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[quote name='metaphysicalstyles']She handed me a small gift bag... which contained one pack of mauve post-it notes.[/QUOTE]

you can never really see eye to eye with a brother in law who wanted to kill you at some point in our relationship....even when we had a dinner to air out all our issues...he was real sorry and embarrassed
but you can never look at that person the same....not that im afraid he's gonna kill me or anything like (even tho i still think about it)...its a hard feeling to explain....i understood how everything went down (at the time)....and i probably would of felt the same way he did...plus it felt really weird staying at his house with his wife and kids and with my wife and kid...i guess i've lost that respect with him
 
Not technically in-laws yet (only engaged right now), but I get along with her parents pretty well. For me things are more awkward than they are painful or sad, mostly just because I share about nothing in common with them so after spending about 15 mins or so with them I officially run out of interesting things to really talk about.
 
[quote name='aleraiders']you can never really see eye to eye with a brother in law who wanted to kill you at some point in our relationship....even when we had a dinner to air out all our issues...he was real sorry and embarrassed
but you can never look at that person the same....not that im afraid he's gonna kill me or anything like (even tho i still think about it)...its a hard feeling to explain....i understood how everything went down (at the time)....and i probably would of felt the same way he did...plus it felt really weird staying at his house with his wife and kids and with my wife and kid...i guess i've lost that respect with him[/QUOTE]


i get you theres some lines once crossed you cant uncross. they always say forgive and forget forgiveness is easy enough at times but depending on what was done or said its damn near impossible to forget.
 
[quote name='Rodimus']You don't deprive your child a relationship with their grandparents just because you don't get along with them. That's just stooping to their level by acting self-centered. Unless your in-laws are clearing becoming a bad influence on your child, this tactic should not be considered.[/QUOTE]

I have yet to withhold my child from her grandparents, but I certainly don't want my mother-in-law's condescending demeanor to rub off on my very impressionable two-year-old. Last thing I need is a passive-aggressive toddler.

Speaking of the devil, Easter gifts arrived in the mail last week. Lo and behold, there were gifts for the wife and kid, but nothing for me. Box was addressed to my wife and child only (and she misspelled my daughter's name).

For my own amusement, I think I'm going to take the "kill'em with kindness" approach from here on out.
 
I agree with those who say you wouldn't want your in-laws behaviors/attitude to rub off on your child. For me, it's likely to be my own mother's constant unnecessary swearing. If God blesses my fiancée and I with children, I hope my mother can refrain from swearing around our children.

She uses profanity every single day; most of the swear words I learned from her and would go and teach the other kids in school. Whenever I bring that up today she brushes it off and calls me a liar, claiming I learned it from tv...the thing is tv doesn't air the dirty words I learned from her :lol:
 
[quote name='metaphysicalstyles']early on, i was the perfect prospective son-in-law. I dealt with her quirky disposition, and just marked it up to a flawed personality. I personally don't think she's necessarily "all there," but she has a prominent position in the school system as a post secondary teacher and coordinator of the gifted and talented program in her county. Utterly frightening.

I finally had enough of her fuck at our wedding rehearsal dinner. Terrible time to reach a breaking point, but i had no other choice... As her daughter was absolutely heartbroken by her actions. She refused to sit at the table with us and the rest of our wedding party. Then, near the end of the dinner, she made her way around to each member of the dinner party seated at the large table and individually introduced herself... Even though we had introduced her to everyone at the beginning of the dinner. I lost it after she addressed my parents (who were footing the bill) by saying, "i'm so very glad you were able to make it." i stood up from my chair, and said "wtf is wrong with you beth? Get the fuck out." she followed my command, mouth agape as if she was oblivious to her actions, and as she exited, several of the wedding party members (including her son) clapped. Her son also chimed in with "that was awesome!"

i'm not sure what it is about her. Why she dislikes me so much... But it's been that way since day one. Perhaps it's because my employment is considered sub-par compared to her daughter... My wife is a physician, and i'm a lowly it/tech support specialist.

