I have a daughter and no son. At least not yet. We are planning on trying in the future again, so we may yet end up with a son. Now normally, I am of the opinion you have a baby first, you use the name first and that's the breaks. But.... I am the third individual in my family with this first name. My grandfather, dad, and me all have the same first name. We all have different middle names so I'm technically not the 3rd. My wife and me had decided to pass along the name if our potential daughter was a boy so he would be the 4th inline.
Okay, well anyway, I have an older sister. Me and my sister have always gotten along and she is 8 months pregnant with her second son. She had told a few months ago that Dyllan (not my name) was the name they were considering for their 2nd son's name. So I'm trying to be an excited uncle and ask how Dyllan's doing and try to stay interested.
Well, she tells me they have scrapped that name, and now my name with a "t" on the end with be the child's name after my father. I feel like I shouldn't be upset, but I was kinda floored since I didn't think she liked that name and she already took my father's middle name and gave it to her first son as a middle name. She wasn't rude, but laid it out as this is happening so I'm not really asking for your opinion.
Now I may never have a son and this could be a moot point. But it bothers me that she didn't ask. I also don't like that assuming I do go ahead and name my hypothetical son the same name as me-dad-grandpa, and now that he son has essentially the same name, our family gatherings will be ridiculous. But I guess overall, I just can't believe she thinks it is a good idea to use that name. Thoughts?
Edited by smallsharkbigbite, 05 November 2012 - 02:27 AM.