How do you know if a girl likes you?

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Well, I know this thread is a completely different tune compared to the usual threads I start, but this is a very serious question that has been confusing me for several years.

I started thinking about this for a while because I met one girl in open lab, on my birthday, my first year away from college. She asked if she could borrow a piece of paper and I let her, and she commented on how nice my paper was (because it had my college logo on the side of it). I found her to be a really nice girl and kind of had some liking for her. Later on in the year, I got to know her a little better, but she I didn't consider her a girl I really liked and she really liked (at the time). The 2nd year away from college, she wanted to have dinner with me and see a movie a few times. Also, she sat by me a few times in class and we worked together on something. But here's where it really got to a point where I wondered if she liked me:
-The whole thing about going out to dinner and stuff.
-Her wanting me to sit in her lap in one class, then had her friend take a picture of us two hugging. She's like we'll put that on our wedding pictures and we'll have kids.
-At one point, she talks about she's going to marry me and I'll be the one with the main job (since I was so smart), while she mostly worked a lesser job (since she dropped out of my major and went to a lesser paying major).
-She once said she wanted to fix my anti-social behavior or something and get me out more (make me take her somewhere expensive).

However, she did all this stuff to me when I saw she had a boyfriend (who was the exact opposite as me) and kept clinging to me. I had other friends she was friends with, but she never did any of the same stuff to them (I'm also talk to a few of her friends a few times, but we were just friends with no hugs and long conversations). A few times she went single and had no boyfriend, but I was always unsure whether she really did like me. I didn't see her much later on (due to conflicting schedules), but she'd always want to give me a big hug every time I see her. Well, I saw what she did over the summer because of Facebook (she was on my buddy list).

Okay, so I finally saw her the first time in the longest time last week. She said my name and gave me a hug. We talked a little and she wondered if I started applying for jobs. I said I'm mostly concerned about my project currently, but all I have to do is just update my resume and turn it in. In reality, since she brought it up, I was about to do it, because I wanted to do most anything for her. So I thought to myself, I may just give up most of my forum posting and other crap, and try to spend more time with her (or get closer). Okay, so I log onto Facebook to check something, and come to find out, she had me removed from her friend's list. That just completely tore me apart because many of the people we are both friends with, she still had them listed (I saw she was single too).

So now, I'm really bothered because she was really the only girl I kept my eye on (since I prefer to stick to one girl and not cheat on them, unless I find out they don't like me at all) since college. In H.S., I had my eye on another girl at a different school (for my entire time in H.S.), but I couldn't figure out whether she really liked me either. I've been curious whether she looked at my Facebook profile or not (I really doubt it), because it might have been too nerdy/geeky (I show a little too much gaming love, anime, etc. liking in my profile by quoting several RPG characters, list tons of video game composers, have a list of anime shows I like, etc.). I was seriously wondering if that's why I scared her away or something, and I was beginning to wonder if I should change myself (well, gaming is a HUGE passion of mine and I do like anime) to hopefully fare better with a girl, or should I just stay into what I really like and hopefully find a girl who may accept it? When thinking about it, it might be best for us to never be a couple in the future, since we are both quite different (we eat different types of food completely, she's no gamer, she drinks socially, she's definitely very social, she stays up really late at times, she can sometimes bitch a lot, etc.).

I didn't just start this thread to tell a story, I started it because I'm having a very difficult time understanding whether a girl likes you or not (or some indication she might). One reason I've never been in a relationship before was, going after girls I thought that may have liked me, but wanted to be friends only, or girls just saying they don't like me (I had a girl constantly wave at me, stare about me, always saying good things about me, etc.). There was one girl someone tried to hook me up with (several years ago), but I said she hated me since she use to give me a hard time, but she told me that girls like doing that to the guy they like.

So I dunno, I sometimes see a girl smile at me and other things, but I'm not really sure what may be a good indication she might like me. I just want to avoid getting myself into the same mess again (I am trying online dating) when I come across girls in reality. This doesn't mean I treat or think of every girl as a grilfriend, because there are a bunch of girls I'm fine being just acquaintances with.

Oh well, I need some help CAG. :whistle2:(
 
Go into the HUD and check your stats, which you can bring up by hitting the X button. Of course, you have to obtained the Relation-o-meter first, which you don't get until level 3, which can't be accessed until you get the plasma cannon.

