No Place for Lust in True Love?

The Don

The Don

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I have a crush on this one girl in school. I like her so much I would go as far to say that I love her. I say that because I feel empty inside of me. I feel like I can never be complete without her. I hurt whenever I think of her and everything that I do, hear, see, taste reminds me of her. Right now as I sit here typing, I am wondering what she is doing right now. Love is a miraculous sensation. It has changed me. Everything that I used to do, do not matter to me anymore. I no longer want to play videogames or watch TV. One of the weirdest things is that I no longer want to masturbate either. I have gone through two straight weeks without masturbating. Since I think of this girl every second of my life, masturbating would make me think that I am having sex with this girl, taking her innocence away, and I do not want that. If we get married, it will eventually happen for kids, but is not a priority. The previous girls that I have had a crush on, I have not thought about sex either. I have come to the conclusion that once you love someone, you will no longer think about sex. If you are in love too, is this true for you. If you are not in love, does the thought of never thinking about sex scare you? I just want her to feel love for me too. I want us to share a common life together.
 
When I get that feeling, I need seks-shoo-all healing...
[quote name='The Don']I have a crush on this one girl in school. I like her so much I would go as far to say that I love her. I say that because I feel empty inside of me. I feel like I can never be complete without her. I hurt whenever I think of her and everything that I do, hear, see, taste reminds me of her. Right now as I sit here typing, I am wondering what she is doing right now. Love is a miraculous sensation. It has changed me. Everything that I used to do, do not matter to me anymore. I no longer want to play videogames or watch TV. One of the weirdest things is that I no longer want to masturbate either. I have gone through two straight weeks without masturbating. Since I think of this girl every second of my life, masturbating would make me think that I am having sex with this girl, taking her innocence away, and I do not want that. If we get married, it will eventually happen for kids, but is not a priority. The previous girls that I have had a crush on, I have not thought about sex either. I have come to the conclusion that once you love someone, you will no longer think about sex. If you are in love too, is this true for you. If you are not in love, does the thought of never thinking about sex scare you? I just want her to feel love for me too. I want us to share a common life together.[/quote]
 
You should rent this movie: "Looking whos knocking on my door". It was Martin Scorcese's first film which stars Harvey Keitel. Its about a man (with a strong Christian upbringing) who views women as either whores or the kind you marry. There is no inbetween in his thinking and thus, he has a lot of problems with women.

I'm not saying it has answers to your problems; I'm saying that you might relate to the movie. Its a very good profound little film.

EDIT: I got the title wrong. Its "Who's That Knocking on My Door?"
 
[quote name='The Don']Yes, we both know each other.[/quote]

Are you sure? It's probably more of a "know of" situation here.
 
[quote name='The Don']I have a crush on this one girl in school. I like her so much I would go as far to say that I love her. I say that because I feel empty inside of me. I feel like I can never be complete without her. I hurt whenever I think of her and everything that I do, hear, see, taste reminds me of her. Right now as I sit here typing, I am wondering what she is doing right now. Love is a miraculous sensation. It has changed me. Everything that I used to do, do not matter to me anymore. I no longer want to play videogames or watch TV. One of the weirdest things is that I no longer want to masturbate either. I have gone through two straight weeks without masturbating. Since I think of this girl every second of my life, masturbating would make me think that I am having sex with this girl, taking her innocence away, and I do not want that. If we get married, it will eventually happen for kids, but is not a priority. The previous girls that I have had a crush on, I have not thought about sex either. I have come to the conclusion that once you love someone, you will no longer think about sex. If you are in love too, is this true for you. If you are not in love, does the thought of never thinking about sex scare you? I just want her to feel love for me too. I want us to share a common life together.[/QUOTE]
Thread of the year nomination + 1!
 
You should not abstain from stroking your junk. It's not physically or emotionally healthy to neglect your only true best friend.
 
Man I love CAG... but I don't ever want to be without her. We both know each other, but I don't know if she'll let me stick it in her pooper.


Listen OP, you don't love this girl you like how she looks, and maybe a few things about her. However trust me there's no love. Your young and hormones are flowing. You'll "love" 9 other women before you graduate high school. Thats a proven fact.
 
This honestly sound really dangerous to me. Like real stalker stuff.

It sounds like you're getting WAAAAAAAAAAAY too obsessed here man. What I would do if I were you is make a move on her. Don't obsess over her for months and months thinking there's something there when there's not. Find out. Soon.

If it works out, that's great. But, depending how young you are, it probably won't. So just take it as a learning experience and move on. And please, for God sakes, don't do anything stupid like hurt yourself or her about this whole thing.