We've had a handful of "heated" conversations since that day. Basically because i refuse to be disrespected. But instead of using vulgarity, or raising my voice as i did at the wedding rehearsal dinner, i simply reply with excessive amounts of sarcasm. Like the whole kiwi comment. She asked if i had ever seen a kiwi, and if they have them where i'm from. I simply replied, "never in my life... We only eat bark where i'm from."

we live nearly three hours away from her (thankfully), and she rarely visits. But when she does, she usually brings gifts for the wife, kid and i. Personally, i don't expect or want a damn thing from her. The last time she visited, she brought my wife two bcbg dresses and a pair of designer shoes. My daughter received a pair of toddler-height raggedy anne and andy dolls, three dresses, a pair of shoes, and a custom t-shirt from obx. She handed me a small gift bag... Which contained one pack of mauve post-it notes.

No joke.

Then her dog crapped on my carpet, and i insisted that the beast live outside for the remainder of her visit.[/quote]

wow! 😳
 
[quote name='2DMention']Reading this thread makes me glad I'm not married.[/QUOTE]

That's the whole point of this thread :)
 
[quote name='metaphysicalstyles']For my own amusement, I think I'm going to take the "kill'em with kindness" approach from here on out.[/QUOTE]

you know i was thinking the same thing....have some fun with it....use those dam post it notes, telescope, and even thank her for your easter gift you didnt receive...

@gabolous...sometimes i do think if this shit just happens to me.... ive come to understand that this drama is what defines each and everyone of us....if my wife didnt get kicked out that night she did...who knows if we would of still been together...that event brought us real close...and now i have a 4yr old son and one on the way

i guess i look at the glass half full...
 
The timing of this thread is excellent. Thank Jebus I have a place to vent my frustrations. :applause:

The mother-in-law left a message on my wife's phone yesterday, which my wife allowed me to hear. In the message, which was on my wife's iPhone and directed solely to her, she referred to me as Jonathan.

Jonathan happens to be the last ex prior to my wife and I meeting. This also marks the first time that I have been referred to as Jonathan. I'm absolutely perplexed by the mother-in-law's intentions. Does she do it to irritate me? To remind my wife of her previous suitors? Or just because she's bat-shit crazy?
 
I don't mean to sound like I'm getting pleasure from your misery but your situation fascinates me. Has your wife approached her about her behavior?
 
[quote name='metaphysicalstyles']The timing of this thread is excellent. Thank Jebus I have a place to vent my frustrations. :applause:

The mother-in-law left a message on my wife's phone yesterday, which my wife allowed me to hear. In the message, which was on my wife's iPhone and directed solely to her, she referred to me as Jonathan.

Jonathan happens to be the last ex prior to my wife and I meeting. This also marks the first time that I have been referred to as Jonathan. I'm absolutely perplexed by the mother-in-law's intentions. Does she do it to irritate me? To remind my wife of her previous suitors? Or just because she's bat-shit crazy?[/QUOTE]

This is when you call up ol' Cee-Lo Green and have him come over.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cR2_FX3poA

Thread needs more attitudes like this.
 
Guys...

I've been harassed by my ex's current boyfriend five times since January 21st, and I have it documented 8 times that I've told him to stop. I filed a protection from harassment order against him and my court hearing was today.

He lied under oath and claimed multiple things that weren't true, and I had to provide evidence contrary to what he said. As the plaintiff? Shouldn't the defendant have to prove he didn't do these things? The judge took all of his hearsay into account and didn't call in any of the witnesses because he was in a hurry. It's actually on record that he wanted to get it over with quickly because he had something to do. He told me he would only accept two of the five times as means of harassment, when they all were. He also dismissed the fact that this kid called me and texted me on two different cell phones, as well as e-mailed me and registered for an account solely to contact me and threaten me. Not only is that harassment, but at that point it's also stalking. He has ADHD, is bipolar, and has Seasonal Affection Disorder, which he claimed is NOT depression. My ex told me this.

I don't feel that the judge took all of the evidence into account as he had a meeting with DA officers that he was late for. This kid is 18 and mentally unstable, and he admitted to doing these things to me and apologized for them. I feel like the judge was a little bias because of this, too. And he basically said this kid was contacting me out of jealousy.

