I need advice. My 6 1/2 year relationship is ending I AM GETTING ENGAGED! 11-21-07

[quote name='jaykrue']The best revenge a guy can get on a girl who dumped him is by living a better life. The sooner you recover and get back spittin' your game, the more devastated she will be. Nothing is a bigger blow to a woman's ego than knowing that she had no effect whatsoever on a man.[/quote]

Damn, we are twins. This is the advice I followed trying to get over someone and it definitely works. 2 years later she came crawling back saying that breaking up with me was the biggest mistake of her life - this is after no contact from me whatsoever and anytime I talked to someone we both knew I would always smile and say things have never been better (100% true - I had already met the future mrs. javeryh). I was polite to her but basically told her too little too late. To top it all off she actually apologized to me for all the mean shit she used to do to me. FTW!!!!!!
 
dude, rub one out, call some buddies, go out and get smashed up and meet a new lady, youll be glad you rubbed one out. enjoy being single, and dont force anything. women are like buses, a new one comes every 10 minutes. and if they are late, well, you are fucked!
 
Interesting- my best friend fooled around behind his fiance's back- they had been together for the same amount of time as you had been, he got the chick pregnant and broke up with the girlfriend to be with the skank- which is funny because he's a loser with a job at some hardware store and she's a accounting manager.

Then I jumped in on the rebound and I've been happy ever since.

Moral of this story? You'll hook up with one of her friends and you'll be good to go. Or maybe the reverse.. dunno.
 
[quote name='stnkygrngo']dude, rub one out, call some buddies, go out and get smashed up and meet a new lady, youll be glad you rubbed one out. enjoy being single, and dont force anything. women are like buses, a new one comes every 10 minutes. and if they are late, well, you are fucked![/QUOTE]

holy fucking.... that was funny..haha thanx for the laugh :)
 
Yea dood. Not to be a dick, but fuck her.

The motto "Bro's before Ho's" comes to mind. Take back the ring, call up your alienated homies, tell them what's up and tell them you need to do some really naughty (heterosexual) shit to get over the bitch and you have the ring money to blow on some stripper! The boys will rally around you and you will be much a better man as a result.

All is fair in "fuck that bitch" I say.

PS - DO NOT GO SEE THE BREAK UP.
 
[quote name='Kayden']Are you fucking kidding me?

"I don't have those feelings for you anymore"

"Does that mean we're over?" HUUUUURRRRRRR!

No you fucking sod, it means she wants your baby cream up her nose. :roll:

Its not "fuck her", its "fuck you!" You admit you're ignoring her and yet you have the gal to get indignant when she leaves you? You sure as hell would be on here bitching if she was ignoring you... Oh wait, YOU ARE!

I think what she did was kinda trashy. She stuck with you just until someone else showed interest. The whole 'we need a break' thing means 'I found someone I want to fuck, wait here for me incase it doesn't work out with him'. Thats kinda lame of her instead of just breaking it off and taking her chances that way.

However, its still your fault as you readily admit.

You want to know what makes you a pussy? Its not just the pining like a little bitch saying, "omg! plz dont leef me!!!!!!!!!". What really makes you a salty cunt is that you have to force the blame on her. How dare she wants someone that shows her attention! Honestly, what a bitch, why cant she just wait in the other room while you play games all day and ignore her?


Dont get me wrong though... women are still whores. :lol:[/QUOTE]

Holy shit- you are my hero- this is awesome
 
see if you can sleep with her one more time, then give her the "KOBE" treatment. that'll teach her.
 
God damn just got back from the gym after 2 hours of lifting i feel better. Made new friends and realized a fucking lot, the world is still turning. Ha, i honestly thought that even though we broke up, i thought my world was over, but its fucken not. I got 2 numbers tonight gonna go chill with some new dudes and get drunk and hopefully get a few one night stands out of it. Single life is not that bad.