This is a chore, because your NPC partner says really annoying shit the entire fucking time.
 
Naw, I'm being very serious here. There have been so many girls that may have liked me, but I continue missing the chance to be in a relationship with them due to uncertainty. I'm just curious if anyone else found out a girl liked them and how they might have known (outside of just asking the girl them self).
 
Ask her if she wants to come over and play some 360. If she refuses and goes on a rant about Sony stating the the PS3's superiority and how Heavenly Sword, MotorStorm, and Resistance are heaven-sent, examples of gaming perfection, then you know it's love.

(Seriously, I'll give it a read later and post accordingly. I imagine yukine and JimmieMac will chime in and give you something good to read, though).
 
the pleasant, more than polite, conversation continues...

[sorry, posted first before reading]


ask yourself if you, [how should I put this], like boys more than girls first?

or just make a move. which game is this from again?
 
[quote name='Mike23']To be honest to the OP...No. She doesn't. You had your chance, though.[/quote]

Agreed, I too think that the OP had a chance, but its long past now.

For the OP, if you like a girl, ask her out. The worst thing that she can say is no. I understand that can be a big rejection, but if you are in college, now is the time. Ask away, the worst thing that she can say is no.

TBW
 
I think you should be real direct and just ask her. Thats my style at least.

But I am here without any girl so......but at least I have no questions if any ladies are feeling me, cuz sadly I know they don't ...>_
 
I read the OP but I'm going to respond to the title.
If you want to know if a woman likes you, you ask her. There's no secret key, no special sign, nothing a 30 dollar book is going to tell you.
If she's truly as great as you think she is, she will give you a serious answer. Most people will respond to confessions with respect and dignity. If they don't, they aren't worth your time worrying about them.
I had rotten luck with guys due to my shyness. So don't let shyness get in your way.
 
[quote name='TheBlueWizard']Agreed, I too think that the OP had a chance, but its long past now.

For the OP, if you like a girl, ask her out. The worst thing that she can say is no. I understand that can be a big rejection, but if you are in college, now is the time. Ask away, the worst thing that she can say is no.

TBW[/QUOTE]
/thread

Go and live a little, TMK.
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']Well, I know this thread is a completely different tune compared to the usual threads I start, but this is a very serious question that has been confusing me for several years.

I started thinking about this for a while because I met one girl in open lab, on my birthday, my first year away from college. She asked if she could borrow a piece of paper and I let her, and she commented on how nice my paper was (because it had my college logo on the side of it). I found her to be a really nice girl and kind of had some liking for her. Later on in the year, I got to know her a little better, but she I didn't consider her a girl I really liked and she really liked (at the time). The 2nd year away from college, she wanted to have dinner with me and see a movie a few times. Also, she sat by me a few times in class and we worked together on something. But here's where it really got to a point where I wondered if she liked me:
-The whole thing about going out to dinner and stuff.
-Her wanting me to sit in her lap in one class, then had her friend take a picture of us two hugging. She's like we'll put that on our wedding pictures and we'll have kids.
-At one point, she talks about she's going to marry me and I'll be the one with the main job (since I was so smart), while she mostly worked a lesser job (since she dropped out of my major and went to a lesser paying major).
-She once said she wanted to fix my anti-social behavior or something and get me out more (make me take her somewhere expensive).

However, she did all this stuff to me when I saw she had a boyfriend (who was the exact opposite as me) and kept clinging to me. I had other friends she was friends with, but she never did any of the same stuff to them (I'm also talk to a few of her friends a few times, but we were just friends with no hugs and long conversations). A few times she went single and had no boyfriend, but I was always unsure whether she really did like me. I didn't see her much later on (due to conflicting schedules), but she'd always want to give me a big hug every time I see her. Well, I saw what she did over the summer because of Facebook (she was on my buddy list).

Okay, so I finally saw her the first time in the longest time last week. She said my name and gave me a hug. We talked a little and she wondered if I started applying for jobs. I said I'm mostly concerned about my project currently, but all I have to do is just update my resume and turn it in. In reality, since she brought it up, I was about to do it, because I wanted to do most anything for her. So I thought to myself, I may just give up most of my forum posting and other crap, and try to spend more time with her (or get closer). Okay, so I log onto Facebook to check something, and come to find out, she had me removed from her friend's list. That just completely tore me apart because many of the people we are both friends with, she still had them listed (I saw she was single too).

