Originally Posted by Cantatus
I think the most unfortunate thing about this is that there is a kid involved. It makes being able to walk away from the relationship a lot more difficult, and I imagine plays into some of people saying Meta made up his mind but isn't acting.
This is correct. I know I should have jumped ship years ago. Hell... I probably should've ran before we even got married. These are the mistakes I have to live with. Sure, I can abandon her and my daughter, but I unfortunately don't want that type of life for my kid. We keep the auguring to ourselves, and make sure to "play nice" in the presence of our daughter. My daughter is exposed to my wife's gaming though... and will go out of her way to get her attention if she's playing the game. I just don't want my daughter to grow up being passed between parents. Which brings up possible divorce fallout. The wife would likely move back home (as in three hours south-east). I too would likely head back home (2 hours north-west). This would make joint custody difficult... and would ultimately lead to me only seeing my daughter a few months out of the year (if that). I have a pretty good feeling that I wouldn't get custody... because I'm the dad, with a lower wage job.
Attempting to address her psychological issues without jeopardizing her career is rather difficult. We went to a marriage counselor shortly after our daughter was born. The counselor made several suggestions (in a tactful way) that the bulk of our issues seemed to exist with the wife. I was asked to be mindful that she may be experiencing postpartum depression. I felt enlightened upon exiting the session, but we would never return. The wife felt that she didn't like the way the counselor "pointed fingers" at her as being a problem.
I suppose I can go to therapy by myself, but I have yet to take that road.
Since my independent intervention a few nights ago, she has almost pulled a 180. Yesterday while at work, she deleted the game from her devices, as well as deleted the Facebook page associated with her gaming persona. As of 9:00am this morning she has been free of the game for approximately 21 hours. Last night, without any input from me, she came downstairs following her bath, sat next to me, and showed me some of the games she was thinking about playing. None of which were multiplayer or mmo. I expressed genuine interest, and after she decided on a few, she invited me to play with her. That's what we did... we played some Dark Meadow and Crow, together. We even went to bed at the same time... which marks the first time that's happened in months. She's off from work today, and before I left for work, she had already had breakfast with the daughter, and unloaded the dishwasher (she never unloads the dishwasher). I'm not getting my hopes up... but between the hours of 8:30 pm and 9:00 am, I've apparently been living with a different woman who just happens to look exactly like my wife.
Now I know one night of positive results is far from a "cure," but I'm rather pleased with her apparent sudden revelation. I'm actually looking forward to tonight... hoping there isn't any transgressions.