I was thinking tonight also. I dont really have alot of friends. I got like 4 close friends but thats it. I dont have a bunch of friends like i used to. Than i was thinking if i did marry this cunt who would i have invited to our wedding? 4 people!? Time to live it up i'm 24 and my men want to swim in different charters.
 
[quote name='Maynard']God damn just got back from the gym after 2 hours of lifting i feel better. Made new friends and realized a fucking lot, the world is still turning. Ha, i honestly thought that even though we broke up, i thought my world was over, but its fucken not. I got 2 numbers tonight gonna go chill with some new dudes and get drunk and hopefully get a few one night stands out of it. Single life is not that bad.

I was thinking tonight also. I dont really have alot of friends. I got like 4 close friends but thats it. I dont have a bunch of friends like i used to. Than i was thinking if i did marry this cunt who would i have invited to our wedding? 4 people!? Time to live it up i'm 24 and my men want to swim in different charters.[/QUOTE]

For your next trick I recommend SMOKIN CRACK!
 
[quote name='Maynard']Dude, i just listened to what people said. I'm not gonna sit around and mope about this bitch.[/QUOTE]

Indeed. I suggest Koggit do the same, but unfortunately he isn't.

Congratulations, dude.
 
[quote name='thagoat']cmon dude, hate fuck her before you cut off all ties. treat her like you own her.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like she's more interested in fucking the new guy than the OP.
 
[quote name='Maynard']Dude, i just listened to what people said. I'm not gonna sit around and mope about this bitch.[/quote]

Good recovery. Good luck in the future. CAGs' work is done. :cool:
 
[quote name='jaykrue']Good recovery. Good luck in the future. CAGs' work is done. :cool:[/quote]

No Jay... Our work will never truly be done. For where ever the is poontang pie, and the inept who wish to have a slice, out assistance will be needed. I'd say our work has only just begun. :cool:

:lol:
 
[quote name='Kayden']No Jay... Our work will never truly be done. For where ever the is poontang pie, and the inept who wish to have a slice, out assistance will be needed. I'd say our work has only just begun. :cool:

:lol:[/QUOTE]

I can't believe you said that. That's probably the most ridiculously awesome thing I've ever heard.

I'd put that quote in my sig, but I don't believe in glorifying other people's accomplishments.
 
[quote name='Maynard']Bah today sucked ass. I hope the feeling of sadness and lonelyness subsides sooner or later.[/QUOTE]

Wow, talk about moodswings. Sad, happy, now sad again?

Gotta find one of the other, man. ;)
 
[quote name='Maynard']Bah today sucked ass. I hope the feeling of sadness and lonelyness subsides sooner or later.[/QUOTE]

Throw that beat in the garbage can, dude... It's Saturday morning. Go get a six of Mickey's and get all smacked up on it. For some reason Mickey's wide-mouths have the ability, moreso than any other beer I've ever had, to make you feel absolutely retarded. And we all know that retarded people are the happiest people around.
 
[quote name='Maynard']Bah today sucked ass. I hope the feeling of sadness and lonelyness subsides sooner or later.[/quote]

Just knowing that you can have some guilt-free sex with ANY chick you see should be more than enough to get you through the day... the possibilities are ENDLESS.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, take a step back and look at all the stupid shit you were forced to do as the boyfriend (i.e. listen to her ramble on about stupid shit that no one cares about blah, blah, blah) and go out and do something fun for yourself.
 
[quote name='Maynard']Bah today sucked ass. I hope the feeling of sadness and lonelyness subsides sooner or later.[/quote]

Just knowing that you can have some guilt-free sex with ANY chick you see should be more than enough to get you through the day... the possibilities are ENDLESS.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, take a step back and look at all the stupid shit you were forced to do as her boyfriend (i.e. listen to her ramble on about stupid shit that no one cares about blah, blah, blah) and be thankful you got out before things got out of hand.
 
record the phone call w/ rob, or get him to say it to your face while recording. If you really want her back suck up, flowers, candy the like. Big if there. If she is so willing to leave you behind will she stay w/ you for good i fyou get married?
 