So now, I'm really bothered because she was really the only girl I kept my eye on (since I prefer to stick to one girl and not cheat on them, unless I find out they don't like me at all) since college. In H.S., I had my eye on another girl at a different school (for my entire time in H.S.), but I couldn't figure out whether she really liked me either. I've been curious whether she looked at my Facebook profile or not (I really doubt it), because it might have been too nerdy/geeky (I show a little too much gaming love, anime, etc. liking in my profile by quoting several RPG characters, list tons of video game composers, have a list of anime shows I like, etc.). I was seriously wondering if that's why I scared her away or something, and I was beginning to wonder if I should change myself (well, gaming is a HUGE passion of mine and I do like anime) to hopefully fare better with a girl, or should I just stay into what I really like and hopefully find a girl who may accept it? When thinking about it, it might be best for us to never be a couple in the future, since we are both quite different (we eat different types of food completely, she's no gamer, she drinks socially, she's definitely very social, she stays up really late at times, she can sometimes bitch a lot, etc.).

I didn't just start this thread to tell a story, I started it because I'm having a very difficult time understanding whether a girl likes you or not (or some indication she might). One reason I've never been in a relationship before was, going after girls I thought that may have liked me, but wanted to be friends only, or girls just saying they don't like me (I had a girl constantly wave at me, stare about me, always saying good things about me, etc.). There was one girl someone tried to hook me up with (several years ago), but I said she hated me since she use to give me a hard time, but she told me that girls like doing that to the guy they like.

So I dunno, I sometimes see a girl smile at me and other things, but I'm not really sure what may be a good indication she might like me. I just want to avoid getting myself into the same mess again (I am trying online dating) when I come across girls in reality. This doesn't mean I treat or think of every girl as a grilfriend, because there are a bunch of girls I'm fine being just acquaintances with.

Oh well, I need some help CAG. :whistle2:([/QUOTE]
I can't believe nobody quoted this. Saved for posterity.
 
I feel like if someone followed college javeryh and The Mana Knight around for a week back in 1994 and filmed everything we'd have the greatest comedy of all time.
 
If you've got to post about it and ask the internet community at large, the answer is usually no.

PS3 > Girlfriend, anyway.
 
Ok, read it and it was a bit convoluted on her part and I got to the part with her having a boyfriend. If you haven't made a move by now, forget about it. Move on.

You liking someone should have no bearing on whether or not they like you first. Sometimes they say yes, sometimes they say no, but that's life. You aren't playing things safe by wondering about how she feels about you, you're just insecure about yourself because you wanna ensure she likes you first before you throw yourself out there. (Just read what I wrote...it's like middle school drama.)

The real answer:
Start a conversation about which controller between the PS3 and 360 is the best. Say you like the SixAxis and wait for someone to argue the other point. If she sticks up for you and sings praises for the SixAxis and how rumble really is "last-gen", but how Sony is a great enough company to cater to the audiences and is giving you the best of both worlds in releasing the DS3, then you know she likes you. Girls taking up for inane interests of your own means she "like likes" you. That's way better than just "liking" you. Teehee.
Love is like fanboyism. You have to take a leap and carry the flag of your beloved console no matter how ridiculous your arguments may become. Sure, shit like Lair gets released, but you jump in knowing your love for the system is too strong to let it sway you from the initial pain in finding that there's really nothing to play.

Love makes no excuses. Except when you know you're wrong. Then you make up the dumb excuses so you don't feel like an idiot.

Like how Sony touts BC in their consoles and is now saying the best thing to do is just to buy a PS2.
 
I dont know if the girl likes you or not, but as mentioned, in the future make sure you ask these questions on a video game discussion board, that is always going to be your best bet.

edit, you know, the first time i read this i just assumed it was someone in high school or elementary school. But now I read the OP and this seems to be something else entirely. If you never learned basic social cues and how to talk to people in social situations and you are a full grown adult in your 20s or 30s, well it will be much more difficult for you to learn, when you are younger there are far more ways to hook up, like in college for example.

Either way, i think your best bet is to continue to ask these sort of questions on a video game message board.
 
sounds to me like you missed the boat. but if you wanna know just go ask her, i mean dont ask her if she likes you, but go ask her out.
 
