
her, get a divorce asap. Don't go out for revenge, or try and reconcile. Just end it right now, get out, and start a new. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me it's the only way to go. Start working out, pick up some hobbies, focus on your job, make some money, get a new outfit or two. Focus on the person that matter most,
you.
I've gone through some very painful longterm relationships. I've been cheated on, lied to, all of that. Then sometimes I've been the one that

ed up. You just gotta look at this as not an end to a chapter, but a beinging to a new one.
Become a free man, the whole World is yours. You are a man, be indepent and strong!
Also, I've found it best to not immediately see other people right after a serious break-up. I've always found that my "wounds" healed much better after a break from the opposite sex, and giving me a chance to rediscover who I really was.
After a long relationship you're still too used to that one person, and when you rush in to a new relationship everything that new person does won't feel right.