Aren't you the cat that says he not only had a 3 way with Jenna Jameson but also owns a restaurant outside of Chicago?

Funny because you never mention any of that but I would think that that would be a big part of the story. Sure your Pop dyin' was a big deal and you pushed people away but you never mention the crazyness of opening a restaurant or the fact you had your face burried in Jenna's clam, whcih seems like it would hurt more than help your situation.
 
[quote name='auralia']record the phone call w/ rob, or get him to say it to your face while recording. If you really want her back suck up, flowers, candy the like.[/QUOTE]
bad advice. better to cut all ties and move on. NEVER beg a girl to take you back, she will OWN your ass for the rest of the relationship. this dude is teetering enough with his thoughts and emotions on the situation, the last thing he needs is someone telling him to crawl back to her.

if you are a man you will move on. otherwise, invite her to live in your apartment for about $300 a month and answer the door for your dates.
 
Coming from someone who's been through that bullshit Maynard, let me tell you what I did to get over it. Around 2 or 3 years ago, some ''bleeding vagina'' did the same thing to me after 2 years of going out. Some bullshit about not paying attention to her (I don't really remember since I wasn't paying attention at the time) and that she was in a different boat or something. Anyway, I tried for a good month to get her back, and all that while I ignored my homies and everyone else BUT her. Before I knew it, none of my friends were calling, I started losing weight fast and my grades were slipping. So... I did what most guys do. Mope around all day and think the world was over. Then, as if by some godly force, an epiphany came to me in a weird and hazy daydream... a bottle of Jack Daniels. That very night, I got shitfaced, went to a club and came back with so much poontang that just made everything better.

Moral of the story: Mixing booze and poon is the break-up elixir.


America, fuck YEAH!
 
[quote name='auralia']record the phone call w/ rob, or get him to say it to your face while recording. If you really want her back suck up, flowers, candy the like. Big if there. If she is so willing to leave you behind will she stay w/ you for good i fyou get married?[/quote]

This is bad advice. You got to reverse it. Don't be pussy-whipped - whip that pussy! Like this here, bang, bang, bang, bang, bang.
 
[quote name='JimmieMac']Aren't you the cat that says he not only had a 3 way with Jenna Jameson but also owns a restaurant outside of Chicago?

Funny because you never mention any of that but I would think that that would be a big part of the story. Sure your Pop dyin' was a big deal and you pushed people away but you never mention the crazyness of opening a restaurant or the fact you had your face burried in Jenna's clam, whcih seems like it would hurt more than help your situation.[/QUOTE]

So, while I agree that the Jenna Jameson tale is either made up bullshit, a severe stretching of the truth (real world: he sees her walking down a terminal in the airport, story world: she walked up to him as he was reading the Wall Street Journal and started sucking his cock, like all women do), or in the unlikely event that his story was true, pretty much par for the course for a fucking porn star, I'm not sure what the Icon is getting at here.

Are you suggesting that the OP would make up the story in this thread? It shows him to be an emotional ninny, a emasculated depressed nanny-nanny-boo-boo girl who can't/won't kick the fuck out of the dude who ruined his relationship (or the girl, for that matter), and seems to want to watch the Lifetime movie channel, sit down with a tub of Haagen-Dasz, and cry his little vagina dry. That's NOT a story that I'd want to make up.

Perhaps he has exaggerated his innocence in this breakup. But, if he did that, then he deserved it to begin with.

EDIT: While I agree with those who suggest you move on, you're still a puss if you don't break his fuckin' jaw.
 
[quote name='JimmieMac']Aren't you the cat that says he not only had a 3 way with Jenna Jameson but also owns a restaurant outside of Chicago?

Funny because you never mention any of that but I would think that that would be a big part of the story. Sure your Pop dyin' was a big deal and you pushed people away but you never mention the crazyness of opening a restaurant or the fact you had your face burried in Jenna's clam, whcih seems like it would hurt more than help your situation.[/QUOTE]

:rofl: Owned.
 
