my girl....

[quote name='Kayden']Personally, I blame the booze. :lol:


*hic*[/quote]

Well, at least from what I got, my gf is leagues better then his. Heh.
 
[quote name='Maklershed'].... has got eyeballs in the back of her head[/quote]

She looks around and around, you know it makes you sad to see her like that?
 
i feel you man, sorry to hear about all that :(
me and mine just broke up ..on xmas eve no less! well, time heals all wounds, and if its not meant to be, its not meant to be..buck up buddy :)! everything will be ok!
 
[quote name='sarausagi']Considering how quickly relationships end in the US...it's a good thing you've been with her that long and are still relatively happy.

Here's the thing though..what you should do...isn't dump her

but TAKE YOUR INTERNSHIP, do whatever it is you want to do career wise or goal wise

If she loves you and is TRULY WORTH BEING WITH, she will UNDERSTAND YOU THE WHOLE WAY THROUGH

In the end it was your choice not to intern or do whatever it is you wanted to do, not hers, she may have been an influence but you made the choice, and you seem to be okay right now

However, next time you have a choice to make, MAKE YOUR CHOICE, if she is worth loving and worth being with, SHE WILL UNDERSTAND THE CHOICES YOU HAVE TO MAKE

If there is "real" love, then distance, or time, or circumstance, SHOULD NOT BE A REASON FOR THAT LOVE TO GROW WEAK..

If "less time" or being "further apart" is enough to weaken your relationship, then what can you expect if you ever SICK, or BROKE, or DISABLED?! What if a draft was called and you had to go serve?

See, don't just dump her without giving her a chance, you hear me

DON'T JUST DUMP HER WITHOUT GIVING HER A CHANCE

Make your choices, SEE HOW SHE REACTS, IF SHE LEAVES YOU OR CAN'T UNDERSTAND OR TREATS YOU LIKE SHIT, DUMP HER

IF SHE'S SUPPORTIVE, TRIES TO HELP, AND DOES HER BEST TO LOVE YOU THROUGH EVERYTHING YOU DO AND LIVE, THEN SHE IS WORTH BEING WITH.

I think what you need to do is watch Whisper of the Heart, they are a much younger couple, but there's a very nice message about love in it....what the girl does is especially moving

So yeah, YOU need to make YOUR CHOICE...if she can't go along with it, then she's not the right person for you.

At the same time, you would also find a way to be with her...if you can't be with her during an internship or study program, how the hell will you find a way to be with her when you have a real job?

So please..hear me out and don't immediately dump her because CAG told you to[/quote]

...best advice you will get, whether its from a CAG or anyone else...read this and take it to heart
 
[quote name='Kayden']She looks around and around, you know it makes you sad to see her like that?[/quote]

:)
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[quote name='crushtopher']...best advice you will get, whether its from a CAG or anyone else...read this and take it to heart[/quote]

He just reworded what I said on the previous page.
 
I can photoshop some pics of you with some really hot girls and we can email and snail mail them to her until she commits suicide. Then she AND your problems are gone.

Dont waste time with someone that is going to drag you down, Have fun and enjoy life with people you enjoy spending time with.
 
A friend of my husband's was in your shoes. Thought he loved the gal, married her. Well, no job was ever "right." Her boss was mean. She quit. The hours weren't good. She quit. She worked at a dry cleaners in the summer, and it was so hot she almost fainted once. She quit. Notice the pattern? It's never her, and these were crappy little jobs. She actually turned down a job at a daycare that offered to pay for her to go to school, had health benefits, and she turned it down because it was $1 an hour less than she had made MONTHS before at another job.

What happened? They married, had a kid, divorced after she became nutty. Now what does she do? She's actually had a psychiatrist deem her unfit to work, because she's depressed. Our friend has no life, because he has mostly full custody of his kid (whom he loves deeply), but to even do his job, which he's lucky to work from home, it is a hassle. The ex calls constantly saying just to come get the kiddo, because she's having some moment and she can't deal. Friend pays her alimony, child support, even though the kiddo is mostly with him, and she lives in a great place with a new car, because she also collects a government check.

Dude, get out NOW!
 
This post makes me wish i could become pregnant. I'm already batshit insane and lazy.

[quote name='browneyedgal68']A friend of my husband's was in your shoes. Thought he loved the gal, married her. Well, no job was ever "right." Her boss was mean. She quit. The hours weren't good. She quit. She worked at a dry cleaners in the summer, and it was so hot she almost fainted once. She quit. Notice the pattern? It's never her, and these were crappy little jobs. She actually turned down a job at a daycare that offered to pay for her to go to school, had health benefits, and she turned it down because it was $1 an hour less than she had made MONTHS before at another job.

What happened? They married, had a kid, divorced after she became nutty. Now what does she do? She's actually had a psychiatrist deem her unfit to work, because she's depressed. Our friend has no life, because he has mostly full custody of his kid (whom he loves deeply), but to even do his job, which he's lucky to work from home, it is a hassle. The ex calls constantly saying just to come get the kiddo, because she's having some moment and she can't deal. Friend pays her alimony, child support, even though the kiddo is mostly with him, and she lives in a great place with a new car, because she also collects a government check.

Dude, get out NOW![/quote]
 
I'm giving her until the end of the month then I'm going to tell her to call me when she can show me a paystub.
 
[quote name='Skylander7']Get the fuck rid of her.. kick her to the damned curb faster than refried beans make it through a donkey's colon.

I dated a girl for 4 years, was actually engaged to her. She dragged me down and even convinced me to take a break from college to move with her after she graduated. The real manipulative type, also had a bit of psycho in her. After being a dumbass and staying with her for 4 years, I rediscovered my ballsack and left her while she was at work (keyloggers come in handy when you don't trust a significant other). Quit my job, moved back to Alabama.

