I'm not living life to the fullest...

[quote name='PhrostByte']Is it my turn to complain?

I'm 18, 19 in April. I broke up with my girlfriend, I know some of you that have seen my other posts might say "You've broken up with her 1,000 times already, it'll be fine." But I think it's for real this time. "You always say that." We aren't even talking.. She blocked my AIM screen name and I don't want to call her. I miss her a lot but I know it's for the best. We're not right for each other.

I start my second semester at UMBC tomorrow. I have yet to declare a major. My first semester grades were A (English 100A), B (Philosophy 101), B (Russian 101), and C (Math 106). I told my guidance counselor about my eBay business (which I haven't really be doing at all recently cuz I have a job now) and she told me I might be interested in Business management or something like that. eh.. I dunno. I have no clue what I want to do in life. All my life my parents and teachers have always told me that I'm very bright I just need to actually apply myself. I've never studied.. ever.. And I rarely ever did homework. When I started college, I started doing a little bit of homework and I managed to get decent grades. But I feel lost... I have no idea what I want to do with my life.

I work at an Applebee's in Baltimore City. I'm the only white guy there. I really like my job. I'm a carry-out specialist but I've been there a while so I have many responsibilities now. I prepare, cook food, and make sure it finds it's owner (expo'ing). I might be switched over to kitchen (cook/prep) soon. I was thinking maybe I can get a business degree and then eventually buy the franchise... I have some ideas that I think will improve the place.

I really don't know... I've been so depressed lately it just sucks... and I miss Hannah :([/quote]

Sounds like most of your confusion is coming as an aftershock to your relationship's end. Just give it time.
 
[quote name='Scorch']Yep. I'm being a bum, completely, for a few weeks, and i'm enjoying it. I need a job ASAP though. My body's actually on third shift. I thought i'd try something new. I sleep during the day and am up at night. I don't really like it much, though, having breakfast at 6pm is odd.[/quote]

Fixed! No longer a late night CAG.

That's kinda sad :(
 
[quote name='Scorch'][quote name='Scorch']Yep. I'm being a bum, completely, for a few weeks, and i'm enjoying it. I need a job ASAP though. My body's actually on third shift. I thought i'd try something new. I sleep during the day and am up at night. I don't really like it much, though, having breakfast at 6pm is odd.[/quote]

Fixed! No longer a late night CAG.

That's kinda sad :([/quote]

Yeah, right when I got out of high school, with no job, I used to be the same way.
 
[quote name='Moxio'][quote name='PhrostByte']Is it my turn to complain?

I'm 18, 19 in April. I broke up with my girlfriend, I know some of you that have seen my other posts might say "You've broken up with her 1,000 times already, it'll be fine." But I think it's for real this time. "You always say that." We aren't even talking.. She blocked my AIM screen name and I don't want to call her. I miss her a lot but I know it's for the best. We're not right for each other.

I start my second semester at UMBC tomorrow. I have yet to declare a major. My first semester grades were A (English 100A), B (Philosophy 101), B (Russian 101), and C (Math 106). I told my guidance counselor about my eBay business (which I haven't really be doing at all recently cuz I have a job now) and she told me I might be interested in Business management or something like that. eh.. I dunno. I have no clue what I want to do in life. All my life my parents and teachers have always told me that I'm very bright I just need to actually apply myself. I've never studied.. ever.. And I rarely ever did homework. When I started college, I started doing a little bit of homework and I managed to get decent grades. But I feel lost... I have no idea what I want to do with my life.

I work at an Applebee's in Baltimore City. I'm the only white guy there. I really like my job. I'm a carry-out specialist but I've been there a while so I have many responsibilities now. I prepare, cook food, and make sure it finds it's owner (expo'ing). I might be switched over to kitchen (cook/prep) soon. I was thinking maybe I can get a business degree and then eventually buy the franchise... I have some ideas that I think will improve the place.

I really don't know... I've been so depressed lately it just sucks... and I miss Hannah :([/quote]

Sounds like most of your confusion is coming as an aftershock to your relationship's end. Just give it time.[/quote]

No.. that's not it.. I've broken up with her a million times. At first it was devastating.. but now I can manage. I do miss her though. I've felt this way forever. I just have no plan. I wouldn't even be going to college if my parents weren't paying for it.
 
[quote name='PhrostByte'][quote name='Moxio'][quote name='PhrostByte']Is it my turn to complain?

I'm 18, 19 in April. I broke up with my girlfriend, I know some of you that have seen my other posts might say "You've broken up with her 1,000 times already, it'll be fine." But I think it's for real this time. "You always say that." We aren't even talking.. She blocked my AIM screen name and I don't want to call her. I miss her a lot but I know it's for the best. We're not right for each other.

