New living arrangements? UPDATE 9/17!

have her sign an agreement and get it notarized. since she wont be on the lease and i guess cant be have her sign some kind of agreement and let her know why youre doing it. this is one of those situations that you will need to discuss thouroughly before it becomes permanent. hope it all works out for you because moving in with someone is the ultimae test for whether the relationship will work or not.
 
[quote name='shieryda']Now, it's getting good...

I hope it works out for you, man. Keep it civil.

If she can't find a job quickly, I'd ask her to at least do most of the cleaning. She's probably going to be spending more time at the place than you are (at least during the day).[/QUOTE]

She's actually been doing nearly all the clearning/cooking. About the only chore I have to do anymore is take the garbage out (since it's usually too heavy for her on the stairs).

Granted, it's not a very large apartment, but it's nice coming home to a clean (and good smelling) place.

We're discussing the short-term job goals tonight. I'm gonna look over her resume, and help her hunt down a job. Granted, it's pretty bad in our area; I think unemployment is in the double-digits, and summer work seems to be few and far between when compared to previous years.
 
Eh, I guess it sounds good so far, OP.
I think the BEST thing to do is tell her to get a job ASAP.

But then, if she's cleaning and putting out..shit, that's worth it. I used to be in a relationship where I was like that GF of yours..all I did was clean and put out :lol:

(but when we broke up, I actually went home.)
 
Guys do the dumbest shit for women.

Dude, there are plenty others out there for you. Even the nerdiest, ugliest guy has a handful to choose from.
 
:lol:

I don't consider myself nerdy or ugly, so I'm probably just fine.

Seriously though, I haven't met anyone recently that made me feel this good. I'm at the age where I'm hopefully ready to begin settling down. The days of quick flings and parties/bars just don't really seem important to me anymore.
 
[quote name='transparent']Seriously though, I haven't met anyone recently that made me feel this good. I'm at the age where I'm hopefully ready to begin settling down. The days of quick flings and parties/bars just don't really seem important to me anymore.[/QUOTE]

... After dating a couple weeks. :rofl:
 
I dunno, if she's cleaning and putting out that doesn't sound so bad.

If she stops that or starts letting herself go, get rid double-quick style.
 
Girl cooks, cleans, and puts out? Looks like you just won the lottery. Even if it goes bad, make sure you live these days to the fullest.

You guys might make fun of him but he's got a good thing going for right now. It'll probably go to hell but let the boy have his fun now.
 
[quote name='depascal22']Girl cooks, cleans, and puts out? Looks like you just won the lottery. Even if it goes bad, make sure you live these days to the fullest.

You guys might make fun of him but he's got a good thing going for right now. It'll probably go to hell but let the boy have his fun now.[/QUOTE]

Indeed. I just wonder what the girl expects in return?:hot: OP, is she pretty down to earth, or does she like the expensive lifestyle? Are you her sugar daddy?:D
 
[quote name='Zing']Guys do the dumbest shit for women.

Dude, there are plenty others out there for you. Even the nerdiest, ugliest guy has a handful to choose from.[/QUOTE]

Based on some of my friends and their luck with women, I can pretty firmly call this empirically untrue. Then again, depending on how much you're willing to slum it there's probably a "swamp creature" out there for everyone.
 
This is some serious business. I actually read the whole thread for once.

Any interesting events that took place? Like anything out of the ordinary?

Is she hot? I don't think you answered that yet. And again, pics?

I've been living with my girlfriend for about 6 months now too. I still rent out a room at my friends place just in case she goes crazy bitch on me. I'm pretty much living a good life. She cooks, cleans, bones, and is a pretty nice chick. Very low maintenance meaning I get to spend a lot of cash on my games, electronics, and car. But of course, I'm 21, and still in college, so I suppose the situation is a little different from you and I.

Good luck to you however! From experience, once the chick get super comfortable around you, you start seeing the side of her which you never knew existed. Thankfully the girl I'm with now is a good woman and takes care of her womanly deeds just right.
 
I think she'd be a little annoyed with pics (and this thread in general). ;)

Nothing earth-shattering so far. She brought most of her stuff in. Seeing my place filled with someone else's stuff was a little overwhelming. I never have to ask her to cook, and she keeps the place extremely clean, so I'm happy.
 
[quote name='shieryda']Indeed. I just wonder what the girl expects in return?:hot: OP, is she pretty down to earth, or does she like the expensive lifestyle? Are you her sugar daddy?:D[/QUOTE]

Missed this one.

Down to Earth? Definitely. About the only things she's asked to get with my money is groceries for us. She's got enough clothes and stuff with her.

She's also into gaming and anime...and her DVD collection made my jaw-drop.

And she's already promising that half of the rent will be funded by her when she does get a job...and I didn't even have to mention it.
 
I cant wait to have a wife and kids, really. Im younger than all of you, 16, and reading threads like this is like news to me. Sure i hang out with girls now and stuff but stuff like this is serious. In high school you can get with a girl than never talk to her the next night at a party. Things are just different.
 
i highly doubt the rate of chores will keep up. I def see a slowdown to a halt the longer she is unemployed, but I am a realist so take that for what its worth.
 
