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Fiancee wants a really really big wedding. If it was up to me it would be 15 people. Knowing she is the girl im trying to be a good guy and let her have a pretty large wedding (150 people)and we are going over the top on some stuff. But I put the condition down of it trying to be more simple and unconventional in alot of other areas. For instance we are having the wedding outside and a gorgeous gazebo. The reception is also taking place at the metro park but inside of a hall. This means we can be indoors or outdoors(important to me since I have panic attacks in large groups).

We are also making it more old fashioned where we are only going to serve some basic food to serve as a main course and then ask immediate family to bring family favorite recipees as the sides. Kind of a uniting of our 5 families(her parents are divorced)through food. Well for the main course I was thinking pizza from a local pizza place we love. The pizza is kept on silver trays and kept warm by granite slabs. I thought this was appropriate. But now she kinda thinks its too simple and my mom called it "white trash" without other food served in addition. I think 3 slices, bread sticks and a salad bar is nice enough? But asking others it seems that most think its horribly tacky. If my rich family comes and looks down on us....frankly I dont care their gonna be upset that I have a mohawk at my wedding anyways. But even if common down to earth people think wow this is way to tacky....I should switch this. Personally I dont care, but dont want to ruin my fiancees wedding.

So what do you guys think? Is it "white trash" or is it simple but appropriate?
 
If your fiance's not comfortable with it you should switch to something more traditional.

Cut up pizza from the local place could work as one of the apps in a pre-dinner cocktail hour. It's still less fancy than most big weddings but the fact that it's one of your faves makes it a good story.
 
Pizza? on your wedding day?!?!?!

I like Pizza (ricotta white :drool: ), but I am not going to have it on my wedding day. Anyways go with what the catering service recommends...and I am sure Pizza is not on the menu.
 
[quote name='wubb']If your fiance's not comfortable with it you should switch to something more traditional.[/QUOTE]

[quote name='darthbudge']Well I have nothing against it. However if your wife is uncomfortable with it you should do something else.[/QUOTE]

This. Keep in mind the kind of commitment you're making here - don't start it off the wrong way.
 
First off, a Mohawk at your wedding? Nice!

to answer your question, I don't think its tacky if you do it as you say (on silver platters with granite slabs) if it was just open boxes I could see that being tacky, lol

You could get one of those GIANT subs from subway while your at it too ;-)

I've been to weddings that the bride and groom has no money, and the main dish was macaroni and cheese (not the kraft kind, homemade, but still....)

in the end, the food itself doesn't matter, the venue doesn't even matter, what matters is if you 2 are happy.
 
[quote name='wubb']If your fiance's not comfortable with it you should switch to something more traditional.

Cut up pizza from the local place could work as one of the apps in a pre-dinner cocktail hour. It's still less fancy than most big weddings but the fact that it's one of your faves makes it a good story.[/QUOTE]

Great idea, go with that.
 
Heres the thing. Fiancee is only uncomfortable with it because she thinks other people will snub their nose at it. And I have been compromising, we are spending way more then I wanted to, having it in a way I dont want to and inviting people I dont want to. Her mom has taken shot after shot after shot at me and iv just taken them all on the chin to keep things civil......trust me I understand how important this day is. Just figured maybe this could be the one thing she compromised on....but still seems everyones against it so I guess ill chalk it up to a bad idea.

I might still use it in the sense of ordering like 15 pizzas and having them as a side. Like since everyone is bringing their fav dish mine is pizza so instead of ordering like 60 of them and having them be the main course ill just order like 10-15 and its enough everyone can get a slice? Does that sound more appropriate?

To the guy that said mohawk at a wedding? Hehe you will probally love our cake. We are trying to find someone to make us a Katamari cake. The prince will be rolling a heart shaped ball and the bride and groom and a bunch of frosting will have been rolled up.
 
Yes, pizza as the main course at a wedding would be tacky and white-trash /thread

Something nice and unique, like a Margarita pizza, would make a nice side or appetizer...but a main course? Come now. Any kind of "finger" or "junk" food is inappropriate for the main course at such an event.
 
The day is way more important and stressful for her so I say just let her slide on this. If you end up doing the side thing, sure why not. Just don't gloat when everyone comments how much they love the pizza and nobody raves over the crabcake. :lol:

[quote name='MSI Magus']Her mom has taken shot after shot after shot at me and iv just taken them all on the chin to keep things civil......[/QUOTE]

Well that really sucks. I don't get in laws who want to be this way. Doesn't she want you to visit on holidays and such?
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']Heres the thing. Fiancee is only uncomfortable with it because she thinks other people will snub their nose at it. And I have been compromising, we are spending way more then I wanted to, having it in a way I dont want to and inviting people I dont want to. Her mom has taken shot after shot after shot at me and iv just taken them all on the chin to keep things civil......trust me I understand how important this day is. Just figured maybe this could be the one thing she compromised on....but still seems everyones against it so I guess ill chalk it up to a bad idea.

I might still use it in the sense of ordering like 15 pizzas and having them as a side. Like since everyone is bringing their fav dish mine is pizza so instead of ordering like 60 of them and having them be the main course ill just order like 10-15 and its enough everyone can get a slice? Does that sound more appropriate?

