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WinnieThePujols

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Me: "Hello?"
Friend: "Hey, what are you doing tonight? Do you have to work?"
Me: "Yeah, I do."
Friend: "Do you get done at 12:00, again?"
Me: "Yeah."
Friend: "Well, after work, can I come over?"
Me: "OK."
Friend: "Yeah, well, I want to use your computer to do this DOS lab we have in computer class."
Me: "OK."
Friend: "And I can't get my MP3 player working so I want to install my music program to put some of my music on your computer so I can put them on the MP3 player."
Me: "OK."


This is also the same kid that would tell me other friends that he wanted to go over to my house to play Battlefield 2.


I don't know. Am I uptight? I view my computer as a personal thing and it really pisses me off when somebody calls and asks something like that. Use a school computer or something. I have enough crap on here as is, the last thing I want to do is install your shit on your so that everytime you feel like it, you can stop by and update your MP3 player. Because by saying "yes," that last situation I just described is what's going to happen. If it's not compatible with your computer, bring it back.

God that call just put me in a bad mood.


It's not even like he asks. It's just like, "Hey, can I come over? I need a computer to use. I don't want to hang out with you, I just want to use your personal computer without asking. OK, see you tonight."


And by the way, I don't question our friendship or anything. This is one of my best friends that I'm going to be moving out with this summer. It's just really obnoxious when he does crap like this. I just find it really rude for someone to invite themselves over to use my computer, as if I bought it for public use.


Now I have to get off work and my "plans" are to be stripped from using my computer. I'm not going to go into withdrawl from not being able to use it.

I'm guessing this sounds ridiculous on my end, but the principle of the whole thing just makes me irate. And I'm a relatively calm, laid-back person.
 
I know what you mean. I have a friend who always comes over just to watch car videos on those racing sites. The sad thing is he can watch them for 3 hours straight. He downloads them big ass 100+ mb files too.

I dont find it that annoying though because I dont mind letting people use my stuff as long as they dont fuck it up.

Back in high school another friend use to do the same thing but instead of watching vids he played games. That pretty much ended when he got a new comp and played his own crap.
 
I'd have to draw a line at someone else installing software on my PC. Frankly, I think it's bad form to even ask such a thing.
 
[quote name='WinnieThePujols']*ring, ring*

Me: "Hello?"
Friend: "Hey, what are you doing tonight? Do you have to work?"
Me: "Yeah, I do."
Friend: "Do you get done at 12:00, again?"
Me: "Yeah."
Friend: "Well, after work, can I come over?"
Me: "OK."
Friend: "Yeah, well, I want to use your computer to do this DOS lab we have in computer class."
Me: "OK."
Friend: "And I can't get my MP3 player working so I want to install my music program to put some of my music on your computer so I can put them on the MP3 player."
Me: "OK."


This is also the same kid that would tell me other friends that he wanted to go over to my house to play Battlefield 2.


I don't know. Am I uptight? I view my computer as a personal thing and it really pisses me off when somebody calls and asks something like that. Use a school computer or something. I have enough crap on here as is, the last thing I want to do is install your shit on your so that everytime you feel like it, you can stop by and update your MP3 player. Because by saying "yes," that last situation I just described is what's going to happen. If it's not compatible with your computer, bring it back.

God that call just put me in a bad mood.


It's not even like he asks. It's just like, "Hey, can I come over? I need a computer to use. I don't want to hang out with you, I just want to use your personal computer without asking. OK, see you tonight."


And by the way, I don't question our friendship or anything. This is one of my best friends that I'm going to be moving out with this summer. It's just really obnoxious when he does crap like this. I just find it really rude for someone to invite themselves over to use my computer, as if I bought it for public use.


Now I have to get off work and my "plans" are to be stripped from using my computer. I'm not going to go into withdrawl from not being able to use it.

I'm guessing this sounds ridiculous on my end, but the principle of the whole thing just makes me irate. And I'm a relatively calm, laid-back person.[/QUOTE]

That's way beyond rude. Tell your friend to get a job and buy his own computer. Your computer, your property. True, he was courteous enough to ask, but to me, the computer is something personal. It's like asking me:

"Hey, can I borrow your underwear after I just had anal sex? I haven't wiped off the shit on my dick but I figured you'd be cool with it."

while you're already rummaging in my underwear drawer. UNCOOL.:bomb:
 
[quote name='jaykrue']That's way beyond rude. Tell your friend to get a job and buy his own computer. Your computer, your property. True, he was courteous enough to ask, but to me, the computer is something personal. It's like asking me:[/QUOTE]

To his credit, he is buying his own... but I'm sure it's going to be a while before he does.