And one more thing. There is true love out there, but it probably won't be with her. So be patient.
 
Oh shit...

I'm not missin this one.

This is either a joke, or the OP is in the sixth grade and subsequently, would probably pop a shot if a girl even held his hand. That post is so rank with nievete that is actually painful to read. Sex is a huge part of a healthy serious relationship. Thats why people get into relationships to begin with.

"When I first saw you, I knew I wanted to try to get into your pants. Now I want to marry you, so I can spend the rest of my life trying to get into your pants."
 
This is a common problem, and this advice goes out to anyone who has a bit of a crush:

What you gotta do is go down to her house whenever you think about her. Sit across the street on the sidewalk and just wait for her to come out. Sometimes it'll take a few hours, so be sure to have your cell phone handy, and call her up a few dozen times. Wear a tee shirt with her name in a heart on it while you do this - so that way, when you tell her you're waiting outside, she'll know where to look. If she has a job, show up there too in order to state your devotion.

Don't forget to do things for her too. You know, a girl loves to have her laundry done - borrow some of her clothes out of her locker or, if you can, her hamper at home and wash them. You can be goofy too and take pictures of yourself wearing them - that'll show her you have a sense of humor and girls love that. Oh, and while you're in her locker borrowing old gym socks, don't forget to decorate it vigorously - paste notes stating your adoration all over the inside of her locker, as well as the front door of her house.

Ah, and let's not forget the animal angle. If she has a favorite pet, bond with it. This may mean taking it for a walk or extended vacation in order for you and the pet to grow closer, for the sake of the relationship. Once you and the pet grow closer, she's bound to like you more. Be sure to hug them as much as you can to make the animal squeal with joy while making your routine calls to her.

If she objects to any of this, just blindly tell her how much you adore her. Tell her that you love her so much, you've already bought two plots at the cemetary so you'll be buried together one day far in the future.

Now that's romance.
 
[quote name='Graystone']Man I love CAG... but I don't ever want to be without her. We both know each other, but I don't know if she'll let me stick it in her pooper.


Listen OP, you don't love this girl you like how she looks, and maybe a few things about her. However trust me there's no love. Your young and hormones are flowing. You'll "love" 9 other women before you graduate high school. Thats a proven fact.[/QUOTE]I like much more about her than just the way she looks. I think she is perfect. She's not skinny and hot. She's cute and has a little bit of fat on her. I have never liked a girl that had some fat. I don't know why I'm falling for a girl that is a bit fat. I always thought that I would like skinny girls. I wouldn't say that she is overweight though. She's also kind, intelligent, and we both like art. I'm a high school senior right now. Would I really love 9 other women? I loved this one girl in 6th grade for like a year and then I lusted over her for like 3 years. I got over her when I found out that she doesn't take honors classes, she's kind of lazy about school work, and she wants to go to a 3rd rate college. In 10th grade I loved this one girl. She was skinny and athletic. After she rejected me, I got over her in a month. In 11th grade, I was depressed and masturbated a lot. I never thought I would like another girl until now.
 
I'm failing to see how the adjective "Sagacious" applies to you Steve. You seem very naive, and a little bit misguided.

Love is a lot of things. It's knowing that someone has your back no matter what. It's knowing the worst thing about them and not caring. It's recognizing your partner's moods by a sigh, or a pensive look. It's picking up movies for rental and always picking one you probably won't like. It's being comfortable enough in the silence to not have to say anything. It's trust and a mutual respect, the understanding that they'll always make the right decision. It's being independent and relishing the time apart so that you'll have something to share when you next talk again. It's always knowing that you will talk again, regardless of how upset you get at each other. It's knowing when to hold tighter, but also knowing when to let go.

Let her go Steve, because above all the other things, Love is wanting happiness for that other person even if it isn't with you.
 
strict catholic upbringing? that's the only explanation I have for no masturbation for two weeks that doesn't involve getting laid.

and yeah....say something to her. if only to deflate your hopes and prevent your obsession from getting any unhealthier.
 
[quote name='Quillion']I'm failing to see how the adjective "Sagacious" applies to you Steve. You seem very naive, and a little bit misguided.

Love is a lot of things. It's knowing that someone has your back no matter what. It's knowing the worst thing about them and not caring. It's recognizing your partner's moods by a sigh, or a pensive look. It's picking up movies for rental and always picking one you probably won't like. It's being comfortable enough in the silence to not have to say anything. It's trust and a mutual respect, the understanding that they'll always make the right decision. It's being independent and relishing the time apart so that you'll have something to share when you next talk again. It's always knowing that you will talk again, regardless of how upset you get at each other. It's knowing when to hold tighter, but also knowing when to let go.

