I need advice. My 6 1/2 year relationship is ending I AM GETTING ENGAGED! 11-21-07

I just told all of them to fuck off and i'm going to not talk or field any of there calls. I told them she wants to think about herself only? After 6 years, i better start thinking about my fucking self so tell her i said thanks and fuck you.


I wish i could eat, cause i look at food and think, man i should eat but i can't i just fucking feel so god damn sick. I have lost 23 pounds since this started. I work out daily, but man it has accelerated my work out sessions.
 
[quote name='Maynard']I just told all of them to fuck off and i'm going to not talk or field any of there calls. I told them she wants to think about herself only? After 6 years, i better start thinking about my fucking self so tell her i said thanks and fuck you.


I wish i could eat, cause i look at food and think, man i should eat but i can't i just fucking feel so god damn sick. I have lost 23 pounds since this started. I work out daily, but man it has accelerated my work out sessions.[/QUOTE]

i know everyone is saying it to you right now... but you won't just feel better about this, you'll feel a LOT better about it

will probably just take a little while, but you will seriously be surprised at how quickly you regain your footing, esp if you do some recreational banging to pass the time

hang in there and remember that you're going to look back on this one day soon and say to yourself.. "whew!! that was a close one! glad I got out while the getting was good!"

:)
 
[quote name='Maynard']I just told all of them to fuck off and i'm going to not talk or field any of there calls. I told them she wants to think about herself only? After 6 years, i better start thinking about my fucking self so tell her i said thanks and fuck you.[/quote]

That probably wasn't the smartest move to make. It's always best that after girl fucks you over like that, it's best to just NEXT her completely without another word. You gain ground by doing that, and you won't give them the satisfaction of seeing you get pissed over what they did to you.
 
[quote name='Purple Flames']That probably wasn't the smartest move to make. It's always best that after girl fucks you over like that, it's best to just NEXT her completely without another word. You gain ground by doing that, and you won't give them the satisfaction of seeing you get pissed over what they did to you.[/QUOTE]

that's true, but we've all gone the prior route...

when your emotions are at a fever pitch like that, it's hard to be a cool customer sometimes

i agree with your point though

much better to just act like she disappeared from the face of the planet
 
[quote name='Purple Flames']That probably wasn't the smartest move to make. It's always best that after girl fucks you over like that, it's best to just NEXT her completely without another word. You gain ground by doing that, and you won't give them the satisfaction of seeing you get pissed over what they did to you.[/quote]

I don't really see any point, taking into consideration the sincerity of OP's intentions (marriage?), of playing any bullshit games at this point. There is one " next move" to make and it's on.

One poster said, "Tell her parents what she's doing"... I hope that was a joke.

It doesn't sound like she's being malicious at all - why f*ck with her? Some of you guys are saying she "f*cked him over".... no, being f*cked over is having your GF suck some guy off at a party and then come home and sleep next to you. That's getting "f*ed over".. Maybe then you could venture into revenge territory.

She's being about as cool as she can - it's the news that sucks.
 
Some advice:

Never alienate your friends, because if shit happens between you and your girl you're basacially fucked, with no one to talk to or to hang with. I learned this the hard way, and I think you did too. And make sure you have some friends that AREN'T mutual friends. I think this is what wrong:

Basically while grieving about my father i pushed her away. I stayed in the computer room played games, read stuff and watched TV while she sat in the other room cause she wanted to sit out there. I didn't spend enough time with her and I didn't give her the attention she needed. It went on for about 5-6 months and than a guy at work started giving her attention.
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She was probably used to getting so much attention from you, that when you stopped due to your personal reasons she got desperate for attention somewhere else. Rob was probably there to give her attention, and it reminded her of her good she felt when people, well, paid attention to her.

There really is no right or wrong answer in a situation like this... you just need to take some time to yourself and think things through before making any decisions you are going to regret. I mean, things might work out in the end, she might come back, but if you do something stupid like post revenge pics or tell her parents what she's doing you're going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Just distance yourself for awhile.
 
