So I'm having a debate with a buddy of mine (who will go unnamed) about the terms of man-law. And who is a better judge of morality and right vs. wrong that CAG right? Ha ha. Anyway, for your judging enjoyment - read the following scenario. There are lots of stupid moves on A&A's parts, but because the topic is BORIS, Judge ONLY whether BORIS broke was wrong.
Amy and Adam date for 5 years. They are involved in their Church and do Bible Studies with kids in their free time. In April they have a painful breakup but because the breakup is about marriage (just can't make it work) rather than hating each other they stay close. A week later BORIS enters and gets involved in the study, co-leading with Adam. Boris is one of those guys with girls waiting in line to date him, flirts with anything that moves (over 18 of course), and despite his bond with Adam over their shared experiences (he has also recently ended a long-term relationship) begins paying a lot of extra attention to Amy.
It is significant to point out that starting early May, a number of people comment on the obvious amount of time these two are spending together. Meanwhile, Boris continues to pursue friendship with Adam, inviting him to movies, out with "the guys", hanging out, etc. but never discussing Amy. He also has long heart-to-hearts with Adam - giving advice on how Adam should distance himself from Amy and not let himself fall into only remembering good times, etc.
In early June, approximately 2 months after breaking up, Adam finds out that Boris has also been emailing back-and-forth with Amy, giving her "advice" and consolation. A week later, Amy tells Adam that Boris was suddenly surprised to discover that they have feelings for each other and are going to start dating. He feels really bad about the way things "look" but just had to be honest. Adam feels betrayed, and believes Boris should have known better than to put himself in such a cozy situation with Amy, regardless of whether or not he really had "feelings" at the time. Either that, or Boris should not have pursued friendship with Adam.
So, lots of mistakes, lots of should-have. My buddy and I have debated a lot of the other should-have's, etc but came to a stalemate on the application of man-law (appropriate interaction between guys and/or guy-friends) to Boris. What's your vote?
Amy and Adam date for 5 years. They are involved in their Church and do Bible Studies with kids in their free time. In April they have a painful breakup but because the breakup is about marriage (just can't make it work) rather than hating each other they stay close. A week later BORIS enters and gets involved in the study, co-leading with Adam. Boris is one of those guys with girls waiting in line to date him, flirts with anything that moves (over 18 of course), and despite his bond with Adam over their shared experiences (he has also recently ended a long-term relationship) begins paying a lot of extra attention to Amy.
It is significant to point out that starting early May, a number of people comment on the obvious amount of time these two are spending together. Meanwhile, Boris continues to pursue friendship with Adam, inviting him to movies, out with "the guys", hanging out, etc. but never discussing Amy. He also has long heart-to-hearts with Adam - giving advice on how Adam should distance himself from Amy and not let himself fall into only remembering good times, etc.
In early June, approximately 2 months after breaking up, Adam finds out that Boris has also been emailing back-and-forth with Amy, giving her "advice" and consolation. A week later, Amy tells Adam that Boris was suddenly surprised to discover that they have feelings for each other and are going to start dating. He feels really bad about the way things "look" but just had to be honest. Adam feels betrayed, and believes Boris should have known better than to put himself in such a cozy situation with Amy, regardless of whether or not he really had "feelings" at the time. Either that, or Boris should not have pursued friendship with Adam.
So, lots of mistakes, lots of should-have. My buddy and I have debated a lot of the other should-have's, etc but came to a stalemate on the application of man-law (appropriate interaction between guys and/or guy-friends) to Boris. What's your vote?