Online dating... good or terrible idea?

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Well I will start off by saying I have always been against doing this. It has always seemed like a bad idea but recently I have considered it. I recently graduated college and moved to a new city to take a job. I moved here without knowing 1 person within 4 hours of me. I found roommates on craigslist (which has worked out well). Unfortunately I have not had any luck meeting women. I work 3rd shift (4 days x 10 hrs a day) at an IT company. I go out and drink socially but meeting women at the bar isn't really all that good of an idea (if you want a relationship). Anyone used an online dating service? If so, did you have any luck or did it turn out to be a disaster?
 
Nothing wrong with it. I have a colleague at work that met his wife through an online dating site. Depending on your job, it can be tough to meet people.
 
Its how i met my GF two years ago, she looked me up, not vice versa. Its like any other type of dating, gonna be hit and miss. When it hits it can hit really good!
 
best way to meet girls: on the bus

seriously

i sit next to someone new twice a day, with few exceptions.. that's like 300 people per quarter.. i've met a lot of hot girls and awesome guys just by taking the bus. convos start pretty easily since you're going to (or coming from) the same place..
 
I've heard that normal, decent-looking dudes on Match.com can literally get a date every single night if they want. Lots of lonely ladies on there. Also saw an interesting member review of eHarmony...apparently out of his first 10 dates, 8 of them slept with him on date 1. Depends on what you're looking for, I guess. I did eHarmony for 3 months once. I thought it was a waste of money. Going out with my friends and meeting gals on my swim team has yielded much better results...but to each his own.
 
[quote name='Staind204']Well I will start off by saying I have always been against doing this. It has always seemed like a bad idea but recently I have considered it. I recently graduated college and moved to a new city to take a job. I moved here without knowing 1 person within 4 hours of me. I found roommates on craigslist (which has worked out well). Unfortunately I have not had any luck meeting women. I work 3rd shift (4 days x 10 hrs a day) at an IT company. I go out and drink socially but meeting women at the bar isn't really all that good of an idea (if you want a relationship). Anyone used an online dating service? If so, did you have any luck or did it turn out to be a disaster?[/quote]


You should read my last couple of blogs from my Match.com experience... I am about to update it sometime tomorrow with very good news... :)
 
I've considered using online dating to find a girl, but I'm still not 100% certain about it (I kind of fear some weirdo will be after me, but I haven't looked into it much).
 
My opinion is that it expands your range of someone you wouldn't meet during the course of your normal day to day goings.

I think its almost dumb *not* to try it out.
 
Moved to a new town and pretty young? Join a bar league pool team. You'd be surprised at the number of ladies who play pool, and even if none of them are attractive, it's more of a social life than you probably are used to, no offense intended. It's not the act of meeting new people that gets you dates, it's the act of socializing with them. Besides the whole "dating" thing, you might actually make some good friends outside of work.
 
[quote name='Pookymeister']My opinion is that it expands your range of someone you wouldn't meet during the course of your normal day to day goings.

I think its almost dumb *not* to try it out.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I would've never met my fiance in my day to day life, but we had so much in common otherwise that it was insane.
 
I have a friend that used Yahoo personals to date and eventually screw everyone in my area... There for I don't feel comfortable dating anyone from here. It's kinda a massive cock fest anyway too. I feel like anywhere else I'd have much better odds... Anyway, I'm just fine single.

It's everyone else that has a problem with me being single and making it a big deal.
 
[quote name='ITDEFX']You should read my last couple of blogs from my Match.com experience... I am about to update it sometime tomorrow with very good news... :)[/quote]


yes, listen to ITDEFX. he had a good experience. though stay the fuck away from divorcee
 
[quote name='Koggit']best way to meet girls: on the bus

seriously

i sit next to someone new twice a day, with few exceptions.. that's like 300 people per quarter.. i've met a lot of hot girls and awesome guys just by taking the bus. convos start pretty easily since you're going to (or coming from) the same place..[/quote]


hes right you can meet decent chicks on busses or at bus stops. just be sure you remember who they are. i retintroduced myself to a chick unintentionally once and got told off for it.........very embarassing..............
 
whatever you do, be upfront with 'em

don't start huffing yourself up and when yall meet, she's giving you that "...da fuck???" look


...also, ALWAYS MEET FIRST IN A PUBLIC PLACE! I'm talking like coffee shop, movies, mall....some people get caught up going straight to the house thinking they got themselves a freak when instead what they got is a beatdown and robbing in progress, or worse...
 
There's nothing wrong with it, I've met several of my past girlfriends online. None of them have been through dating websites, however -- some of them stumbled onto me back in the AOL days, one was a Myspace girl, and my current gf I met through a friend (who original picked her up for himself on Myspace).
 
[quote name='PR Mega X']and my current gf I met through a friend (who original picked her up for himself on Myspace).[/QUOTE]
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If you're married like me, online dating services are probably your best bet to meeting new women.