Let me tell you one thing, I'l the guy who had his girlfriend of 4 years cheat on them.... the threads around here somewhere.

I didnt listen to the guys here, and I went through a month of agony talking to my exgirlfriend... really not a good idea... walk away now.

It hurts like a motherfucker... but its really the best way.


[quote name='Maynard']I just told all of them to fuck off and i'm going to not talk or field any of there calls. I told them she wants to think about herself only? After 6 years, i better start thinking about my fucking self so tell her i said thanks and fuck you.


I wish i could eat, cause i look at food and think, man i should eat but i can't i just fucking feel so god damn sick. I have lost 23 pounds since this started. I work out daily, but man it has accelerated my work out sessions.[/quote]
 
[quote name='Strell']See how fucking stupid women are?

If you aren't keeping them close enough, then you're not devoting yourself to the relationship. I gauran-goddamn-tee you that is what they will say in ANY ending relationship. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, fucked both ways.

They are stupid hose-bag emotion driven beasts that use their bleeding vaginas to justify each and every last action of their lives.

Feeling like shit and want to eat ice cream? Bleeding vagina.

Bitch later because they ate goddamn ice cream? Bleeding vagina.

Need a new man but don't want to lose the comfort factor of the situation they are in, but lie to themselves about what they are doing AND talk to their female friends, who encourage, support, AND AGREE with them? Bleeding vagina.

Forty goddamn fucking pairs of shoes? Bleeding goddamn vagina.

Bleeding vagina? Bleeding vagina.

They rely on the basest of chemical reactions and cry when no one can understand that reasoning.

fuck that shit.[/QUOTE]

:lol:
 
Man, my girlfriend and I just broke up last night. While I'm kind of relieved, I can't help but be angry. I stuck with her through SOOO much shit and she goes and ends our relationship because I didn't call her for a few nights (nights that I had to work until 1 AM).

The worst thing is, we work together and she still wants to be "friends." I can't help but feel this is all due to some new guy, but if it is I'm going to try to not give a fuck. I'm only 20 years old and have my whole life ahead of me; I just keep reminding myself that I'll smile about this in a month and will probably never talk to her again.

It's hard to not think about this stuff no matter how insignificant or contrived it may seem. My best advice is: be an asshole, only worry about yourself and your well-being, and don't trust anyone.
 
or just respect the fact that different human beings want different things at different times in their lives...?

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"Still dont know what I was waiting for
And my time was running wild
A million dead-end streets and
Every time I thought I'd got it made
It seemed the taste was not so sweet
So I turned myself to face me
But I've never caught a glimpse
Of how the others must see the faker
I'm much too fast to take that test

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(turn and face the strain)
Ch-ch-changes
Don't want to be a richer man
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(turn and face the strain)
Ch-ch-changes
Just gonna have to be a different man
Time may change me
But I can't trace time"
 
[quote name='2Fast']Man, my girlfriend and I just broke up last night. While I'm kind of relieved, I can't help but be angry. I stuck with her through SOOO much shit and she goes and ends our relationship because I didn't call her for a few nights (nights that I had to work until 1 AM).

The worst thing is, we work together and she still wants to be "friends." I can't help but feel this is all due to some new guy, but if it is I'm going to try to not give a fuck. I'm only 20 years old and have my whole life ahead of me; I just keep reminding myself that I'll smile about this in a month and will probably never talk to her again.

It's hard to not think about this stuff no matter how insignificant or contrived it may seem. My best advice is: be an asshole, only worry about yourself and your well-being, and don't trust anyone.[/QUOTE]

I was about to walk up to the third floor and ask out a girl I work with...

after reading this I have decided to pass

thank you for the motivation!
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']true... one of the 4th grade teachers is a former classmate of mine from high school, but her team member is this indian hottie with a nice rack and butt :) Unfortunitly I don't have the time to get in good with that 4th grade teacher or the 4th grade team as I spend most of my day with the 6th grade team.

