Iím honestly surprised I never wrote a blog about this, but this is actually very true. I hear someone people start threads saying they need PSN friends or tell various people to add them on PSN (because they just got a PS3). You will never hear me say that to anyone, not because I donít like them, but because my buddy list is constantly full. To warn people this is a long read and probably won't appeal to most people (the reading material).
Let me apologize to every single person who I removed on PSN or anyone I did not accept as a PSN friend. My situation has been very difficult. Before July 2008, the PSN friendsí list max was set to 50. I got my PS3 in December 2006. People started adding me from Modojo, CAG, PlayStation G.A.P., real life friends, etc. Around August 2007, my friends list finally reached the maximum. Ever since then, my friends list continued to stay near max. I removed people from PSN I barely knew first (like those I might have met in a game who added me or those I might have only seen at CAG or some forums like once). My list quickly filled up again in no time. I started removing people who didnít sign on enough to PSN (like if I rarely saw them on, I removed them). I even removed real life friends because of this (we still talk and all, itís just that most people I know barely play games, and my buddy list isnít really set for those people). I even got to a point where I removed people or would accept if they said a small comment in a forum that angered me (Iíd search posts and know what was said). My friends list continued to stay this way until it got increased to 100 in July 2008.
As my friends list increased, right away I got some friend requests from people who probably tried requesting me as a friend many times before. Unfortunately, it took until around the end of September for my list to fill up again (and some people were removed even). Right now I can never have a full PSN Buddy list because I coordinate Burnout Paradise nights. Whenever you need to invite people, send invite, or join a game, the menu freezes when you access the easy drive menu when you have over 96 friends.
One time someone sent me a friend requests just before it happened, causing the game to freeze when I tried sending an invite, then I had to restart the game (Hopefully the problem is solved in the next patch). I basically removed those who I played CoD4 with at one point (since I no longer own the game and stopped playing), and I also removed some who donít seem to play Burnout Paradise anymore. But what sucks is that it seems like Iíve gotten anywhere from 300+ friend requests total on PSN. I could say Iíve had around 200 or more different people on my PSN buddy list).
Right now I constantly get friend requests from CAGs (although I say not to add me in CAG PSN gaming because Iíll probably deny, due to a near full friendís list and Burnout Paradise issue). Some probably do because I run various game nights, coordinate CAG PSN Gaming, and many probably know who I am. I STILL get friend requests from various other forums although I rarely post there and didnít even list my PSN-ID in any thread (just profile). I get friend requests from PS3 forums, other forums, from various games, some people who I have no freaking idea who they are and how the heck they figured out who I am (like this one guy who seems like he plays a lot of games. People who add me from games or Home usually donít get added, unless I really enjoyed talking to them and they own key games I play (key as in ones I sometimes struggle to find other people to play with).
When I get a friend request from a name I recognize, Iíll take a look at their trophies to see what games they play. If they have zero trophies, Iím not sure whether I should add them right away because the current games I play most support trophies (Iím not talking about having tons of trophies, Iím saying a few). I sometimes will do a post search on them to see what games they may be playing. If a game requires people to be on my friendís list (or it makes things easy) to get in, and I coordinate CAG nights for it (like I did with Burnout Paradise and Call of Duty 4), Iíll accept them as a friend in order to make the CAG night work. If I get a friend request from a name I do not recognize (if they tell me they are from CAG I look around CAG, if they do not I try thinking of a few forums I normally post at), I will see if the name comes up. As long as itís someone I never had a problem with and they play a good amount of stuff I do, Iíll probably accept or heavily consider. But if people only play certain games that donít require people to be on my buddy list (like R2 and Warhawk), not likely Iíll accept them unless they are a really good friend (some of you know who you are). I normally donít accept those right away who lack some games I like to play most (where they need to be my friend), donít know so well, someone who has been quite rude to me before, and who our times conflict way too much (such as only playing in the middle of the night while Iím in bed).
Some might wonder who stays on my buddy list. The people who tend to stay on my buddy list are those who sign-on PSN quite frequently, own a decent amount of the same games as me (especially key ones like Hot Shots Golf: OoB, MotorStorm: PR, Rock Band 2, Burnout Paradise, Buzz! Quiz TV, etc.), talk to me a lot on AIM/MSN/telephone/emails, people I definitely see playing games with me in the near future (like some I KNOW that will have Killzone 2), and those people Iím quite close to (that means people I just really like and wish I could hang out with one day. Might sound silly to some, but thatís how I feel). Once a certain game night is done and I donít see myself playing that person again, they usually get removed unfortunately. Two people (from other sites) probably shouldnít be on my buddy list, but Iíll keep them because one has really helped me out with getting rid of my massive collection, and the other has been my friend longer than most anyone (and we still talk now, he just doesnít play a whole lot of games these days). But thatís just two slots out of 98. The two CAGs who have stayed on my buddy list the longest are Inf^Shini and dallow.
Since I donít post much on Xbox 360 forums (along with me being an XBL Silver member), I donít get anywhere near as many friend requests on XBL as I do PSN. I have gotten close to 100 before. Some I removed because they donít own a 360 anymore, while some I removed because I felt it was best I stay off their list (because I see their buddy list is full, play lots of games online which I canít currently do so I rather give them an extra slot, etc.). Overall, I still say I get a decent amount and donít have problems making friends. Hopefully whenever I get back on XBL Gold, Iíll make even more friends and play my wonderful friends again.
I understand Iím definitely taking this too seriously, but when you get quite a bit of friend requests, you sometimes have to decide who fits the best on your list. Thatís what I try to do, and normally Iíve been very happy gaming online.
Once again I really want to apologize to every single person I removed or did not accept. Thereís always a good chance youíll be on my friends list again/one day. Iím about to do some house keeping on my friends list, deciding between who should be on and who shouldnít (MOST CAGs are safe). I honestly wish I could store over 300+ friends so everyone could play a game with me, but unfortunately I cannot. So if anyone tries being my PSN friend, please understand I do not dislike you and would love everyone to my friend. Itís just that I have to shift people in and out at times to get most people in, so youíll probably have a chance one day to be my friend.
Those who are a PSN friend of mine right now, be very thankful you are and Iíve enjoyed having you on my list.
Oh yeah, some have said I should start a second friends list, but I held back on it because I still want stats/trophies to tie into my account. For some future CAG nights if I continue staying involved, I might create PSN-IDs for a particular game (if there are a lot of people playing).