Zenithian Legend
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crym I hate you... oh, my apologees I thought this was bash crym thread for no particular reason #-o ... probably throw an eyeroll or three in there too if you want
26 yrs old, never a g/f (UPDATED)
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You said you attend school, may I assume it is some university?
I don't know about your school, but I am pretty sure most have CO-ED sports. Also, most towns have some sort of Parks & Recreation center where they have signups for such things as softball, soccer, basketball, flag football, etc. Also, check the bowling alley, sign up for bowling league maybe. I know one pretty hot girl who does bowling/league. She can kick my ass in bowling, that is for sure.
Think of places you like to go. For some it's bars. Maybe the coffee shop, even if you just sit there and post on CAG (order something from the nice coffee lady). After a while you will start seeing familar faces and learn some names. It may take a few weeks, but it will happen.Even a "Hi!" and "How are you?" is better than nothing.
Open up the local newspaper or school newspaper and look at coming events.
And if none of that appeals to you, just get your ass up, go to a
ing bar! I bet most bars around your campus are friendly and will accept you with open arms. You would be very surprised if you have not scoped it out yet.
I don't know about your school, but I am pretty sure most have CO-ED sports. Also, most towns have some sort of Parks & Recreation center where they have signups for such things as softball, soccer, basketball, flag football, etc. Also, check the bowling alley, sign up for bowling league maybe. I know one pretty hot girl who does bowling/league. She can kick my ass in bowling, that is for sure.
Think of places you like to go. For some it's bars. Maybe the coffee shop, even if you just sit there and post on CAG (order something from the nice coffee lady). After a while you will start seeing familar faces and learn some names. It may take a few weeks, but it will happen.Even a "Hi!" and "How are you?" is better than nothing.
Open up the local newspaper or school newspaper and look at coming events.
And if none of that appeals to you, just get your ass up, go to a
ing bar! I bet most bars around your campus are friendly and will accept you with open arms. You would be very surprised if you have not scoped it out yet.
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[quote name='pimpinc333']LOL that. You can tell people whom don't have any firends. When someone does that do me and just comes up and starts talking I just want to tell them to off and get away from me. They try to hard to make friends and its creepy.[/QUOTE]
LOL, good point. I think most of just meant to be friendly around people you are with or work with. Just look for opportunities when you are dealing with other people. For example, you could try to be friendly with a waitress next time you eat out.
that. You can tell people whom don't have any firends. When someone does that do me and just comes up and starts talking I just want to tell them to off and get away from me. They try to hard to make friends and its creepy.[/QUOTE]LOL, good point. I think most of just meant to be friendly around people you are with or work with. Just look for opportunities when you are dealing with other people. For example, you could try to be friendly with a waitress next time you eat out.
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[quote name='Zenithian Legend']crym I hate you... oh, my apologees I thought this was bash crym thread for no particular reason #-o ... probably throw an eyeroll or three in there too if you want[/QUOTE]
Don't worry one of them threads will be made very soon. Something like Crym is a Sick Son of a Bitch thread or something on that nature.
Don't worry one of them threads will be made very soon. Something like Crym is a Sick Son of a Bitch thread or something on that nature.
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Wow, this thread has swug from topic to topic, hasn't it?
What I'm about to say if probably going to sound very cliche, but oh well...
Go out and do things... anything. Try new things, go new places. Resist the urge to just sit around and wrap yourself in the familar. If anything, it will help pull you out of your mental rut, and help establish a less defeatist attitude, if only for a short while.
Be the best you that you can be. Be excellent.
Do things on your own terms... why should you care that you're 26 and haven't had a serious relationship? Because other people think you should? Because you think it's normal?
The people who are your friends and family care about you, and like you for the way you are. They're the people you should probably be listening to... not a bunch of strangers.
What I'm about to say if probably going to sound very cliche, but oh well...
Go out and do things... anything. Try new things, go new places. Resist the urge to just sit around and wrap yourself in the familar. If anything, it will help pull you out of your mental rut, and help establish a less defeatist attitude, if only for a short while.