Now I did meet this one chick on myspace and we were getting ready to meet in person, until she told me the other night that she still has a boyfriend of like 5 years and looking to get out... so out with him and into me... not a good idea. too bad cause she looked cute and had a nice body... doesn't have that atheltic body like my ex, but looked a lot better in a bikini then my ex :)[/QUOTE]

Dude. You are godly! I've seriously considered teaching elementary ed. for the past year or so, and you just totally convinced me that thats where I belong. fuck the shitty $40K starting salary. Hott teachers FTW!
 
[quote name='jPoD']Dude. You are godly! I've seriously considered teaching elementary ed. for the past year or so, and you just totally convinced me that thats where I belong. fuck the shitty $40K starting salary. Hott teachers FTW![/QUOTE]


Unless your the type of person who can deal with screaming and runing around little kindergarderners (ala Kindergarder Cop), don't even try it... These teachers will know your there just to get close to them instead of the kid and reject you quickly. Then you will be stuck with those little bastard and they will pwn you!
 
[quote name='2Fast']Man, my girlfriend and I just broke up last night. While I'm kind of relieved, I can't help but be angry. I stuck with her through SOOO much shit and she goes and ends our relationship because I didn't call her for a few nights (nights that I had to work until 1 AM).

The worst thing is, we work together and she still wants to be "friends." I can't help but feel this is all due to some new guy, but if it is I'm going to try to not give a fuck. I'm only 20 years old and have my whole life ahead of me; I just keep reminding myself that I'll smile about this in a month and will probably never talk to her again.

It's hard to not think about this stuff no matter how insignificant or contrived it may seem. My best advice is: be an asshole, only worry about yourself and your well-being, and don't trust anyone.[/QUOTE]

uh snap, find a new job quick to avoid the bitch.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']uh snap, find a new job quick to avoid the bitch.[/quote]

Nah, this isn't the first time I've dipped the pen in the company ink. It should be fine, plus I'm moving (hopefully) in a couple of months anyway. Shouldn't be a big deal.
 
[quote name='Maynard']This fucken BLOWS though. I can't explain the pain i'm feeling. I can't get warm, i tremble, i cry, i get mad, i can't eat. I literally feel like i'm dying of some disease. I feel like such a PUSSY saying all this to. God i want to hit her in the face and just say fuck YOU[/quote]

That's prolly why she left you. Women go nuts for guys who treat them as an afterthought. When you become a pussy it's Game Over.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']Unless your the type of person who can deal with screaming and runing around little kindergarderners (ala Kindergarder Cop), don't even try it... These teachers will know your there just to get close to them instead of the kid and reject you quickly. Then you will be stuck with those little bastard and they will pwn you![/QUOTE]

Funny thing is, the way I phrased it looked totally immature and pootie-tang seeking of me. I'm actually really interested in teaching. I already taught hebrew school this year, and work well with kids. Im not doing K. Probably 4th, 5th or 6th. Right now, as it stands i'm majoring in Elementary Ed. Going to go for my masters and PhD after too.
 
[quote name='jPoD']Funny thing is, the way I phrased it looked totally immature and pootie-tang seeking of me. I'm actually really interested in teaching. I already taught hebrew school this year, and work well with kids. Im not doing K. Probably 4th, 5th or 6th. Right now, as it stands i'm majoring in Elementary Ed. Going to go for my masters and PhD after too.[/QUOTE]


hmm what subject... I work with 4th graders for like an hour then move on to 6th grade for the rest of the day.. The 4th graders are awesome and very friendly to be with, vs the 6th graders and there attitute ... sometimes I feel I need to bring a diapar and a baby bottle for them because the way these 6th graders act, they need it.

But this is truely one of those YMMV situations :p
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']hmm what subject... I work with 4th graders for like an hour then move on to 6th grade for the rest of the day.. The 4th graders are awesome and very friendly to be with, vs the 6th graders and there attitute ... sometimes I feel I need to bring a diapar and a baby bottle for them because the way these 6th graders act, they need it.

But this is truely one of those YMMV situations :p[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I think 6th grade might not be the best choice for me. 4th grade is awesome. I'll probably teach Eng or His. I'm not even sure how schools work. I went to private school from K-7th, so i'm used to having one teacher. When I job shadowed a teacher here, she taught multiple subjects. Is this ymmv as well?
 
