[quote name='camoor']That's a bit of a contradiction - you want to be able to question the church's beliefs and teachings, but you don't want to attend with a confused or divergent group of chuch-goers.
I assume you're looking for a christian church (you use the word "church") - however since the christian followers are supposed to be sheep are you sure you're in the right religion.[/QUOTE]
Of course not; as I was raised catholic, I lean slightly more towards the judeo-christian notion of god than I do others. I don't think that, outside of Buddhism, critical thinking is appreciated in any religion; if it were, Marx wouldn't have been so right about it. It ain't just christians; Muslims aren't known as being bringers of tolerance either. Let's just say that I'm an agnostic who is partial to catholic pageantry (that being the mass) and idol worship (Mary and the Pope) due to their upbringing; additionally, although I believe in the existence of the metaphysical, I don't believe that any single person or group of people is capable of properly deciphering and presenting the teachings of said metaphysical presence to me (i.e., I think priests aren't very bright as a whole). This should not discourage me from being religious.
It isn't a contradiction; most nondenominational churches have become, as a reactionary measure (which rationalizes their existence vis a vis traditional churches), places where damn near any kind of behavior is permitted and recognized as providing glory to god. I don't believe that is the case at all; I like structure, I like a belief foundation and a concept of morals. However, if I were goldilocks, the catholic church would be papa bear's porridge, and nondenominational ones mama bear's porridge. Dig?
I also have disdain for nondenominational churches (let this be the last time I have to type that abominable word!) after a friend's funeral in late 2002. He had just gotten his shit together, had a two month old girl, was clean, and just up and died one day. Because conventional wisdom was that he suffered from long term heart problems as a result of heroin use, the funeral at some point turned into a lecture against his friends (part "you are responsible for this" and part "don't let this be you"). This is above and beyond his parents' oblivious denial to present him as he would have wanted at the funeral, instead opting for more traditional "he was a good white child" type pictures that would sate their middle-class suburban competitors and colleagues. In the end, my qualms with the ND's is that they are too irrationally permissive; OTOH, we can agree that the catholic church is restrictive to its own fault (the marriage issue, which Benedict won't touch, is one potential cause of abuse, as well as a major reason why the average age of priests is getting higher, and there are fewer and fewer recruits than ever.