Be the best you that you can be. Be excellent.
Do things on your own terms... why should you care that you're 26 and haven't had a serious relationship? Because other people think you should? Because you think it's normal?
The people who are your friends and family care about you, and like you for the way you are. They're the people you should probably be listening to... not a bunch of strangers.
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Do things on your own terms... why should you care that you're 26 and haven't had a serious relationship? Because other people think you should? Because you think it's normal?.[/QUOTE]
You make a good point. I asked because I thought it was not normal but there appears to be a few people here on CAG that are in a similar situation.
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Are you going to be a cop? If so, I'd think you meet a lot of people in the police force, and girls love a man in uniform...
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Yes, I'm going to school to be a patrol officer.
Do things on your own terms... why should you care that you're 26 and haven't had a serious relationship? Because other people think you should? Because you think it's normal?.[/QUOTE]
You make a good point. I asked because I thought it was not normal but there appears to be a few people here on CAG that are in a similar situation.
[quote name='judyjudyjudy']
Are you going to be a cop? If so, I'd think you meet a lot of people in the police force, and girls love a man in uniform...
[/QUOTE]Yes, I'm going to school to be a patrol officer.
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[quote name='javeryh']Once you realize that no matter where you go (except anything work-related) no one is paying attention to you and if they are it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. It is so much easier to meet girls once you get over (embrace) the fear of rejection. If you approach 20 girls in one night chances are one of them will hang around and if not, there's always tomorrow. It's that easy.[/QUOTE]
Best advice in the thread. I'll add my own 2 cents.
Like every other person has said, if you don't go out you won't get any success.
Don't go out with the intent of getting a girlfriend or any action, just go and have fun.
Go to Target with the intent to buy something. Talk to people. Even if it's just the cashier it's better then nothing.
Say hi to 10 people a day, eventually you should be able to hold a conversation. It's really not that hard.
Also, a great way to meet chicks is through friends. Start getting into some hobbies that involve social situations.. make friends, through them the magic could happen.
Best advice in the thread. I'll add my own 2 cents.
Like every other person has said, if you don't go out you won't get any success.
Don't go out with the intent of getting a girlfriend or any action, just go and have fun.
Go to Target with the intent to buy something. Talk to people. Even if it's just the cashier it's better then nothing.
Say hi to 10 people a day, eventually you should be able to hold a conversation. It's really not that hard.
Also, a great way to meet chicks is through friends. Start getting into some hobbies that involve social situations.. make friends, through them the magic could happen.
Since you're in college, you should join some clubs.
There has to be something that interests you out of the clubs at your university,
once your in, it shouldnt be too hard to meet people, and provided that its not a D&D club, you should have no problem meeting girls.
There has to be something that interests you out of the clubs at your university,
once your in, it shouldnt be too hard to meet people, and provided that its not a D&D club, you should have no problem meeting girls.
I would recommend going to Applebee's.
I know mine has a nice little happy hour (half priced appitizers and 1.50 drafts) and being smack dab in the middle of a University campus there is always girls there. I am always with the baseball team when I am there but hey, chill at the bar and buy a beer or shot for a pretty girl or if you are lucky maybe yall have a hot bartender.
If you looking for a quick lay buy a hooker.
If all else fails see if your school has facebook.
I know mine has a nice little happy hour (half priced appitizers and 1.50 drafts) and being smack dab in the middle of a University campus there is always girls there. I am always with the baseball team when I am there but hey, chill at the bar and buy a beer or shot for a pretty girl or if you are lucky maybe yall have a hot bartender.
If you looking for a quick lay buy a hooker.
If all else fails see if your school has facebook.