Let her go Steve, because above all the other things, Love is wanting happiness for that other person even if it isn't with you.[/QUOTE]

I'm touched. You should write Halmark cards.
 
[quote name='alongx']In the words of Dr. Tobias Funke...

You're probably a homosexual.[/QUOTE]

Didn't Maebe say that, and Tobias agreed? Anyway, I love this thread.
 
[quote name='Quillion']I'm failing to see how the adjective "Sagacious" applies to you Steve. You seem very naive, and a little bit misguided.

Love is a lot of things. It's knowing that someone has your back no matter what. It's knowing the worst thing about them and not caring. It's recognizing your partner's moods by a sigh, or a pensive look. It's picking up movies for rental and always picking one you probably won't like. It's being comfortable enough in the silence to not have to say anything. It's trust and a mutual respect, the understanding that they'll always make the right decision. It's being independent and relishing the time apart so that you'll have something to share when you next talk again. It's always knowing that you will talk again, regardless of how upset you get at each other. It's knowing when to hold tighter, but also knowing when to let go.

Let her go Steve, because above all the other things, Love is wanting happiness for that other person even if it isn't with you.[/QUOTE]I'm not sagacious. I just found the word in Jade Empire and thought it sounded well with my name. I'm willing to do all of those things. I just never had the chance to try. You're criticizing me for things I have never done.
 
[quote name='Apossum']strict catholic upbringing? that's the only explanation I have for no masturbation for two weeks that doesn't involve getting laid.

and yeah....say something to her. if only to deflate your hopes and prevent your obsession from getting any unhealthier.[/QUOTE]No, I'm Agnostic. I have no desire for masturbation or gettin laid right now. The love that I have defeats the lust that I had. I don't want to rush things. I want her to try to get to know me better. From experience, a guy asking a girl out who doesn't know him very well, does not go in the guy's favor. I don't think my love is unhealthy. It gives me a reason to live. I feel so alive when I think of my love.
 
[quote name='The Don']I like much more about her than just the way she looks. I think she is perfect. She's not skinny and hot. She's cute and has a little bit of fat on her. I have never liked a girl that had some fat. I don't know why I'm falling for a girl that is a bit fat. I always thought that I would like skinny girls. I wouldn't say that she is overweight though. She's also kind, intelligent, and we both like art. I'm a high school senior right now. Would I really love 9 other women? I loved this one girl in 6th grade for like a year and then I lusted over her for like 3 years. I got over her when I found out that she doesn't take honors classes, she's kind of lazy about school work, and she wants to go to a 3rd rate college. In 10th grade I loved this one girl. She was skinny and athletic. After she rejected me, I got over her in a month. In 11th grade, I was depressed and masturbated a lot. I never thought I would like another girl until now.[/quote]

I take back what I said about this being really weird. Now it doesn't sound dangerous... just pathetic. Not so pathetic that it's noteworthy, it just sounds like an average pathetic story.
 
High school senior? Why do you type like a sad panda 6th grader?

What in the world is going on here. Why dont you start a friendship and see what happens. How can you Love someone you barely know?

Best relationships work the best if they start from a back bone of friendship... thats the only way it will stand up. Once the lust is gone you need the friendship to hold it together...

Ask her to the local diner and get a shake, that would be swell.
 
[quote name='The Don']I have never liked a girl that had some fat. I don't know why I'm falling for a girl that is a bit fat. [/QUOTE]

That's the greatest fucking thing I've heard in a long while. The girl who is a bit fat made you stop masturbating.
 
This is definately lust without a doubt. Even love at first site is not a feeling, but a "smell' that you sense when you are around said person; do some psychology research it is there. How can you be in love when you don't even "know" her. Also you went a little far with the self gratification.

[quote name='The Don']I like much more about her than just the way she looks. I think she is perfect. She's not skinny and hot. She's cute and has a little bit of fat on her. I have never liked a girl that had some fat. I don't know why I'm falling for a girl that is a bit fat. I always thought that I would like skinny girls. I wouldn't say that she is overweight though. She's also kind, intelligent, and we both like art. I'm a high school senior right now. Would I really love 9 other women? I loved this one girl in 6th grade for like a year and then I lusted over her for like 3 years. I got over her when I found out that she doesn't take honors classes, she's kind of lazy about school work, and she wants to go to a 3rd rate college. In 10th grade I loved this one girl. She was skinny and athletic. After she rejected me, I got over her in a month. In 11th grade, I was depressed and masturbated a lot. I never thought I would like another girl until now.[/QUOTE]

If you don't care about weight and looks, why bring it up? Not every women is going to look like Jen, Angelina, J-Lo, etc. Real people exist and some have a little weight. In my honest opinion girls with a little meat on the bone are sweeter, nicer, great communicators, fun, easy going, caring and great in bed. If you have a thing for looks it presents doubt when you're around a person not fitting your mold. Get off your ass and get to know her and make sure she never views this thread.
 
