I need advice. My 6 1/2 year relationship is ending I AM GETTING ENGAGED! 11-21-07

Maynard

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I've been with my girlfriend for 6 1/2 years. We met when she was 15 and I was 17. We pretty much grew up together. I was her first (virginity) and we spent everyday together. To sum it up quickly we've had a few bumps in the road and I took a break from her for about 2 months last year and sorta dated around but didn't really do anything. I missed her and we ended up fixing things. About the same time that i took that break my father passed away suddenly about 3 months before i took the break so i pretty much figured it was a direct result of my father dying and i was pushing people away. I had to move out (23 years old she was 21) because my mom, little bro, and I couldn't afford the house. So we decided to find an apartment together. I moved into the place things were good at first. Basically while grieving about my father i pushed her away. I stayed in the computer room played games, read stuff and watched TV while she sat in the other room cause she wanted to sit out there. I didn't spend enough time with her and I didn't give her the attention she needed. It went on for about 5-6 months and than a guy at work started giving her attention. ROB is this assholes name. Hes a ex marine 22 years old and a real prick. She thinks hes the best thing since sliced bread. On May 2nd, 2006 i questioned her relationship to this guy, she said he's just a friend and said that she wanted to take a break. The next day she said she wanted to stay together and try to work things out, but i had to give her space. She wanted to go out and be 22 and live it up and not have to worry about if i was worried about her or be "tied down". Basically us staying living together hurt things bad. I wasn't happy about her going out till 5 am and not calling me or inviting me. I found out as time went on she was spending more and more time with him as "friends". My best friend LIZ of 5 1/2 years suddenly became her best friend and LIz was influencing her to take a break to (they say that she wasn't but i dont believe it) Now liz wants to move in with her, kristin has moved out and i found out that after a while that kristin and her were dating behind my back and have kissed now. Last night they went out to a movie. Should i consider this over or am i fool for believing that if i dont call her and give her space that it could work out?


Here are some of the text msgs i got from her yesterday and today


I say, "So this means that were over after 6 1/2 years"

she says
"Nick i'm sorry that things have happened the way they have....you know i feel horrible about it i truly honestly do...theres nothing i can say to take away what i've done or said....i know that....but sometimes u have to realize that we r on a break and i am doing whats best for me and u cannot fault me for that"

I say Please dont rush into anything with rob do i have any hope that your feelings can come back

she says
"the stuff that has happened to us did not happen overnite. My feelings have changed over a long period of time and i can't help that . When the feelings are gone it is impossible to work anything out. I tried for the past month to work it out and it didn't work"

The last month she was always going out with rob so thats bullshit that she tried tow ork shit out with me because if she did she would have said "hey rob i need to see if things can work out between me and nick and we cant be friends i'm sorry. but she didn't she didn't try.

I say Please dont give up hope i can't give up hope after 6 years

she says I've given a lot of chances for things to change and nothing ever did. I said there was gonna come a point wher it was past the point of no return and it was gonna be irrepairable and by not taking space when i wanted i think we R at that point...i knew this would happen

I say please kristin is this over than? should i walk away

she says Nick like i said your asking me to make a decision when i have no feelings left for u in that way....

i say so this is over?

she says Whatever you want to believe and feel is ur decision i cannot decide that for u and i dont really think at this point based on how i feel that this is fixable which sucks i know i'm sorry

i say so i'm done i'm walking away?

she says I dont know nick i honestly dont know....rite now its probably best given the situation that you walk away .....this is not helping anything at all.

I called that rob guy and he said basically he sorta likes her and is just trying to get into her pants, but she wont believe me if i tell her because she thinks i'm desperate and will say anything. Her family still loves me and is calling me like everyday trying to help. I guess the best thing i can do is just leave her alone, but am i stupid for feeling like i truly love her? I mean i had an engagment ring bought for us and was about to propose to her. I really feel like shes my soulmate but i dont understand how she can treat me this way and say the mean things she does. Am i a fool for having hope? This is my first heartbreak and i feel like i want to die. I have no fucken friends cause i alienated all of them and all my really close friends are now her friends and i told them to fuck off if thats how it is.