Do you guys get what I'm saying about putting myself in a bad situation in the future? He goes to college out of town and comes back every other weekend. When he comes back and he hears some new songs on the radio that he wants on his MP3 player, where do you think he's going to go?


I can't tell if these respones are serious or tongue-in-cheek. They seem borderline. But I hope you guys can sympathize here, and also hope I'm not as uptight as I think I'm being...
 
[quote name='jaykrue']
"Hey, can I borrow your underwear after I just had anal sex? I haven't wiped off the shit on my dick but I figured you'd be cool with it."

[/QUOTE]
:D
 
[quote name='WinnieThePujols']I can't tell if these respones are serious or tongue-in-cheek. They seem borderline. But I hope you guys can sympathize here, and also hope I'm not as uptight as I think I'm being...[/QUOTE]

A bit of both. I do think it's rude of him to do that. The situation I described was used to show what I think is a similar situation to aggressively using your computer. The graphic nature of it is used for comedy and horror to drive the point home.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']A bit of both. I do think it's rude of him to do that. The situation I described was used to show what I think is a similar situation to aggressively using your computer. The graphic nature of it is used for comedy and horror to drive the point home.[/QUOTE]
Needs more Hitler, though.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']A bit of both. I do think it's rude of him to do that. The situation I described was used to show what I think is a similar situation to aggressively using your computer. The graphic nature of it is used for comedy and horror to drive the point home.[/QUOTE]

Well, obviously I knew that your underwear thing was just a joke... it's just kinda... uhm... lemme try and give an example:

"Hey, don't you guys agree that Coke is the best pop out there?"

"Yeah, I do!

When factoring in tooth decay, acidic taste and over-pricedness, Coke is definitely the best pop out there."


Uhm, I'm really going off on a tangent here. I'm gonna stop.
 
Two letters, one syllable: "No."

Although, I'm one to talk. A friend of mine just left here w/ a PS2 game that I really didn't want to let him borrow. *sigh*
 
You said you were going to be rooming w/this guy pretty soon? You might want to seriously rethink that. If he's willing to invite himself over to use your stuff now I guarantee you that he will help himself to anything of yours that he wants to use/eat/wear etc. once your rooming together. I GUARANTEE IT. BEWARE!!!
 
[quote name='neocisco']You said you were going to be rooming w/this guy pretty soon? You might want to seriously rethink that. If he's willing to invite himself over to use your stuff now I guarantee you that he will help himself to anything of yours that he wants to use/eat/wear etc. once your rooming together. I GUARANTEE IT. BEWARE!!![/QUOTE]

Actually, re-thinking it, that was really a brain lapse. I originally was going to get a place with him and one other guy when he got back, but since he's buying his own computer and getting braces he doesn't want to have to worry about paying for rent and whatnot.

But still... I'm just mad he asked in the first place. It's a catch-22. I say "no," I feel like an uptight asshole, but if I say "yes" I feel like I'm taken advantage of.

This is up there with people going through my fridge and taking what they want without asking!
 
I had someone like that in college, he had his own computer but he didn't want to pay for internet and didn't have a credit card so he kept on wanting to pay me cash to order things for him off websites. I put up with it when I was ordering off reputable sites like amazon.com. But then he wanted me to start ordering stuff for him off sites I'd never heard of, I said "fuck that."

Anyway, people I know I don't mind using my computer to surf sites, play my games, or check email if they are already there hanging out, or if they lived in a dorm room down the hall and just needed to check something real fast. But I don't let them install anything on my computer or mess with any of the settings, the minute they do their priveleges are yanked.

What your friend asked for, to install his shit on your computer, was pretty rude and I would politely refuse.
 