This is what was written to me that prompted the protection order:

I'm not Bipolar but much worse! I am a schizophrenic psycho!!! Do you wanna find out how much so? If so come to my dorm room and "Kill me" like you said you were gonna do! By the way I have many friends who are much bigger than you..but yours friends are also mine! And who is fucking Enica now? o ya that's right I am and she loves it!!! She says you don't measure up to me in any way at all...lol The time she told you to stop is when she got bored with it because you never thought of her pleasure. By the way when she blows me her mouth barely fits around me and she swallows!!! lol Give it up you are no longer in her life so get lost!!!

Would you guys really stand for something like this? I mean, this kid is free to contact me whenever he wants. He's already agreed to stop talking to me before, three times, and that hasn't helped at all. This isn't justice, in my opinion. Are there any legal actions I can take and hopefully get a judge who isn't in a hurry?
 
Typically when you're the one asserting something in court as a plaintiff (i.e., "he's stalking me") the burden typically falls on the moving party, the one bringing the court action. This really depends on the statute which creates the protection order but at a basic level it falls on you, as the plaintiff, to prove your allegations in court.

Also, things like hearsay, even if they are blatantly hearsay, fall on the opposing counsel to raise an objection to not the judge. The judge is a neutral party and it isn't their responsibility to raise questions of evidence admissibility. My advice would be that if you are serious about getting a judicial restraining order against this guy, hire a lawyer. You might have to pay a bit for it but at least then you aren't going to have to worry about going in completely blind.
 
[quote name='Blade']Guys...

I've been harassed by my ex's current boyfriend five times since January 21st, and I have it documented 8 times that I've told him to stop. I filed a protection from harassment order against him and my court hearing was today.

He lied under oath and claimed multiple things that weren't true, and I had to provide evidence contrary to what he said. As the plaintiff? Shouldn't the defendant have to prove he didn't do these things? The judge took all of his hearsay into account and didn't call in any of the witnesses because he was in a hurry. It's actually on record that he wanted to get it over with quickly because he had something to do. He told me he would only accept two of the five times as means of harassment, when they all were. He also dismissed the fact that this kid called me and texted me on two different cell phones, as well as e-mailed me and registered for an account solely to contact me and threaten me. Not only is that harassment, but at that point it's also stalking. He has ADHD, is bipolar, and has Seasonal Affection Disorder, which he claimed is NOT depression. My ex told me this.

I don't feel that the judge took all of the evidence into account as he had a meeting with DA officers that he was late for. This kid is 18 and mentally unstable, and he admitted to doing these things to me and apologized for them. I feel like the judge was a little bias because of this, too. And he basically said this kid was contacting me out of jealousy.

This is what was written to me that prompted the protection order:



Would you guys really stand for something like this? I mean, this kid is free to contact me whenever he wants. He's already agreed to stop talking to me before, three times, and that hasn't helped at all. This isn't justice, in my opinion. Are there any legal actions I can take and hopefully get a judge who isn't in a hurry?[/QUOTE]

It's hard to judge the situation based on the info you've provided. I'm not saying you're wrong or you're lying or anything, but this is only one side of it.

If you really want this taken care of, you're going to have to hire a lawyer if you can't get it done on your own. That's really the bottom line here. Obviously that costs money. A lawyer should be able to find some other stuff sue him over other than trying to get this protective order.

Why is your ex's current BF harassing you? Are you still in contact with her? If so it sounds like it would be wise just to let her go completely. Are you responding to these threats? If so you should probably stop. He's going to get bored eventually if you don't respond.

If you're going to keep flying solo on this, ask the court what the appeal process is for this one judge's ruling. Then appeal it. That's really all you can do at this point.

...Other than killing him, which he alleges you threatened to in that quote.
 
[quote name='metaphysicalstyles']The timing of this thread is excellent. Thank Jebus I have a place to vent my frustrations. :applause:

The mother-in-law left a message on my wife's phone yesterday, which my wife allowed me to hear. In the message, which was on my wife's iPhone and directed solely to her, she referred to me as Jonathan.