Help

Thanks
 
Don't take this the wrong way man, but fuck her. You need to focus on you. Recoup, get your shit going in another direction and move on. I'm sure it'll be hard, but take a step back and you'll see that there are options. Deal with it for now, pick a plan of attack for your next conquest (be it professionally, artistically or whatever) and go at it full blast, balls out. Use whatever emotional fury that you will surely gain from this break up and divert it into something positive for YOU. fuck everyone else right now, man. Yeah sounds cliches, but my buddy is going through the same right now and he's really changing his life around into something more positive.

Plus, you got us CAGs, right CAGs?!
 
she says Nick like i said your asking me to make a decision when i have no feelings left for u in that way....
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Sounds like it's over man... Beat yourself up over it until you hit a breaking point and do something rash, or walk away and attempt to make constructive changes to help yourself move on. If the only way she is willing to talk to you about this stuff is via text messages, and she is saying that she has no feelings left for you in that way... time to move on man...


edit: she's not the girl in your avatar is she? If so, there is some great revenge to be had if things get messy. Pixxx + internet = nuclear bomb.
 
I'm kinda lost... after this line, really:
he says Nick like i said your asking me to make a decision when i have no feelings left for u in that way....
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If she says she's over you, she is over you. What are you supposed to do? By all accounts she has a new guy. You've gotta move on...

I haven't been in a situation where I had to break up with someone while I was together with them for nearly as long as your situation, so I can only half-relate... but I'd really say you gotta pack up and move on.
 
[quote name='Maynard']dtmfa?[/QUOTE]Dump the motherfucker already. If not for the fact that she thinks texting you to talk about your relationship is acceptable, then for the fact that people in 6 year relationships don't go "on breaks" unless they want out.
 
This fucken BLOWS though. I can't explain the pain i'm feeling. I can't get warm, i tremble, i cry, i get mad, i can't eat. I literally feel like i'm dying of some disease. I feel like such a PUSSY saying all this to. God i want to hit her in the face and just say fuck YOU
 
Being in a relationship that long makes the break up harder for sure, but it sounds like it's over. You're both still very young and it seems obvious that she realizes this and wants to experience more things and see what's out there. Regardless of her reasons, trying to hold on now is a mistake and will only cause problems for both of you. Consider that if the person was really your "soulmate", that person wouldn't be trying to end the relationship.

I dunno, when I was in my twenties, I wasn't looking for a relationship per se--just trying to get laid as much as possible and enjoy being single.
 
Although my relationship only lasted like a 1/6 of yours, I know exactly how you feel. Basically, I have to agree with brodiemash. Do whatever you can to get your mind off of it and put all your negative energy into something positive.
 
my gf of nearly 4 years called it quits last august. Although we were having problems during our final year we did try to patch things up but it didn't last long. There was a lot i wanted to do with my life and my career, she didn't care. She wanted to stay at the shit hole job where we met while i moved on to better things. She wanted to be daddy's little girl, all spoiled all her and her family. Althought in the beginning all was good and we talked about getting married and even me being her first :p in the end she was too problimatic that had a negative effect with my job and health. In her last letter (email bah) to me, she said she was sorry for some of the things she said to me, but there weren't things she could take back (bitch). She told me that not everything that happened was my fault because she argued a lot with me and couldn't help it (she had mental problems) and to not let this put me down and to keep busy (in other words to forget about her). In the end she said that she would have remained friends if she was sure that her next boyfriend didn't have a problem with her being friends with me still.. In other words she was going BACK to her old ex that she has been secretly communicating with via emails and Yahoo IM and she knew I would not be happy if I knew it was him. So she went back to this guy in Indiana who has his own sat installation business. A stupid thing that she said in that letter was that our problems were due to our cultural diffrences (im hispanic and shes european white mutt with a knock out body :p) yet she never bothered to get to know my family or culture. Talk about grasping for straws.

