[quote name='xenozfan2']How do I update my phone to 2.3? I'm at 2.2 and I can't figure out how to do it?[/QUOTE]
Generally, your carrier sends any updates for your phone over the air. You wake up one morning and the phone has a dialog asking you to give it the ok to install the update.
The exceptions would be Nexus phones, which receive their updates directly from Google(same experience for you), or some Samsung phones that require you to plug the phone into your computer and download some software in order to update.
TLDR: generally, you would know if your phone was able to be updated because you would have automatically received the update.
afterthought: --There is also the possibility of a custom rom existing for your phone, made by enthusiasts. You would find info about that at xda-developers.com .. but proceed with caution.. the majority of custom roms are a nightmare in little ways like bad battery life or poor reception.. but few people will admit that to you before you dive in and discover it for yourself . There's a reason the carriers take so long pushing out updates and these guys seem to do it in a few weeks.
You can't count on those guys to help if you get stuck or mess up either. They *might* help you, or they might just call you names and tell you it's your own problem if you can't figure it out. Guess it depends on who you catch and what their current mood is. Just my observations from lurking on the forums over there. (this option also voids your warranty, if you have one)