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#181 Javery   Drug-Dealer-Keeper-Awayer CAGiversary!   22402 Posts   Joined 13.8 Years Ago  

Posted 06 December 2013 - 01:09 AM

Congrats man.  It will change your life.



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#182 dohdough   Sum Dum Guy CAGiversary!   6831 Posts   Joined 8.2 Years Ago  

Posted 06 December 2013 - 01:37 AM

Congrats man.  It will change your life.

Thanks, dude. Hopefully for the better! :lol:
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#183 Billytwoshoes   Perpetually behind the times CAGiversary!   1820 Posts   Joined 5.2 Years Ago  

Billytwoshoes

Posted 06 December 2013 - 07:38 PM

A friend of mine has a 1 year old and I asked him to help me kill a boss in Dark Souls one evening. While in chat I hear his kid in the background and he's talking to his wife. I didn't say anything but I would never play a game like Dark Souls infront of my kid. Similarlly my brother would often play Call of Duty in front of his daughter. Also my wife would kill me if I played a violent game in front of our daughter.

 

I never play "my" games around her, but I did start playing a little Kingdom Hearts 1.5. Not many action parts and it's only for maybe 20 - 30 minutes. Mainly cutscenes with characters she knows and the Winnie the Pooh missions. My wife doesn't mind (she is not a gamer) but I was curious how other dads handle their gaming time with their kids.

Late reply to your post, but yeah, I cringe when I hear people playing mature games around their kids, they must not realize how much their kids actually absorb.  One of my daughter's playmates (age 4) was talking about how he loves to sit and watch his daddy play Deadpool on the 360. I really didn't know how to respond to that.

 

Luckily I'm a kid at heart, so about 70% of the games I play are clean enough to play around my kids.  I love trying new games to get my older daughter into it, definitely one of the most rewarding VG experiences when something just clicks with her.

 

The remaining 30% usually isn't that bad anyways (I usually don't push beyond T ratings anymore), and that's usually either co-op with the wife or the rare chance of solo gameplay after they go to bed.

 

Thanks, dude. Hopefully for the better! :lol:

Yes, the change is certainly for the better, it just might not be apparent at first.  Just expect your habits and free time to change with the arrival, and enjoy the new responsibilities and activities.  Maybe you'll get lucky and your kid will be a big time couch + chest sleeper for the first couple of months, makes for good play sessions (neither of my kids so far were that way though).



#184 encendido5   Let's Go Mets!!! CAGiversary!   4283 Posts   Joined 13.4 Years Ago  

Posted 07 January 2014 - 09:40 PM

I found out right before Christmas that we are having baby #2!  We are both pretty excited.  I can't wait to see how my son interacts with the new baby.


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#185 dohdough   Sum Dum Guy CAGiversary!   6831 Posts   Joined 8.2 Years Ago  

Posted 07 January 2014 - 09:46 PM

I found out right before Christmas that we are having baby #2!  We are both pretty excited.  I can't wait to see how my son interacts with the new baby.

Congrats dude!

Now we REALLY have to get together soon or you'll never be able to wash your car again! :D
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"Speaking of which, there's another elitist prick that argues constantly on the Politics forums by the name of dohdough. He's a complete douche, but at least he keeps his posts in that cesspool of useless opinions. He gets my runner-up nomination."


Thanks for the nomination for the Most Memorable CAG Villan 2012, Blade!

#186 Rodimus   I'm Different CAGiversary!   12633 Posts   Joined 13.7 Years Ago  

Posted 07 January 2014 - 11:02 PM

For X-Mas I bought my daughter (3 1/2 yrs old) "Disney Princess Enchanted Journey" for Wii. I figured it's something we can play together on my days off. So we popped it in for the first time last week. As you can imagine it's an extremly easy and simple game and it's pretty much impossible to die. All was good until we got to an enemy that slows you down and stops time. You wave the wiimote to cast spells, simple stuff, but she was having difficulty attacking him. After a few seconds of not being able to hit him she exploded and started crying. Well kinda sorta crying, more like whining.