Yea instead of this knocking me down, I quit my old job, transfered counties, became the chairperson for my 10 year high school reunion, and now going back to school to get my licensure requirements so i can teach by next year :p
Whats intresting that I have reunited with former staff members/teachers at the school I worked at now that I use to attend when I was in 6th grade. All this would not have happened if we didn't break up as I would have stayed in that other job, unhappy and stuck in a relationship that was going no where.

Now I am free to explore and to pursue my dreams and goals, and maybe find someone else along the way :)
 
Man up.

This is what I like to call a blessing in disguise. Your ex (and yeah, that's what she is at this point) has the right idea. You're still young, large & in charge so live it up. I will guarantee that you will regret not living your 20s up moreso than someone you loved in your youth. You'll still have a place in your heart for her but it's time for you to move on, bud. Plus, I'll bet an easy $100 that your girl knows exactly what that guy rob is thinking and doesn't care. Something you gotta realize - girls like to fcuk around too. Every decent looking girl goes through a slut phase... sometimes even the ugly ones do too. You just hafta realize that relationships will bog you down in your 20s. Despite being a bit beyond legal tender, both of you are still immature in terms of worldly experience & love. I'll tell you right now the best thing you can do is call her up and tell her "thank you you were right" and then hang up. The curiosity will drive her insane since you were vague - "was he talking about our relationship? About this guy rob trying to get in my pants? What?" After you hang up, go out and find a girl... or three and start your stable of fu-bus (fcuk-buddies). No self-respecting single 20something should have less than 3 women he's currently seeing. It's extremely efficient dating and you divide your attention between 3 women lessening any emotional attachment. The trick is to find the one woman who will (metaphorically speaking) 'penetrate' your emotional shield. Dating more than one woman forces them to compete with each other for your affection and you ultimately benefit. Don't lie about seeing other women but don't offer the information either. Never refer to any woman you're dating as your gf... just someone you're seeing. Once one of them starts to ask where the relationship is going (usually around the 3 month mark), this is the moment of truth where you look deep inside your soul and ask yourself, "Can I see myself staying with this girl for a long time?" If the answer is yes, slowly start turning away the other 2 women. If the answer is no, just say

"I'm not looking for a serious/committed relationship right now. I don't regret time we spent together and cherish it dearly and please accept what I say with the utmost sincerity that I hope you find your special someone in the future. He's definitely going to be a lucky guy."

Then find another for your stable. Rinse, repeat until you find your special person and trust me, the chances of it being the girl you're crying over are quite small.
 
Seriously, I know EXACTLY what you are going through - losing your first (and only) love is one of the hardest things you will go through but you will be a better man for it in the long run. You guys were just too young when you started dating to last "forever" (even though at the time we all think it will and no one else knows how we feel and we are different, etc...). I'd actually be afraid to settle down with someone who didn't know what it was like to be with anyone else.

There are so many hot chicks out there if I were suddenly single I wouldn't know where to begin. Someone else will come along and it will be even better. Then you will look back and realize that she did you the biggest favor of your life by letting you go.

EDIT: jaykrue is my long lost twin. :D
 
[quote name='javeryh']

There are so many hot chicks out there.....[/QUOTE]


true, but you cant find them on yahoo personals or match.com cause they lie on there profiles.
 
[quote name='javeryh']EDIT: jaykrue is my long lost twin. :D[/quote]
Could be. Our usernames are similar enough. :lol:

[quote name='ITDEFX']true, but you cant find them on yahoo personals or match.com cause they lie on there profiles.[/quote]

Why use internet personals? It'd be more beneficial for him to go out and meet girls in his normal everyday routine. I've met girls at Barnes & Noble as well through family friends as well as walking down the street. I'd use craigslist, yahoo, myspace, friendster, etc. as a last resort. Plus there's speed-dating events all around the country. There's way too many ways to meet girls. Anyone who thinks they can't isn't trying at all.
 
