Bachelor Party

[chosen1s]

I'm helping to plan a bachelor party for a close friend of mine who is getting married in early June. I have a couple of ideas, but wanted to know if anybody out there had any suggestions for some good clean fun.

No strippers or alcohol. Yes, yes, insert testosterone-laden joke about sissies here. I get it. Now, anybody got any suggestions that really made the night for you? He's a very close friend and I want him to have a good time.

To answer your questions in advance, the answer is that even if I were into strippers/drinking, he is not, would not participate, and has already voiced his feelings on the matter. The idea is for him to have the night of his life and he would not enjoy any of that.

Anybody had some great bachelor parties or have some great ideas?

[swetooth9]

have a big LAN party, lol :lol:

[organicow]

for my bachelor party, my buddies rented a shuttlebus (with a driver) that drove us around town and we listened to our cds and hung out.


We also had a fat keg and a pair of bisexual strippers doing all sorts of crazy shit on the bus as well, but it would still have been fun without them.


Well, actually, no it wouldn't have. Sorry dude, you're on your own!

[jeffreyjrose]

have a big LAN party, lol :lol:
I second that!!!

[sj41]

Your friend is lying about strippers.

[organicow]

Your friend is lying about strippers.

at least about GIRL strippers.... :wink:

[chosen1s]

I knew I was screwed when I posted this. I wasn't expecting the LAN suggestion to come until the 3rd or 4th post though

[swetooth9]

lol, sorry if that's wut u weren't looking for :lol:

[JSweeney]

Geez, is this guy amish or something?

"Everybody is entitled to a lapdance, a'ight!"
(I really wish I remembered what movie or TV show that was from)

[CaseyRyback]

what about going to the drag races. I am sure somewhere in town you can go watch some (illegal or legal) street racing

[jeffreyjrose]

In all seriousness, since he's your friend, you should know his likes and dislikes really well. Why don't you brainstorm on combining a bunch of his likes into a party type atmosphere?

[karmapolice]

I support the no drinking and the no strippers...I mean your dedicating your life to someone you love and you know you love them...So whats the point of seeing meaningless people naked and getting drunk and running the risk of losing the person you care about(adding to the fact you already had strippers) I mean your gunna see alot more tits and alot more action in the years to come...Why mess that up?...Anyways back to topic...Get some buddies together play some videogames,chill,order a pizza,drink ALOT of coffee or Redbull or whatever is to your liking and pull a all nighter Halo LAN party or Mario Kart...Or SSBM...just have a good time before he ties the knot and life as you know it(being friends with him i mean) changes...You prolly wont see each other as much and whatnot...just enjoy it!

[AGuth]

Man, no strippers or alcohol? How about a game? The NBA and NHL are in the playoffs, so the tickets might be jacked up. Hell, try an MLB game. A concert would be cool too. Here in Florida, we have some kind of festival on the beaches every weekend. Those are always cool, and packed with people and stuff to do.

[organicow]

^^^i'm sorry...you lost me at 'meaningless people naked".....

[Wshakspear]

what about going to the drag races. I am sure somewhere in town you can go watch some (illegal or legal) street racing

He he he..."drag" racing... :)

[Firebrand]

Reflect on the shortcomings of humanity; concede and proceed to break the vows before they are made. Mankind is frail.

[Stu_sjb137]

I say gamble or a big sporting event(if hes into that) or both :)

[jtkauff]

I wasn't a part of this one, but it did sound pretty cool. A bunch of the groom-to-be's friends got together, got a whole bunch of one dollar bills, and said that they were going to take him somewhere that he'd need all of them, and that he'd spend the night putting them into things (implying that they were taking him to a strip joint and he'd be putting them in garters, of course). They then took him to an arcade instead (without telling him anything beforehand, obviously). The guy got a huge kick out of it (though was nervous until they got there, since his wife-to-be would have killed him if they did go to a strip clup).

Needless to say, they all had a blast.

[karmapolice]

then you obviously dont love someone ^_^

*edit* that was to the cow

[JSweeney]

What kind of psychotic bitch from hell wife to be would be pissed off because her husband's friends take him to a strip club?

I mean, most of them are probably huge hypocrites anyway.

