[daphatty]

Not that I'm trying to start a x0thedeadzone0x negativity bandwagon here but...

You don't really know him either. If I have understood your posts correctly, you've known this guy for a week, maybe two. Can you honestly say you "know" him? From our standpoint, the answer is no.

Your feelings for him are undeniable. And, despite what pimp tyranny may think, your feelings are important. But as hard as it may be, you should try to set aside those feelings when making decisions about this guy and the friendship you believe will be destroyed if you persue him. It's much harder for a woman to separate herself from her feelings because they define who she is. (Human Sexuality 101 - Freshman Year of College) But if you can remove yourself from them, even slightly, you will find that making your decision will be much easier.

EDIT: I wonder if that came off as personal attack or advice... :-k

[evilmax17]

Ok, I've only read the first post, and everything on this (the 8th i think page). Now I know this is in the offtopic thread, but come on. This is CHEAP ASS GAMER, not I'M A CONFUSED TEENAGER thread. Save the highschool he said/she said drama for the Yahoo chatrooms, jesus.

EDIT: "OMG! jees, can you read? OMG whateva fo' sho'." I don't want this place to turn into teenibopper TRL central, I can't stress this enough.

EDIT AGAIN: You know, this thread wouldn't have 40 something replies if a guy had been the one to make it. Just some food for thought.

[metroidkiller9]

dont listen to these bitter, jaded, old people deadz. whether its love, lust, infatuation, or just a small crush, it doesnt matter as he obvioously makes you happy. so just do what you think you should do and ignore these love-scorned fools. hell, dont even listen to me if you dont want to. just do whats gonna make you happy.

[TheRock88]

If I were you, I would call this guy and not do this over AIM. He might think that you feel insecure about yourself because you have to do this over AIM and he might not wanna go out with you. You could also go up to him and talk to him face to face. Whatever you do, I hope everything works out for you.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

Yeah! I'm with metroidkiller. And besides, since when did this place turn into teeny boppin TRL? And also, i never said "omg whateva fo' sho". When the hell did i say that... lol. I'm glad pimp tyranny is gone because he had no right to say whatever to me, and judge the guy :x . And even though I don't know him that well, I know him enough to know that he seems like a very sweet nice person, and I definitely know him a lot better then pimp tyranny, so him assuming that I'm "pathetic" because I like this guy is completely out of line. You might be right, TheRock88. I just might call him up :^o ..... or maybe not. I dont know. [-( :-k

EDIT: my best friend kristie was way more insecure bout herself then I am, and he gladly went out with her. It was only for like a week, but :| ... AAGH! Why would he go out with me anyways though, supposedly he's got a job, is going to italy for half the summer (a long way away but still), and ... grr ](*,) ](*,) ](*,) I don't even know what to think anymore. Most likely he'll just reject me anyways :cry: , and I'll just be very sad. :cry: ........ but all i can do is hope. [-o<

EDIT 2: Sorry people, I went smiley crazy ... :oops: :roll:

[st0neface]

I don't think you should do anything on AIM. Talking in person is best, but I suppose the phone is an acceptable alternative seeing how you live far away. And to Evilmax17 doing all this bitching, it is off topic, last I checked off topic can be just about anything, and unlike many people here she didn't put it in the Post Your Own Deal page.

[x0thedeadzone0x]

Well this thread's over i guess. Forgot to update this again, but he said he only liked me as a friend. :( my feelings are hurt, but I'll get over it. well, bye. :cry: I'll just find someone else i guess...

[CaptainObviousXl]

this sound farmiliar. THIS HAPPENS TO EVERY BODY AND I MEAN THE SAME FEELING. I hate it but it always happens i hate even thinking about the feeling!!!

[Mr_hockey66]

just wait. One day after they break up is kinda bad! And she'll probily hate you either way but hey you gotta do what you gotta do. What difference does it make to her she broke up with him. Say sorry you had your chance . If you liked him you shouldn't play games Beotch and go your way. But watch your back cause she'll stab you or try to get him back telling him your most embarising stuff and make out with him in front of you and dump koolaid in your hair and stuff like that. SO your pretty much screwed either way. Hope this helps :-)O

[JSweeney]

Well, you can use our rule. Sacred rule for a guy, do not jeapordize a friendship over a girl. If one dated her, or both like the same person...well just don't do it. It should be the same for a female. Honestly crushes, loves, likes whatever you want to describe it as, comes and goes, but a true friendship is forever.

Being the wingman. Taking one for the team. I can't count how many times I've been on the losing end of that.

Especially if your friend has mentioned the killing herself as a joke...unfortunately it can be as a sign for help. Heck I'd love to be 14 myself, there are so many things I didn't get to do. Fortunately I did meet a female gamer, too bad it's just pokemon, but I'll take that.

The young wish they world older, the aged long for the past. Hence balance is restored :)

Daphatty, chicken nuggets and fries go a long way, but if you just make it a combo it comes with a drink and you can save a few cents.
If you grab a couple extra packets of BBQ sauce, you even have a snack for later :) (I bet there are people just cheap enough to do that, too.)

[D4rkewolfe]

Ah but we forgot one thing JS...go on a Thursday (at least in my area) and buy burgers for 29 cents...then go back home and add the cheese yourself :)

Deadzone, sorry to hear that it didn't end the way you wished it would...at least it's a lesson learned. Well not back to what I should be doing...my paper

[SteveMcQ]

But watch your back cause she'll stab you or try to get him back telling him your most embarising stuff and make out with him in front of you and dump koolaid in your hair and stuff like that. SO your pretty much screwed either way. Hope this helps :-)O

Wow...that'd suck....what a waste of koolaid.

[JSweeney]

But watch your back cause she'll stab you or try to get him back telling him your most embarising stuff and make out with him in front of you and dump koolaid in your hair and stuff like that. SO your pretty much screwed either way. Hope this helps :-)O

Wow...that'd suck....what a waste of koolaid.

I could see no more honorable way for a packet of Kool Aid to end it's existance than as the focus point of a huge cat fight.

What do you think, Kool Aid Man?


Oh Yeah!!

[JSweeney]

Ah but we forgot one thing JS...go on a Thursday (at least in my area) and buy burgers for 29 cents...then go back home and add the cheese yourself :)

Deadzone, sorry to hear that it didn't end the way you wished it would...at least it's a lesson learned. Well not back to what I should be doing...my paper

Yeah... Hot and Now (39 cent burgers all the time) or White Castle are great for that.