RIP Vanessa

[Tespo125]

A best girl friend of mine was killed this morning. I didn't find out until last period around 2:30. She was 19 years old, and one of my best friends. She was closer with my sister, who is very shook up. I am just really depressed and it all seems so unreal, like I'm dreaming or something. I guess it just hasn't hit me yet.

She was hit by a truck this morning at 4:20 while she was roller blading with two friends. It was dark and very foggy. She was crossing a highway (not an interstate, more like a very busy 6-lane road) when she tripped. As she stumbled to get up, a man in a pickup truck struck and killed her, probably instantly.

It's so mind-boggling to think that I had her over for dinner only 2 weeks ago. I've known her since she was a freshman and I was in 7th grade (about 4 years). We used to always hang out and go to Adventure Island and talk. This was so unexpected, so random, and so very unreal. Everyone has been so depressed and in shock.

Has anyone ever lost someone very close, very suddenly like this? If so, please share.

To the immature: please don't post bullshit, this is nothing to joke about.

The article: http://news.tbo.com/news/MGA5M274VQD.html

[Santorum X]

Hey, sorry about what happened to your friend. I know it must be hard for you, your sister, and all the people who knew her. I have never lost someone I knew dearly in a sudden manner so I wouldn't know the feelings associated with it. I wish you my sincere condolences.

[D4rkewolfe]

I'm sorry to hear that Tespo. A friend is very hard to lose, your sister must not be going through her best time. She might need some help, and no I'm not being stupid or anything...she will definitely will need someone to talk to, because if she doesn't let everything out that needs to come out...it might actually make things worse.

It is an accident that could have been avoided in my opinion, I do not understand why one would be roller blading at that time in the morning, but since I was not there, I cannot really judge.

Once again, I am sorry to hear your loss, and offer my condolences, also be there for her family. I know it will mean a lot to them to see her friends remember her and celebrate her life.

[lord_slappy]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Tespo. Losing someone close to you can be very difficult to handle. Something to keep in mind is that there is nothing that you can do to remedy what has already happened. You can only accept its existence and live your life to its fullest potential. A tragic loss like this can sometimes bring about the question of your own mortality. Someday, it'll be our turn to go. What will we do with our lives while we have them? Our thoughts, hopes, wishes, and prayers are with you.

[Dale Earnhardt Jr]

sorry man prayers are with you :cry: :(

[chosen1s]

Please don't read any cynicism into this, but I think everyone is going to ask why she was rollerblading at 4:30 in the morning.

Like the guy asking the question above, I'm not trying to judge but I read the story you wrote and from your description of your relationship with her it makes it easy to feel like I could know her (even though I'm sure I don't).

So the story still begs the question - why was she out there at 4:30 at night?

(One more note for clarification because I really want to be sensitive about this) - The question is "How could this happen?", NOT "it was her fault".

[WhipSmartBanky]

The question is "How could this happen?", NOT "it was her fault".

Alcohol was involved on the part of the victim, they added.

[magilacudy]

My condolences... Its hard to see sometimes with all the flame wars and such but CAG is a community nonetheless and there's no doubt that everyone's thoughts and prayers are with her.

I lost my uncle during 9/11. I wasn't as close to him as you were to your friend but it was still so unreal, like some sort of bad dream.
I know what you are feeling though, I felt it and I saw it in all my relatives. But the best you can do is keep in mind all the happiness your friend brought to your life. Life is short, it does end.. but what matters is what impact you have on others lives for better or worse. From how you talk about her it seems like she brought happiness to your life and you to hers. Wow I wrote a whole lot already.. anyways I guess I'm saying it is a tragedy she is gone, but the fact that she was in your life and touched you in that way is a blessing and a miracle as well. She may be physically gone but her friendship will live on in your heart.

[Ebraum]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Prayers to you & her Family.

[Tespo125]

They still are unsure if alcohol was involved.

She and her two friends are crazy. They're the type of girls who love to stay up late and do out of the ordinary things. They were on their way to a friends house and rather than walking, they decided to rollerblade. And I'm sure they thought since it was so early, there would be no trafiic, which is true in most cases. There is no way in hell that you can point the finger at her or accuse anyone of anything. They were just being the spontanious fun loving girls they always are. Girls will be girls and I'd like to look at this situation as a freak accident with no faults or guilts.

Don't tell me you've never done crazy things like go out at some ridiculous time. I'm sure most of us have or will, especially as a teenager having crazy fun.

[Tespo125]

Magilacudy, thanks for warm words.

[Tespo125]

Bump

[badmrfrosty20]

My most sincere condolences...I'm sorry for your loss, Tespo.

[basketkase543]

A good friend of mine, Elizabeth, whom i have known for the past 9 years (from Jr. High and on) got in a car accident almost a year ago and has been in a coma since. The week before her accident she sent me a valentine's day card and that was the last i heard from her. We are all incredibly grateful that she is still with us but while her body is still surviving we feel that her mind is no longer around. She just stares blankly around the room with seemingly no trace of recognition of her past life. Despite the fact that she is still with us i still feel as if i lost a dear friend and i absolutely feel for your loss. Good luck to you, your family and friends and her family as well. In time the pain will pass but the great memories will always remain. Finally, a year after Elizabeth's accident i know i can say that this is true. Good luck and be strong.

[LV-426RS]

My condolances.

Let's not forgot about the driver of the truck, he has to live with this for the rest of his life. I fell bad for him too.

[Tespo125]

Thanks everyone, I am still in complete disbelief. My sister is in worse shape than me. She's not taking it too well. She has begun to go through the five stages or grieving, her current being outward anger towards others. The wake is on Monday. I cannot believe I am actually typing this right now. I felt like I was in a dream while I read the article about the incident. It seems like she was just with me yesterday, and she would laugh to know her unexpected future. I cannot express the emptiness I feel at this moment. All I can say is, is nothing. I guess I'm still in the first stage of grieving, being shock and denial. One of my favorite quotes:

"This too shall pass."

For those who don't know, the process of grief is as follows:
Shock and Denial
Inward Anger
Outward Anger
Depression
Acceptance

Once again, thank you all for understanding my pain.

[LoganDX]

I know what you are going through. When I was 15, my mom woke me up about 4 in the morning to tell me that my uncle(who was 19) had killed himself. He had shot himself very brutally in front of my grandma. There was a lot of spectulation as to why, conspiracies here and there. I know what I believe whether it's true or not. We were close,real close. We were only 4 years apart and we did alot of things together. He was "crazy" though, he liked to drink and drugs and boy did he have a temper on him. It took me a LONG time to deal with the grief, hell I just saw him two nights before. It got better though. Tespo it might not seem like it but I promise it does get better. One thing though, learn to accept your grief and don't let anyone try to give crap over it cuz it's YOUR grief! Good luck....

[MorbidAngel4Life]

yeah the same thing happened to me. my friend paige was killed in a very horrific car accident. my brother in law blew his head off with a double barreled shotgun. my ex friend Mark's dad killed his mom and himself right infront of him and his brothers eyes, AFTER shooting his son in the leg. my6 brother was hit in a drive by shooting, but survived with an assault rifle round stuck in his neck. but i feel your pain man, i feel your pain

(im being sincere too)