Anyone else have a hard time finding people to hang with?

[quote name='javeryh']You need to move to a major city and get a place with your best friend(s). Your 20s are supposed to be filled with awesome - don't waste them.[/QUOTE]

I live in Brooklyn, my city is fairly major. But I do live alone, which is nice, I get my privacy and such but its boring.
 
[quote name='Nirvanaguy777']I live in Brooklyn, my city is fairly major. But I do live alone, which is nice, I get my privacy and such but its boring.[/quote]

well what are your hobbies?

the main thing is to put in some effort.

do you like friends of your girlfriend?

It should be pretty easy to meet people in brooklyn, where you livin?
 
I'm in the same situation now. I'm married, but me and my wife just moved to a new area on the other side of the country for my job. Now we have no friends in the area to hang out with. The guys at my office are ok, but they all commute long distances and I live close by so the distance is a factor there.

No real idea on how to get out and just meet new people as friends and such. Not knowing the area hurts as well since we don't know where to go during off times.
 
It happens to most people at some point. You have to put yourself into a situtation where you are forced to interact with strangers, eventually you will find some people will similar interests to yours. School and work are probably the big two, but from the sound of it you are set in those areas. Try leagues or gatherings of some sort.
 
Mission Hill is GODLY.

Do you have a job? That's how I made the friends I know now. Once I got out of high school I pretty much said f you to everyone I use to know.
 
go to the gym you will meet people there. Especially if you play basketball, you will end up making new friends as you keep playing or working out etc. I am still in college, and I keep meeting new people at the gym. Plus if all else fails you always got the CAG community as your friend :)
 
True, true. I have met probably a dozen people at my gym (mostly guys, a few girls) that I talk to and see regularly, not to mention quite a few more that are casual acquaintances. The people I've befriended are between 18 and 60, but all of them are great to talk to and we obviously already share a common interest.
 
Basically, the theme here is "If it's to be, it starts with me". You need to put forth some effort to meet people. It's about being around people that will get you to meet people. Of course it always helps if you share common interests, but you have to be around people to make it work. Friends are not handed to you, they come about from taking the time and putting forth the effort to get to know someone.

It is difficult to find quality people to hang with, I usually host a game night about once a month with people from work, family, good friends I have kept it contact with. We play board/card games like Spoons, Apples to Apples, basically we play simple, easy to learn games for multiple people. Drinks help relax and get people comfortable, but not necessary. We have people bring their favorite drink, but we provide the snacks and Jell-o shots. It's grown to a good size of 12-15 people and those that come always want to know when the next one will be. People we invite ask if they can bring other friends, sisters, brothers, etc. These people usually become part of the core group that come on game night. The faces have changed over time, but new ones are always there to get to know. It's to the point were we almost need to split the group into either two nights or two different tables with two different games going at the same time, but most games besides Werewolves, which plays up to 18, only play up to 10 people.

When my wife and I moved to Green Bay, we didn't know anyone, but we would say hi to a few people in passing that lived in the same apartment complex. Then we decided to invite a few of those people for games. We picked a neutral area (the lounge in the apartment complex) so no one would feel uncomfortable. We had a few drinks, played a few games, had some laughs, got to know each other, it was fun. The next time they wanted to bring a few friends and it just grew from there.

We always host game night at our house, due to us having children and it's just a popular as it was seven years ago. The people have rotated just like the games, but it's still something everyone marks their calandars to come.

The point: We took a chance and made an effort to get to know a few people and it grew from there.
 
I found myself in this same predicament a couple years ago. I think it is due to the transition from adolescence to adulthood. Adolescence being high school/college age, and adulthood being the time that you begin to be career-minded. I lost touch with most of my old friends as we began to find our own little paths in life. Some of them I see occasionally now, but it is rare.

I think the best thing is to search for friends in your daily routine. Work, the commute, etc. In this area, you are most likely to find people who have like interests and minds, and you will automatically have something in common. Work friends have worked well for me, as we are all (for the most part) in the same boat.
 
For some reason I've found it easier to make friends and hang out with people in certain parts of the country versus others.
 
[quote name='Sleepkyng']well what are your hobbies?

the main thing is to put in some effort.

do you like friends of your girlfriend?

It should be pretty easy to meet people in brooklyn, where you livin?[/QUOTE]

I live in the sheepshed bay area, my hobbies are basically anything, I am up for anything. Love games, movies, anime, music, reading, tea shops, williamsburg, cars...I'm just an everyman really.
 
[quote name='Radioactive_Man']Mission Hill is GODLY.

Do you have a job? That's how I made the friends I know now. Once I got out of high school I pretty much said f you to everyone I use to know.[/QUOTE]

Yeah I do tutoring and plan to enter the board of education soon enough....the majority of teachers I work with just bore the shit out of me. I remember a discussion with someone in a faculty lounge (during my student teaching) and a bong was brought up into the conversation...it seemed like foreign language to them.
 
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