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I'm jealous of Otaku/Nerdy guys who have an Otaku/Nerdy girlfriend
By The Mana Knight 05-27-2012 06:18 PM
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Despite the many times I said I'm probably better off staying single and never having a girlfriend, there's no denying I feel VERY jealous of some people having a girlfriend and I don't. The biggest one that comes to my mind is when I see an Otaku guy hanging out with his Otaku girl. I'll discuss the situations I've seen in my blog.
Last Saturday, I drove back to Maryland (I miss that state and where I use to live more than anything right now). I went to Books A Million at the mall and noticed a bunch of people in the aisle. Two of them were guys who had a girl with them (both didn't exactly look horrible). In one case, both had on a video game/anime type t-shirt on. Both were checking out manga together having lots of laughs. I could tell they were Otaku based on how they were dressed, what they had with them (like anime/gaming stuff all over), both wore glasses, and other stuff. I was just in the aisle alone. Another couple (while they were not wearing gaming t-shirts, but had on other nerdy t-shirts) was doing the same thing, enjoying looking at manga, comparing prices online with their cell phones, etc. Heck, the guy sort of looked like me, dating an all right looking girl. Next I went to FYE. While looking at the anime section there, I saw the same thing (Otaku dating an Otaku). At Suncoast at another mall, saw the same thing again. When I go to Anime Conventions, while the majority just go with friends, I've seen some couples go together where they cosplay together, go to panels together, and/or shop at the Dealers Room together. While I enjoy going to Anime Conventions with friends, I just wish I had a girl with me who was into it like me. But then again, if we had totally different anime liking, that could be a problem. I'm a member of a local anime club in VA. I have seen a few Otakus who are married or have a girlfriend, who is into similar anime/games as them. In many ways, I wish I had a girlfriend who was Otaku/Nerdy (into anime and video games like me, hopefully some similar ones) to spend time with. But at the same time, I've pretty much given up on that happening because I'm old, have weird issues that prevent me from ever having a girlfriend, and not too confident I can find that person. While my last girl was sort of into anime (she was big into games and comics thought), I was so glad we split up due to many issues I had with her (and she had issues with me). It's also hard for me to think about looking for this girl again because of having no idea where I'll be living in less than a year. I don't like the way things are going at my job so I plan to look again. Likely I'll return back to Maryland. If I can't, I may make a return back to the Midwest (Indiana, Illinois, or Ohio), or even relocate to San Diego, CA (I'm applying to a job out there since people I went to college with work there). Is there something wrong for me wanting a girlfriend like this? I don't think a normal girl and I could get along unfortunately (because I'm weird, lol). Maybe I should save myself the energy and not look. I would be willing to make some changes with my life to make it work, such as maybe even sharing a drink with her if she wants.  Do people think I should keep looking or give up? |
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Wolfkin
- 05-27-2012, 06:26 PM
Updated 05-27-2012 at 06:37 PM by Wolfkin |
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For instance I'm really into Puerto Rican girls have been since the first day of high school, but I would never limit myself to just PR girls (my ex was white). That's crazy. Yet we as gamers do exactly that when we insist that we only want 'otaku girls'. So the answer to the unasked question is no you don't need an otaku girl and yes normal girls are capable of liking you. I'm not saying 'don't look for otaku'. I'm just saying 'don't look ONLY for otaku'. Your girl is someone you can get along with, someone you don't mind hanging out with day in and day out. This doesn't have to mean that you guys are doing the same thing (though it can). You can play games all day and she can read gossip mags (I apologize for the incredibly insensitive example here ladies) as long as you both recognize, and accept that part of each other. Heck given your particular proclivities outside of the physical I might suggest for you to not look for an otaku girl. You don't really strike me as the type of guy who wants company when you're at a con or manga hunting. As to whether or not you should give up.. again i say no. Right now you're not really looking to be in a relationship and that's fine but you're not coming out of a breakup. Don't turtle your self away from all girls. Just be you and be willing to engage the opportunity should it arise. |
Biskmatar100
- 05-27-2012, 07:08 PM
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Personally, I don't think it's wrong to have some sort of expectations, per se. But like Wolfkin said, don't limit yourself to just a "nerdy" girl. A girlfriend is someone you enjoy having around you and wish to be with. Similar hobbies are just a bonus.
Granted, my ex was as nerdy as me (We were into the same stuff) and I really liked that about her. As a person, I thought she was wonderful. It just made connecting a lot more easier (Well, till I got boring xD). Find someone that makes you laugh or happy; very general, I know, but it's a golden rule. If she enjoys your presence and vice versa, take a dive and see where it takes you.  |
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mitnosi
- 05-27-2012, 07:21 PM
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I think if you want a girlfriend with similar interests you shouldn't give up, but I don't think you should pass up on someone who treats you nice because they don't share the same hobbies. It's nice to have things in common, but it's not the only thing to look for in a significant other.
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raarar
- 05-27-2012, 07:28 PM
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In my own personal experience things seemed to always happen when I wasn't expecting them. I.E. not looking. Not to say you shouldn't be looking.
I wish you luck if you do make the move to San Diego, it's a wonderful city but it is very expensive. |
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snakemaster2389
- 05-27-2012, 07:59 PM
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i want a cute nerdy girl that like to play video games too. i think this cute girl at gamestop likes me but idk how to approach it. im awkward :(
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Biskmatar100
- 05-27-2012, 09:56 PM
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@snakemaster2389: By not referring to that girl as "it", to begin with lol. xD
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The Mana Knight
- 05-27-2012, 09:59 PM
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@BIskmatar100 and mitnosi If you saw my place, you'd see why a normal girl would be turned off by me in a heartbeat.