 

I immediatly turned it off which at that point made her Super Saiyan angry. She wanted me to turn it back on. Of course I said "no". Not yelling at her but I sent her to her room to calm down. After about 5 minutes I walked in and talked to her about her behaviour. I made it clear we will not play any video games if she acts like that. She said she was sorry and that was that. But I am a little afraid to have her play it again but if we do I'm going to make it clear I'll turn it off as soon as I see her getting frustrated.

 

Any similar stories for you dads and moms? And how did you handle it? I think I did a well enough job with my situation but I'm open for suggestions.



#187 Billytwoshoes   Perpetually behind the times CAGiversary!   1820 Posts   Joined 5.2 Years Ago  

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Posted 08 January 2014 - 12:36 AM

You did well enough, that's about the same approach I have when my 4 1/2 daughter plays.  If she's getting frustrated to the point of annoyance (for both of us), more hyper whining than talking frustration, I will tell her it's time to stop if she doesn't calm down.  Often she understands that and starts asking reasonably for me to help or to change games, but at those times where she doesn't, I just turn the TV off and remove her (as civil as possible with someone under the age of 5) and send her to her room to calm down.

 

Afterwards we try to talk about it and why she was frustrated, but the message isn't always received.  I try different games with her at different times, and if I can tell she's not skilled / patient enough for it at her current age, I wait a few more months to see if she's matured enough.

 

Maybe it's just a daughter thing, as I've played with my nephews and they get bored with a game long before they get ornery.



#188 encendido5   Let's Go Mets!!! CAGiversary!   4283 Posts   Joined 13.4 Years Ago  

Posted 08 January 2014 - 08:19 PM

Congrats dude!

Now we REALLY have to get together soon or you'll never be able to wash your car again! :D

 

Thanks man!  

 

haha, indeed!


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#189 joey791   CAGiversary! CAGiversary!   101 Posts   Joined 11.0 Years Ago  

Posted 21 January 2014 - 10:18 AM

Congrats on your second child Condor



#190 Billytwoshoes   Perpetually behind the times CAGiversary!   1820 Posts   Joined 5.2 Years Ago  

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Posted 20 May 2014 - 08:50 AM

The grandparents also keep saying that I shouldn't hold her so much, but I don't care. :rofl:

Impossible.  Build up that bond, helps out for both of you when you come across those "For the love of God why won't you sleep?!?" nights.

 

At least that's how my first one was, the second one fared much better.



#191 Rodimus   I'm Different CAGiversary!   12633 Posts   Joined 13.7 Years Ago  

Posted 10 June 2014 - 01:02 AM

Our daughter 3 yrs (4 in a couple weeks) has been potty trained since she was 2 1/2 years old. Since then we've had only a few accidents so we thought that hurdle was past. Until the last 2 weeks where she's been wetting her pants almost every day now. At first we just ruled it as her being lazy and not wanting to stop what she's doing. But after numerous talks swearing she will use the potty she does it again and again. After today's incident it got me thinking, I don't think this is a normal thing. Anyone else dealt with your kid reverting back to wetting their pants? And if so how did you deal with it.

 

I've come to think it's one of a few things:

- A health issue, maybe a weak bladder or urinary tract infection. I'm going to see her pediatrician this week just to make sure.

 

- A rebellious phase, wanting to push her limits and see what she can get away with. I'm leaning more towards this since she's been having more fits than usual and often not listening to us when we tell her to do things (turn of TV, brush teeth, nap, etc) It's odd because she's actually a really good girl but ever since we got back from our trip to Japan she's been unusually defiant.

 

- Stress. I doubt this one since home life is good, me and the wife don't argue. She get's out and plays with friends and is very active. She's not in school or daycare so that can't be it and we haven't changed our lifestyle like moving or having a new baby. Other than her coming back from Japan but that was over a month ago and have gotten back to our normal routine. Still I might be over looking something.