[organicow]

then you obviously dont love someone ^_^

*edit* that was to the cow

buddy, i've been in love with the same lovely woman for nearly 10 years, and i've been married to her for 3; don't point that finger at me.

in fact, my wife has been to a tittie club with me and our friends on a few occasions. neither her nor i get aroused by the strippers; sure, i think some of them are hotter than a tahitian bar-b-que, but that doesn't mean that i want to LOVE them! I, as well as my wife, can easily make the distinction between love and lust; we also recognize that it is possible to have a good time partying in a strip club.

as for the original poster: while i think that the whole point of a bachelor party is to do things you won't be able or likely to do ever again, i totally respect that you are trying to give your buddy the type of party he wants. good for you, and i hope you come up with some cool atypical party ideas (the game party sounds good, assuming your buddies are gamers too) that will satisfy you all.

and karmapolice: dude, chill out! 8)

[Battousai1002]

It's really hard to see sarcasm online... Your previous post probably should have been something like...

<sarcasm>^^^i'm sorry...you lost me at 'meaningless people naked".....</sarcasm>

[karmapolice]

Sorry...You make a good point and I agree...but at the same time if your STARTING a relationship(this is given I dont know how long theyve been together) you dont want to do this...I have never seen the whole "i think that the whole point of a bachelor party is to do things you won't be able or likely to do ever again" thing...I mean if you love her why do you need to do this just because your not married yet...if youve made the commitment then its cheating...Now going to a strip club and watching isnt, but some other things that tend to go on @ a bachelor party are...and I am chilled...thats what 20 rips to a 3ft bong will do to ya! J/K!......I just like a good arguement

[organicow]

i guess it is more about tradition than anything. while i certainly don't have the desire (or money) to hit strip clubs often, i'd hate to have never had the experience!!

[chosen1s]

Thanks everyone for the suggestions - I was going to quote each of you but that would have been pretty long as there are some good ideas so far.

This guy's a little tough because while he enjoys video games, they are not his forte' so much as they are mine. Having a big SSBM party would be great but it would be a little like Barry Bonds taking me to an all-night homerun derby against him and his teammates. It would be fun for about 5 minutes, but it wouldn't take long until I was the odd man out at my own party.

Also, though our families have been close for years, he and I didn't get to be tight until College. Thus, I only know one out of 5 groomsmen (many of whom, by the way, would be delighted with the stripping and the drinking). It is definitely about the groom, but if his other friends aren't enjoying themselves it will probably bring the mood down as well.

So far some great ideas though, keep them coming!

[karmapolice]

I suggest talking with the other groomsmen and asking what they enjoy so you all can have fun...and if you end up feeling like the odd-man out, pull your friend aside and tell him how you feel...Then he'll try to include you...I mean you've prolly been friends long enough that your open with your feelings...Im sure he'd understand...Hell Ive done it before with my friend and he totally understood and it was fine for the rest of the evening

[AGuth]

I say gamble or a big sporting event(if hes into that) or both :)
Hell, gambling's always a hit. Free buffets too! Free drinks for those who want to, as thats not forcing alcohol on the party like a keg.

[swetooth9]

Thanks everyone for the suggestions - I was going to quote each of you but that would have been pretty long as there are some good ideas so far.

This guy's a little tough because while he enjoys video games, they are not his forte' so much as they are mine. Having a big SSBM party would be great but it would be a little like Barry Bonds taking me to an all-night homerun derby against him and his teammates. It would be fun for about 5 minutes, but it wouldn't take long until I was the odd man out at my own party.

Also, though our families have been close for years, he and I didn't get to be tight until College. Thus, I only know one out of 5 groomsmen (many of whom, by the way, would be delighted with the stripping and the drinking). It is definitely about the groom, but if his other friends aren't enjoying themselves it will probably bring the mood down as well.

So far some great ideas though, keep them coming!

that is one great analogy! i love it, hahahaha! :D

[chosen1s]

Sorry...You make a good point and I agree...but at the same time if your STARTING a relationship(this is given I dont know how long theyve been together) you dont want to do this... just like a good arguement

I feel the need to jump in here. My buddy and his girl are in love, as in, one of those couples they make movies about in love. They are both Christians and those values carry a lot of weight in their relationship. I believe they are both virgins, though not for lack of opportunity. They have an innocent love for each other that I have trouble describing. In a crowded room you can literally see the world stand still when they look at each other. I have a lot of friends who are dating/married and I don't say these things about everyone I am friends with.