[quote name='coltyhuxx']Girls, like guys need to see what's out there. I think we guys forget this. If you're the only guy she's been with, excepting for moral grounds (and usually depsite them) it is not realistic to expect a girl to only have one boyfriend/parter in her entire life. It doesn't mean a damn thing bad about YOU but it's just something that people need to discover and explore. And just like for us, this means - you're going to hate to hear this - that she needs to find out what she doesn't like by dating a massive tool.

Well I don't know if I, or anyone can offer too much in the way of concilliatory advice here. I know where you're at though. Man this one girl back in 2002, Anna, broke up with me pretty harshly...smokin hot twenty year old (I was 26 then so I was psyched for a hot minute)... anyway, here's my favorite quote of hers. She rolled over one afternoon and I thought she was going to say, "I think I love you" or something to that effect - I was all smiles - and instead, five inches from my face said, "I think you like me more than I like you." Nice manners. Bitch. That was the beginning of the end.

I just remember lying on the floor, literally cheek to carpet for hours at a time just crying. I felt most comfortable that low to the ground. I was past the point of embarassment... I remember I went to a Thanksgiving party and it was the first time I'd really left the house in a while. When people asked me how I was doing I would pretty much just say "Not so good, man." And then choke back that crying sensation. I'd walk back from school and take the secret route in the woods so I could just cry the whole walk back. Really, pathetic, I know. This shit was really out of character for me - I'm not a really weepy person but it tore me back proper.

Here's what I will tell you and I hope you believe it (because I can tell how shitty you feel right now) TIME WILL HEAL YOU MAN. You gotta believe that. It DOES get easier but it's going to hurt like a MOTHER man.. It's gonna get worse, it's gonna getta better, it's gonna worse again. Expect it. But I swear to god - it will start evening out.. you will feel better.

Check this out, and I'll even underline it for you for em-pha-sis: I don't EVER think of that chick anymore. She has absolutely zero power over me now and I've gone out with MUCH MUCH better (in all areas) of girls since.

One other thing I will throw out there - I'd try not to debate logically this issue with her too much. Don't try and talk her out of this anymore. She's said enough at this point that you really should let her go. If you try and bring logic into it, you're gonna feel defeated or pissed when she isn't BEING logical or goes against what you want. Frankly if she is moving on with another guy - boy it really sounds like she is, man - you're not going to talk her out of it (at least for long) and you're not going to hear things that you want to hear. It's a recipe for furthering your depression and dissapointment. Also, I don't see any reason for any interaction with the guy on your part. You don't need to ascertain his intentions or learn about him. You're just going to put shitty thoughts in your head. "What's it like when he's with her.." blah blah blah.. Garbage for your mind.

It's so easy to say with hindsight but TRUST ME - you will meet other people in your life and it only gets easier after getting your heart busted the first time. And remember, that it's supposed to suck - remember to give yourself some slack.

Shit, I think I'm supposed to be working right now, or something...[/QUOTE]

I hope I don't sound patronizing, but that advice was amazing. Great job.
 
You know in Billy Madison when Chris Farley's like "That Veronica Vaughn is one piece of ASS...I know from experience dude...if you know what i mean"?

Anyway, that's what you guys all sound like giving your advice. No offense.
 
yeah it seems like its over, let it go....remember one thing man. If she is over it, then why should you stick around sobbing and thinking?

Nothing will come out of it, stop wasting your time with a person who has decided to move on and won't give you the time and day she used 2 in the past. she seemed pretty firm in her decision and sometimes its just time to let it go.

I know it seems harsh, but stop wasting your time. You are 23 or 24 years old...plenty of time to go out and do your own thing.
 
I'll admit I didn't read the whole thread.

Myk,

I think you're being a bit harsh on the OP here. Ok, I agree that the story is likely true, but I don't read it as being a ninny here. He is in love with this woman, and it's over. It's a crushing thing. Some guys take it better than other guys, but I really think he's doing ok here.