Just don't give out the email or social networking sites (myspace, facebook, etc) that your wife ever looks at.
 
[quote name='Brak']...[/QUOTE]

Yeah. I got all sorts of 'Guy Code' and 'Bros Before Hos' lectures for that.

In fairness, I didn't start dating her until 8 months after their 5 month relationship ended.
 
I met my (ex)wife online. Things were great for over 7 years until she lost her fucking mind.

I've recently decided to get back to dating, and what a pain. I tried the online sites and met two girls. One stood me up, the other looked nothing like the pics she posted and a psycho to boot. That one worked well because when I went to meet her the first time, it was at her work, while she was still on the clock, so I could easily bail (which I did).

I then scuttled that plan and tried dating a former coworker. Did not work well either.

It sucks because people say that single dads are a huge plus to alot of women, but where the hell are those women?
 
[quote name='PR Mega X']Yeah. I got all sorts of 'Guy Code' and 'Bros Before Hos' lectures for that.

In fairness, I didn't start dating her until 8 months after their 5 month relationship ended.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, but isn't it weird to kiss her, knowing that her lips have touched your friend's wiener? :puke:
 
I think I'll definitely give online dating a try after reading this thread, but I'll wait until I find a job. Right now having a girlfriend would just be too expensive for me (I can't afford it).

My problem is I don't go to many places girls would be at, and the types of places people say you should go to meet girls, the girls aren't my type. So maybe online dating is what I need?
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']I think I'll definitely give online dating a try after reading this thread, but I'll wait until I find a job. Right now having a girlfriend would just be too expensive for me (I can't afford it).[/QUOTE]
You should get paid for putting things off. :)
 
It's a mixed bag. I've seen friends have good success with it and have no luck. I tried it 5-6 years ago when I was single right after moving to a knew city and not yet making new friends and didn't have much luck. Had several dates but nothing of note. Most weren't very attractive and the couple that were reasonably hot had shitty personalities or a lot of issues.

So my (biased) opinion from my experience is that it wasn't worth it as the people who were both hot and had cool personalities/no issues were few and far between on online dating sites. Which isn't surprising as such people have no problems meeting people in daily life for the most part. So I only gave it a chance for 6 months or so and then just started meeting people through social life once I'd made new friends etc. and had much better luck with that. Had some great dates, a couple of less than a year relationships and met my current girlfriend that I've been with for over 4 years.

But others have had a lot of success (and to be fair I'm very picky) so I'd never tell anyone not to give it a shot. There's really nothing to lose. It either works and you meet some cool people and maybe get a good relationship out of it, or it doesn't and you cancel it after a few months and go back to meeting people socially.


[quote name='sp00ge']
It sucks because people say that single dads are a huge plus to alot of women, but where the hell are those women?[/QUOTE]

Those would be single moms I'd think...who are looking for someone who would be a good father to their kids. Otherwise most single women aren't going to want to take care of someone else's kid any more than most men want to marry a single mother and take care of someones kid. Some may not mind, but I think the only ones that find it a "huge plus" are those who are looking for a father for their kids as much as they are a new partner for themselves.
 
[quote name='sp00ge']I met my (ex)wife online. Things were great for over 7 years until she lost her fucking mind.

I've recently decided to get back to dating, and what a pain. I tried the online sites and met two girls. One stood me up, the other looked nothing like the pics she posted and a psycho to boot. That one worked well because when I went to meet her the first time, it was at her work, while she was still on the clock, so I could easily bail (which I did).

I then scuttled that plan and tried dating a former coworker. Did not work well either.

It sucks because people say that single dads are a huge plus to alot of women, but where the hell are those women?[/quote]

If I ever become single again, I'm sticking to my hand.
 
[quote name='fatherofcaitlyn']If I ever become single again, I'm sticking to my hand.[/quote]

Unless you get Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, then you're screwed. :applause:
 
Ask yourself this OP, do I really want to get involved with another human being and deal with all their shit ?

Joking apart I read ITDEFX's blog entry about his date and the first thing I though was "Geez, he had to drive 45 mins to get there, fuck that noise"

I guess I'll be dying alone then. :D
 
[quote name='sp00ge']
It sucks because people say that single dads are a huge plus to alot of women, but where the hell are those women?[/QUOTE]

Let me know where you find those women. I've been considering using an online dating site since I have no social life. I'm either at work or home with the kids (yes, I'm divorced and have custody of my kids).
 
[quote name='greatscot']Let me know where you find those women. I've been considering using an online dating site since I have no social life. I'm either at work or home with the kids (yes, I'm divorced and have custody of my kids).[/quote]

If you have custody of your kids, your wife either abandoned the of you or went psycho.

Given that the woman most capable of raising your kids the best was inadequate, are you looking to replace the ex or just looking for a place to air out your wang?
 
