Two Hours.

Winnie, it's sad to say it but, the people here (and pretty much any non pet website online) are jerks and shouldn't be told personal problems, particularly one involving animals.

I disagree.
There are some very good people around these boards, and many are more understanding that your statement assumes. More likely than not, there are probably a couple of PMs with kind words already in his PM box.
To cast such allegations aross all poster because a few people are mouthing off just doesn't seem right. Even some of the people who appear to be harsh and abrassive could even be trying to help in thier own way, either by interjecting humor or trying to put things in a different frame of reference.
 
WinnieThePujols, ignore the pathetic internet tough guys. Best wishes to you, and so sorry to hear about your cat (my best wishes to her too...).

I was once in the same position...a cat that had been a part of my life for over a decade, suddenly died. She meant more to me than anything in the world...and I was crushed. After a couple years, I finally adopted a new kitty, and have had her for about a year and a half. I don't know how I lived without one.

I hope that with all the needy kitties in the world, you will soon get another one, too. :)
 
[quote name='evilmojo12542']why does every thread have to turn into a flamfest/or garbage?[/QUOTE]

This is the internet. If the OP wanted sympathy, he should have talked to friends or family. I'm not saying what has transpired is right, but it's by no means surprising.

I know I sound like a dick (this is the internet after all), but the OP had it coming.
 
I guess one last post relating to what's happened...(I'm not trying to make this a blog, just feels good to get it out there).

I woke up, and immediately thought about my cat being gone...My dad, as I mentioned in my last post, had kind of mentioned we'd bury it. My mom said something like, "She's out in the garage. She looks pretty good." I initially thought, "they didn't put her down," but then I came to my senses.

Out in the garage in a plastic container lie my cat, lifeless. (Now, I know that probably sounds sadistic and you feel that my parents are harassing me or something...but...I didn't take it the wrong way; I think we all would've rather seen that than ashes, even if it was more difficult.) I knelt down and said a few words and pet my cat. Not surprisingly, it was just a (literally) cold feeling. Really strange. Anyway, we threw a lid on the container and into the ground it went. My dad covered it up and gave his condolences through a little andectode.

And once again...thanks to those who responded. Means a lot. And Ledhed, I do know what you're getting at...but aside from the ocassional asshat comments, the supportive posts have genuinely upped my demeanor.
 
[quote name='dtcarson']Excuse me? Did I ever say "Just get a new one?" If I did, please show me. A new pet can certainly not 'make up' for the one that died, for one that was part of one's family for 16 years.

If you were talking about my saying that the death ceremonies are for the living, well, what else can it be? Read any of tons of research, and actually think about it. All the condolences are meant to make the living feel better.

http://www.shropsych.org/religionbereavementarticle.htm
http://www.ctsn-rcst.ca/PsychoEd.html
http://www.dodgeco.com/articles/funerals1.html

If you're saying I'm "just wrong" about something else, then please clarify, because what I restated above is pretty much all I've said in this thread.[/QUOTE]

I read your quote, and the response to jimmie, wrong. I saw the afterlife part but it must not have clicked. I took

[quote name='jimmiemac']He's not sad because the cat is old and dying, he's sad because he's not gonna have a cat anymore.[/quote]

You're actually pretty much right. Once someone or something is dead, they either go somewhere else ["afterlife" of whatever sort] or they don't.
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to mean the person simply moves on, as in just gets another without any real concern for the one they lost, just that they have a new one.
 
[quote name='Ledhed']This is the internet. If the OP wanted sympathy, he should have talked to friends or family. I'm not saying what has transpired is right, but it's by no means surprising.

I know I sound like a dick (this is the internet after all), but the OP had it coming.[/QUOTE]

You had the power to lock it.:D
 
[quote name='WinnieThePujols']I guess one last post relating to what's happened...(I'm not trying to make this a blog, just feels good to get it out there).

I woke up, and immediately thought about my cat being gone...My dad, as I mentioned in my last post, had kind of mentioned we'd bury it. My mom said something like, "She's out in the garage. She looks pretty good." I initially thought, "they didn't put her down," but then I came to my senses.

Out in the garage in a plastic container lie my cat, lifeless. (Now, I know that probably sounds sadistic and you feel that my parents are harassing me or something...but...I didn't take it the wrong way; I think we all would've rather seen that than ashes, even if it was more difficult.) I knelt down and said a few words and pet my cat. Not surprisingly, it was just a (literally) cold feeling. Really strange. Anyway, we threw a lid on the container and into the ground it went. My dad covered it up and gave his condolences through a little andectode.

And once again...thanks to those who responded. Means a lot. And Ledhed, I do know what you're getting at...but aside from the ocassional asshat comments, the supportive posts have genuinely upped my demeanor.[/QUOTE]

I think there are a bunch of people here who do care (including myself), and I've seen many pets die, including having to have some put to sleep and one die within a minute of holding it (I was holding it for about a half hour, put it down and walked away to go to the bathroom, and it was dead when I came back). But I just don't have the same warm feeling about this community, overal, to go into any detail. Maybe because I'm not as thick skinned and wouldn't want to deal with the jerks, which would take away from the positive responses I may get.
 
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