Guys here are right. What you have to do is get rid of everything that reminds you of her. Pictures, stuffed animals, whatever. Did she give you a video game for xmas? Dump it. Sell that engagement ring and go out and meet some new people. Stop talking to her family, because that will only make things harder. Basically just get on with your life. Life's too short to be worrying about one girl. You've already wasted 6 and a half years with this girl. I know it's hard at first, but you're just going to have to move on.
 
What?

MORE stories on CAG about women being useless bitches?

I am SHOCKED.

Women! Being bitches! I mean, living up to their inherent genetics! Can you IMAGINE?

I just can't fucking believe it. Lying, being sob story assbags, talking about how they don't know what they want and don't know what to do?
 
[quote name='jaykrue']Why use internet personals? It'd be more beneficial for him to go out and meet girls in his normal everyday routine. I've met girls at Barnes & Noble as well through family friends as well as walking down the street. I'd use craigslist, yahoo, myspace, friendster, etc. as a last resort. Plus there's speed-dating events all around the country. There's way too many ways to meet girls. Anyone who thinks they can't isn't trying at all.[/quote]

yeah, seriously - you can't walk one block in Manhattan without seeing a hot chick - especially in the summertime (ahhh... miniskirts and black leather eff me boots...:drool:).
 
[quote name='gunm']I love this response, so true. Lykis 101 ftw![/quote]
Huh? :whistle2:s I dunno where you heard it but I heard that from my uncle when he was teaching me baseball and I got hit with a baseball in the kidney. Who's Lykis?

[quote name='javeryh']yeah, seriously - you can't walk one block in Manhattan without seeing a hot chick - especially in the summertime (ahhh... miniskirts and black leather eff me boots...:drool:).[/quote]

Yeah, new york is nice this time of the year. :lol: :drool:
 
[quote name='Strell'] ...talking about how they don't know what they want and don't know what to do?[/quote]

Oh they know what they want and what they're gonna do with it.
 
man thanks guys, reading your comments is helping. fuck her, and fuck that guy and good luck to both of them. I'm not calling her or accepting her calls. My best friend (sorry EX fuckING FRIEND NOW HER BEST FRIEND) liz just called me and said that kristin said if i wouldn't have hogged her and just given her space we probably could have worked things out. fuck them for trying to make me feel worse
 
[quote name='jaykrue']Huh? :whistle2:s I dunno where you heard it but I heard that from my uncle when he was teaching me baseball and I got hit with a baseball in the kidney. Who's Lykis?[/quote]

Tom Lykis, an LA radio personality. He basically espouses the same values as far as young men and relationships/sex. Regardless, your uncle is a wise man.
 
[quote name='Maynard']My best friend (sorry EX fuckING FRIEND NOW HER BEST FRIEND) liz just called me and said that kristin said if i wouldn't have hogged her and just given her space we probably could have worked things out. fuck them for trying to make me feel worse[/quote]
Liz is talking out her behind; if you need "space", you shouldn't be in a relationship, period. Just ignore them. You're doing the right thing by moving on and living your own life.
 
See how fucking stupid women are?

If you aren't keeping them close enough, then you're not devoting yourself to the relationship. I gauran-goddamn-tee you that is what they will say in ANY ending relationship. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, fucked both ways.

They are stupid hose-bag emotion driven beasts that use their bleeding vaginas to justify each and every last action of their lives.

Feeling like shit and want to eat ice cream? Bleeding vagina.

Bitch later because they ate goddamn ice cream? Bleeding vagina.

Need a new man but don't want to lose the comfort factor of the situation they are in, but lie to themselves about what they are doing AND talk to their female friends, who encourage, support, AND AGREE with them? Bleeding vagina.

Forty goddamn fucking pairs of shoes? Bleeding goddamn vagina.

Bleeding vagina? Bleeding vagina.