I think there's just too much choice in internet dating and leads itself to serial dating way too much. The women are always getting emails. etc, so my experience is that it doesn't work...maybe that'll change someday, but I don't think so (in my case).
 
[quote name='fatherofcaitlyn']If you have custody of your kids, your wife either abandoned the of you or went psycho.

Given that the woman most capable of raising your kids the best was inadequate, are you looking to replace the ex or just looking for a place to air out your wang?[/quote]

If you're airing out your wang, you're doing it all wrong.
 
[quote name='sp00ge']
It sucks because people say that single dads are a huge plus to alot of women, but where the hell are those women?[/QUOTE]

Ah, the myth perpetuated by the last season of The Bachelor. Sorry, that only works if you're totally loaded and have a giant penis.
 
[quote name='sp00ge']If you're airing out your wang, you're doing it all wrong.[/quote]

Your penis is going to have to be outside of your pants if you want to get laid.

Are you sure you're doing it right?
 
I heard good things and bad things about online dating.

My personal experience: There are some girls who need a psychologist more than a boyfriend.
 
[quote name='Dead of Knight']Ah, the myth perpetuated by the last season of The Bachelor. Sorry, that only works if you're totally loaded and have a giant penis.[/quote]

Single men do have a bit easier then single women. Mainly because you have to go through fucking hell to be a single dad. The only way a man is getting his kids is if the mom flat out runs, or she is proven an unfit mother. And the mom basically has to go on a shooting spree to be an unfit mother as even mothers pumped on meds and doing drugs with no jobs have a better chance of getting children then a stable dad with a job.
 
[quote name='Paco']Single men do have a bit easier then single women. Mainly because you have to go through fucking hell to be a single dad. The only way a man is getting his kids is if the mom flat out runs, or she is proven an unfit mother. And the mom basically has to go on a shooting spree to be an unfit mother as even mothers pumped on meds and doing drugs with no jobs have a better chance of getting children then a stable dad with a job.[/quote]

I lucked up. My (ex)wife flat out abandoned us four days before Christmas. As a result, she committed adultery and abandonment, both major marriage no-no's in the state of PA. Additionally, her family disowned her and adopted me as their own. I now have her by the proverbial balls. As a result, she agreed to not even to try fighting my demand for full-custody of our daughter.

[quote name='fatherofcaitlyn']Your penis is going to have to be outside of your pants if you want to get laid.

Are you sure you're doing it right?[/quote]

I take mine out of my pants all the time, when I piss, shower, etc and I'm still not getting any. But it is getting plenty of airing out. :whistle2:#
 
[quote name='sp00ge']I lucked up. My (ex)wife flat out abandoned us four days before Christmas. As a result, she committed adultery and abandonment, both major marriage no-no's in the state of PA. Additionally, her family disowned her and adopted me as their own. I now have her by the proverbial balls. As a result, she agreed to not even to try fighting my demand for full-custody of our daughter.



I take mine out of my pants all the time, when I piss, shower, etc and I'm still not getting any. But it is getting plenty of airing out. :whistle2:#[/quote]

I can tell you first hand just how fucked up the system is, especially in California. One of my friend's mom was a crack whore doing drugs and stealing from her children and in the divorce she STILL got the kids and the house and alimony and all that other shit. It was nothing but bullshit. No fault divorce my ass.
 
A woman's near total advantage in child custody keeps me married.

Having a partner that will allow her to sleep over 10 hours a day keeps her married.
 
[quote name='Xevious']I heard good things and bad things about online dating.

My personal experience: There are some girls who Almost all girls, especially those on the internet, need a psychologist more than a boyfriend.[/QUOTE]

Fixed.
 
[quote name='fatherofcaitlyn']A woman's near total advantage in child custody keeps me married.

Having a partner that will allow her to sleep over 10 hours a day keeps her married.[/quote]
And I always had the impression that you were happily married.
 
[quote name='Quillion']And I always had the impression that you were happily married.[/quote]

I'd pretend to be happy too if I had a proverbial knife at my throat. Though I'm Mexican, I'd burn everything and go back to Mexico going TAKE THAT MOTHER fuckER. After that, I"ll have a mexican party and cook up weenies and beans and come back to the US five years later as Max Powers.
 
[quote name='Quillion']And I always had the impression that you were happily married.[/quote]

I'm comparatively happily married.

Every marriage or relationship has problems.

Some of the problems will go away in time and with no effort. For example, her "batshit crazy" mother will be dead sooner rather than later.

Other problems will go away with effort and in no time. For example, debt levels will drop tremendously as soon as the first house is sold or rented.

EDIT: And just think, a lot of problems happen if you date successfully!
 
[quote name='Brak']Yeah, but isn't it weird to kiss her, knowing that her lips have touched your friend's wiener? :puke:[/quote]

Perhaps that's the appeal?
 
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