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I'm in my first year of college, sitting in my dorm and thinking about some things. Let me lay out my situation.
So here's my positives and negatives socially:
+I'm good looking.
+I'm socially intelligent (IE: I know what's weird to say, I know "drinking and drug terms", I can carry on a conversation really well)
+I'm not awkward
+I dress well (or so the girls tell me)
+I have a good sense of humor and I get almost everyone else's humor
+I have a lot of different interests
+I do go out and drink and party on Fridays and Saturdays with friends (so it's not like I don't do anything on weekends)
+I play sports and do school things
-I really don't watch sports besides the occasional football game. This has me lost in conversation a lot.
-My way of dressing is perceived as "different"
-I don't have a lot of friends on my floor (I've tried making friends with them, but most of them are potheads and really heavy drinkers--believe me, I'm not making judgements, they're the same as the assholes from high school)
-I have acne (it's controlled by medicine, but I still get it once in awhile)
So I've got a few social concerns:
1. Why don't I have more friends? Don't get me wrong, I've got one good friend on my floor and a couple other friends I drink with, and two good girl friends at another dorm, and a bunch of random friends from classes, sports, etc. I've "gotten with" a couple girls after parties, and even sober a couple times. I just thought by now I'd have a lot more friends. Any advice? It just seems like some of these guys have tons of friends and I don't get why I don't.
2. I'm honestly more comfortable with girls than I am with guys (and yes, I am a guy). If there were in an empty cafeteria and there was a guy and a girl, I'd be much more comfortable sitting with the girl. How do I get to know more guys? I always kinda had that dream of having "the group" of cool college guys I hung out with through college, and right now I feel a bit lonely even though I have friends.
3. Any other advice?
So here's my positives and negatives socially:
+I'm good looking.
+I'm socially intelligent (IE: I know what's weird to say, I know "drinking and drug terms", I can carry on a conversation really well)
+I'm not awkward
+I dress well (or so the girls tell me)
+I have a good sense of humor and I get almost everyone else's humor
+I have a lot of different interests
+I do go out and drink and party on Fridays and Saturdays with friends (so it's not like I don't do anything on weekends)
+I play sports and do school things
-I really don't watch sports besides the occasional football game. This has me lost in conversation a lot.
-My way of dressing is perceived as "different"
-I don't have a lot of friends on my floor (I've tried making friends with them, but most of them are potheads and really heavy drinkers--believe me, I'm not making judgements, they're the same as the assholes from high school)
-I have acne (it's controlled by medicine, but I still get it once in awhile)
So I've got a few social concerns:
1. Why don't I have more friends? Don't get me wrong, I've got one good friend on my floor and a couple other friends I drink with, and two good girl friends at another dorm, and a bunch of random friends from classes, sports, etc. I've "gotten with" a couple girls after parties, and even sober a couple times. I just thought by now I'd have a lot more friends. Any advice? It just seems like some of these guys have tons of friends and I don't get why I don't.
2. I'm honestly more comfortable with girls than I am with guys (and yes, I am a guy). If there were in an empty cafeteria and there was a guy and a girl, I'd be much more comfortable sitting with the girl. How do I get to know more guys? I always kinda had that dream of having "the group" of cool college guys I hung out with through college, and right now I feel a bit lonely even though I have friends.
3. Any other advice?