They rely on the basest of chemical reactions and cry when no one can understand that reasoning.

fuck that shit.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']Could be. Our usernames are similar enough. :lol:



Why use internet personals? It'd be more beneficial for him to go out and meet girls in his normal everyday routine. I've met girls at Barnes & Noble as well through family friends as well as walking down the street. I'd use craigslist, yahoo, myspace, friendster, etc. as a last resort. Plus there's speed-dating events all around the country. There's way too many ways to meet girls. Anyone who thinks they can't isn't trying at all.[/QUOTE]

Its hard to actually pick up hot chicks where I work as since I work in public school with 90% female staff members, its going to be impossible to keep a secret like that. They really dont want you to get involved with other teachers... damn cause this 4th grade teacher and kindergarden teacher are hotties :p
 
[quote name='Maynard']liz just called me and said that kristin said if i wouldn't have hogged her and just given her space we probably could have worked things out. fuck them for trying to make me feel worse[/quote]

Exactly, liz is talking out her behind. If a person needs "space", then they shouldn't even be in a relationship, period. You're doing the right thing by moving on and living your own life.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']Its hard to actually pick up hot chicks where I work as since I work in public school with 90% female staff members, its going to be impossible to keep a secret like that. They really dont want you to get involved with other teachers... damn cause this 4th grade teacher and kindergarden teacher are hotties :p[/quote]

See, you're missing the opportunity here. Even if you can't date any of your co-workers, that doesn't preclude the notion of dating their friends. More often than not, having female coworkers vouch for you as a person is a great way to score massive damage on one of their cutie friends. It's the same as having a female wingman. Seriously, take the opportunity. Invite your female coworkers out for drinks; not as a date but just a simple social function. And tell'em to invite their friends too. Who knows, you just might find a hottie even tastier than your hot coworkers.
 
[quote name='Maynard']man thanks guys, reading your comments is helping. fuck her, and fuck that guy and good luck to both of them. I'm not calling her or accepting her calls. My best friend (sorry EX fuckING FRIEND NOW HER BEST FRIEND) liz just called me and said that kristin said if i wouldn't have hogged her and just given her space we probably could have worked things out. fuck them for trying to make me feel worse[/quote]
Damn this shit must happen all over the country all the time to tons and tons of people - I wish I had the internet back when I was 20. I feel like you are describing exactly what happened to me after a 5 year realtionship ended.

Good idea not accepting her calls - she's got to be dead to you if you are going to eventually get over her. Anything she has to say (even if she says she wants to get back together - happened to me) will not help you at all. It's over. Done. Finished. Move on.
 
we need to post actual pics of our ex's... my ex wasn't a playboy model or anything she had a nice atheltic body and not stick for arms :p butt was kinda big though :(
 
[quote name='javeryh']yeah, seriously - you can't walk one block in Manhattan without seeing a hot chick - especially in the summertime (ahhh... miniskirts and black leather eff me boots...:drool:).[/quote]

all i can give is a holla to that.

end of august in NYC is a great time to be a guy.

it's just not the same here in paris... though there are a lotta hot chicks - just not the same "hoochiness."
 
[quote name='Maynard']I've been with my girlfriend for 6 1/2 years. We met when she was 15 and I was 17. [/QUOTE]

this was all I needed to read

best thing that could have happened to you

DON'T jump into another relationship right away

HAVE FUN, date/bang lots of different girls before you 'settle down' again

learn to love being by yourself, and you will have no trouble lining up chippie after chippie for your perverted man needs

repeat: THIS IS NOT A BAD THING. YOUR LIFE JUST GOT A LOT BETTER!!
 
[quote name='Maynard']This fucken BLOWS though. I can't explain the pain i'm feeling. I can't get warm, i tremble, i cry, i get mad, i can't eat. I literally feel like i'm dying of some disease. I feel like such a PUSSY saying all this to. God i want to hit her in the face and just say fuck YOU[/quote]
We've all been there. That's a relationship for ya. That's bullshit that they're trying to make you feel worse. As said above, you'll pull through and become a better man for it.