Jonathan happens to be the last ex prior to my wife and I meeting. This also marks the first time that I have been referred to as Jonathan. I'm absolutely perplexed by the mother-in-law's intentions. Does she do it to irritate me? To remind my wife of her previous suitors? Or just because she's bat-shit crazy?[/QUOTE]

she is just being cruel....trust me my mom cant remember all the girl's names that i've dated (not that im saying i've dated alot of girls) anyways....so she is purposely doing this to drive you off a cliff for whatever reason...the name calling, the wierd gifts, and what not... is just something you have to confront or play along with it/have some fun with it....she is trying to piss you off...so showing her that it doesnt bother you gives her less power everytime you respond....



these past couple weeks has been a real drain on my bank account...first my aunt recently needed an urgent kidney surgery which our entire family gathered about 15K.....

last week my grandfather died and we needed to send some more money to cover all funeral costs, medical bills, wake services, church services, travel costs....

this week my mother in law needed some money to help for a trip she needed to take


how about anyone else?? how is money treated...as a loan?? as a gift??

personally this year has been a good year for me....and its a gift and a curse....im not saying im rich...but i've saved a good bit this year but the curse is that i have about half of that due to recent events....now i realise that helping family is a good thing but different hands keep asking for some
 
[quote name='Blade']Guys...

I've been harassed by my ex's current boyfriend five times since January 21st, and I have it documented 8 times that I've told him to stop. I filed a protection from harassment order against him and my court hearing was today.

He lied under oath and claimed multiple things that weren't true, and I had to provide evidence contrary to what he said. As the plaintiff? Shouldn't the defendant have to prove he didn't do these things? The judge took all of his hearsay into account and didn't call in any of the witnesses because he was in a hurry. It's actually on record that he wanted to get it over with quickly because he had something to do. He told me he would only accept two of the five times as means of harassment, when they all were. He also dismissed the fact that this kid called me and texted me on two different cell phones, as well as e-mailed me and registered for an account solely to contact me and threaten me. Not only is that harassment, but at that point it's also stalking. He has ADHD, is bipolar, and has Seasonal Affection Disorder, which he claimed is NOT depression. My ex told me this.

I don't feel that the judge took all of the evidence into account as he had a meeting with DA officers that he was late for. This kid is 18 and mentally unstable, and he admitted to doing these things to me and apologized for them. I feel like the judge was a little bias because of this, too. And he basically said this kid was contacting me out of jealousy.

This is what was written to me that prompted the protection order:



Would you guys really stand for something like this? I mean, this kid is free to contact me whenever he wants. He's already agreed to stop talking to me before, three times, and that hasn't helped at all. This isn't justice, in my opinion. Are there any legal actions I can take and hopefully get a judge who isn't in a hurry?[/QUOTE]

dealing with crazy people can be tricky because you dont know exactly how crazy they are. my guess is the ex is playing with that kids head so he feels like he has to come at you.

a part of me says kick his ass and let him know theres more where that came from but that will only escalate shit but it would feel good. best thing is to report him to police keep records of all texts , phone calls and any other shit he does and then get a restraining order on him. same thing for your ex since im sure shes egging him on.
 
[quote name='kodave']It's hard to judge the situation based on the info you've provided. I'm not saying you're wrong or you're lying or anything, but this is only one side of it.

If you really want this taken care of, you're going to have to hire a lawyer if you can't get it done on your own. That's really the bottom line here. Obviously that costs money. A lawyer should be able to find some other stuff sue him over other than trying to get this protective order.

Why is your ex's current BF harassing you? Are you still in contact with her? If so it sounds like it would be wise just to let her go completely. Are you responding to these threats? If so you should probably stop. He's going to get bored eventually if you don't respond.

If you're going to keep flying solo on this, ask the court what the appeal process is for this one judge's ruling. Then appeal it. That's really all you can do at this point.