I start my second semester at UMBC tomorrow. I have yet to declare a major. My first semester grades were A (English 100A), B (Philosophy 101), B (Russian 101), and C (Math 106). I told my guidance counselor about my eBay business (which I haven't really be doing at all recently cuz I have a job now) and she told me I might be interested in Business management or something like that. eh.. I dunno. I have no clue what I want to do in life. All my life my parents and teachers have always told me that I'm very bright I just need to actually apply myself. I've never studied.. ever.. And I rarely ever did homework. When I started college, I started doing a little bit of homework and I managed to get decent grades. But I feel lost... I have no idea what I want to do with my life.

I work at an Applebee's in Baltimore City. I'm the only white guy there. I really like my job. I'm a carry-out specialist but I've been there a while so I have many responsibilities now. I prepare, cook food, and make sure it finds it's owner (expo'ing). I might be switched over to kitchen (cook/prep) soon. I was thinking maybe I can get a business degree and then eventually buy the franchise... I have some ideas that I think will improve the place.

I really don't know... I've been so depressed lately it just sucks... and I miss Hannah :([/quote]

Sounds like most of your confusion is coming as an aftershock to your relationship's end. Just give it time.[/quote]

No.. that's not it.. I've broken up with her a million times. At first it was devastating.. but now I can manage. I do miss her though. I've felt this way forever. I just have no plan. I wouldn't even be going to college if my parents weren't paying for it.[/quote]

I see. Well, hey, still give your relationship some space. Your GF might be missing you more than you miss her... blocking you on AIM could just mean she doesn't know what she wants yet.

Ebay huh? Well, if you like auctioning, etc. and doing that business stuff, than hey, why not go for it? If your parents are paying your way through college, you don't sound like you're super poor and it's all or nothing.
 
[quote name='PhrostByte']Yea dude... I dunno.. nothing interests me.. I'm thinking of maybe becoming a teacher or a professor.. I really just don't know :([/quote]

Hey, it's okay. Hell, I'm 22, and I still don't know if my current job is to be my career.
 
[quote name='PhrostByte']Would you be interested in world domination? I'm thinking of that route as a backup plan...[/quote]

:rofl: Unfortunately, it's not that easy. But hey, if you dream of being a tyrant, go for it.

Just please give me a seat of power in your new world. ;)
 
[quote name='Moxio'][quote name='PhrostByte']Would you be interested in world domination? I'm thinking of that route as a backup plan...[/quote]

:rofl: Unfortunately, it's not that easy. But hey, if you dream of being a tyrant, go for it.

Just please give me a seat of power in your new world. ;)[/quote]

All who oppose the mighty Phrost shall perish muhahahhaa :twisted:
 
and I can't do a thing about it. I really feel stuck. I don't really like my job but I can't try something else because there are bills to pay and responsibilities at home to worry about.

What kind of responsibilities? Kids? Wife?
It would probably be best to discuss this with them.
Most family is very understanding in matters like this, and you want to include them in this discussion as soon as possible so that you don't start fostering resentment towards them.

Has this feeling been constant since you first talked about it (almost a year ago) or has it come and gone?


I only have free time on the weekends but usually that is spent running errands and preparing for the upcoming work week. I hate wishing away 5/7ths of my life. The funny thing is that I don't even know what I'd rather be doing. I don't think I am adjusting well to life outside of school... anyone else know where I'm coming from?

Yes. Give it time though. Don't be too rash.
You've a long life ahead of you, and a long career.
Unless it is that unbearable for you, I'd give it about 5 years. If you still despise what you're doing by then, it's unlikely that you'll develop a love for it down the road.

During that time, examine your options, and make sure you keep your loved ones in the loop. As you're obviously feeling, money isn't everything. But, you have to realize what you're going to end up going too... for most people around your age, 50-60 thousand a year is good pay (more in New York due to cost of living)...
That's going to require a significant lifestyle change on your part.
Consider that in your analysis of the situation.

It must be difficult for you, and you really still seem to be struggling with it. It's really a shame, but I really think the best thing you can do is to look deeply at your situation, and discuss it with your family.
Don't do anything too rash, and at least try to get 5 years in. If you could at least do that, you could ease your way back into a similar job if you do end up taking a hiatus and trying your fortunes at something else.
 
[quote name='xenoman80']after i finish high school i wanna backpack travel through the world. 1st stop japan. i know it sounds stupid. heres the plan i work for a year save up any little money i get, buy a passport hit japan 1st then so where i go from there. ill also buy a gps system. i havnt worked out all the cinks to plan but i bet id be a hell of an adventure.
im ready to be flamed for this but hell you can through in a few tips or ideas while your add it huh?[/quote]

You might wanna check out the JET program. 1 year in Japan teaching kids English (no Japanese necessary). Government funded program. Google it. Its what I plan on doing.
 
I also feel like I'm not living life to the fullest. Every day that goes by, I thank God for allowing me to live, because I know that I don't deserve to. I honestly feel like I'm not a very good person. I strive to be, but it's very difficult to do.

I've been given the gift of life and I feel like I am wasting it. I have no idea where to go or what to do. However, I know that since I'm alive, I'm here for a reason. Now, I've just got to find that reason...
 