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I think your "problem" is that you simply don't care about relationships/sex that much and so you spend very little searching for them and if you have average looks there won't be a whole lot of women hunting you down... that is of course until you graduate from Police Academy, work for a few years then you'll probably garner a few glances, most from the type of women you won't be interested in. Anyhow you aren't exactly alone in the world and unless you feel bad about your current situation I'd focus on other things.
i haven't read much of this thread, but here is my advice for catching ladies in your sad situation.
go to a bar (college preferrably) and hang out, learn to play pool/fooseball and shoot the shit with humans until a strange piece of ass decides to make you a man one night.
go to a bar (college preferrably) and hang out, learn to play pool/fooseball and shoot the shit with humans until a strange piece of ass decides to make you a man one night.
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dude, get off this site and go to a bar. no nintendo till you score some tang.
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All this talk of ass, can you guys really just screw a girl you don't know? You aren't afraid of disease?
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[quote name='willardhaven']All this talk of ass, can you guys really just screw a girl you don't know? You aren't afraid of disease?[/QUOTE]
Don't mind most of them... it's easy for most of them to talk big when they know they aren't going to be called on it. I'm thinking that there are about 5, maybe 10 of them that could actually back up their words.
Don't mind most of them... it's easy for most of them to talk big when they know they aren't going to be called on it. I'm thinking that there are about 5, maybe 10 of them that could actually back up their words.
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[quote name='JSweeney']Don't mind most of them... it's easy for most of them to talk big when they know they aren't going to be called on it. I'm thinking that there are about 5, maybe 10 of them that could actually back up their words.[/QUOTE]
I'm not sure why you think that, but I kind of doubt it's that low.
I'm not sure why you think that, but I kind of doubt it's that low.
Forgive me but i only read from page 1-4. Here are my thoughts
First of all, thanks again for the trade, the DS is doing well and is in a happy home!
MMORPGs might not be a bad idea....you said you arent social and dont have any friends. You can pick up an MMO like ffxi or WoW and make some friends, lose those friends, then make new ones and repeat. It will teach you a thing or two about relationships and you might even learn about yourself.
Go out to places with things you enjoy. What does it matter if you have friends you met in a bar yet dont like to drink? You should try meeting people who share the same love for something(like games) and then expand upon that.
Last thing ill mention is DO NOT go looking for a girl friend right now. What you need first and foremost is friends. I can not stress this enough, you dont learn to walk before you crawl do you? When trying to find the right woman you will be knocked off your feet many times, and you are going to need more than 1 roomate to pick you back up.
First of all, thanks again for the trade, the DS is doing well and is in a happy home!
MMORPGs might not be a bad idea....you said you arent social and dont have any friends. You can pick up an MMO like ffxi or WoW and make some friends, lose those friends, then make new ones and repeat. It will teach you a thing or two about relationships and you might even learn about yourself.
Go out to places with things you enjoy. What does it matter if you have friends you met in a bar yet dont like to drink? You should try meeting people who share the same love for something(like games) and then expand upon that.
Last thing ill mention is DO NOT go looking for a girl friend right now. What you need first and foremost is friends. I can not stress this enough, you dont learn to walk before you crawl do you? When trying to find the right woman you will be knocked off your feet many times, and you are going to need more than 1 roomate to pick you back up.
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[quote name='greendj27']I'm not sure why you think that, but I kind of doubt it's that low.[/QUOTE]
It makes him seem smart without actually having to read the thread.
It makes him seem smart without actually having to read the thread.
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Could always stalk people on myspace.
Haven't read beyond Weedy649's post and I've gotta agree with him about going to places you like and not looking for a gf. That said, you've also gotta consider what places have a higher chance of meeting girls than others. I've met many a cutie at Barnes & Noble, cuz I'm a big scifi geek scouring for a new book. But I'm also comfortable in the element I'm more known for around here - clubbin'. From those two, I'll admit I've met more booty at a nightclub than a bookstore but I'm also not looking for a relationship. Which leads to my 2nd point - don't look for a girl. It just... I dunno, happens. Of course, if you're still locked up in your apartment, nothing's gonna happen at all but at least go out and socialize. Socializing is key. Even if it's with gamers or your chosen clique, socializing displays your desire to interact with other ppl. Hell, do the myspace/xanga/match.com thing. I've heard it works for some ppl. But the point I stress is that you socialize. The other pieces, finding a girl you like (maybe love), starting a family, all that other stuff will fall into place. Because if you can't socialize, you can't meet anyone. If you can't meet anyone, then how the hell are you suppose to have a gf? It's only a Catch-22 if you let it be. Socializing is key.
