So I've had several gfs in the past, some whom my mom liked, some who tried to steal me away from my family and my mom hated them. I'm 23 (soon to be 24) and have lived at home (because of college and work...and a few wasted opportunities) until recently last year when I joined the Navy, so I'm out on my own now and very happy for it.
Well recently a girl on Instagram started chatting me up and it turns out she's from Georgia as well, not too too far from where I grew up. We exchanged numbers and started calling and texting, and have now been talking for about 2 months. She has come down to see me in Florida where I'm stationed right now multiple times, and everything has just been so great. She is without a doubt the best looking girl I have ever talked to/dated, to the point that all my Navy buddies are envious of my life haha.
She's everything I've wanted in a girl...independent, church-going, has a steady teaching job AND a degree from Juilliard. She's only 22 and already owns her own house and everything. Not to mention she makes me incredibly happy.
Well she recently has been wanting to talk to my mom and get to know her, or as she said "start a relationship with her sooner than later". I was nervous at first about this because I know how my mom is, but I eventually gave in and gave her my mom's number so she could text or call her and basically "introduce" herself. My mom knows about her because I've brought her up several times, but she only KNOWS about her, never met her...but I don't think my mom knows the extent of how much I care for this girl..
I came back from my classes tonight to find out my girl had texted my mom and talked to her some. Apparently it only went okay because I saw my texts and my girl said "i think she hates me..im crying" but eventually had sent one that said "it ended okay". She had already fallen asleep when I got back, so she wasnt up to tell me how it went over the phone. I DID she that my mom had called me and left a voicemail because she missed one of my calls earlier today and added in the message "oh your FRIEND cameron text me. not sure what she wants, but i hope youre okay.."
I then saw my mom had facebook messaged me (how i keep up with the family over the week) 2 hours AFTER she and cameron had been talking, and didnt even mention their conversation once in the message. Not even one. thing. about. her.
I'll get all the details from my girl tomorrow, but it's left me a bit pissed off. Even when I'm finally out on my own, doing well with a good career...my mom seems to ruin everything good I have. What scares me is the fact that Cameron and I have been even talking about marriage and a couple of other things like her moving with me to my next command, etc., and I feel like my mom will only shit on the idea and tell me I'm wasting my opportunities in life and making a mistake (forget the fact that I'm in the top majority of my class and passing with flying colors on my certs and everything else). I don't even want to know what she'll say when we tell her we want to get "legally" married on paper (to get the Navy marriage benefits), and wait to do a ceremony later when more time has been involved in planning.
I love my mom, I do. But I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm ready to move on. Beforehand I was living at home working dead end jobs with no way to support anyone, but that has finally changed. I'll be 24 in a couple of months, and ive already told myself I want to be married with at least 1 child before I hit 25. How do I tell my mom that I'm not her little baby anymore and I'm ready for important life choices? I want her to know this girl is more than a FRIEND, and that yes, while we met through social media, that doesn't change the fact we've met and have consistently talked for a while now.
Well recently a girl on Instagram started chatting me up and it turns out she's from Georgia as well, not too too far from where I grew up. We exchanged numbers and started calling and texting, and have now been talking for about 2 months. She has come down to see me in Florida where I'm stationed right now multiple times, and everything has just been so great. She is without a doubt the best looking girl I have ever talked to/dated, to the point that all my Navy buddies are envious of my life haha.
She's everything I've wanted in a girl...independent, church-going, has a steady teaching job AND a degree from Juilliard. She's only 22 and already owns her own house and everything. Not to mention she makes me incredibly happy.
Well she recently has been wanting to talk to my mom and get to know her, or as she said "start a relationship with her sooner than later". I was nervous at first about this because I know how my mom is, but I eventually gave in and gave her my mom's number so she could text or call her and basically "introduce" herself. My mom knows about her because I've brought her up several times, but she only KNOWS about her, never met her...but I don't think my mom knows the extent of how much I care for this girl..
I came back from my classes tonight to find out my girl had texted my mom and talked to her some. Apparently it only went okay because I saw my texts and my girl said "i think she hates me..im crying" but eventually had sent one that said "it ended okay". She had already fallen asleep when I got back, so she wasnt up to tell me how it went over the phone. I DID she that my mom had called me and left a voicemail because she missed one of my calls earlier today and added in the message "oh your FRIEND cameron text me. not sure what she wants, but i hope youre okay.."
I then saw my mom had facebook messaged me (how i keep up with the family over the week) 2 hours AFTER she and cameron had been talking, and didnt even mention their conversation once in the message. Not even one. thing. about. her.
I'll get all the details from my girl tomorrow, but it's left me a bit pissed off. Even when I'm finally out on my own, doing well with a good career...my mom seems to ruin everything good I have. What scares me is the fact that Cameron and I have been even talking about marriage and a couple of other things like her moving with me to my next command, etc., and I feel like my mom will only shit on the idea and tell me I'm wasting my opportunities in life and making a mistake (forget the fact that I'm in the top majority of my class and passing with flying colors on my certs and everything else). I don't even want to know what she'll say when we tell her we want to get "legally" married on paper (to get the Navy marriage benefits), and wait to do a ceremony later when more time has been involved in planning.
I love my mom, I do. But I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm ready to move on. Beforehand I was living at home working dead end jobs with no way to support anyone, but that has finally changed. I'll be 24 in a couple of months, and ive already told myself I want to be married with at least 1 child before I hit 25. How do I tell my mom that I'm not her little baby anymore and I'm ready for important life choices? I want her to know this girl is more than a FRIEND, and that yes, while we met through social media, that doesn't change the fact we've met and have consistently talked for a while now.
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