[quote name='jPoD']Yeah, I think 6th grade might not be the best choice for me. 4th grade is awesome. I'll probably teach Eng or His. I'm not even sure how schools work. I went to private school from K-7th, so i'm used to having one teacher. When I job shadowed a teacher here, she taught multiple subjects. Is this ymmv as well?[/QUOTE]

its possible...damn i wish i had a good mentor, instead of this Special Ed teacher (who I have NO INTREST in teaching special ed) with unstable mental problems and anger management issues with kids.
 
hehe. I'm planning on going further then teaching. I'd love to do educational policy or be a superintendent eventually. (thats where the money is in educ.)
How is it teaching in VA? It's one of the states i'd consider living/teaching in.
 
[quote name='jPoD']hehe. I'm planning on going further then teaching. I'd love to do educational policy or be a superintendent eventually. (thats where the money is in educ.)
How is it teaching in VA? It's one of the states i'd consider living/teaching in.[/QUOTE]


right now I am an instructional assistant (a lacky) testing the waters in FCPS in northern VA. The last two years I worked in LCPS as a tech ...i Live in FCPS. Both Fairfax county and Loudon County are good. Fairfax county is a very rich county that seemed more ethicilly diversed where as Loudon county feels like all white meat chicken. Fairfax county is expensive to live in where as Loudon County is growing big time, but its too un developed compared to fairfax.

PM me if you have any futher questions.
 
sucks dude, but this is one of those rites of passage. i'd argue that your first heartbreak determines more about the rest of your relationships than anything else. my advice:

1. watch swingers. great movie for putting you in the mood to move on.
2. eat something. don't waste away on account of some bitch.
3. call up your old friends and tell them you need to go out for drinks and fun. if they're cool they'll understand.
4. get back in the game as quick as you can. remember you have jaykrue to give you advice if it's been too long since you've been single.

the worst thing you can do is sit around feeling sorry for yourself.
 
Agreed... don't let that bitch take you down... Women have this thing that they can dump us and feel little to no regreat ... within a week of the break up, I was back on my feet at job interviews left and right and by the end of the month I had a new job, compared to her statement earlier in the month telling me that i will never find a job in a month :p
 
Just to echo some of the things here:

Get away from her and break all contact. They'll think you're being an ass, and, well, you will be. You don't give a shit about them anyway. You're luck you don't work with her and have to see her stupid ass every day. Keep not taking her calls.

What will suck is sometimes when you do this, they'll want more and more to do with you. Because when you don't give a shit, she's lost her power. She'll want to get it back. She'll wonder why you don't give a shit, and if you start talking to her again, she'll fucking tease you by acting like she's entertaining ideas of getting back together, but in reality she's just wanting your attention and focus back on her.

And don't get back together with her ever again. Because this history WILL repeat itself. You don't deserve that. Nor does she deserve to be with you anymore. She's already burned that fucking bridge.

Anyone that says otherwise is working for the enemy.


[quote name='darkmere']sucks dude, but this is one of those rites of passage. i'd argue that your first heartbreak determines more about the rest of your relationships than anything else. my advice:

1. watch swingers. great movie for putting you in the mood to move on.
2. eat something. don't waste away on account of some bitch.
3. call up your old friends and tell them you need to go out for drinks and fun. if they're cool they'll understand.
4. get back in the game as quick as you can. remember you have jaykrue to give you advice if it's been too long since you've been single.

the worst thing you can do is sit around feeling sorry for yourself.[/quote]
QFT

I especially agree with calling your old guy friends. Why? Because they shouldn't give a shit if you haven't called them in 5 years. They're guys. And an apology to a once good friend could go a long way. Plus most any guy is more than willing to take a friend out to get his mind of a girl, because they've most likely been there before.

You came to CAG because 1) we're a friend you haven't alienated, and 2) you wanted truth. And CAG is a great place to get some down to earth, unadulterated truth. Most of us don't even know you personally, and we're more than willing to help. Your friends will be too.
 