...Other than killing him, which he alleges you threatened to in that quote.[/QUOTE]

He's lying. He lied under oath several times, and the judge silenced my objections. He also told the judge that he isn't bipolar. I have a written statement provided by my then-girlfriend where he states he is bipolar, along with his other problems. He had to write an appeal to a college board because he was academically dismissed. This kid is getting special treatment by stating these "conditions." And a rushed judge who doesn't want to give a mentally unstable 18-year-old any problems is ridiculous. The judge didn't bother with my evidence, and he didn't bother with any of the witnesses.

I honestly don't see why I actually lost this case. I avoided him whenever I saw him in person. He tried contacting me on Facebook, so I blocked him. Then he called me and texted me, and I ignored those. A few weeks later, he tries calling me again so I put my phone on "Restricted." He can't get through to me there, so he finds my e-mail address and sends me an insulting e-mail. Then a week after that, the g/f is still talking to me and he sends me three more texts and calls me twice. I answered the second time and told him to stop harassing me. Then the next week, he sends me more threatening texts ON A NEW PHONE NUMBER and I repeatedly respond with "STOP TALKING TO ME. I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU." And this texting goes on for an hour. Then three weeks after that, he registers to a website to call me pathetic, then I respond saying he's a pathetic, mentally unstable asshole and he needs to stop contacting me or I will call the police, and he sends me the message I quoted earlier. He also threatened to talk to the police about ME.

Honestly, how is he not harassing me? Really? That's not considered harassment? How about stalking? I have a friend who is a lawyer.

Also, he's incredibly ugly. I used to attend the same college, and nobody I know even likes him because he's an asshole to people. He's also 5'7" and about 120 lbs. A friend of mine showed me this picture of him when he was 15-16, which is apparently the only picture he has:

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[quote name='lokizz']a part of me says kick his ass and let him know theres more where that came from but that will only escalate shit but it would feel good. best thing is to report him to police keep records of all texts , phone calls and any other shit he does and then get a restraining order on him. same thing for your ex since im sure shes egging him on.[/QUOTE]

I would feel too bad. I would utterly destroy him. He knows that. He only calls and texts me and threatens to have his friends beat me up online, although he has no friends anyway. And yes, she is egging him on. She's got horrible character. Anyone of you guys would dump her in about one month. Nobody would ever want to date either of them.
 
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[quote name='Blade']He's lying. He lied under oath several times, and the judge silenced my objections. He also told the judge that he isn't bipolar. I have a written statement provided by my then-girlfriend where he states he is bipolar, along with his other problems. He had to write an appeal to a college board because he was academically dismissed. This kid is getting special treatment by stating these "conditions." And a rushed judge who doesn't want to give a mentally unstable 18-year-old any problems is ridiculous. The judge didn't bother with my evidence, and he didn't bother with any of the witnesses.

I honestly don't see why I actually lost this case. I avoided him whenever I saw him in person. He tried contacting me on Facebook, so I blocked him. Then he called me and texted me, and I ignored those. A few weeks later, he tries calling me again so I put my phone on "Restricted." He can't get through to me there, so he finds my e-mail address and sends me an insulting e-mail. Then a week after that, the g/f is still talking to me and he sends me three more texts and calls me twice. I answered the second time and told him to stop harassing me. Then the next week, he sends me more threatening texts ON A NEW PHONE NUMBER and I repeatedly respond with "STOP TALKING TO ME. I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU." And this texting goes on for an hour. Then three weeks after that, he registers to a website to call me pathetic, then I respond saying he's a pathetic, mentally unstable asshole and he needs to stop contacting me or I will call the police, and he sends me the message I quoted earlier. He also threatened to talk to the police about ME.

Honestly, how is he not harassing me? Really? That's not considered harassment? How about stalking? I have a friend who is a lawyer.

Also, he's incredibly ugly. I used to attend the same college, and nobody I know even likes him because he's an asshole to people. He's also 5'7" and about 120 lbs. A friend of mine showed me this picture of him:

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Congrats, show the judge evidence of his ugliness in court.

Meanwhile you need to have your lawyer friend handle this or refer you to an attorney who will handle it.

