I know it may seem crazy that I am asking a lot of gamers this question, but I am just looking for any help.

My girlfriend of 7 months just ended it with me 2 nights ago, every since I am have been so freaking depressed and just dont know what I am doing. I am having trouble sleeping, just very easily put in a down mood.

Not only has that happened, but I also chose to quit smoking 3 days before we broke up and it just hasnt been easy on me.

What are some ways that I can handle this ? Oh and btw me and her work at the same place and are constantly in the same room and stuff. Should I put in my 2 weeks notice ? It hurts me just seeing her.

It wasnt a terribly bad breakup, she just didnt think that it could work out. (she said that she kept trying to imagine a future in her head, and it just never appeared), she wasnt happy with our relationship and I am thankful in some way that she let me know that.

PLEASE ANYTHING THAT CAN HELP, THROW IT AT ME :

Improve your pussy eating skills?

I know what your going through me and my ex were dating for 3 years and it just suddenly ended. To be honest I found out the best thing for me to do is keep myself occupied and busy a lot of the time. I hangout with my family and friends as much as I can. Sure some times I will get sad thinking about it but I have had plenty of girls flirting with me and talking to me so it puts me at ease with the whole she was the only one view on things. Hope I helped some how good luck!

Originally Posted by MisterModest Improve your pussy eating skills?

Dude, please...dont be like that.

I was with someone for 7 years and it came to an abrupt end. I found that keeping myself busy, as KillerSmokey24 said, helped a lot. Also, find a new hobby. Doing things that you did when you were with her will not help. Maybe take an interest in cooking, or going to museums. Just getting out of your house and doing something different will help. And who knows? Maybe you'll meet some new friends trying out some new activities.

Good luck, OP.


Edit: One last thing: ignore people like "MisterModest" - that's a real dick move by him

Thank you KillerSmokey24, and jr233270. I suppose I can find a new hobby. I've always wanted to get into fishing haha, I just dont know if that would help. Maybe though

Originally Posted by iKilledChewbacca Thank you KillerSmokey24, and jr233270. I suppose I can find a new hobby. I've always wanted to get into fishing haha, I just dont know if that would help. Maybe though

I would say no to fishing unless you have friends with you. While I enjoy fishing, its also a hobby where if the fish arent biting, and nobody to talk to, theres a lot of thinking time. And there is probably one thing that will find its way into your mind...

Really, there are only three things to do especially since you work together. You can quit or get back together, but those probably arent the best things to do. As hard as it is, just hang in there until you get over her. But its always easier if you can get in another relationship that you like, because once you do, theres a chance you wont care because you moved on.

Yep, just keep busy. Hang out with family and friends, make more time for hobbies you enjoy. Just need to keep your mind off of things until you get over it.

If you live away from friends/family, then look into social things to do locally. Meetup.com groups for hobbies you enjoy etc.

Obtain Kitkat bar.
Walk into place crowded with hunnies.
Offer them to break off a piece of your Kitkat bar.
First taker = new girlfriend.

Otherwise, as others mention, keep yourself busy. Fill all of your available time with activities. Preferably, make them productive. Learn a new skill. Hopefully it's something that interests you so it doesn't end up boring. It's also really helpful to do physically demanding stuff, since you can generally release endorphins and cheer yourself up naturally.

7 months is nothing in relationship time. I say this not out of malice but out of "it's not as bad as you might think it is, and you'll look back on it and laugh/shrug really soon."

Did you ever stick it in her pooper?

Originally Posted by CaseyRyback Did you ever stick it in her pooper?

From a mod? Now that's just uncalled for. You can't even call him a cool guy

EDIT - Hey, my post got changed! That's not what I said! I said you can't call him a hilarious dude

EDIT 2 - Casey, stop! Seriously man!

Originally Posted by n8rockerasu From a mod? Now that's just uncalled for. You can't even call him a cool guy EDIT - Hey, my post got changed! That's not what I said! I said you can't call him a hilarious dude EDIT 2 - Casey, stop! Seriously man!

I've been highly disappointed that no one gets asked that anymore. Figured someone needed to bring it back.

Originally Posted by CaseyRyback Did you ever stick it in her pooper?

Opened up this thread to specifically see if someone had said this... CAG never fails to disappoint.

As others have mentioned, keep yourself busy and most importantly, try to spend lots of time with friends. You'll probably get over this sooner than you may think, and I recommend not leaving your job as that could be seen as running away from your problems. Just try to grin and bear it, as it may actually benefit you to go through it this way. Like they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

At any rate, good luck OP!

Since you're on CAG I'm sure you have a backlog! Start there... Myself I would look to God and realize that losing this girl is not the end bro, work on yourself quit the smoking and then hit the streets for a better chick!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l93fDmh6XKo

Not exactly the end of the world is it?
get a new one and get over it

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Originally Posted by CaseyRyback Did you ever stick it in her pooper?

Glad to see someone already asked the most pertinent question. Inquiring minds want to know!

Hit the gym harder. Physical exercise will help, and it'll get you ready for the next girl.

Some good advice already here, OP - I may repeat a lot of it, but that'll (hopefully) reinforce what others have said.

First off, if quitting smoking at the same time is too much, put that on hold for a little while. A man needs some vices. I don't condone or recommend smoking, but sometimes too much is too much, and it's good to recognize when that is.

Of course, if you ditch the smoking now and stick with it...hell, talk about some kickass willpower. Can be proud of that. Nothing like personal power to overcome rejection.

You're single now, so it's time to concentrate on numero uno: you. And the best way to do that is to do the things you enjoy doing, whatever those things are. Or most especially to do the things you stopped doing or wanted to but didn't do, because you were with her. (Try as we all might to keep this from happening, it happens.)

Exercise is a fantastic option.

Anything artistic is, too, whether it's writing, drawing, singing, it doesn't matter.

Getting out every day is advisable - the more isolated you are, the more isolated and alone you'll feel and become.

Take a book, your computer or tablet to a nearby coffee shop or diner and plump yourself down for an hour or two, even if you're by yourself. Doesn't matter - you're out! And you'll have opportunities to interact with people. (Leave the headphones at home, or at least don't wear them the entire time.)

Invite your friends out and/or visit them. Same with family.

Then, take some well-earned alone time when you need it.

Your mind will stray to her, especially if you see her every day. But if you're concentrating on yourself and your needs, you'll be better grounded to handle seeing her. Accept that you're going to see her. Accept her decision. You don't have to like it or agree with it, but accept it, breath and get on with your life.

Above all, for your own sense of pride, don't go all sad-puppy-face when you see her, on your insides or out. Keep firm. She made her decision. You might even say she lacks imagination. Too bad for her. You're a good catch, right? She's giving you a gift, letting you go. Find someone better for YOU. (Obviously it's not her.)

If you decide to leave your job, make sure you secure another one before leaving.

And word of advice: don't date anyone at work again. While there are exceptions, it's generally a no-no for the very situation you're in now.

Good luck! It'll pass eventually.

I echo the gym sentiment. Hit the gym, put on some kickass tunes, and I guarantee you'll feel better.

I wouldn't quit your job unless you have a new one right away, especially in this economy.

As for how to deal with it, get active and try to hang out with other people. Being alone after a break up isn't a good idea, so try to fill your time with something. At the end of the day though, be thankful that this happened at 7 months and not at 7 years.