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[quote name='jaykrue']Jaykrue rambles on[/QUOTE]
Seriously, listen to jaykrue. He knows from the ladies.
Seriously, listen to jaykrue. He knows from the ladies.
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am i the first to wonder what this guy looks like?
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[quote name='Scorch']I still don't understand why this long greasy haired mother er hasn't been banned[/QUOTE]
Whoa. You are from Tennessee.
er hasn't been banned[/QUOTE]Whoa. You are from Tennessee.
He has gotten a lot of advice and suggestions. I just want to know if he has plans or has done anything since he posted?
So, OP, any plans? Have you done anything yet?
The first step in solving a problem is admitting you have a problem, which you did. Albeit on a public online message board, you still admitted it.
Now just take the next step. I'd be interested to know. I'm sure many others would too.
So, OP, any plans? Have you done anything yet?
The first step in solving a problem is admitting you have a problem, which you did. Albeit on a public online message board, you still admitted it.
Now just take the next step. I'd be interested to know. I'm sure many others would too.
What about your friends in high school? Did you move or did they? Sometimes it takes a group effort at social gatherings to make things easier for you. And if you really only have one friend then make that dude go out with you all the time. You'll feel more comfortable starting conversations if you have someone to back you up.
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For all the immature jokes, and trash that tends to dribble out of here every now and then, this message board is filled with some really nice guys.
Make an effort OP. You'll be amazed.
Like everyone said, just get out there. You got a gym at home? Don't matter, get out to the local gym. Ask someone to spot you every time. Start out nonchalantly, indirectly, but just say anything to start up a convo. Ask them what they eat, what supplements they take, or what's the right supplements to take, (EVEN if you know the answer, pretend like you don't.)
You know what? Go to a different town, where people don't know your face. It's a good place for you to practice. Try and start convo's with people. Even if you make an ass out of yourself, who cares? If they don't want to talk to you, or if you embarass yourself, you will probably never meet them again.
People love to talk. Spark up a convo, and try and find an interest.
Make an effort OP. You'll be amazed.
Like everyone said, just get out there. You got a gym at home? Don't matter, get out to the local gym. Ask someone to spot you every time. Start out nonchalantly, indirectly, but just say anything to start up a convo. Ask them what they eat, what supplements they take, or what's the right supplements to take, (EVEN if you know the answer, pretend like you don't.)
You know what? Go to a different town, where people don't know your face. It's a good place for you to practice. Try and start convo's with people. Even if you make an ass out of yourself, who cares? If they don't want to talk to you, or if you embarass yourself, you will probably never meet them again.
People love to talk. Spark up a convo, and try and find an interest.
[quote name='b3b0p']He has gotten a lot of advice and suggestions. I just want to know if he has plans or has done anything since he posted?
So, OP, any plans? Have you done anything yet?
The first step in solving a problem is admitting you have a problem, which you did. Albeit on a public online message board, you still admitted it.
Now just take the next step. I'd be interested to know. I'm sure many others would too.[/QUOTE]
Well, I did start talking to a girl where I work. However, as much as I like her, I don't think she digs me in the same way I dig her. Of course, I may have reached a little high as she is smokin' hot and seems to attract a ton of guys. Maybe my intentions are good but I'm hard to notice in a sea of other people.
Also, I'm going to get in touch with my old buddy who used to drag me to clubs all the time. He has since had a kid and got engaged but he is a more social creature than me.
[quote name='zewone']What about your friends in high school? Did you move or did they?[/QUOTE]
Well, I live in Michigan, moved to Alabama, and then back to Michigan. I only know two people from when I originally lived in Michigan, one of which is my current roommate.
