Last night I got a phone call from my cousin. He sounded really worried and nervous and he said he needed help. It turns out that two years ago he lost $50,000 gambling (illegally - think Tony Soprano) and he can't pay it back. He apparently worked out a payment plan but he is still $10,000 short and he has maxed out his credit cards and everything. He was also recently fired from his last job (but has a new one) so he hasn't had a steady stream of income and is behind on his payments. He has been recieving threats from the men that he owes the money to and yesterday when he got out of work all 4 tires on his car were slashed and he's scared.
The reason he called is obvious - he needs money. He said whatever I could spare (not the whole $10k) would be a huge help. I do not want to get involved. Period. I almost feel bad for him and in theory I would like to help but it's his own fault. I can afford a $1,000 or so (but it would still be a big deal for me or anyone). It actually scares me - at first I was inclined to help but after thinking about it the last thing I need is someone showing up at my house asking for money because word gets out I gave him some and he still can't pay. I have a family to think about and they are my top priority.
I want to tell him no but I don't know how. He knows I could help if I wanted to. What I don't understand is why he doesn't ask his parents if he is that worried - it's *only* $10,000 (assuming he is telling the truth) and they could definitely give it to him. We were really close as kids but for the last 10 years or so we only see each other at random holidays or if someone dies. Any thoughts on how to handle this? Thanksgiving is going to be awkward...
The reason he called is obvious - he needs money. He said whatever I could spare (not the whole $10k) would be a huge help. I do not want to get involved. Period. I almost feel bad for him and in theory I would like to help but it's his own fault. I can afford a $1,000 or so (but it would still be a big deal for me or anyone). It actually scares me - at first I was inclined to help but after thinking about it the last thing I need is someone showing up at my house asking for money because word gets out I gave him some and he still can't pay. I have a family to think about and they are my top priority.
I want to tell him no but I don't know how. He knows I could help if I wanted to. What I don't understand is why he doesn't ask his parents if he is that worried - it's *only* $10,000 (assuming he is telling the truth) and they could definitely give it to him. We were really close as kids but for the last 10 years or so we only see each other at random holidays or if someone dies. Any thoughts on how to handle this? Thanksgiving is going to be awkward...