
Fine, lol. You want the story here it is in full length.
I live with my father, and a woman he had been dating moved in with us a few years ago. She paid no rent nor did she ever contribute anything to the household, besides paying for the occasional meal. But in the same breath we had the makings of a neo-nuclear family between her and my father, both divcorcees and my brother and I and my girlfriend (although she doesnt live with us, but spends a great deal of time at our place). She went on vaccations with us, (again, her way was paid fully by my dad) and fit in with the group really well. Everythign seemed pretty peachy. I seriously thought that my dad might have finally found someone.
A few weeks ago my dad and her went on a ten day trip, and they both reported having a blast, but then two days later she was all of the sudden saying that she was unhappy and that she might need to be on her own to figure things out or whatever, and my dad told her that he wanted her to stay but she should do what she needed to do.
The following day all of her stuff was out of the house. No note, or letter, no email or fax and no phone call. My dad tried to call her to see if she was okay. No answer or return call at all.
Rewind for a second. When she lived with us i had seen her on myspace doing whatever and she was always sort of private about it, but i just figured she wanted her privacy. This came flashing back to me last week, so i looked her up on it. Her profile was set to private, but i could still see some stuff: the main picture was of her and some dude, her emotion status or whatever said she was "loved" and her status has said that she "saw what life was all about" or that she is "loved" or whatever.
I
Was
Furious.
Its one thing to find someone else, but to continue to live with us, while she was obviously with some other guy or looking is downright dishonest and demonstrates the emotional maturity of a fifteen year old (no offence to anyone fifteen). She had just asked my dad this last week for a new camera because hers broke and happily went on that trip with him all the while she was probbably planning to leave. The behavior is parasitic for lack of a better word.
She still had our house keys, and i sent her a civil message on myspace (since she wouldnt answer the phone at all) telling her to mail the house keys and the pool keys and some other items to our house. She didnt respond but the next day the keys to the house and all of that was LEFT BY THE FRONT DOOR IN A PLASTIC BAG. She left the keys to the house by the door in nothing more than a plastic bag when no one was home.
I showed my dad her myspace and he was hurt not just by her leaving him for someone else, but by the way she has gone about all of it. The least she could have done was pen an email explaing herself or apologizing or whatever.
Now, a few days ago, I was with my girlfriend at the sushi bar that my family has gone to for seven years. We were talking about my dad and his ex, and i told my gf that all i really wanted was for her to have to look one of us in the eyes so she was accountable to someone else other than herself for how she has behaved. I added though that she would probbably never come to this sushi bar because we had gone there just about once a week for the past seven years.
Sure enough, she comes strolling through the door with the new boyfriend, and i dont think she saw us immedietly. I got so angry and upset that i had a damn panic attack and spilt my tea all over the place. I asked for the bill and for our food to be boxed up and told my gf to go outside and that i would meet her at the car in 30 seconds. I got up walked over to her and her bf. And she kinda awkardly said hi. I looked her straight in the eyes with my heart beating like a battle drum throughout my entire body and told her "I just wanted to look you in the eyes so you have to own up to what you did." Then i stood there for a few seconds and when she didnt respond other than looking away, i stormed out and shouted "Have a nice life" rather bitterly.
I felt a lot better after i calmed down, but i still feel the desire lash out immaturly (because i think i was extremely mature in how i acted at the restraunt, there was no name calling or profanity or anything like that). Even something stupid like giving her # to telemarketers or signing up her email for pr0n. I dunno. I am just still hurt (although my dad is obviously worse off) over the whole thing. She was practically like a stepmother towards me and my brother, and I understand if things werent working for her, but the way she has gone about things and showing up in the restraunt seems intentionally hurtful and/or egocentric. Maybe I am over reacting, but if you guys have any ideas or could even just tell me i am over reacting or something Itll probbably help.
IF you read this whole thing, Thanks for listening/reading.