[quote name='davo1224']Something about that just rubs me the wrong way. You're not really a candidate for marriage anyway so how can you comment? You'd never get married without living with someone, yet you don't want to get married. The reason you'd never get married without living together is because they deteriorate after living together, yet you say that you always end them. It's weird because people never realize the contradictions in what they're saying until someone else tells them. I'm the same way.[/QUOTE]
I don't see any contradictions. I'm not anti marriage, just not obsessed with the notion that I
have to get married like most people in society since I'm not religious and hate kids.
I've had two long-term relationships (one was an engagment) fall apart after living together. Thus I'm a fan of living together before marriage as I was super
ing glad to not have to worry about divorce etc. in those cases as it was difficult enough already.
And they were both situations were we didn't fight much etc. in the years of dating before moving in. You just can't really know if you're compatible with someone before living together and being stuck around them all the time IMO. And both times I've been the one that's ended them, sure, but that's still not a contradiction. Just saying it's much better to be able to just move out than deal with all the legal hassles of ending a marriage if you find out you're not compatible after moving in together.
And everyone is a candidate for marriage. I'm just not that focused on it for the reasons above. If I meet someone I want to spend my life with who cares about getting married, I'll do it. If not, I won't.
Right now, despite being in my early 30s, I'm in no hurry. I'm recently out of a 6-year relationship and just fed up with all the putting up with someone else's drama that goes with long-term relationships. So for now I just want to focus on myself and my career and I'm not thinking anything other than casual dating for time being. But I'm sure I'll change my tune eventually if I meet the right person etc.