[quote name='ajumbaje']i just found this area of cag, but I will start here and I will keep it short. I think that marriage is best fit between a man and a woman and that is how a family should be raised especially for kids who have to deal with them for 18+ years.[/quote]
How interesting. I am under no delusion that anything I'm about to say will change your mind, but you may find it interesting.
On Friday, I got married to my partner of eleven years. We decided to keep it simple, just doing the civil ceremony, going out to lunch, and having cake at home. It was just us, our 8 year old son, and my mother and father.
It was especially meaningful for me to have my parents there. Twenty years ago (

! I'm now old enough to toss around phrases like "twenty years ago"

!, anyway...) when I had come out to them, I had asked them if I should ever decide to have a commitment ceremony if they would come. Then, they told me they'd have to think about it.
No remark from my parents has ever cut me as deep as that. Their own, only son, and they'd have to
think about it.
But times have changed, and so have they. Last weekend, my mother told me at that time, she just wasn't ready for the idea. They had so many preconceptions of what life would be like for me. But now she was happy for us, and genuinely happy that we would be able to get married.
In many ways, we are exactly the reason why the state is in the marriage business: stable relationship, children, members of the community. We are utterly, utterly boring, and apart from both of us being guys, are like any other family in our area.
While it is somewhat of an anti-climax to be married after having been together for eleven years, I can say that the ceremony meant a great deal to me. Looking my partner in the eye and taking those vows, vows which I have already kept for eleven years and intend to keep for the rest of our lives, it reconfirmed my love for him and the importance of our relationship.
Our son was thoroughly bored by the whole thing. I had asked him if he'd rather come to our wedding or stay home and play video games, and he unhesitatingly and enthusiastically chose the latter. (Future CAG!) But we didn't let him. He didn't quite understand how us getting married changed anything, since in his eyes we've always been together and always will be. Awesomely, he took the best pictures.
Ultimately, he's right: it doesn't change a whole lot. Saturday, the day after, was like countless weekends before it. Whether or not the amendment banning gay marriage passes in November, we'll still be a couple, a family, together. Now, having been married, I'm still not sure if it's the word "marriage", the idea of it, or other preconceived notions that make people so eager to judge, condemn, or restrict something that they would, in slightly different circumstances, recognize in themselves and their friends and their communities.