ever dated someone from your work place?

Yes, don't do it. It just unnecessary drama for the parties involved and it creates a lot of problems for the workplace environment. Your coworkers deserve so much better.
 
Are you just have a fling?

Or are you out to have a more serious relationship...

I married my wife and met her at my work 7 1/2 years ago.

Problems from my past expereinces are

You dont get a break, sometimes one gets jealous of the other and their friends or there attitude at work

As well as it can get in the way of work or your concentration. Or even if by chance it doesnt it could lead to the assumption of you two always together or hanging out with each other.

As well as if you were to break up or one were to get fired it might cause tension...

Generally I would say NOT to do it.
 
Only if you're mature enough to handle it.

Just make sure she's not some psycho that will send faxes to your job saying how much of a man-slut you are... it doesn't go over to well with your boss... ;)
 
I did it once....She broke up with me and I held a vendetta against her for the next couple months till i said fuck you and went to UF.
 
That's how my parents met. If you keep it mature, and separate your work and personal lives, then it can work fine.
 
This is one of those things that everyone warns you against but many people do. My parents also met at work. If it doesn't work then there's a problem, but thats not to say it can't.
 
Don't do it, man. If you just want to shag a co-worker, then that's a different story. Some companies won't allow their employees to date one another, because it could cause a hostile, unprofessional work environment.
 
how much do you like your job ? It is a real time gig at a real company that you have hopes for advancement or just some part time/temp job that your doing but kinda hate & the pay sucks ?

If the job isn't that great then I say go for it, it's worth the risk. If the job is important to you and you hope to stay there along time then I say don't go for it. Keeping a good stable job will get you more action then one single co-worker. Take the check over the girl. But if you don't care about the check then risk it.
 
I think it also depends on whether you are talking about just a temporary job (like while you are in school) or your career. If you are just working at a temporary job, odds are that it's no big deal. If it's your career where you plan on working for a number of years, it could cause a problem if you break up and still have to see the person every day.
 
[quote name='Machine']I think it also depends on whether you are talking about just a temporary job (like while you are in school) or your career. If you are just working at a temporary job, odds are that it's no big deal. If it's your career where you plan on working for a number of years, it could cause a problem if you break up and still have to see the person every day.[/QUOTE]


QFT
 
Marriage #3 right here--my wife and I met while working as counselors at a summer day camp for kids, and we just had our 2-year wedding anniversary.

If you're both mature enough to handle it, it can work out fine.
 
While I can't speak from experience, a couple people I worked with had their girlfriends working there too.

Case1. They got along great, and eventually moved in together. Helped each other at work too.

Case2. Things started out ok, but about a month after the girlfriend started, things took a bad turn. They were both fighting a lot, and always moping about. It seemed as though they were just seeing way too much of each other, and couldn't get any space. Makes it a real pain in the ass to go to the breakroom and have to listen to them go on. They both quit, and I don't know if they are still together or not.

So, I guess it matters, as others have said, about how mature both of you are to be able to handle it.
 
Everyone will tell you not to do it but you've got to try once before you really understand the pain of having to work with an ex. All their annoying tendencies will increase ten-fold and you'll have to cope with this without allowing it to affect your job performance.
 
Been there done that, not a good idea unless you keep it hush hush. Once things start going down hill it starts to get nasty.
 
I had sex with one, and got some brains from another.
Different jobs though.

One was a bad idea, because things got weird and I had to go.
The other was cool because it was temporary and I was let go about 2 weeks later.

Never dated anyone from work though.
 
I dated my manager for 2-3 months before I was transferred to another store. The year prior working together, we each sort of had a thing for one another, but never let it get in our way of work.

Still, I don't recommend you do it. It just causes problems for those involved.
 
I've personally never had a problem with it, even when things go sour. Just be mature about it, whether things are good or bad. If you have no problem seperating work from play then you'll be fine. It also helps to not have everyone all up in your beeswax.
 
#4--My wife was actually my boss for a little while. We had hooked up before I got transfered to her department but we let it simmer while we worked together. After I left, we started back up again. That was over five years ago.
 
I met my wife at work. She was an intern then, and she had a year of school left, so I knew she wasn't going to be around in a few months if things didn't work out. Obviously, things went well, and when she was hired into the company a year later she was in a different department anyways, so we have never worked directly together.
 
[quote name='sabin23']don't dip your pen in the company ink.[/QUOTE]

Another good phrase for this topic is "Don't get your meat where you get your bread." :lol:
 
I met my wife at work as well. Obviously it can be a bad experience depending on how the relationship goes. I think the size of the company also comes into play. I worked in an office with over 1000 people in it and we worked in different departments so there were no "I need space" issues. If you are working in a retail store or factory or something where you are in constant contact, then I can see the possibility of big problems if things go sour.
 
I actually got my ex a job where I work (while I was dating her of course), it was nice, but then she dumped me. I got lucky tho because they fired her 2 weeks later.
 
It really depends on where you work and how much distance is between you two where you work. I did it with some success and minimal drama.
 
don't date her...just bang her

if you work in a professional setting then stay away. if you work in a bar or restaurant or something then its a total green light.
 
i havent dated one but i sure have fucked a coworker.

Trust me avoid the situation unless she is like a model or something. It is not worth the drama you will go through once word spreads and everyone knows your situation.
 
I'm fortunate that I'm the boss & make the rules and while I don't outright ban it, I do discourage it. But I'm also not the kind of guy to be a barrier between ppl who really care about each other (so long as they understand the problems associated w/ working w/ their lover). As for myself, I've got more than enough problems dealin' w/ women who aren't working for me so why would I add to it?:lol:
 
there are like 7 people in this thread alone that met their wife at work. That should be a major signal to NOT date a co-worker. Because one minute your banging someone from HR and the next second your married.

I think I'll stick to the random birds I meet while looking for cheap games.
 
Messing around with someone at work is bad news unless you can guarantee you will not have to see them every day. Otherwise, I say resist the temptation. I know it is hard. You spend so much time with them.
 
I met my wife at work. Well at the time she didn't work there but later she did.
We also worked together at another job. It is not for everyone, you need to be able to seperate work for your relationship. To some that is not easy to do. Also I would add that even if you are able to handle it, your girlfriend/boyfriend may not be able to...and that can cause problems.

I have now been with my wife for 15 years (13 married).
 
[quote name='Msia']Yes, don't do it. It just unnecessary drama for the parties involved and it creates a lot of problems for the workplace environment. Your coworkers deserve so much better.[/QUOTE]

I agree with the heaven or hell statement that someone else posted (for both the couple AND the coworkers who have to deal with them), just based on what I have seen at work. I have never dated anyone from work, but would definately have firm boundaries between personal and work life if I did (and an exit strategy if need be).

You risk completely giving up your privacy, as there are gossips everywhere and news spreads quickly.

We have several married couples at work that behave completely professionally. Unfortunately, my boss is not one of them, and spends more time talking about his personal business or constantly on the phone with his fiance rather than actually doing work (but expects the people around him to take up his slack). Given that I am usually stuck doing stuff that he promised to do himself but was too "busy" (and he gets rewarded for it and gets away with this since he is an asskisser and his fiance conveniently babysits the higher managers' kids), yes I do resent the situation.

Please be careful and considerate of the people around you.
 
I'll mirror what many have said:

- Part time job? Go for it.

- More qualified, career-like job? Save yourself the trouble.


Granted, I'm basing this all on cliches... but, I'm sure there are a lot of truths to them.
 
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