Though he would deny the stripping and the drinking for his "moral principals" or because his girl told him no he doesn't even have to. He loves her so much that A) Those things don't grab his attention and therefore he has no interest (No, he's not immune but he's found his focus) and B) He would never want her to even have the opportunity to wonder if he though about another girl the way he thinks about her.

I'm not saying they're perfect but I'm saying they're not the average couple. The way they work doesn't make a lot of sense to a lot of people, but when you see one of your best friends stumble into something this amazing you can only be happy for him and do whatever you can to keep anything from messing it up.

Hope I didn't come across as judgmental on anyone - just wanted to give you some background on the why's of the "clean bachelor party". Carry on, I REALLY appreciate your ideas.

[chosen1s]

I say gamble or a big sporting event(if hes into that) or both :)
Hell, gambling's always a hit. Free buffets too! Free drinks for those who want to, as thats not forcing alcohol on the party like a keg.

I can't think of any casinos anywhere near where we will be. It's a great idea but unfortunately he would have to be in a state where gambling is legal.

[karmapolice]

Man thats sweet...I respect you for respecting his wishes...And I respect him for having those wishes...A good idea would actually to plan a day or something outside of the bachelor party to talk with your friend about all the good times and just discuss stuff...spend quality time...be together before things change...hang out

[chosen1s]

Man thats sweet...I respect you for respecting his wishes...And I respect him for having those wishes...A good idea would actually to plan a day or something outside of the bachelor party to talk with your friend about all the good times and just discuss stuff...spend quality time...be together before things change...hang out

I like it. That's a good idea getting together before the party.

[guessed]

All-night poker, pizza, and hanging out with friends. In advance, get everyone involved to agree to lose at least $50 bucks to the groom, and swear eachother to secrecy. He gets to feel like a big winner, and you all get to give him a nice extra "gift". It works ok with Pool too, if poker isn't his thing.

[organicow]

All-night poker, pizza, and hanging out with friends. In advance, get everyone involved to agree to lose at least $50 bucks to the groom, and swear eachother to secrecy. He gets to feel like a big winner, and you all get to give him a nice extra "gift". It works ok with Pool too, if poker isn't his thing.

THere you go! BTW, you should find out his favorite foods, and do those instead of pizza (unless pizza IS his favorite food). That way, you can make it special, and not just another 'night with the guys.' just a thought!

[BlueStorm781]

Porno. Lots and lots of porno.

The video store I work at has an unsually large porno section in back of the store. It's almost like another store. I've had a few people come in and buy 4 or 5 pornos for bachelor parties.

So, as we say at our video store "it's not a party without the porno!"

Well, not really. Catchy, though.

[thingsfallnapart]

<while i think that the whole point of a bachelor party is to do things you won't be able or likely to do ever again>

This gives me an idea!

PLAY KABUKI WARRIORS!!!

[punqsux]

so wait...wheres the lan party?
is it BYOR (bring your own rig)?

[Ikohn4ever]

All-night poker, pizza, and hanging out with friends. In advance, get everyone involved to agree to lose at least $50 bucks to the groom, and swear eachother to secrecy. He gets to feel like a big winner, and you all get to give him a nice extra "gift". It works ok with Pool too, if poker isn't his thing.

I have to agree all night poker and food is always a good time. Especially the later it goes to goofier and more fun it seems to get. Letting him win would be a plus or you could just have the person with the most chips at the end wins tickets or a prize or something.

[MisterRaven]

Reflect on the shortcomings of humanity; concede and proceed to break the vows before they are made. Mankind is frail.

That's awfully optimistic of you.