She sounds like a hoe out to tease you because ur not what the bf is...ur the weak one the doormat tell her to fuck off and move along.
She would cheat on you if you got her.
 
Look TMK, you sound like a really nice guy but extremely socially retarded so I won't make fun of you.

You just gotta ask. It is as simple as that. Sure it may be hard but it is the only way. However for that girl, I think you missed the boat.
 
[quote name='darthbudge']Look TMK, you sound like a really nice but extremely socially retarded so I won't make fun of you.

You just gotta ask. It is as simple as that. Sure it may be hard but it is the only way. However for that girl, I think you missed the boat.[/quote]

1. You left out a noun.

2. You look like more of an asshole saying "Well I pity you so I won't bust your chops" than if you would've just cracked on him.
 
[quote name='getmyrunon']Tell me, what's a retart?[/quote]

You know those little lemon pies? Well if you scoop all of the filling out of it, and then stick in another crust, then you've just "retarted" the lemon filling.

This tidbit probably had nothing to do with the thread topic...but then again, I have a strange feeling that it does.
 
[quote name='getmyrunon']Tell me, what's a retart?[/QUOTE]
It is when you are more than tarted or you have been tarted again! duh!
 
[quote name='Pancake Rabbit']It doesn't matter if she likes you. Just fuck her already.[/QUOTE]

I already told him to stick it in her poopa ya ninja rabbit. :lol:
 
[quote name='anomynous']And by girl do you mean your PS3?[/QUOTE]Uh no. Although I may act weird towards gaming consoles here, in reality, they mean a lot less to me than I sometimes make it seem. I'd give up most all my video games for an awesome relationship with a girl (who likes me and I'll like her back). She was a real girl and actually pretty hot. If I had the picture her friend took 3 years ago, I would have posted it here.

Anyway, thanks for the advice. I think I'll try to forget about her and move on. It somewhat pained me because I was wondering if she's one of those girls who never really liked me much in the first place, or if I just completely messed up and she no longer wants anything to do with me. It kind of sucks because it can take time to find another girl to like for a while. There are some decent looking girls living on my floor, but I really don't know if I could randomly knock on their door at sometime (I kind of rather run into them and talking to them then, rather than have some random dude stopping by saying hey). Finding girls at my college isn't as easy, due to there being only around 38% at my college.
 
To answer the topic title:

If she lets you come inside her.
 
[quote name='Demolition Man']ya ninja rabbit. :lol:[/quote]

Hey, man. Ninja rabbits clearly fall under the category of Killer Rabbits.

That's my turf!
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']Uh no. Although I may act weird towards gaming consoles here, in reality, they mean a lot less to me than I sometimes make it seem. I'd give up most all my video games for an awesome relationship with a girl (who likes me and I'll like her back). She was a real girl and actually pretty hot. If I had the picture her friend took 3 years ago, I would have posted it here.

Anyway, thanks for the advice. I think I'll try to forget about her and move on. It somewhat pained me because I was wondering if she's one of those girls who never really liked me much in the first place, or if I just completely messed up and she no longer wants anything to do with me. It kind of sucks because it can take time to find another girl to like for a while. There are some decent looking girls living on my floor, but I really don't know if I could randomly knock on their door at sometime (I kind of rather run into them and talking to them then, rather than have some random dude stopping by saying hey). Finding girls at my college isn't as easy, due to there being only around 38% at my college.[/quote]If you could be half as spirited with girls as you are with all things Sony-related, you'd be in a better situation.

Next time, just imagine their breasts as Dual Analogs on a DS and the gleam in their eyes as the chrome on a 60GB and you might find the passion to go after them regardless of how they may feel about you.;)
 
She once said she wanted to fix my anti-social behavior or something and get me out more (make me take her somewhere expensive).


That would be a red flag for me. If you like her, go for it, if not dont waste both your times. If you reach out for her and she pulls back and wants to play hard to get, let her know you aint into games (well you shouldnt be but) and if she wants games walk away. Its not worth the trouble.
 
[quote name='AvidWriter']If you reach out for her and she pulls back and wants to play hard to get, let her know you aint into games (well you shouldnt be but) and if she wants games walk away.[/quote]Unless she's talkin' about Uncharted and R&C, then propose to the gal 'cause clearly she'd be a keeper.
 
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Make friends with her friends and slowly poke at the idea of her liking you with her friends...
 
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