Restraining orders aren't handed out lightly. A restraining order for any reason pops on all background checks and can prevent someone from owning firearms, working with children, etc. While yes, it obviously sounds like this guy shouldn't be doing any of that, a judge isn't going to hand one out unless he feels its seriously warranted.

While its suspicious your judge rushed the case on record and whatnot, around here, most judges force parties in your situation to go to a mediation session to work out an agreement. If mediation is successful it will include no contact orders and stuff like that which are basically contracts, and if either side violates it, a full legal restraining order can be filed for. If mediation is unsuccessful it will go before the judge and there's no telling what will persuade the judge.

People in these situations lie in front of judges all the time. This isn't super serious stuff so even if you have verifiable evidence that this guy perjured himself, a judge isn't going to lock him up for contempt or something.

Have you gone to the police about his harassment or filed a report with the police rather than just threaten it? That might help your cause.

Also, you mentioned about you were talking with the g/f - are you referring to your ex? If so, WHY ARE YOU STILL TALKING TO HER? If she's with this psycho she can't possibly worth your time to talk to.

But seriously, hire a lawyer otherwise nothing is going to change.
 
[quote name='kodave']Congrats, show the judge evidence of his ugliness in court.[/quote]

:lol:

[quote name='kodave']Have you gone to the police about his harassment or filed a report with the police rather than just threaten it? That might help your cause.

Also, you mentioned about you were talking with the g/f - are you referring to your ex? If so, WHY ARE YOU STILL TALKING TO HER? If she's with this psycho she can't possibly worth your time to talk to.

But seriously, hire a lawyer otherwise nothing is going to change.[/QUOTE]

I went to the police and documented everything. I sought the protection from harassment and was granted a temporary order with all the stipulations checked off, including the firearms one. The kid sought one against me in retaliation and was unsuccessful in getting one. And yes, it's the ex-girlfriend, and she was contacting me and trying to make sure things were okay between us, which she probably used as fodder to get him to harass me. I told her to leave me alone, too. He was the one threatening me with police and claimed I was stalking them, and he admitted to every instance of harassing and stalking me.

And yes, I'll get a lawyer for this.
 
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Posting photos of some dude when he was thirteen, and claiming that he's ugly is rather childish. Especially when you're trying to suggest that he's harassing you. If anything, based on the posts you've made in this thread, he seems more like the victim.

Also... what the hell does any of your posts have to do with married life? College girlfriends? Trust me... between the time you finish college and the time you get married, you will have nailed so much trim that you won't even remember this chick or her new boyfriend.

Unless you're ugly. :cool:
 
My GF and I have been dating for 6 years. My GF parents are Jewish so they will not even give me a chance because I'm Catholic and Hispanic. My GF and I broke up for couple of weeks and her parent were happy she was hanging out with a Jewish guy, even though he has been to rehab for drug addiction several times and has no career/job/degree. I on the other hand, have never done any drugs (except social drinking), scored a 99 percentile on the PCAT(pharmacy entrance exam), maintained a 3.97 throughout pharmacy school, and will start earning 113,000/year with CVS at 24 years old.
 
[quote name='Rodimus']I was imagining the guy harassing you to look a little more like my avatar. Kind of a let down...[/QUOTE]

I'm also disappointed. I expected a guy with face tats at the very least.

As for the condition of the thread, I didn't hear anything from the mother-in-law this weekend. However, the wife did mention spending an upcoming weekend at the beach house with her mother in tow. Bad news bears.
 
Mother-in-law visited this weekend. Gave me a pack of watermelon seeds for my garden that doesn't exist, and two very ripe kiwis. Overall, not a bad visit though. No name mistakes, and only a few passive-aggressive remarks. Her visit did have purpose, which is another story in itself. So I think it went as smoothly as it did because her energy was being spent running interference with my wife.
 
[quote name='metaphysicalstyles']Jonathan happens to be the last ex prior to my wife and I meeting. This also marks the first time that I have been referred to as Jonathan. I'm absolutely perplexed by the mother-in-law's intentions. Does she do it to irritate me? To remind my wife of her previous suitors? Or just because she's bat-shit crazy?[/QUOTE]

Either she really hates you or has alzheimers. My gpa had alzheimers and part of it can be remembering things from a different period. Like not being able to remember the past year, or two, or at one point he sometimes could legitimately only remember things up to the age of (whatever). He would then think he was that age.

