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Just wondering what CAG's stance was on dating friends' ex-girlfriends.
I've never done it, and don't plan on doing it, but I'm in an interesting situation and wanted to hear what everyone else would do in my shoes. Basically one of my best friends has been with his current girlfriend for a little over two years now, and has recently been contemplating breaking it off with her. I've know my friend for about ten years now and I've also become really good friends with his girlfriend (I'd also consider her one of my best friends).
Here's where the weirdness starts:
My friend, while talking to me about breaking up with his current girlfriend, has, more than once, jokingly suggested that I go out with her once they break up. It was said in a joking manner, but it really seemed like one of those 'I'll jokingly say it, gauge his response, and react accordingly'. Meaning if I had taken him up on this offer, it seemed like he would be for it (at least, that's what I think). I know some of you may think I'm taking his joke too seriously, but I'd like to add that:
1) I've been single for a while, and this friend always goes way out of his way to help me out whenever possible
2) The girlfriend actually originally liked me (which she has told me a few times while they have been dating, once fairly recently (a few months ago)).
3) I'm almost certain he is aware of the fact that she liked me because he was friends with her at the time she liked me. I didn't see her a whole lot, wasn't really interested in dating at the time, and felt that, since he was the one who introduced me to her, that I wouldn't try and date her unless he was okay with it (which he wasn't, at the time). I do recall him saying that I did have a shot with her, at one point (which kinda confirms his knowledge about her feelings toward me at one point), but anytime he even suggests something between her and I, I just jokingly brush it off.
Anyway, it almost seems like I have the okay from both parties, but I could just never see myself dating a friend's ex-girlfriend (especially one that he has been seeing for so long). I always believe this was definitely at the top of the list of things someone doesn't do to his good friends. I've pretty much made up my mind that I would definitely not do it, but just wanted to hear your thoughts.
I've never done it, and don't plan on doing it, but I'm in an interesting situation and wanted to hear what everyone else would do in my shoes. Basically one of my best friends has been with his current girlfriend for a little over two years now, and has recently been contemplating breaking it off with her. I've know my friend for about ten years now and I've also become really good friends with his girlfriend (I'd also consider her one of my best friends).
Here's where the weirdness starts:
My friend, while talking to me about breaking up with his current girlfriend, has, more than once, jokingly suggested that I go out with her once they break up. It was said in a joking manner, but it really seemed like one of those 'I'll jokingly say it, gauge his response, and react accordingly'. Meaning if I had taken him up on this offer, it seemed like he would be for it (at least, that's what I think). I know some of you may think I'm taking his joke too seriously, but I'd like to add that:
1) I've been single for a while, and this friend always goes way out of his way to help me out whenever possible
2) The girlfriend actually originally liked me (which she has told me a few times while they have been dating, once fairly recently (a few months ago)).
3) I'm almost certain he is aware of the fact that she liked me because he was friends with her at the time she liked me. I didn't see her a whole lot, wasn't really interested in dating at the time, and felt that, since he was the one who introduced me to her, that I wouldn't try and date her unless he was okay with it (which he wasn't, at the time). I do recall him saying that I did have a shot with her, at one point (which kinda confirms his knowledge about her feelings toward me at one point), but anytime he even suggests something between her and I, I just jokingly brush it off.
Anyway, it almost seems like I have the okay from both parties, but I could just never see myself dating a friend's ex-girlfriend (especially one that he has been seeing for so long). I always believe this was definitely at the top of the list of things someone doesn't do to his good friends. I've pretty much made up my mind that I would definitely not do it, but just wanted to hear your thoughts.
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