If a friend only need to use my computer once or twice, I probably wouldn't mind much. But if he's going to be using it regularly like your friend, then it might be better if he get his own computer. A used computer is very cheap. Probably can get one for less than a couple of hundred dollars. Even if he can't afford a cheap computer, he could always find other places that have computers he could use. Schools or public libraries all have computer resources.
 
[quote name='WinnieThePujols']Well, obviously I knew that your underwear thing was just a joke... it's just kinda... uhm... lemme try and give an example:

"Hey, don't you guys agree that Coke is the best pop out there?"

"Yeah, I do!

When factoring in tooth decay, acidic taste and over-pricedness, Coke is definitely the best pop out there."


Uhm, I'm really going off on a tangent here. I'm gonna stop.[/QUOTE]

Well, they're not really the same thing. Mine was a simile* while yours is not. Your example has descriptors of the object that has no bearing on the quality of the object in question. My example was a graphically repulsive simile in which your friend's actions are similar in distastefulness as a person who engages in underwear-sharing. A more appropriate comparison would be like:

"Hey, can I have a sip of your Coke?" and then he proceeds to drink 75% of the Coke in the can... and then backwashes the remainder with his grimy spit.

At any rate, I'll leave you with this thought - "The best of friends don't always make the best of roommates."

*figure of speech that expresses a resemblance between things of different kinds (usually formed with `like' or `as')

[quote name='jmcc']Needs more Hitler, though.[/QUOTE]

Uh, no need to get that depraved. :lol:
 
Well, you already said yes, so you're kind of screwed for now...

...but it was defintely over the line to ask to install software. That's like, back when my brother hocked his PS2, then bought a new PS2 game to play on my system. (Unless you're giving it to me, don't buy games for my system!)

Tell 'im later that the program took up more memory than you like, so you'll be deleting it in a week/couple days/ whatever, and give him a brief window to update his player.

And if you don't want the guy using your computer, just say no. "Sorry dude, I had some stuff to look up on the net tonight." Done. With schools, net cafes, libraries, free wifi floating around- there's no good reason to have to use specifically YOUR computer.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']At any rate, I'll leave you with this thought - "The best of friends don't always make the best of roommates."[/QUOTE]

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh what a quote!

You're always good at puttin' things in prespective, 'krue.
 
[quote name='WinnieThePujolsFriend']"Yeah, well, I want to use your computer to do this DOS lab we have in computer class."
Me: "OK."
Friend: "And I can't get my MP3 player working so I want to install my music program to put some of my music on your computer so I can put them on the MP3 player."
Me: "OK." [/QUOTE]

"I want" instead of "May I?" - definitely unacceptable.
 
[quote name='WinnieThePujols']I view my computer as a personal thing and it really pisses me off when somebody calls and asks something like that. Use a school computer or something. I have enough crap on here as is, the last thing I want to do is install your shit on your so that everytime you feel like it, you can stop by and update your MP3 player. Because by saying "yes," that last situation I just described is what's going to happen. If it's not compatible with your computer, bring it back.

[/QUOTE]

Say that to him... why are you being all passive aggressive about it and posting it on a forum instead of telling him... Its not like its your GF and your getting some loving out of it, its some dumb ass guy ... Deal with it i say...
 
[quote name='jaykrue'] At any rate, I'll leave you with this thought - "The best of friends don't always make the best of roommates."[/QUOTE]

Well said.


One of my roommates/good friend is currently driving me nuts. My biggest peeve with roommates is with those who never contribute to the group. By this I mean never buying food but eating up everything other people buy. And my roommate isn't poor either...instead of buying food he spends the money on hundred dollar Jordan shoes and other hip apparel. Good to hang out with...annoying as hell to live with.
 
i keep my computers (i have a desktop and a laptop) clean. i have things very organized, everything is how i like it. i have a minimal amount of programs installed. i constantly update, have 2 firewalls (router and software) and antivirus that i constantly update. i scan everything i download. and i really dont like people putting shit on my computer without asking.

that said, ive let friends that i trust use my computers freely. they can install programs and use their devices on my pc, i dont mind because i know they arent going to mess anything up. however, someone like my cousin who doesnt know what hes doing... well he can surf the internet, and even then i keep an eye on him. the point is, as long as you trust your friend, you shouldnt be that upset that hes using your computer to put mp3s on his players, because you know thats hes a good friend and wont fuck your shit up.
 
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