[quote name='The Successful Dropout']am i the first to wonder what this guy looks like?[/QUOTE]
I can take a pic if that helps but I'm not sure it would. It would embarrass the hell out of me too.
So, OP, any plans? Have you done anything yet?
The first step in solving a problem is admitting you have a problem, which you did. Albeit on a public online message board, you still admitted it.
Now just take the next step. I'd be interested to know. I'm sure many others would too.[/QUOTE]
Well, I did start talking to a girl where I work. However, as much as I like her, I don't think she digs me in the same way I dig her. Of course, I may have reached a little high as she is smokin' hot and seems to attract a ton of guys. Maybe my intentions are good but I'm hard to notice in a sea of other people.
Also, I'm going to get in touch with my old buddy who used to drag me to clubs all the time. He has since had a kid and got engaged but he is a more social creature than me.
[quote name='zewone']What about your friends in high school? Did you move or did they?[/QUOTE]
Well, I live in Michigan, moved to Alabama, and then back to Michigan. I only know two people from when I originally lived in Michigan, one of which is my current roommate.
[quote name='The Successful Dropout']am i the first to wonder what this guy looks like?[/QUOTE]
I can take a pic if that helps but I'm not sure it would. It would embarrass the hell out of me too.
greendj27
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[quote name='valor19']Well, I did start talking to a girl where I work. However, as much as I like her, I don't think she digs me in the same way I dig her. Of course, I may have reached a little high as she is smokin' hot and seems to attract a ton of guys. Maybe my intentions are good but I'm hard to notice in a sea of other people.
Also, I'm going to get in touch with my old buddy who used to drag me to clubs all the time. He has since had a kid and got engaged but he is a more social creature than me.
Well, I live in Michigan, moved to Alabama, and then back to Michigan. I only know two people from when I originally lived in Michigan, one of which is my current roommate.
I can take a pic if that helps but I'm not sure it would. It would embarrass the hell out of me too.[/QUOTE]
Seems like a decent start. As someone else mentioned earlier though, don't worry about dating or even flirting with girls yet. Just working on improving your social skills and go from there.
Also, I'm going to get in touch with my old buddy who used to drag me to clubs all the time. He has since had a kid and got engaged but he is a more social creature than me.
Well, I live in Michigan, moved to Alabama, and then back to Michigan. I only know two people from when I originally lived in Michigan, one of which is my current roommate.
I can take a pic if that helps but I'm not sure it would. It would embarrass the hell out of me too.[/QUOTE]
Seems like a decent start. As someone else mentioned earlier though, don't worry about dating or even flirting with girls yet. Just working on improving your social skills and go from there.
[quote name='Blade']This guy never had a girlfriend either.
IP check?
Getting a girlfriend isn't hard at all since most women are attracted to personality instead of looks. If you're funny and charming enough and not hideously deformed, you can snatch anyone.[/QUOTE]
Someone DESTROYED the pantysniffer's life!
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Getting a girlfriend isn't hard at all since most women are attracted to personality instead of looks. If you're funny and charming enough and not hideously deformed, you can snatch anyone.[/QUOTE]
Someone DESTROYED the pantysniffer's life!
[quote name='valor19']Well, I did start talking to a girl where I work. However, as much as I like her, I don't think she digs me in the same way I dig her. Of course, I may have reached a little high as she is smokin' hot and seems to attract a ton of guys. Maybe my intentions are good but I'm hard to notice in a sea of other people.[/QUOTE]
be very careful of dating people at work though. it could come back to haunt you. with that said, best of luck!
be very careful of dating people at work though. it could come back to haunt you. with that said, best of luck!
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[quote name='Blade']This guy never had a girlfriend either.
IP check?
Getting a girlfriend isn't hard at all since most women are attracted to personality instead of looks. If you're funny and charming enough and not hideously deformed, you can snatch anyone.[/quote]
Personality?
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Getting a girlfriend isn't hard at all since most women are attracted to personality instead of looks. If you're funny and charming enough and not hideously deformed, you can snatch anyone.[/quote]
Personality?