[goodle71]

A lot of good and interesting suggestions from the previous posters. I've been involved in a few bachelor parties and also in the scenario that the original poster describes, the couple's religious beliefs having a bearing on what can and can't happen for the party.
Having said that, I think it's important to do things that he and/or your group would have fun doing. Also, since it not going to involve drinking or naked women, your group will probably have more money (not being 'wasted' on strippers) and more energy (2/3 of your group won't be passed out drunk). Therefore, make it a whole day event. Some ideas (many already said):
A videogame tournament (let the groom win at Madden)
Texas hold-'em poker tournament--the rest of the group covers the groom
Bowling
Some type of amusement park (batting cages, mini race cars, etc.)
Paintball--go as a group and annihilate some older, more out-of shape group than yourself
A sporting event: I've been to Fenway for a Sox game and New Orleans for the Patriots game. Can't go wrong with your favorite team
Whatever you do, lots of food

Lastly, I'm sure that your friend the groom just wants to spend time with his friends to share in the moment before the moment. Even if it's just sitting around and telling old stories from college, he's going to appreciate having his closest friends around him. What you actually do is just the icing on the cake.

[The Successful Dropout]

heres a good suggestion...tell him not to get married

[kaw]

Captain and crew golf tournament. This is a lot of fun if you have a lot of people and can divide up into a few different foursomes. Even if you've never golfed before or suck at it you play the best ball that was hit so there's not a lot of pressure.

[karmapolice]

Two words....Miniture Golf

[CaseyRyback]

yea if you have a place like Knight's Play then doing that may be a great way to kick off the evening(golf course open until midnight in Raleigh)

[magilacudy]

I feel the need to jump in here. My buddy and his girl are in love, as in, one of those couples they make movies about in love. They are both Christians and those values carry a lot of weight in their relationship. I believe they are both virgins, though not for lack of opportunity. They have an innocent love for each other that I have trouble describing. In a crowded room you can literally see the world stand still when they look at each other. I have a lot of friends who are dating/married and I don't say these things about everyone I am friends with.

Though he would deny the stripping and the drinking for his "moral principals" or because his girl told him no he doesn't even have to. He loves her so much that A) Those things don't grab his attention and therefore he has no interest (No, he's not immune but he's found his focus) and B) He would never want her to even have the opportunity to wonder if he though about another girl the way he thinks about her.

I'm not saying they're perfect but I'm saying they're not the average couple. The way they work doesn't make a lot of sense to a lot of people, but when you see one of your best friends stumble into something this amazing you can only be happy for him and do whatever you can to keep anything from messing it up.

Hope I didn't come across as judgmental on anyone - just wanted to give you some background on the why's of the "clean bachelor party". Carry on, I REALLY appreciate your ideas.

That sounds like a strong relationship. The best of luck to them. I wish I could find something like that though :?

[snotknocker]

I don't know about a bachelor party without booze or women. But if your a real friend might I suggest.

Get an old bowling ball and attach a long ass chain to it. When you pick your buddy up have a couple of friends hold him down. Attach the chain around his ankle and secure it with a pad lock.

[bjschre]

For my friends party we went paintballing, damn that was fun, we all ganged up on him, and shot him a few times to give him a couple of marks, funny stuff!

[Ericnmel99]

I had a friend who had the same circumstances....He didnt want the stripper thing. He's a huge yankee fan so we all went to a yankees game, then went into the city to ESPN zone Played lots of overpriced video games and ate and Drank. Everyone had a blast.

[defender]

My friends and I all hopped on a bus and went down to AC for the night...it was really fun. In a casino you drink for free while you gamble away. Also the place doesnt really close so you can go go go. We got really messed up and I played blackjack while my friends took over the table. We had the whole horn of 6 players. It was cool...I rocked the house and in a drunken night of fun I won $1200 at the table. I couldnt lose for nothing. I knew that getting married was gonna be great. What more can you ask for than to go to AC and be a big winner 2 days before your wedding!

And just when we were leaving I found a $1 slot coin on me so I played it...literally 3 minutes before we had to get the bus back...and it hit for another $200. I think I needed the money too since the wedding was like $12000 and the wife and I paid for almost all of it.

anyways...that was my bachelor party.

Atlantic City...plus you are far enough way that you wont have any peeping woman or people you know

[Indiana]

Just get everyone together and play some poker and video games. Some of my friends drink some don't but we all like to play some poker. Lot's of games you can't play in Vegas too 3-5-7, 7-27, Between the sheets. Have fun with it...