I have the same feeling as well. I graduated one year ago with a degree in Computer Information Technology, and although I have applied to a few different companies already, I feel like I don't even want to work in the computer industry anymore, and I haven't even entered it! My current job isn't the best out there, and I do know eventually will have to get an IT job soon. I don't have many big bills to pay, other than a couple student loans, internet, and cell phone, but with a new car purchase in a week or so, I gotta step up my job search.
 
I know a lot of people who complain about a lack of free time. The funny thing is, when I ask them what they are busy doing (besides work) it is unnecessary crap that they feel obligated to do. You don't really have to visit family every weekend. Your kid doesn't have to be active in after school activities every night of the week. You don't have to do a lot of the shit you do. Reassess which of those things really have value to you and trim some of the fat. You'll feel a lot better about yourself if you take a little time to read a book or go away for the weekend occasionally instead of becoming a slave to routine.
 
[quote name='"JSweeney"']
Yes. Give it time though. Don't be too rash.
You've a long life ahead of you, and a long career.
Unless it is that unbearable for you, I'd give it about 5 years. If you still despise what you're doing by then, it's unlikely that you'll develop a love for it down the road.

During that time, examine your options, and make sure you keep your loved ones in the loop. As you're obviously feeling, money isn't everything. But, you have to realize what you're going to end up going too... for most people around your age, 50-60 thousand a year is good pay (more in New York due to cost of living)...
That's going to require a significant lifestyle change on your part.
Consider that in your analysis of the situation.

It must be difficult for you, and you really still seem to be struggling with it. It's really a shame, but I really think the best thing you can do is to look deeply at your situation, and discuss it with your family.
Don't do anything too rash, and at least try to get 5 years in. If you could at least do that, you could ease your way back into a similar job if you do end up taking a hiatus and trying your fortunes at something else.[/quote]

Good advice as usual, JSweeney.
 
I just read everybody else's depressing life story so here is mine :) I'm 24 recently out of college with a music major, computer science minor. For the last year and a half I've focused most of my energy on a company which I've grown from nothing to something that has a great team of people behind it, although it's still in need of funding. I used to be very passionate about it, lately I've been in a slump.

I'm currently living with my parents and most of my college friends have moved away for school or back home, so I don't know anybody here. I don't know what it is, because not too long ago I was very amped about starting this company and really changing the world in some ways, but now I feel very apathetic. There's other industries that I want to make a difference in, but right now I just don't feel like doing anything. I guess I feel stuck also.
 
I guess we all have some kind of story that sucks.

what depresses me the most about the world nowadays is how we all almost live the same life, with the same problems, and as soon as i become that, i fear.

What do we work for? What if this is the only life we live? or theres no god? Challenge the thought of no existence at all after living, then what was working all for. To eat, to survive, to work more, and end.

No wonder so many people kill themselves or go crazy.
 
I'm not really surprised that so many people feel this way. Everybody is so obsessed with wealth and material possessions that everything else is ignored. Slow things down. Work fewer hours. Don't worry about the bling. You don't need an HDTV. You don't need an Escalade. As far as I'm concerned, I'd rather work 35-40 hours a week and drive a Civic. That way I can enjoy all that live has to offer instead of being chained to a desk wishing I could have some free time. Other countries are much more sensible about this sort of things. Americans are the idiots who work 80 hours a week and hate life.
 
[quote name='Machine']Don't worry about the bling. You don't need an HDTV.[/quote]

I know people younger than me who own HDTVs. I want one, but I don't want one nearly bad enough to pay $1000+ for one glorified tv set. I'm sure I'll buy one eventually, but I'm going to wait until the whole medium is a big more established and the asking prices a bit more reasonable. Owning an HDTV today would be nice, but that's a luxury I can't really justify for the price right now.
 
[quote name='Machine']I'm not really surprised that so many people feel this way. Everybody is so obsessed with wealth and material possessions that everything else is ignored. Slow things down. Work fewer hours. Don't worry about the bling. You don't need an HDTV. You don't need an Escalade. As far as I'm concerned, I'd rather work 35-40 hours a week and drive a Civic. That way I can enjoy all that live has to offer instead of being chained to a desk wishing I could have some free time. Other countries are much more sensible about this sort of things. Americans are the idiots who work 80 hours a week and hate life.[/quote]

I am 25 and this is so true its not even funny. What saddens me is the people that havent realized it or the people that are 45+ and are just figuring this out. They have given up a nice chunk of their lives and cannot ever get it back. And for what?

I mean we do have to be responsible and its nice to take care of the kids tuition or be there to buy their first car or some other such thing. Its not necessary to do it but its nice. The thing that gets me are a few people I work with that make $250K+ and have absolutely no life and maybe a few fake or "public" friendships. They have worked for 25+ years in this line of work, have accumulated lots of money and have nothing to spend it on, and no time even if they did.

There is not one person I have ever witnessed pass or talked to about it that didnt wish for more quality time and so many of us have wasted it.
 
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