[quote name='munch']Didn't Maebe say that, and Tobias agreed? Anyway, I love this thread.[/QUOTE]

The exact transcription was:

MAEBY: Homosex-ual!
TOBIAS: (To Maeby) Maeby, don't interrupt. (To patient) You know, she's right.

I was just getting to the point.
 
:rofl:

I go to sleep, and this thread gets even better!

You've been in love with THREE girls in high school that you haven't even DATED? That's not love, that's a crush, and that's all it is. I can't believe you're a high school senior and you think such stupid things.
 
[quote name='The Don']No, I'm Agnostic. I have no desire for masturbation or gettin laid right now. The love that I have defeats the lust that I had. I don't want to rush things. I want her to try to get to know me better. From experience, a guy asking a girl out who doesn't know him very well, does not go in the guy's favor. I don't think my love is unhealthy. It gives me a reason to live. I feel so alive when I think of my love.[/QUOTE]



well, there's your problem. she's not going to magically try to get to know you better.
 
this is nuts, approach her that your interested in her. Screw that love from afar bullshit. Also for the love of God rub one out or even two out before your approach her. If you come at her with a loaded gun who knows what horrors might take place.

Regardless, good luck with your creepy+stalker love. Hope she doesn't press charges.

r1s3n
 
Agreed with most of the other posters on here.

Ask her out. she will reply with one of 2 things.
"yes" or "no"

If no, drop it. If yes. well.. you should probably still drop it.
 
[quote name='r1s3n']this is nuts, approach her that your interested in her. Screw that love from afar bullshit. Also for the love of God rub one out or even two out before your approach her. If you come at her with a loaded gun who knows what horrors might take place.

Regardless, good luck with your creepy+stalker love. Hope she doesn't press charges.

r1s3n[/quote]

Classic. You have made my day sir.
 
[quote name='Kayden']Sex is a huge part of a healthy serious relationship. Thats why people get into relationships to begin with.[/QUOTE] Not for everyone, but it should be a part.
 
[quote name='sblymnlcrymnl']Not for everyone, but it should be a part.[/quote]

:lol: You're just saying that because you aren't getting laid. :lol:
 
[quote name='neudog']This is definately lust without a doubt. Even love at first site is not a feeling, but a "smell' that you sense when you are around said person; do some psychology research it is there. How can you be in love when you don't even "know" her. Also you went a little far with the self gratification.



If you don't care about weight and looks, why bring it up? Not every women is going to look like Jen, Angelina, J-Lo, etc. Real people exist and some have a little weight. In my honest opinion girls with a little meat on the bone are sweeter, nicer, great communicators, fun, easy going, caring and great in bed. If you have a thing for looks it presents doubt when you're around a person not fitting your mold. Get off your ass and get to know her and make sure she never views this thread.[/QUOTE]I brought up looks, because I was replying to someone who accused me of being in love with this girl for her appearance. I agree with you that meatier girls can be more compassionate. I never thought that my previous crushes would work but I believe my current love will.
 
[quote name='The Don']If we get married, it will eventually happen for kids, but is not a priority.[/quote]

Does she even know you like her?
 
[quote name='r1s3n']this is nuts, approach her that your interested in her. Screw that love from afar bullshit. Also for the love of God rub one out or even two out before your approach her. If you come at her with a loaded gun who knows what horrors might take place.

Regardless, good luck with your creepy+stalker love. Hope she doesn't press charges.

r1s3n[/QUOTE]I won't rub one out. I don't know if I'll ever rub one out anymore. It will just disgust me. In fact, everything that I did before I loved her, I won't ever want to do anymore. I used to eat three meals a day and eat junk food when I get hungry. Now I'm skipping meals and throwing all junk food away. I'm also exercising every chance I get. She may be a bit fat, but I'll be fit for her. She won't press charges. I won't give her a reason to. I would never resort to rape.
 
[quote name='Maklershed']Does she even know you like her?[/quote]
i'm willing to be she couldn't even pick him out of a crowd... of 3.
 
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