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Biskmatar100
- 05-27-2012, 10:10 PM
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@TMK: Well, I have been following your blogs since around January, and, well, it depends. Some may see it as a hobby and nothing more while others may be entirely turned off; it's not just limited to video games/anime. For me, from the few people/normal people that do come over to my place, I just get remarks for being nerdy and that's all. For example, not to be offensive, I just feel very uncomfortable whenever there is a abundance of religious artifacts/items around any house. And besides, if you do bring over women to your place, it'd be easier to find "that one" if most head for the hills. xD
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zlatour
- 05-27-2012, 10:18 PM
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Why would a girl be turned off by all the gay porn on your walls?
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AvidWriter
- 05-27-2012, 10:47 PM
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I think the biggest problem is most guys in this category have very very high standards. Just take what you can get bros.
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UrAllVirgins
- 05-28-2012, 06:03 AM
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You live in your own version of reality where cartoons are awesome and it's ok to have cartoons on your walls. It's hard to find a girl that's ok with that, but that's the trade off when you're that type of person.
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dv8mad
- 05-28-2012, 09:01 AM
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Unless you marry your clone, things are never going to be 100% matched. Actually, I'm more than positive that you would end up hating your clone for hogging up your PS3, so that's out too. Even coming right down to basics, if you found a girl that liked ONLY what you do and 100% of it, you would still have issue because she is a girl and we don't even think similarly! Your ass crack is going to become part of that fence you are always sitting on. Find a girl. Don't find a girl. Just make a decision and live with the fact that everything in life takes a lot of hard work if you want to be happy. |
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Wolfkin
- 05-28-2012, 09:18 AM
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@dv8mad
How did I miss that gem of a line. Fact of the matter is that while you THINK it could be a problem. It won't. I know 'nerdy' is the new 'jock' but 'anime' isn't 'football'. It doesn't divide houses. You aren't either a Trigun House or Outlaw Star House.
It's the popular thing to say that boys want a girl that's like their mother and I think it's a matter of compatibility. For instance my Mom likes dark meat in the chicken. I like white meat. It occurred to me in high school that I would like a girl that (like my mother) enjoys dark meat because it would enable us to consume a chicken harmoniously. It was such a brilliant thought I realized that it could apply to other aspects of a relationship as well. It's chapter 1 of the book I'm not writing. |
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strait edge follower
- 05-28-2012, 09:50 AM
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Mana, does everything have to be overanalized with you ? In a blog detailing this girl i was trying to hook up with i wrote that the reason guys like you arent getting girls is because YOU DONT
 ING TRY !!!!!!!!!! So what If a girl has some differinces from you, thats a good thing. It allows you to see new things and you might even like it ! We need to make a tv show called "mana meets world", seriously lol |
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diaeresis
- 05-28-2012, 10:26 AM
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Though I'm not an otaku and never dated one, I watch anime occasionally (recently, the Eva remake discs, Summer Wars) and have a reserved but open opinion of it. I had an ex that introduced me to several series beyond what I'd watch on my own, and that was fun. otoh, my wife refuses to "watch cartoons" with me.
That may sound like hell. But while I had more interesting conversations about movies with my ex, it's a lot more important in marriage to have a mutual commitment to the other person (+ eventual children) and the stable future of your household before hobbies. A friend of mine married a girl who barely works outside of the home, complains a lot, and buys warehouses of anime for her friends with his money. As cool as it is that she knows what Perfect Blue is, and maybe has it memorized, I'd rather kill myself than be him. Dating based on mutual interests is fine, but it's not the endgame for anything permanent, especially when interests change with aging. |
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mastagoalie
- 05-28-2012, 11:14 AM
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"If you saw my place, you'd see why a normal girl would be turned off by me in a heartbeat."
that is why you have to confine it to a room old man, not an entire house of nerd. |
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The Mana Knight
- 05-28-2012, 01:09 PM
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Well, a girl and I do not have to be 100% the same. I just get jealous of Otaku couples going out together.
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sharkslope
- 05-28-2012, 01:36 PM
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For once TMK makes sense! Most normal girls would not be ok with having anime posters plastered about the house, most normal girls will not be ok with being ignored while you have a 6hr gaming marathon, & most normal girls will not want to cosplay or go to conventions. Then again if you did find an Otaku girl, would you kiss her? Would you freak out if she put a vegetable or condiment next to your chicken fingers? What if she took a slug of your soda?
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sabin23
- 05-28-2012, 01:41 PM
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Mana Knight, don't give up. While it'd be great to find a partner with many of the same interests as you, you'd be surprised how many non-gamer/Otaku people are out there can be accepting and respectful of your hobbies/passions. Plus you don't strike me as a person (nor am I) who'd spend all their free time 24/7 with a girl. It's nice to have "me" time away from that other person.
I think it's just the limiting nature of the video game/anime demographic, they've historically been marketed toward a male audience. The few girls who like those hobbies are probably scooped up right away or in a similar predicament as you - walled off from the rest of the world thinking there's no one out there, when that couldn't be further from the truth. Good luck finding somone who can share some common ground with you, but I think it's more important to find someone who accepts who you are (moreso than finding that perfect "Otaku" girl)... that'd be an added plus though! |
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SolidSnake86
- 05-28-2012, 03:35 PM
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Nothing good can ever come from staying with normal people.
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