[quote name='GuyWithGun']
I especially agree with calling your old guy friends. Why? Because they shouldn't give a shit if you haven't called them in 5 years. They're guys. And an apology to a once good friend could go a long way. Plus most any guy is more than willing to take a friend out to get his mind of a girl, because they've most likely been there before.[/QUOTE]

When this happened to me a few years ago, I called up one of my closest friends and he told me, without missing a step, "Sorry dude, I got a full night of drinkin' ahead of me" and hung up.

I haven't quite forgiven him for that still. The motherfucker.

Disregarding that anecdote, your post is QFT-worthy.
 
[quote name='Strell']When this happened to me a few years ago, I called up one of my closest friends and he told me, without missing a step, "Sorry dude, I got a full night of drinkin' ahead of me" and hung up.

I haven't quite forgiven him for that still. The motherfucker.

Disregarding that anecdote, your post is QFT-worthy.[/quote]
Damn, what an asshole.

Yeah, I planned, but forgot, to mention those guys that have a little sand in their vagina.
 
Are you fucking kidding me?

"I don't have those feelings for you anymore"

"Does that mean we're over?" HUUUUURRRRRRR!

No you fucking sod, it means she wants your baby cream up her nose. :roll:

Its not "fuck her", its "fuck you!" You admit you're ignoring her and yet you have the gal to get indignant when she leaves you? You sure as hell would be on here bitching if she was ignoring you... Oh wait, YOU ARE!

I think what she did was kinda trashy. She stuck with you just until someone else showed interest. The whole 'we need a break' thing means 'I found someone I want to fuck, wait here for me incase it doesn't work out with him'. Thats kinda lame of her instead of just breaking it off and taking her chances that way.

However, its still your fault as you readily admit.

You want to know what makes you a pussy? Its not just the pining like a little bitch saying, "omg! plz dont leef me!!!!!!!!!". What really makes you a salty cunt is that you have to force the blame on her. How dare she wants someone that shows her attention! Honestly, what a bitch, why cant she just wait in the other room while you play games all day and ignore her?


Dont get me wrong though... women are still whores. :lol:
 
[quote name='darkmere']sucks dude, but this is one of those rites of passage. i'd argue that your first heartbreak determines more about the rest of your relationships than anything else. my advice:

1. watch swingers. great movie for putting you in the mood to move on.
2. eat something. don't waste away on account of some bitch.
3. call up your old friends and tell them you need to go out for drinks and fun. if they're cool they'll understand.
4. get back in the game as quick as you can. remember you have jaykrue to give you advice if it's been too long since you've been single.

the worst thing you can do is sit around feeling sorry for yourself.[/QUOTE]


This is some good advice. It is what helped me get over my big breakup.
 
4 pages of posts and I'm surprised no one mentioned running up to Liz and yelling "GLITTER, B*TCH" and then blowing a pound of glitter on her yet!

But seriously OP, we've all been there. It really does work out eventually.
 
you know it doesnt matter what anyone tells you to do because you're going to do what you want, but you need to move on. It will be hard for awhile but one day it will click and you'll be over this broad.
 
[quote name='Number83']4 pages of posts and I'm surprised no one mentioned running up to Liz and yelling "GLITTER, B*TCH" and then blowing a pound of glitter on her yet!

But seriously OP, we've all been there. It really does work out eventually.[/QUOTE]


Hey, maybe she works at a place that has a magazine rack that you can knock over.
 
This situation answers itself, really.

She wants to "live it up as a 22 year old"? My ass. She's just creating distance from you.

She's totally gonna fuck this guy, too. Now, what you need to realize is that you aren't gonna get back with Liz. If you do, you're a rube, because she'll pull this shit again.

So, in the end, you know it's not in your long-term best interests to get back with the girl. You also have a guy, whose existence on this mortal plane is the catalyst to your breakup, confiding in you that he just wants her snatch. THAT IS A DIRECT CHALLENGE ON YOUR MANHOOD. ARE YOU GOING TO PUT UP WITH THAT?

