I'm in sort of a predicament and would like the advice from people here.
I developed romantic feelings for a woman that I help study at my college. She is an international student from Japan, and I've been helping her with her classes for the last 2 months. Her grades have improved exponentially since I've been helping her, and she has been very grateful for that.
Other than studying, we do things like go to watch movies, eat at restaurants, and I cook for her at my apartment. But I feel like she does those things out of obligation from me helping her, rather than a specific interest in me. I've told her before that I wished to be more than friends, but she suggested that we remain what we are in a nice way.
Anyway, she always talked about her desire to learn how to play acoustic guitar, so I thought it would be nice to buy her this for Christmas:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000W72MDE?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00
A decent guitar that comes with materials that help the person learn.
I'm afraid that she will not accept the gift, viewing it as "too much"... but if she does accept it (after my continuous protests of her initial refusal), she will forever feel uncomfortable with me and I will ruin the friendship we have now.
What should I do? I'm thinking about giving it to her anyway, because I'm very confident that it is something she will love and enjoy... but I'm afraid of the consequences that come with that.
TL;DR = I want to give an "overly nice" gift to a girl that I help with her college work who previously turned me down, but afraid of what might happen. Advice please.
Thanks.
I developed romantic feelings for a woman that I help study at my college. She is an international student from Japan, and I've been helping her with her classes for the last 2 months. Her grades have improved exponentially since I've been helping her, and she has been very grateful for that.
Other than studying, we do things like go to watch movies, eat at restaurants, and I cook for her at my apartment. But I feel like she does those things out of obligation from me helping her, rather than a specific interest in me. I've told her before that I wished to be more than friends, but she suggested that we remain what we are in a nice way.
Anyway, she always talked about her desire to learn how to play acoustic guitar, so I thought it would be nice to buy her this for Christmas:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000W72MDE?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00
A decent guitar that comes with materials that help the person learn.
I'm afraid that she will not accept the gift, viewing it as "too much"... but if she does accept it (after my continuous protests of her initial refusal), she will forever feel uncomfortable with me and I will ruin the friendship we have now.
What should I do? I'm thinking about giving it to her anyway, because I'm very confident that it is something she will love and enjoy... but I'm afraid of the consequences that come with that.
TL;DR = I want to give an "overly nice" gift to a girl that I help with her college work who previously turned me down, but afraid of what might happen. Advice please.
Thanks.