my wife left, where to go now?

[quote name='Graystone']I would not worry about the kids, the court will see that she is an alcoholic and you should get custody of the kids if that is what you are worried about. Go to a family house if you are truly worried about your safety. or just pull an eminem if you hate her.[/QUOTE]

I don't think you should be giving advice since you don't know WTF you're talking about. just my opinion - don't take it personally
 
[quote name='sblymnlcrymnl']Why would she take them if she hates them?[/QUOTE]

because bitches are ultra spiteful and they want that child support check so they can sit on their ass all day. (and yes women like this are bitches)

my friend had a kid with a girl and she wanted an abortion, but he wanted the kid. After a while, they split up and she took the kid just to be a complete bitch to him.


and if you get into a custody battle, you better be willing to fight because no matter how bad she looks they are going to want to give the kids to her. This happened to my friend, hell he had a steady job, vehicle, and had everything in his favor . She had no job or vehicle, and her mother had called CPS on her over her first kid, and she still has primary custody (my friend gets to see his kid 36 hours every two weeks)
 
I'm sorry this has happened to you man. You probably already realize this, but one of the best things to do right now is get legal advice so you can keep your children safe.

I just broke up with my fiancee. We've been together for 6 years. It's the worst thing I've ever been through. I know it sucks to hear because I've had it told to me, but it's true that everything happens for a reason. Your wife has a serious problem that she needs to face.

Best of wishes to you, your children, and your wife/ex-wife.
 
[quote name='Troopa']I'm sorry this has happened to you man. You probably already realize this, but one of the best things to do right now is get legal advice so you can keep your children safe.

I just broke up with my fiancee. We've been together for 6 years. It's the worst thing I've ever been through. I know it sucks to hear because I've had it told to me, but it's true that everything happens for a reason. Your wife has a serious problem that she needs to face.

Best of wishes to you, your children, and your wife/ex-wife.[/QUOTE]

You're lucky you weren't actually married from the sounds of it...
 
[quote name='snotknocker']I don't think you should be giving advice since you don't know WTF you're talking about. just my opinion - don't take it personally[/QUOTE]

Just cause you lost your kids does not necessarily mean that he will. I kind of know you case I think. you went in there had nothing to back you, up stop me when I am wrong. but the fact that she was a drug addict and does not care for the kids was your only defense. what did you wrong, she did everything wrong in one of your posts. I could be wrong to you could of been the greatest fathers ever and the court screwed you. then in that case you have a right to extremely pissed. and yes it is a fact that the court sides with the mother most of the time. I think it is like 60% if I remember right. like me do not take it personally snotknocker. then again there is always the eminem thing.
 
Hurry up and finalize the papers giving you full custody of the kids before she changes her mind. when she cleans herself up then you can discuss visitation, but right now you should take the small window you have and get it in writing that you get custody.
Can't helps someone who doesnt want to be helped. Only time will sort her out and hopefully she will get her act together. When your kids grow up shell realize she wants to be part of their life.

Good luck working everything out. My heart goes out to you, I know what it is like to have a messy breakup.
Dont forget the kids are the most important thing during all of this, dont let them down!
 
She probobly just needs rehab, or some sort of couples therapy, this might fix the relationship.

If she's against this and since she is an alcoholic, get some proof of her alcoholism, and hold on to it just in case it goes to court. Since she is currently pissed off and wants to give you the kids, have her right it down on paper and sign away custody, have her explain that she doesnt feel like she can care for them and if possible that she's having problems with alcohol abuse.

Good luck and I hope that everything works out for you guys.
 
[quote name='Graystone']Just cause you lost your kids does not necessarily mean that he will. I kind of know you case I think. you went in there had nothing to back you, up stop me when I am wrong. but the fact that she was a drug addict and does not care for the kids was your only defense. what did you wrong, she did everything wrong in one of your posts. I could be wrong to you could of been the greatest fathers ever and the court screwed you. then in that case you have a right to extremely pissed. and yes it is a fact that the court sides with the mother most of the time. I think it is like 60% if I remember right. like me do not take it personally snotknocker. then again there is always the eminem thing.[/QUOTE]

Actually I had tons of stuff to back, my shit turned bad when I was accused of stuff that was not true. It turns into a he said she said thing and everything must be investigated. When one batch of bullshit was found to be false another one was thrown into the mix. My initial irritation was from you telling him not to worry. For sure this guy must worry. Saying it's gonna be alright is just giving him false hope, cause the fact is, it may not be all right
 
Don't try to force her to sign anything right now - she will just explain it away in court once you bring up her alcoholism by saying that she did not have the mental capacity to know what she was signing. It's a catch 22 for sure.
 
[quote name='javeryh']Don't try to force her to sign anything right now - she will just explain it away in court once you bring up her alcoholism by saying that she did not have the mental capacity to know what she was signing. It's a catch 22 for sure.[/QUOTE]

Wouldn't that then go say she doesn't have the mental capacity to raise two kids? Or is she 'all better now?'


I hate people...
 
[quote name='Kayden']Wouldn't that then go say she doesn't have the mental capacity to raise two kids? Or is she 'all better now?'


I hate people...[/QUOTE]

Sort of ... but the likely thing would be the promise of mandatory rehab or something similar for the future or even that she doesn't have a problem at all (so she can keep the kids) but at the exact moment in time when she signed the paper they could always argue she didn't have the mental capacity because the past never changes...
 
it sounds like you are more worried about your future and your children than your wife.

in other words, you dont love her THAT much, if at all.

keep your children and move on, find a better wife. This sounded harsh and cold but is the best for you, you DONT want a alcoholic
 
First , I hope every thing works out for you. Second, lock her @$$ in a rehab ASAP. or have an invention with the family and friends to help her and you through this hard time.
And if that doesn't workm, divorce her and take the kids to another state and live happy ever after.

I really feel for you.
 
[quote name='snotknocker']Actually I had tons of stuff to back, my shit turned bad when I was accused of stuff that was not true. It turns into a he said she said thing and everything must be investigated. When one batch of bullshit was found to be false another one was thrown into the mix. My initial irritation was from you telling him not to worry. For sure this guy must worry. Saying it's gonna be alright is just giving him false hope, cause the fact is, it may not be all right[/QUOTE]


I never said it is going to be alright. I said don't worry you can worry up and down all day that ain't going to change the courts decision or the fact the his wife is hitting the sunset. What I am saying is focus on the court battle sitting at the kitchen table drinking and thinking changes nothing. And I am sorry about your situation I know it sucks.

Worrying changes nothing. I grew up with a mother that would worry about everything and anything. It never changes the situation. and worrying just makes the person worrying health decrease. stress, blood pressure, etc.
 
[quote name='uzumaki_star']First , I hope every thing works out for you. Second, lock her @$$ in a rehab ASAP. or have an invention with the family and friends to help her and you through this hard time.
And if that doesn't workm, divorce her and take the kids to another state and live happy ever after.

I really feel for you.[/QUOTE]

Sorry to make light in a somber thread but I couldn't help but laugh at the mispelling of intervention. I kept thinking that the family would create a machine to get her sobered up quick.
 
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