Through my personal experience, though, she might try to come back. She might get with Rob and after a month or two, realize what she had with you and want to come back.

The hardest part of this will be denying her. She will fuss, she will cry, and she will generally try to make you feel like shit to take her back. Don't. Just think of the pain you're going through now and it'll make the decision easier. Don't get back with someone just because there's a history there. You may love her, but if she loved you the same way, she wouldn't be doing this shit. So if she tries that, don't take her back. If she's done this before, she will do it again. You're not stupid for feeling the way you do. You may feel like you want to die, but don't. Just stay single for a while, reevaluate your life.. the problem isn't you. It sounds like her feelings changed just because the guy paid her attention, and after he's going after some other girl, she'll try to go back..

whatever the situation, i'm sorry you're going through it. I know, it sucks. We're all here for ya though.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']See, you're missing the opportunity here. Even if you can't date any of your co-workers, that doesn't preclude the notion of dating their friends. More often than not, having female coworkers vouch for you as a person is a great way to score massive damage on one of their cutie friends. It's the same as having a female wingman. Seriously, take the opportunity. Invite your female coworkers out for drinks; not as a date but just a simple social function. And tell'em to invite their friends too. Who knows, you just might find a hottie even tastier than your hot coworkers.[/QUOTE]

true... one of the 4th grade teachers is a former classmate of mine from high school, but her team member is this indian hottie with a nice rack and butt :) Unfortunitly I don't have the time to get in good with that 4th grade teacher or the 4th grade team as I spend most of my day with the 6th grade team.

Now I did meet this one chick on myspace and we were getting ready to meet in person, until she told me the other night that she still has a boyfriend of like 5 years and looking to get out... so out with him and into me... not a good idea. too bad cause she looked cute and had a nice body... doesn't have that atheltic body like my ex, but looked a lot better in a bikini then my ex :)
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']true... one of the 4th grade teachers is a former classmate of mine from high school, but her team member is this indian hottie with a nice rack and butt :) Unfortunitly I don't have the time to get in good with that 4th grade teacher or the 4th grade team as I spend most of my day with the 6th grade team.

Now I did meet this one chick on myspace and we were getting ready to meet in person, until she told me the other night that she still has a boyfriend of like 5 years and looking to get out... so out with him and into me... not a good idea. too bad cause she looked cute and had a nice body... doesn't have that atheltic body like my ex, but looked a lot better in a bikini then my ex :)[/QUOTE]

myspace is sketchy...
 
To the people who need "revenge pics," please go to the following and STFU:

www.pichunter.com (OBVIOUSLY NSFW OR CHILDREN)

You don't even fucking care what the bitch looks like, so quit pretending you do.

Shit.
 
[quote name='Maynard']This fucken BLOWS though. I can't explain the pain i'm feeling. I can't get warm, i tremble, i cry, i get mad, i can't eat. I literally feel like i'm dying of some disease. I feel like such a PUSSY saying all this to. God i want to hit her in the face and just say fuck YOU[/quote]
Girls, like guys need to see what's out there. I think we guys forget this. If you're the only guy she's been with, excepting for moral grounds (and usually depsite them) it is not realistic to expect a girl to only have one boyfriend/parter in her entire life. It doesn't mean a damn thing bad about YOU but it's just something that people need to discover and explore. And just like for us, this means - you're going to hate to hear this - that she needs to find out what she doesn't like by dating a massive tool.

Well I don't know if I, or anyone can offer too much in the way of concilliatory advice here. I know where you're at though. Man this one girl back in 2002, Anna, broke up with me pretty harshly...smokin hot twenty year old (I was 26 then so I was psyched for a hot minute)... anyway, here's my favorite quote of hers. She rolled over one afternoon and I thought she was going to say, "I think I love you" or something to that effect - I was all smiles - and instead, five inches from my face said, "I think you like me more than I like you." Nice manners. Bitch. That was the beginning of the end.