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Must be the same as money?
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[quote name='Blade']This guy never had a girlfriend either.
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Getting a girlfriend isn't hard at all since most women are attracted to personality instead of looks. If you're funny and charming enough and not hideously deformed, you can snatch anyone.[/QUOTE]
I never know what to think when I see stuff like this on the internet. It's so easy to fake something like that, and it just sounds too good to be true.... So whenever I see something over-the-top like that, I'm very skeptical.
"Real" or not, it's funny either way.
OK, OP, here's my advice; socialize. It's hard to at first... really, it is. I started college this year, and it's a tough transition to make because I was so accustomed to knowing 90% of my class in high school. But what I've found is that most people are willing to talk, but most people are capable of holding a conversation and are cool enough to talk to.
Everyone gets nervous, and I think it's only naturally to expect the worst-case scenario when you're contemplating doing something. But just remember that most people feel that way. Get over it. Take some chances and go out to a bar or something. Talk to girls. What' sthe worst that's going to happen?
I'm only 19 so I have limited experience... but I think for the most part, most worst-case scenarios of situations in interacting with other people are grossly exaggerated...
I doubt this helped... but...whatever...
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Getting a girlfriend isn't hard at all since most women are attracted to personality instead of looks. If you're funny and charming enough and not hideously deformed, you can snatch anyone.[/QUOTE]
I never know what to think when I see stuff like this on the internet. It's so easy to fake something like that, and it just sounds too good to be true.... So whenever I see something over-the-top like that, I'm very skeptical.
"Real" or not, it's funny either way.
OK, OP, here's my advice; socialize. It's hard to at first... really, it is. I started college this year, and it's a tough transition to make because I was so accustomed to knowing 90% of my class in high school. But what I've found is that most people are willing to talk, but most people are capable of holding a conversation and are cool enough to talk to.
Everyone gets nervous, and I think it's only naturally to expect the worst-case scenario when you're contemplating doing something. But just remember that most people feel that way. Get over it. Take some chances and go out to a bar or something. Talk to girls. What' sthe worst that's going to happen?
I'm only 19 so I have limited experience... but I think for the most part, most worst-case scenarios of situations in interacting with other people are grossly exaggerated...
I doubt this helped... but...whatever...
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Yes, I knew you could do it congrats, now it's my turn...
[quote name='2poor']You went out there and you got what you wanted. Now try and juggle multiple women at once. Enhance your skills.[/QUOTE]
Well, given my current situation, I may be able to try that out sooner than I think. In reality, the girl I'm dating is awesome and I'm hoping it will evolve in to more than just dating. Not only is she super hot, she is a total geek deep inside. Prior to her, I've never seen a girl that attractive make a Star Wars reference. Plus, she has a thing for cops. What an odd coincidence that I soon start the Police Academy.
Well, given my current situation, I may be able to try that out sooner than I think. In reality, the girl I'm dating is awesome and I'm hoping it will evolve in to more than just dating. Not only is she super hot, she is a total geek deep inside. Prior to her, I've never seen a girl that attractive make a Star Wars reference. Plus, she has a thing for cops. What an odd coincidence that I soon start the Police Academy.
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[quote name='valor19']Well, given my current situation, I may be able to try that out sooner than I think. In reality, the girl I'm dating is awesome and I'm hoping it will evolve in to more than just dating. Not only is she super hot, she is a total geek deep inside. Prior to her, I've never seen a girl that attractive make a Star Wars reference. Plus, she has a thing for cops. What an odd coincidence that I soon start the Police Academy.[/QUOTE]
Maybe if you believe you want a serious relationship with woman #1 you shouldn't try and juggle woman #2, #3, and #4. Unless you just want to mess around and get your cock in as many places as possible.
Maybe if you believe you want a serious relationship with woman #1 you shouldn't try and juggle woman #2, #3, and #4. Unless you just want to mess around and get your cock in as many places as possible.
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Good for you.
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Typical.
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