Blow up his car, beat him with a crowbar, knock his fuckin' lights out. ex-marine? Whatever. Get yourself a pair of steeltoes, and first thing you do, kick him in the kneecap. He won't be much of a marine after that. I'm rarely a 'dude' kind of guy. I don't react to people who talk shit, frankly because I don't care, and I have better things to do than go to jail because of a hillbilly. This, on the other hand, has dramatically altered your life. So, it's only fair that you reciprocate.

It doesn't have to be violence, but make this motherfucker regret living. I'm sure you're regretting life at the moment, so why not share the pain? Be creative.

Now, since most people have pointed out that you were an emotional ninny (while in your relationship), any show of overt masculinity might have your girl back on you in a nanosecond. You can either (1) sock her in the eye and walk away (and shut the fuck up you nonegalitarian "I don't hit women" motherfuckers - save it for trying to pick up hicks at your bars), or (2) do as Brak said. Then throw her out on the street naked and burn her clothes.
 
The OP needs some man lessons. We have heard sage advice from Strell, Myke and Brak. But where is Jimmie Mac?
 
[quote name='Kayden']I think what she did was kinda trashy. She stuck with you just until someone else showed interest. The whole 'we need a break' thing means 'I found someone I want to fuck, wait here for me incase it doesn't work out with him'. Thats kinda lame of her instead of just breaking it off and taking her chances that way.[/quote]

I've been through that befre. It was blatantly obvious that towards the end of my relationship that my now ex-g/f wasn't happy with me anymore, but when I tried to break it off sh tried to send me on a guilt trip over with with the whole "oh so you just wanna quit", and "I gave you my virginity" BS. When she met someone else, all of a sudden none of that shit mattered and she broke up with me, via e-mail. Pretty much I was just a placeholder until she met soemoen else to put up with her.

But in this situation I got the last laugh, because he ended up breaking up with her because their relationship was mostly long distance (that and she was a complete and utter cunt), and now me and him are good friends. Now only that, but I'm still in school about to enter my junior year of college, while she quit school and is doing nothing with her life back home.
 
Yeah it fucking sucks right now, because the shit just runs through my head of what they're doing and it fucking kills me. Hopefully it will just get better as time goes, actually i know it will just get better as time goes. I keep on hoping that this Rob and Kristin situation blows up in her face. I know that sounds evil but fuck them both. I talked to one of my buddies last night and he went through the SAME THING. It seems that EVERYONE has been through this bullshit before and pretty much it never works out, so i have given up on that. I also started thinking about all the shit shes done to me in the last month and thought man why would i even want to go back to that bitch, look how she treated you when you were grasping at the relationship trying to fix it. fuck her, i already joined match.com for some networking and got 5 emails from chicks already asking to talk or go out. Time TO MOVE ON! I keep on getting told that she'll try to comeback, do you think thats true? I hopeso cause i want to be able to tell her, "Oh no sorry you fucked that up when you went and got another cock in your sandy vagina"
 
This is why men need a BitchSlap taskforce. When this kinda shit goes down, you can call up BitchSlap operatives, and they will proceed to the girl in question, and promptly deliver unto her the most righteous of bitchslappings her poor face will ever receive.

Actually, fuck "ever." She'll get slapped AND get a mark on her somehow. Then when it happens again, she'll get another mark. That way her looseness is on display for all AND she gets the shit knocked out of here.

Clearly I am full of wonderful ideas.
 