I just remember lying on the floor, literally cheek to carpet for hours at a time just crying. I felt most comfortable that low to the ground. I was past the point of embarassment... I remember I went to a Thanksgiving party and it was the first time I'd really left the house in a while. When people asked me how I was doing I would pretty much just say "Not so good, man." And then choke back that crying sensation. I'd walk back from school and take the secret route in the woods so I could just cry the whole walk back. Really, pathetic, I know. This shit was really out of character for me - I'm not a really weepy person but it tore me back proper.

Here's what I will tell you and I hope you believe it (because I can tell how shitty you feel right now) TIME WILL HEAL YOU MAN. You gotta believe that. It DOES get easier but it's going to hurt like a MOTHER man.. It's gonna get worse, it's gonna getta better, it's gonna worse again. Expect it. But I swear to god - it will start evening out.. you will feel better.

Check this out, and I'll even underline it for you for em-pha-sis: I don't EVER think of that chick anymore. She has absolutely zero power over me now and I've gone out with MUCH MUCH better (in all areas) of girls since.

One other thing I will throw out there - I'd try not to debate logically this issue with her too much. Don't try and talk her out of this anymore. She's said enough at this point that you really should let her go. If you try and bring logic into it, you're gonna feel defeated or pissed when she isn't BEING logical or goes against what you want. Frankly if she is moving on with another guy - boy it really sounds like she is, man - you're not going to talk her out of it (at least for long) and you're not going to hear things that you want to hear. It's a recipe for furthering your depression and dissapointment. Also, I don't see any reason for any interaction with the guy on your part. You don't need to ascertain his intentions or learn about him. You're just going to put shitty thoughts in your head. "What's it like when he's with her.." blah blah blah.. Garbage for your mind.

It's so easy to say with hindsight but TRUST ME - you will meet other people in your life and it only gets easier after getting your heart busted the first time. And remember, that it's supposed to suck - remember to give yourself some slack.

Shit, I think I'm supposed to be working right now, or something...
 
[quote name='PKRipp3r']myspace is sketchy...[/QUOTE]

true... then there is this other chick that lives near my brother (he lives 45 mins away)...and shes the same nationality as my parents so my parents would probibly like her instantly :) however shes one of those Au Pairs or whatever they are called, and she hinted that she can't wait to go back to her home country...too bad..it would have been nice to bang her before she leaves.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']true... one of the 4th grade teachers is a former classmate of mine from high school, but her team member is this indian hottie with a nice rack and butt :) Unfortunitly I don't have the time to get in good with that 4th grade teacher or the 4th grade team as I spend most of my day with the 6th grade team.[/QUOTE]

As I said, it doesn't have to be during school that you socialize. Since you know this girl already, invite her and her team to go out for drinks. I'm sure you can pop into her classroom for a second around 3-4 after the kids get out of class. Invite her then and then find some other teachers you get along with and invite them as well. That makes it a social function without the dating agenda. Let the good shit happen from there.

Now I did meet this one chick on myspace and we were getting ready to meet in person, until she told me the other night that she still has a boyfriend of like 5 years and looking to get out... so out with him and into me... not a good idea. too bad cause she looked cute and had a nice body... doesn't have that atheltic body like my ex, but looked a lot better in a bikini then my ex :)
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I don't mess w/ those kind of girls (knowingly anyway). Even if her body is kickin', the fact that she needs an excuse to cheat on her bf isn't a good indicator that she's not entirely sane. Every girl has baggage. The key is finding the one with the least amount and this one mos def has enough baggage that would make a hotel concierge faint.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']true... then there is this other chick that lives near my brother (he lives 45 mins away)...and shes the same nationality as my parents so my parents would probibly like her instantly :) however shes one of those Au Pairs or whatever they are called, and she hinted that she can't wait to go back to her home country...too bad..it would have been nice to bang her before she leaves.[/QUOTE]


dude, that's perfect!

that's exactly what you want... someone who's going to leave and go back to another country - WORK THAT SH*T

and don't take this the wrong way - but the last thing you care about when eyeing poon-tang is whether your parents would like her or not. :)

in fact, try to go for the hot girls that your parents would hate. ;)

well, really just go for anyone who isn't monstrously ugly and will still talk to you for more than 30 seconds.

hit it, quit it.... rinse, and repeat

have fun!
 
