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#1 shinclyde   CAGiversary! CAGiversary!   269 Posts   Joined 15.9 Years Ago  

Posted 24 September 2018 - 05:02 AM

So I have been living together for the longest time (18 yrs) and have 2 kids.

After all this time all the flaws of my partner just keep piling up, like really high, no cleaning habits, no cooking, no washing and worst of all, no interest in bed anymore.

So this weekend she wanted to go to a concert and took my son with her, no bighie so far. Aparently she got some grubing and ass grabing from a stranger in the concert, she says it was a girl.

Am I really paranoid to think she finds more excitment on stuff like that than in plain ol me?

I kinda want out of this disfunctional relationship, but with the kids and ao many years, it feels really hard.

Any thoughts?

#2 Jodou   Infamous CAGiversary!   14870 Posts   Joined 11.6 Years Ago  

Posted 24 September 2018 - 06:40 AM

Have you tried maybe, talking to her about your and her needs? Interest in bed is related to the status of your relationship, fix other shit and it will follow. Flaws your partner has shouldn't be a dealbreaker unless they're abusive. Identify what you really can't live with and then talk it out. TBH, making it 18 years without figuring that stuff out is insane to me. That's the kind of stuff that comes out after 2-3 years at worst.



#3 shinclyde   CAGiversary! CAGiversary!   269 Posts   Joined 15.9 Years Ago  

Posted 24 September 2018 - 11:24 AM

Thanks for the reply,

I tried talking about it and even counseling, but as my older son puts it, this is kinda an abusive relationship.

Its like, you realize the other person has many flaws and it is unwilling to change, but you stick around for the kids sake.

Anotger thing, my partner was sexually molested when she was 15, so I always asumed that sex was kinda "spoiled" for her, i guess.