[quote name='Maynard']Yeah it fucking sucks right now, because the shit just runs through my head of what they're doing and it fucking kills me. Hopefully it will just get better as time goes, actually i know it will just get better as time goes. I keep on hoping that this Rob and Kristin situation blows up in her face. I know that sounds evil but fuck them both. I talked to one of my buddies last night and he went through the SAME THING. It seems that EVERYONE has been through this bullshit before and pretty much it never works out, so i have given up on that. I also started thinking about all the shit shes done to me in the last month and thought man why would i even want to go back to that bitch, look how she treated you when you were grasping at the relationship trying to fix it. fuck her, i already joined match.com for some networking and got 5 emails from chicks already asking to talk or go out. Time TO MOVE ON! I keep on getting told that she'll try to comeback, do you think thats true? I hopeso cause i want to be able to tell her, "Oh no sorry you fucked that up when you went and got another cock in your sandy vagina"[/quote]

Ok you're only doing it partly right. There's no need to insult here. You do more by saying less. That witty invective you're loading in your verbal ammo is best saved for a rainy day. That day has already passed. Instead, now that you've got 5 separate emails from 5 different girls, focus on them. If your ex calls, don't give her a chance to talk but say "can't talk right now, I'm talking to an important girl right now." This implies that you don't consider your ex an 'important girl' in your life anymore. And considering how soon you recovered, she'll start having second thoughts about how she handled the situation. The best revenge a guy can get on a girl who dumped him is by living a better life. The sooner you recover and get back spittin' your game, the more devastated she will be. Nothing is a bigger blow to a woman's ego than knowing that she had no effect whatsoever on a man.
 
Jay you and i need to fucken hang out your a smart guy and you live in chicago? PM me what part man.


PS

How come video games dont hold my interest right now? I figured they would help me get my mind off of it. Its not helping at all.
 
[quote name='mykevermin']
Whatever. Get yourself a pair of steeltoes, and first thing you do, kick him in the kneecap. He won't be much of a marine after that.[/QUOTE]

This had me laughing Myke. Good job.
 
[quote name='jaykrue']Ok you're only doing it partly right. There's no need to insult here. You do more by saying less. That witty invective you're loading in your verbal ammo is best saved for a rainy day. That day has already passed. Instead, now that you've got 5 separate emails from 5 different girls, focus on them. If your ex calls, don't give her a chance to talk but say "can't talk right now, I'm talking to an important girl right now." This implies that you don't consider your ex an 'important girl' in your life anymore. And considering how soon you recovered, she'll start having second thoughts about how she handled the situation. The best revenge a guy can get on a girl who dumped him is by living a better life. The sooner you recover and get back spittin' your game, the more devastated she will be. Nothing is a bigger blow to a woman's ego than knowing that she had no effect whatsoever on a man.[/quote]

Fantastic, I totally agree. moving on and living your life well is the best revenge, if revenge is even a consideration...
 
Rebounds never work and they ALWAYS come back, hopefully, you will be in a better situation and will leave her to her regrets. We have all been in your situation, it sucks, it hurts, your mind won't stop thinking "what if...," but eventually you will wake up one day ready to move on. It just takes time. Hang in there OP.
 
Just wanted to say thanks to all you guys, if you guys dont mind i'm gonna post my thoughts and any advice you can give to counter act them would help. I can't stop thinking about her and that other guy and it makes me sick. Any advice to counter act that?
 
[quote name='Maynard']Just wanted to say thanks to all you guys, if you guys dont mind i'm gonna post my thoughts and any advice you can give to counter act them would help. I can't stop thinking about her and that other guy and it makes me sick. Any advice to counter act that?[/quote]
Honestly, this really sucks to hear, but let it run through your head. Let it run through your head as much as possible. And it will suck. But you know what will happen? You'll get so disgusted with it and her that you won't be able to think of her positively again. This will help if she tries to use you as a fall back if this guy doesn't work out. It'll definately help you stay away from her.

And the more you let it run through, the quicker you will get used to thinking about it, and the sooner it will have absolutely no effect on you. You'll just desensitize yourself to thinking about it, then it will become so unimportant to you that you won't think of it again.

Another thing is just to go out and have fun like everyone has been telling you. Right now you're probably sitting at home, thinking about all this shit, alone, and thinking that nothing will get your mind off of it. That's because you're not really trying. Get your ass out of the house and do fun things. Then when you get back home you'll realize that you concentrated on having fun instead of sitting at home thinking about shit.

GET YOUR ASS OUT OF THE HOUSE, AND GET WITH SOME FRIENDS!
 
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