[quote name='Maynard']This fucken BLOWS though. I can't explain the pain i'm feeling. I can't get warm, i tremble, i cry, i get mad, i can't eat. I literally feel like i'm dying of some disease. I feel like such a PUSSY saying all this to. God i want to hit her in the face and just say fuck YOU[/quote]
Pussy? Oh no fellow CAG. These feelings, along with expressing them, make you a bigger man than many. Don't succumb to that machoesque BS that most guys say, "Real men don't cry...blah blah blah". Your heart was broken and you should be able to express these feelings. I too met my wife when I was 17 and have been with her ever since. The twat is wrong for not understanding and giving you space. Losing someone close to you is hard and a long process for many. Sure she might have felt lonely for those 5-6 months you did not give her the attention, but someone who truly loves you would understand. Instead she decides to throw a good thing away and hop on the "High & Tight" meat wagon. I hope for you that this asshole marine has some venarial disease from a previous deployment and passes it on to your lady friend. The only hope you have if you still truly love her is to throw everything on the table. Let her know how you feel, what sgt. slaughter wants her for and share this with her family. If she won't listen to you maybe mommy and daddy can knock some fucking sense into her. This stories suck and I thought I would not see another after Mookyjooky, but some women want the cock while others truly want a soulmate. I wish you the best and hope you can work things out. If not there are plenty of fish in the sea that are willing to treat you right.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']As I said, it doesn't have to be during school that you socialize. Since you know this girl already, invite her and her team to go out for drinks. I'm sure you can pop into her classroom for a second around 3-4 after the kids get out of class. Invite her then and then find some other teachers you get along with and invite them as well. That makes it a social function without the dating agenda. Let the good shit happen from there.



I don't mess w/ those kind of girls (knowingly anyway). Even if her body is kickin', the fact that she needs an excuse to cheat on her bf isn't a good indicator that she's not entirely sane. Every girl has baggage. The key is finding the one with the least amount and this one mos def has enough baggage that would make a hotel concierge faint.[/QUOTE]


True, but with the year just about up and me about to move to another school, might as well wait... I am sure I will encounter other hottie teachers... why do most of them have to be elementary school teachers :p

As for the other myspace girl....... at this point I have decided that we should only be "friends" and I am basically going to tell her that i can't advise you on what to do with your relationship with a guy whos 10 years older then her and been with him for 5 years. Its not morally right and if she just jumps ship and on to me, there is a good chance she will cheat on me down the road. Like my previous relationship, I knew the end was coming for a year before it actually happened. If I get involved with her, the end could happen when I least expect it.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']True, but with the year just about up and me about to move to another school, might as well wait... I am sure I will encounter other hottie teachers... why do most of them have to be elementary school teachers :p

As for the other myspace girl....... at this point I have decided that we should only be "friends" and I am basically going to tell her that i can't advise you on what to do with your relationship with a guy whos 10 years older then her and been with him for 5 years. Its not morally right and if she just jumps ship and on to me, there is a good chance she will cheat on me down the road. Like my previous relationship, I knew the end was coming for a year before it actually happened. If I get involved with her, the end could happen when I least expect it.[/quote]

Why wait? If anything, now's an even better time to hook up. Since you say they discourage the staff from mingling, the fact that you're moving to another school means you're not going to be a teacher there anytime soon and thus will be free of that obligation. Stop making excuses and get some pussy!!!! :bomb:

I'll give you props for recognizing the crazy on that myspace chick though. :cool:
 
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