#192 Billytwoshoes   Perpetually behind the times CAGiversary!   1820 Posts   Joined 5.2 Years Ago  

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Posted 10 June 2014 - 01:18 AM

The only time my oldest daughter ever had reverting potty training issues was for a period of time she kept trying to test her limits and hold it in as long as possible (usually while she was playing).  She'd then know she really had to go but couldn't hold it in long enough to make it time.

 

Other times were our fault, putting her in pants that required more fine motor skills than she could handle (buttons and whatnot), that she just gave up in frustration and went anyways.

 

From your description the defiant cause seems the most likely, just another way they exert their control on their own world.  I guess this depends on her reaction when it does happen, because my daughter used to get really upset / frustrated at those instances.



#193 dohdough   Sum Dum Guy CAGiversary!   6831 Posts   Joined 8.2 Years Ago  

Posted 10 June 2014 - 01:20 AM

This is what I have to look forward to??? Thanks for the heads up, guys! :rofl:

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"Speaking of which, there's another elitist prick that argues constantly on the Politics forums by the name of dohdough. He's a complete douche, but at least he keeps his posts in that cesspool of useless opinions. He gets my runner-up nomination."


Thanks for the nomination for the Most Memorable CAG Villan 2012, Blade!

#194 equistina  

Posted 10 June 2014 - 05:17 AM

Can a gamer mommy join these discussions or am I not allowed in the fort? :)

#195 dohdough   Sum Dum Guy CAGiversary!   6831 Posts   Joined 8.2 Years Ago  

Posted 10 June 2014 - 03:40 PM

Can a gamer mommy join these discussions or am I not allowed in the fort? :)


Come one, come all! :D
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"Speaking of which, there's another elitist prick that argues constantly on the Politics forums by the name of dohdough. He's a complete douche, but at least he keeps his posts in that cesspool of useless opinions. He gets my runner-up nomination."


Thanks for the nomination for the Most Memorable CAG Villan 2012, Blade!

#196 encendido5   Let's Go Mets!!! CAGiversary!   4283 Posts   Joined 13.4 Years Ago  

Posted 10 June 2014 - 08:14 PM

My wife and I are still trying to potty tain our almost 3 year old. We were hoping to have him trained before the baby arrives in July but I don't think that's going to happen.

Can a gamer mommy join these discussions or am I not allowed in the fort? :)

Of course! I apologize for the title, I've tried editing but I wasn't able to change it.

Edit: I don't know why it didn't let me fix it before. Fixed! :)

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#197 Rodimus   I'm Different CAGiversary!   12633 Posts   Joined 13.7 Years Ago  

Posted 10 June 2014 - 10:14 PM

From your description the defiant cause seems the most likely, just another way they exert their control on their own world.  I guess this depends on her reaction when it does happen, because my daughter used to get really upset / frustrated at those instances.

She tries to hide it and lies (which I hate) She had a friend over yesterday for a few hours and they were playing good. We kept asking if she needs to go potty, each time "no". After her friend left she was watching TV while my wife prepared dinner. Then I smelled it, her skirt and underwear were soaked. We had a looooong talk. She finally admitted to us that she wet her pants while playing with her friend but didn't want to stop playing. So she had been sitting in wet underwear for at least 30 minutes.

 

She has a hard time ending or putting playtime on hold. So starting today we're starting up a new system. No TV, No Tablet, No Games until she can prove to us she can listen. At least today she took a nap with no fuss.

 

I'm probably painting her as a a bad kid but it's quite the opposite. I don't ever have to worry about her playing with other kids. She's extremely sociable, no problems with sharing or playing. She's very artistic and loves to draw, paint and do crafts. She'd much rather be outside playing then watch TV. She loves helping us clean and cooking. And she's so smart and has an amazing memory, her Japanese is even getting better than mine. So that's why I find her current behavior so odd and want to correct it ASAP.