The feeling you get of getting control of your life back is priceless. Cunt punt her, ambitions are more important than somebody who wants to leech in a relationship. You could be saving yourself from a real life "Married With Children."[/QUOTE]

What type of stuff did you find out with the keylogger?
 
[quote name='Michaellvortega']I can photoshop some pics of you with some really hot girls and we can email and snail mail them to her until she commits suicide. Then she AND your problems are gone.

Dont waste time with someone that is going to drag you down, Have fun and enjoy life with people you enjoy spending time with.[/QUOTE]


the last sentence..i really wish i took that advice when it was told to me like 50x...after my break up, i felt sad, sure, but then i felt so relieved for some reason, as mean as it sounds...if things get to the point where you often think about breaking up, its definatly time..especially if you're having tons of doubts and such in a long term, cause you know what, unless something is done about it, there's no way its gonna get any better, and you my friend will be the one who has to suffer..do whats right for you ! not for anyone else :)!
 
[quote name='sarausagi']Considering how quickly relationships end in the US...it's a good thing you've been with her that long and are still relatively happy.

Here's the thing though..what you should do...isn't dump her

but TAKE YOUR INTERNSHIP, do whatever it is you want to do career wise or goal wise

If she loves you and is TRULY WORTH BEING WITH, she will UNDERSTAND YOU THE WHOLE WAY THROUGH

In the end it was your choice not to intern or do whatever it is you wanted to do, not hers, she may have been an influence but you made the choice, and you seem to be okay right now

However, next time you have a choice to make, MAKE YOUR CHOICE, if she is worth loving and worth being with, SHE WILL UNDERSTAND THE CHOICES YOU HAVE TO MAKE

If there is "real" love, then distance, or time, or circumstance, SHOULD NOT BE A REASON FOR THAT LOVE TO GROW WEAK..

If "less time" or being "further apart" is enough to weaken your relationship, then what can you expect if you ever SICK, or BROKE, or DISABLED?! What if a draft was called and you had to go serve?

See, don't just dump her without giving her a chance, you hear me

DON'T JUST DUMP HER WITHOUT GIVING HER A CHANCE

Make your choices, SEE HOW SHE REACTS, IF SHE LEAVES YOU OR CAN'T UNDERSTAND OR TREATS YOU LIKE SHIT, DUMP HER

IF SHE'S SUPPORTIVE, TRIES TO HELP, AND DOES HER BEST TO LOVE YOU THROUGH EVERYTHING YOU DO AND LIVE, THEN SHE IS WORTH BEING WITH.

I think what you need to do is watch Whisper of the Heart, they are a much younger couple, but there's a very nice message about love in it....what the girl does is especially moving

So yeah, YOU need to make YOUR CHOICE...if she can't go along with it, then she's not the right person for you.

At the same time, you would also find a way to be with her...if you can't be with her during an internship or study program, how the hell will you find a way to be with her when you have a real job?

So please..hear me out and don't immediately dump her because CAG told you to[/QUOTE]

This would be all fine and good advice except that for the past 2 years, she has shown nothing but her not giving a shit about anything. There are basically zero odds at this point that she will change. Obviously you have not been in a relationship like this or else you would know that his only option is to dump her now or face a lot of unnecessary heartache.
 
[quote name='javeryh']Give her this message: "Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You."[/quote]Or you could just mail her a letter, saying crocodiles bit off your face. Or, you could tell her 3 simple words: "I am gay"
 
[quote name='Dead of Knight']This would be all fine and good advice except that for the past 2 years, she has shown nothing but her not giving a shit about anything. There are basically zero odds at this point that she will change. Obviously you have not been in a relationship like this or else you would know that his only option is to dump her now or face a lot of unnecessary heartache.[/QUOTE]

And obviously, CAG is quick to tell anyone asking for relationship advice to immediately dump anyone. The OP's complaints seem to be reasonably easy to fix, there's nothing actually wrong with either person, just one is okay with just following the easy path and one wants to try for a little more.

How do you know what a person is capable of if you never put them to the test? The problem is he's never actually been courageous, or faithful enough, to see whether or not this girl can come through any challenge or roadblock in the way. He's taken the easy path just to not put stress or obstacles upon the relationship, and he'll never know whether the relationship is fruitful or not unless he actually puts it to test.

In the end, the truth is an internship or a job shouldn't be a roadblock for a relationship. An equally busy, active individual may seem like the "better" choice, but only superficially. It might "work out" better because both parties are equally consumed by other facets of their lives, but what is to guarantee the success of that relationship once they actually start spending a meaningful amount of time together? I know way too many succesful marriages where one person sits and waits while the other works hard. And I know way too many relationships were both "individuals" are off "living their lives" and the relationship crumbles while their busy, and then turns into a time consuming affair of bitterness and anger.

Then again, everyone in this thread

1. Doesn't really know the OP

2. Doesn't really know the OP's girlfriend

3. Can't predict the future

And I'm willing to say most people here, based on replies to relationship threads, have had more bad relationships than good ones.

So I'm out of this thread, as I'm just as clueless or ignorant of the reality of situation as everyone else.
 
[quote name='varsitygamer']the man knows what he's talking about.

don't let anyone drag you down dude, especially a girl. if you really like her, then give her an ultimatum and tell her to shape up or ship out... you're at the point where you've got to start thinking about "the real world." she apparently is not concerned with such a thing.[/quote]

When you give her that ultimatum, be prepared to have her cheat on you.
 
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