[bradr]

<while i think that the whole point of a bachelor party is to do things you won't be able or likely to do ever again>

This gives me an idea!

PLAY KABUKI WARRIORS!!!

If you thought no alcohol or strippers was a mood killer ...

People'll be passed out, even if there isn't alcohol.

[CTLesq]

My bachelor party was as depraved as was allowed by law.

I loved it. And have not looked back since.

I would recommend a casino or sporting event.

Just for your friend:

We Don't Have To Take Our Clothes Off
Jermaine Stewart

Not a word, from your lips
You just took for granted that I want to skinny dip.
A quick hit, that's your game.
But I'm not a piece of meat, still you like my brain.
Night is young, so are we.
Let's get to know each other better, slow & easily.
Take my hand, let's hit the floor.
Shake our bodies to the music.
Maybe then you'll score.

Chorus: So come on baby, won't you show some class
Why you want to move so fast.
We don't have to take our clothes off
To have a good time
Oh no
We could dance & party all night
And drink some cherry wine
Uh huh
We don't have to take our clothes off
To have a good time
Oh no
We could dance & party all night (all night)
And drink some cherry wine
Uh huh
Na na na na na na na............

Just slow down if you want me
A man wants to be approached cool & romantically
I've got needs
Just like you
If the conversation's good
Vibrations through & through

So come on baby, won't you show some class
Why you want to move so fast
We don't have to take outr clothes off
To have a good time
Oh no
We could dance & party all night (all night)
And drink some cherry wine
Uh huh
Na na na na na na.........

Repeat until fade.............

[carlagyrl]

Try a sports activity, such as bowling, basketball, golf, football, anthing like that were you guys can blow off some steam and just relax.

[JimmieMac]

You guys could go down the the local church and get right with Team Jesus for awhile.

[Snake2715]

I will second paintballing. Its great I would plan around 3-4 hours for it though it sounds like alot but thats what you end up spending there.

Then have something planned afterwords.

[Machine]

This Memorial Day weekend, I'll be attending a bachelor party but, luckily, there will be plenty of strippers and booze - we're going to Vegas! I've been to a couple bachelor parties that lacked strippers - mostly poker, golf or baseball games - but I have NEVER been to one without booze, the concept scares me.

[mattatskul]

Bible Study

[maxgle]

Not long ago when I was in charge of one bachelor party, I did plan to have a paintball day, but when I consider everyone's budget, we ended up with a modified super-fun scavanger hunt.. its quite twisted and fun... whever you do, make sure you are ready to drive around or collect some freaking funny stuff.

[drmuerto]

I say get him tanked and put him on a bus to somewhere far away so that when he wakes up the next morning, he'll have just enough time to call the bride and explain why wont be making the wedding on time. One of my cousins was an acomplice to just such a prank and I still think it's about the funniest thing I ever heard. Of course I was nowhere near the ire of the bride and her mother when the proverbial poo hit the fan, so what do I know?

Seriously though, if religion is so important for this guy, why not check in with his minister or youth group leader or whatever and see what the church recommends. I gotta believe that the churches have some sort of a plan for just such an occassion that involves "healthy male bonding" and abstention from delicious vice.
Failing that why not get together for a BBQ, since nothing says hanging with the guys like overcooking some pieces of (properly butchered, and preferably store bought) dead animal over burning coals (or propane).

PS I should probably apologize in advance for my tone, but .... what do you want? I'm a jerk. :twisted:

[KingDox]

yeah I 3rd paintballing, it's lots of fun and it's something the wife may not let you do later in life. Also you can go on a camping trip, rough it, I'm guessing your wife like most women hate the out doors so it maybe you last chance to go camping.

[bignick]

I went to this one bachelor party where there were 2 strippers, 2 dildos, all for 2 hours, and only cost $200. The girls were decent. This was up in Maine, so YMMV.

[CaseyRyback]

I went to this one bachelor party where there were 2 strippers, 2 dildos, all for 2 hours, and only cost $200. The girls were decent. This was up in Maine, so YMMV.

cannot contain laughter

[thecolonel2323]

This was up in Maine, so YMMV.

ha.