 

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#198 equistina  

Posted 11 June 2014 - 01:21 PM

My little one is almost 5 months, so I have no experience w/ the potty issue, but my niece did do the same thing. My cousin ended up doing a reward system for her (ie. stay clean and dry for x days and get y reward). It ended up solving the problem after a couple of months :0

#199 4thHorseman   The New God CAGiversary!   2427 Posts   Joined 7.6 Years Ago  

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Posted 11 June 2014 - 01:54 PM

She tries to hide it and lies (which I hate) She had a friend over yesterday for a few hours and they were playing good. We kept asking if she needs to go potty, each time "no". After her friend left she was watching TV while my wife prepared dinner. Then I smelled it, her skirt and underwear were soaked. We had a looooong talk. She finally admitted to us that she wet her pants while playing with her friend but didn't want to stop playing. So she had been sitting in wet underwear for at least 30 minutes.

 

She has a hard time ending or putting playtime on hold. So starting today we're starting up a new system. No TV, No Tablet, No Games until she can prove to us she can listen. At least today she took a nap with no fuss.

 

I'm probably painting her as a a bad kid but it's quite the opposite. I don't ever have to worry about her playing with other kids. She's extremely sociable, no problems with sharing or playing. She's very artistic and loves to draw, paint and do crafts. She'd much rather be outside playing then watch TV. She loves helping us clean and cooking. And she's so smart and has an amazing memory, her Japanese is even getting better than mine. So that's why I find her current behavior so odd and want to correct it ASAP.

 

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My nephew did the same. If he was preoccupied with something, he wouldn't want to stop doing it to go potty no matter how often it was asked. I haven't gotten to that point yet with my boy (he'll be two in August), and I'm not looking forward to it.

 

Also, you are not painting your kid as bad. Just a kid O:)


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#200 irideabike   no show CAGiversary!   6039 Posts   Joined 8.8 Years Ago  

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Posted 11 June 2014 - 03:13 PM

gamer mom in the boys club eh

 

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My little one is 10 months now.  She's a fiesty little descructoid.  Her favorite thing to do now is open my wife's sock drawer and empty the contents onto the floor. 


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#201 equistina  

Posted 12 June 2014 - 06:56 AM

Mr. Bean!

Mine has been trying to become mobile for like the past two months, I know we are done for once she does. And I fear for the dog, he is obsessed with her and since he is only like 3 pounds I think once she is mobile the dog will be flung everywhere by her >>;;;; she already has kicked him and socked him in the face (not on purpose, at least I don't think) and she finds it hilarious wen the dog tries to play with her. He has this little Kia soul hamster that he'll toss in the air to try and play with her, he doesn't seem to understand she can't play yet

Also, in answer to your pic, I've always gotten along better with guys than girls, before I got married pretty much 90% of my friends were guys, but once I became serious with my husband they all started to disappear :/ now I pretty much have no friends :( (just a select few)

#202 HydroX   Quintessential Studmuffin CAGiversary!   7199 Posts   Joined 8.7 Years Ago  

Posted 12 June 2014 - 08:41 AM

Equistina infiltrating the dad's club? Ruh roh Raggy.

 

j/k .. starting to see you everywhere I post, it seems. Not a bad thing by any means.

 

As for your 5 month old.. yes, once she becomes mobile she'll take to a few things fairly quick. Baby-proof everything ASAP! (if you haven't already) Luckily my son wasn't one to get into too much trouble when that began (around 9 months). We have a small dog that tried to play with him as well, and it worked out great until he reached the terrible twos. Now (at 3, almost 4) he's more of a bully to them than anything. Hiding their toys, throwing them (the toys) down the stairs, etc. Poor doggy.

