Hey maybe you shouldn't have come back and comment, cause you know nothing about my stance and what I am questioning, instead throw out your hoiler then thou response.
Why is it if you make bad decision while drunk/on drugs it can be used against you to ruin your image or blame your action as a contributing factor, yet except in cases of sex ( not even a assault but the consenting to having sexual relations )
I'm not talking about passed out drunk, I'm talking about where you are in a state where you make questionable choices.
I see the idea behind the point you're trying to make here but to me it's apples to oranges. Your stance makes little to no sense to me (and the majority of others I'm guessing). As some else pointed out the scenarios differ for more than one reason. Maybe you're looking at the legal aspect of it. The fact you used the phrase "cannot be used against her" is kind of telling but also untrue. Their state is frequently used against them maybe it's just not in the way you think....
The victim's state of mind and choices are often the primary subject of a majority of sexual assault cases, especially those in colleges. Ask yourself this: In sexual assault cases involving alcohol what do you often think the accused party's defense includes? If your answer was the victim's level of inebriation you'd be correct. The other party's defense in many cases revolves around destroying the character of the accuser. There are sometimes cases in which even the police even try to talk the victim out of taking more action because they were drinking.
So the main part of my point is that often times the victims of alcohol/drug related crimes involving sex ARE blamed for "questionable choices" and usually DO have their images ruined because they were "in a state to "make questionable choices". When people say it's "blaming the victim" in a sexual assault case what do you think it is they're referring to? Look at the accuser in the Jameis Winston case, no one has tried to ruin her image right? There's just the being forced out of school, the constant defaming in the media, the death threats, etc.
You want another famous case based on a college campus lookup Lizzy Seeberg. I can't recall if alcohol was involved directly but Notre Dame officials and Campus police made it their job to investigate the girl (did not even question the accused player yet). They found she was suffering from depression and questioned her state of mind. They said she was unstable and a pathological liar because she sought treatment for depression. Months later a few reporters would even claim to have been fed this info by Notre Dame officials. Her therapists would later say that while depressed she was never remotely unstable or a spinner of tall tales. So how was her image been affected? Well a little less than 2 weeks after reporting her assault she killed herself due to the harassment of others and being made to think the whole thing was a result of something she did by even the school's investigators.
Steubenville, OH - I heard it over and over people saying that girl should not have been partying with just all those boys. She must have been easy, a slut, etc. She had her image ruined by others and one of her rapists got a standing ovation when he got to play football again. To me that certainly sounds like people are blaming her rape at least in part on her and passing it off as basing it on her "questionable choices"...
In all these cases and in the majority the other party and many other members of the public say the victim in a sexual assault is a liar or is to blame for their circumstance because they were drunk or even simply because they were depressed. Hell the victim is blamed even because of how they dress. Victim blaming is common in sexual assaults and when there's alcohol involved it's incredibly common. Like I said if you simply look at the public comments of many cases you're going to certainly hear these things. Images are ruined, people unfortunately say they did "deserve it" etc, etc. So I'm really just not seeing how you think it doesn't occur in cases involving sex?