Damn, am I the only optimist?

It's really impossible for any of us to gauge how she is without being the one in the relationship. Most girls that ended sour for me had really obvious signs that I chose to ignore. The good ones were easy to spot early on. If you think she's a good one, which she sounds like, all the power to you. Hell, if she had the guts to walk out of an abusive family, that's mega points right there (I've dated a doormat before, dear god nothing else could make me that angry in my life.)

Even if she's not super into you and just needs a place to stay, she's never going to forget the kindness you've shown her.

And if you guys really are complementary, enjoy the relationship.


PS - Keep us updated.
 
[quote name='LilPaintballer']I cant wait to have a wife and kids, really. Im younger than all of you, 16, and reading threads like this is like news to me. [/QUOTE]

Don't be in too much of a hurry now.
 
[quote name='LilPaintballer']I cant wait to have a wife and kids, really. Im younger than all of you, 16, and reading threads like this is like news to me. Sure i hang out with girls now and stuff but stuff like this is serious. In high school you can get with a girl than never talk to her the next night at a party. Things are just different.[/QUOTE]

This sounds like me when I was your age. I'm 23 now and fresh out of a relationship that was virtually marriage. It was great in the beginning when she didn't seem like a psycho bitch who wanted to ruin my life.

We lived together for a while, and shit was all peaches and herb until about 8 months in when she suddenly snapped. I put up with it for about 5 months before I was done for good. Moved back home, cut all ties, all that good stuff. Now a relationship is the furthest thing from my mind.

Thats my sob story that has nothing to do with anything. Point is exactly what bvharris said, don't be in a hurry to grow up. I wish I was 16 again and didn't have to worry about crap like this.
 
Wait, what? A 16 year old wants to have a wife and kids? Seriously, seek counseling. There is some sort of emotional problem.
 
Looks good so far OP, the factor that she wants to find a part time job is helpful but I hope she pays at least half the rent in the long run.
 
[quote name='Monsta Mack']Looks good so far OP, the factor that she wants to find a part time job is helpful but I hope she pays at least half the rent in the long run.[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the encouraging words.

She actually did mention last night that she hopes to be putting down half the rent soon. I am actually thankful enough to be paying an extremely small price for a great place. (Not an exaggeration; my place is great and super cheap.)

That being said, we're going to blanket the entire city this weekend so she can pick up applications.
 
UPDATE

I knew I needed to come back to this thread.

Everything is still going great. She's been living with me for a few months now. She did sign the lease about a month ago. And she found a job. They don't give her the best hours (usually 30 per week), but she's been paying her half of everything. She even gave me money for when she first moved in and was jobless.

Needless to say, it has been find and dandy.

EDIT: Oh yeah, forgot another part.

We've went up twice now on weekends to visit her family. They are very nice, and they have patched things up pretty good with her while we've been there. I think they're going to come down and visit us, and we're heading up there for Christmas.
 
[quote name='transparent']UPDATE

I knew I needed to come back to this thread.

Everything is still going great. She's been living with me for a few months now. She did sign the lease about a month ago. And she found a job. They don't give her the best hours (usually 30 per week), but she's been paying her half of everything. She even gave me money for when she first moved in and was jobless.

Needless to say, it has been find and dandy.

EDIT: Oh yeah, forgot another part.

We've went up twice now on weekends to visit her family. They are very nice, and they have patched things up pretty good with her while we've been there. I think they're going to come down and visit us, and we're heading up there for Christmas.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like a keeper.
 
[quote name='transparent']UPDATE

I knew I needed to come back to this thread.

Everything is still going great. She's been living with me for a few months now. She did sign the lease about a month ago. And she found a job. They don't give her the best hours (usually 30 per week), but she's been paying her half of everything. She even gave me money for when she first moved in and was jobless.

Needless to say, it has been find and dandy.

EDIT: Oh yeah, forgot another part.

We've went up twice now on weekends to visit her family. They are very nice, and they have patched things up pretty good with her while we've been there. I think they're going to come down and visit us, and we're heading up there for Christmas.[/QUOTE]

Great news man.
 
Goddamn Kanye meme kept on coming to my head while reading the first page.

"Yo, imma let you haters finish, but this could be one of the best relationships of all time!"

Good luck.
 
Good job dude, just shows you random people on web forums don't always give the best relationship advice.

Consider my mind well and truly blown by that.;)
 
[quote name='benjamouth']Good job dude, just shows you random people on web forums don't always give the best relationship advice.

Consider my mind well and truly blown by that.;)[/QUOTE]

The advice given by the forums was damn good. The OP was just damn lucky that when he didn't follow the advice, it worked out ok anyway.
 
[quote name='Dead of Knight']The advice given by the forums was damn good. The OP was just damn lucky that when he didn't follow the advice, it worked out ok anyway.[/QUOTE]

Yep.

And my worries would be more just the problem of living with someone you don't know--as that's a big step. And that could still blow up if the relationship doesn't pan out long term.

But it's great that things have worked out so far! Best of luck for it to stay that way.
 
People! We still have the early stages of the relationship here. Don't despair, there's plenty of time for it to derail!

Seriously, though, good luck OP. Keep us updated!
 
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