Anyways, he would often call us the wrong names. It wasn't out of spite.
 
Oh no, big weekend approaching, stuck for a whole day with the inlaw pack for a little sister-in-laws 10th or so Bday on boat rides around San Diego!!!
 
[quote name='Chuck Stank']Most of my in-laws are pieces of shits. Especially my father-in-law.[/QUOTE]

Please elaborate....
 
I've only been with my girlfriend for a little over a year but so far I get along well with her parents. Hopefully this continues as my girlfriend and I plan to move in together early next year and I'll probably pop the question sometime after that.
 
and metaphysicalstyles, how does your wife view your mother in law's treatment of you? I know that if my parents or my girlfriend's parents exhibited that sort of behavior they would not be welcome in my home.
 
My mother in-law is amazingly sweet, my father-in-law is an idiot with a short fuse, but he does try to be nice most of the time.
 
i haven't experienced it but i know how you feel. my brother is on the same situation as yours and he always tell me that his inlaws are OC to death. XD
 
Well I found out two things this week... One my fiancee grand mother just passed away and my friend posted that her husband of nearly 2 months just died of a heart attack 2 days ago...wow just wow....
 
[quote name='GamerDude316']and metaphysicalstyles, how does your wife view your mother in law's treatment of you? I know that if my parents or my girlfriend's parents exhibited that sort of behavior they would not be welcome in my home.[/QUOTE]

The wife doesn't approve of her behavior, by any means. Whenever I complain about it, the wife comes back with "well, she's my mom." I understand, as I can't expect her to turn her back to her mom. But it would be nice if she actually sat down with her and talked about it.

Not sure if I mentioned it before, but lately the mother-in-law has been asking me a bunch of questions about West Virginia. She insists that I grew up in WV, which I did not. Nothing wrong with West Virginia (well... certain parts can be frightening), but I don't understand how you can confuse Maryland with West Virginia. They border one another, and that's about it. No similarity in name.

Friday is our daughter's 3rd birthday, and the entire family is coming to our house to celebrate. That means the mother-in-law, her husband, the father-in-law (her ex-husband), the daughter-in-law from the father-in-law's second marriage, my parents, brother and his girlfriend. Add to the mix the other doctor that the wife works with, her stay-at-home husband, and their SEVEN kids. Plus or minus approximately six other friends and their kids. Our house isn't huge, and it's supposed to be 100 degrees outside.

Holy shit.
 
shit that's a lot of people for a 3 year old's b-day! That's way too many people. I can understand 1 year old, or even 5 years, but not 3.

That's funny how your mother in law thinks you are from WV..
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']shit that's a lot of people for a 3 year old's b-day! That's way too many people. I can understand 1 year old, or even 5 years, but not 3.[/QUOTE]

Our daughter just turned 2 on Sunday. We had about 40-50 people at the party. That includes family, other parents and thier kids too.

My parents are getting annoying. They divorced over a year ago and can't stand each other. It can get uncomfortable during family events. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle. My dad's more bitter about it and I have to hear him bad mouth my mom all the time. I tell him I don't want to hear it but he never listens. Now when he says something bad I just don't react to it and completly ignore him. My mom's dating some guy which I just cant wrap my head around. I know she wants to talk about her bf with me but I just don't want to hear it. I never ask about him, never meet him. She seems happy which is all I care about.
 
I got lucky in the divorced parents dept. My parents divorced when I was a teen, but it was pretty amicable and they actually get on very well these days. In fact they get along far better than my wife's parents who are still married. And actually my mom really gets along with my dad's girlfriend as well. she's basically been an unofficial family member for over a decade now.
 
[quote name='Vulcan2422']Two weeks from now will be our 7 year anniversary. Any good ideas?[/QUOTE]

water balloons. oh, and sticky notes.
 
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