OP,

Really, you don't want to hear this, but it's tough for any relationship to make it, let alone one from when you were 17. No offense, but you grow so much. Are you the same person that you were at 17 now at 22? No. Guess what, when your 27, you'll be different again (it's the maturing stages that don't get talked about much, but you grow so much in your 20's, and not just early on).

She is growing too. The same things that attracted you to her when she was 16 just won't be the same now.

It's also tough, since our society puts so much value on going out and "partying" when you're young. If you don't have a few stories where you were out to 5am, and some stuff happened that shouldn't, then you really didn't live. It's sort of stupid, but people really feel that way. Yet, doing those sort of things is not condusive to a long term relationship.

I hate to say this, but no one on here will likely be able to help you. You just have to tough it out. The sun will come up tomorrow. You'll date other women. You'll never find someone like her ever again, but you will find others that will have great impacts on your life.

Best thing you can do is look at this as an opportunity. Not neccessarily to sleep around, but to find yourself. There are things you probably passed through your early adult years to be with her. Maybe you didn't party. Maybe you didn't join that baseball league. Maybe you didn't stay up all night playing video games 3 nights in a row without showering (I'm stretching, since I don't know the OP).

Just have some fun, and let life sort it out. The worst thing you can do right now is try to find another relationship. It won't work, and you'll be setting yourself up for some more pain.
 
My two pieces of advice that works for all problems; 1- Don't do drugs 2- Wear sunscreen ( the benfits of sunscreen have been proven by scientists unlike all my other advice which comes from my own meandering experiences)
 
[quote name='Maynard']This fucken BLOWS though. I can't explain the pain i'm feeling. I can't get warm, i tremble, i cry, i get mad, i can't eat. I literally feel like i'm dying of some disease. I feel like such a PUSSY saying all this to. God i want to hit her in the face and just say fuck YOU[/quote]
I think if you look at the history of men attempting this or something akin to this... it usually doesn't end well for you.

See the most amazing thing is how Liz was basically baiting you to flip out so she could turn around to your ex and say, "Hey see. I was right about him." That just blows my mind how subtle, twisted, and depraved that line of thinking is.

I hate drama.
 
[quote name='JimmieMac']Aren't you the cat that says he not only had a 3 way with Jenna Jameson but also owns a restaurant outside of Chicago?

Funny because you never mention any of that but I would think that that would be a big part of the story. Sure your Pop dyin' was a big deal and you pushed people away but you never mention the crazyness of opening a restaurant or the fact you had your face burried in Jenna's clam, whcih seems like it would hurt more than help your situation.[/quote] Thats kinda extreme.
I'd sure like to fuck his 'girlfriend' though, she looks nice in his avatar. ^______^
 
[quote name='blaked569']You know in Billy Madison when Chris Farley's like "That Veronica Vaughn is one piece of ASS...I know from experience dude...if you know what i mean"?

Anyway, that's what you guys all sound like giving your advice. No offense.[/QUOTE]

This might actually be the best quote in the entire thread.
 
[quote name='blaked569']You know in Billy Madison when Chris Farley's like "That Veronica Vaughn is one piece of ASS...I know from experience dude...if you know what i mean"?

Anyway, that's what you guys all sound like giving your advice. No offense.[/quote]

The ironic thing is that Maynard is actually the one who acts like that now.

He has an avatar that says "My gf is hot" with some photo pulled from god knows where.

And he's been known to interrupt discussions of videogames by pointing out that time would be better spent having sex.
 
[quote name='camoor']The ironic thing is that Maynard is actually the one who acts like that now.

He has an avatar that says "My gf is hot" with some photo pulled from god knows where.

And he's been known to interrupt discussions of videogames by pointing out that time would be better spent having sex.[/QUOTE]

Also he has a picture of Moby in his sig.
 
[quote name='Strell']Also he has a picture of Moby in his sig.[/quote]

Or at least Maynard doing his best Moby impression.
 
After reading only pages 1, 6, and 7, the title should be changed to:

"My 6 1/2 year relationship has ended."

It's not sure if the OP subscribed to his own thread or cares much about it anymore.
 
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