 

Potty training in general isn't as bad as I thought it would be. #1 was simple as could be. #2 on the other hand... reward system didn't mean diddly-poo whatsoever after the first few prizes. Just be persistent and don't make them go, but stay on them enough that you clue in on when they have to go. They all tend to give some sort of sign, one way or another. Deciphering that code is key. ;)


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#203 equistina  

Posted 12 June 2014 - 11:53 AM

Ya, I post on here mainly at night so I don't fall asleep during her feedings. Otherwise I'd probably be knocked out right now

I've only done those plug things, still have to get wall anchors for furniture and stuff for the drawers, which I don't think I'll find any that work for our drawers :/

#204 Billytwoshoes   Perpetually behind the times CAGiversary!   1820 Posts   Joined 5.2 Years Ago  

Billytwoshoes

Posted 12 June 2014 - 04:26 PM

Also, in answer to your pic, I've always gotten along better with guys than girls, before I got married pretty much 90% of my friends were guys, but once I became serious with my husband they all started to disappear :/ now I pretty much have no friends :( (just a select few)

I find that having kids before your friends do is another way you'll slowly see your single unattached companions disappear too.  It's not so bad at first when the kids are smaller, cuter, and can nap often, but once mine hit the 2y+ range I saw the decline.  I didn't take it personal, I don't think most people want to hang out with toddlers (and I'm too cheap to get sitters, so there's that too).



#205 equistina  

Posted 12 June 2014 - 06:05 PM

I find that having kids before your friends do is another way you'll slowly see your single unattached companions disappear too.  It's not so bad at first when the kids are smaller, cuter, and can nap often, but once mine hit the 2y+ range I saw the decline.  I didn't take it personal, I don't think most people want to hang out with toddlers (and I'm too cheap to get sitters, so there's that too).

Ya, I've figured it will happen. I've noticed some of my husbands friends don't call like they used to to hang out with him since the baby was born. He's wanted a baby for a long time though and is over the moon so I know he could care less, just like how I feel right now. I'm sure down the line when some of them have kids they'll be back in touch.

 

I also lost friends I think because I've always been in a different mind set then people my age. Got married pretty much when I turned 20, and wanted to start a family pretty early. Most people I know from my high school are still in their party hardy, club, drink, act like an idiot days. I never had a desire to do that, probably why I was always attracted to older guys. I guess i'm a little old lady at 25 already :lol:



#206 Layd Dly  

Posted 13 June 2014 - 12:51 AM

Sign me up for the parents club. My Daughter just turned 4 almost 3 weeks ago, and the wife is 16.5 weeks pregnant for round 2.

#207 equistina  

Posted 13 June 2014 - 01:48 AM

Sign me up for the parents club. My Daughter just turned 4 almost 3 weeks ago, and the wife is 16.5 weeks pregnant for round 2.


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#208 usickenme   I'm the a-hole CAGiversary!   2552 Posts   Joined 13.8 Years Ago  

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Posted 13 June 2014 - 02:44 AM

omg...sorry but I am so glad I'm well past those stages but the reality is, there will always be something to deal with. 



#209 irideabike   no show CAGiversary!   6039 Posts   Joined 8.8 Years Ago  

irideabike

Posted 13 June 2014 - 01:10 PM

I find that having kids before your friends do is another way you'll slowly see your single unattached companions disappear too.  It's not so bad at first when the kids are smaller, cuter, and can nap often, but once mine hit the 2y+ range I saw the decline.  I didn't take it personal, I don't think most people want to hang out with toddlers (and I'm too cheap to get sitters, so there's that too).

 

Ya, I don't mind that at all to be honest.  Most people I hung out with were for the simple sake of I'd feel bad if I stopped showing up to things.  It's kinda nice just spending time with my family instead of most of them.
 


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#210 HydroX   Quintessential Studmuffin CAGiversary!   7199 Posts   Joined 8.7 Years Ago  

Posted 13 June 2014 - 04:07 PM

Yeah, most fairweather friends tend to fall off the map after awhile. Your real friends will stick around regardless of the situation. I don't fret about stuff like that though, it's whatever.

 

My 3 year old just had his second game of organized tee ball yesterday. I already feel so damn old.


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