To the guy that said mohawk at a wedding? Hehe you will probally love our cake. We are trying to find someone to make us a Katamari cake. The prince will be rolling a heart shaped ball and the bride and groom and a bunch of frosting will have been rolled up.[/quote]

I think the Pizza as a side dish sounds like a better idea.

Also I think the Mohawk is a horrible idea, although the Katamari Cake is pure $$$$$$.
 
On the face of it, yes, I think most people will think it is tacky. On the other hand, if people know you and your fiance and know your style then it could be a nice way to inject your personality in the wedding day. I don't think it should be the only food you serve though. As much as it is your wedding and your party, let's be honest, you are putting on a party for your friends and loved ones as well and you want them to be happy and enjoy the food as well.
 
[quote name='wubb']The day is way more important and stressful for her so I say just let her slide on this. If you end up doing the side thing, sure why not. Just don't gloat when everyone comments how much they love the pizza and nobody raves over the crabcake. :lol:



Well that really sucks. I don't get in laws who want to be this way. Doesn't she want you to visit on holidays and such?[/QUOTE]

Well first off her dad isnt invited at all. She hasnt spoke to him in almost a year. She hadnt spoke to him in years and I talked her into it. He as really nice for awhile.....so nice that we actually moved in with him. Turns out he is still really abusefull to his wife and kids and I couldnt watch it and told him pretty much what I thought. We moved out and about a week afterwards her step mom called and pretty much ran her mouth for about 30 mins about me and a bit about my fiancee. Her dad showed up at 8 in the mourning the next day and took her to breakfast and did the same. So ya he is out of her life. She loves her mom alot though and I really am trying hard not to wreck her relationship with her. Her mom seemed to be coming around for awhile there, after refusing to talk to me on Christmas when we got engaged 2 years ago and being a bitch forever she started treating me like family. But now after we have announced we are getting married she has just been horrid. She told us we arnt really getting married because we are having a spiritual wedding and not singing any papers, and whenever I showed up in a mohawk the other day(a haircut iv had more often then not upon seeing her)she said if you have that at the wedding im leaving.

So again ya we could not invite her and it would be my preffrance. Thats why I wanted a small wedding, only people that support us and love us 100% truly only. But I cant do that to my fiancee.

And exactly people will love my pizza and be pissed when its gone and their stuck eating crappy ass pulled pork, roast beef or some other bland cattered food. Especially given my pizza is from this awesome local place that makes some really different pizzas like a tony paco pizza(famous local hot dog place that uses Hungarian dogs and spicy chilli)and the spicy meditaranian.

Ah well. Thanks guys, whats one more compromise at this point!
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']Heres the thing. Fiancee is only uncomfortable with it because she thinks other people will snub their nose at it. And I have been compromising, we are spending way more then I wanted to, having it in a way I dont want to and inviting people I dont want to. Her mom has taken shot after shot after shot at me and iv just taken them all on the chin to keep things civil......trust me I understand how important this day is. Just figured maybe this could be the one thing she compromised on....but still seems everyones against it so I guess ill chalk it up to a bad idea.

I might still use it in the sense of ordering like 15 pizzas and having them as a side. Like since everyone is bringing their fav dish mine is pizza so instead of ordering like 60 of them and having them be the main course ill just order like 10-15 and its enough everyone can get a slice? Does that sound more appropriate?

To the guy that said mohawk at a wedding? Hehe you will probally love our cake. We are trying to find someone to make us a Katamari cake. The prince will be rolling a heart shaped ball and the bride and groom and a bunch of frosting will have been rolled up.[/QUOTE]

First thing first, you need to have a heart to heart with the soon to be MIL. If you let the old hag disrespect you now she will always do it. It's time to let her know that you're not going to be her punching bag.

It seems that you are bending over backwards for your soon to be wife and she needs to give in to some of your needs too. Your STBW is worrying too much about other peoples feelings. fuck everyone else, it's about you two.


"in the end, the food itself doesn't matter, the venue doesn't even matter, what matters is if you 2 are happy."

Drnick said it perfectly.
 
[quote name='Blitz']First thing first, you need to have a heart to heart with the soon to be MIL. If you let the old hag disrespect you now she will always do it. It's time to let her know that you're not going to be her punching bag.

It seems that you are bending over backwards for your soon to be wife and she needs to give in to some of your needs too. Your STBW is worrying too much about other peoples feelings. fuck everyone else, it's about you two.


"in the end, the food itself doesn't matter, the venue doesn't even matter, what matters is if you 2 are happy."

Drnick said it perfectly.[/QUOTE]

She wont always do it. Im not the type to take that abuse. Iv been doing it to be civil and I let my fiancee know the other day it was going to stop damn soon. I didnt hear her say the whole we arnt really getting married thing the other day(i wasnt there)or it would have ended there. Iv told my fiancee that iv tried hard but if it keeps up im not waiting till after the wedding ill be telling her you know if you have that much of a problem with me im content with not having you at the wedding.

I know my opinion matters, but this isnt how much sex we have or what TV watch. thats stuff that ya I expect and will argue for compromise leaning towards my end. But a wedding really is every girls dream.
 
Try to see if you can get them to make it like a Sicillian (Sp?), not a Sicillian itself but just the shape and cut it into retangles or something. Not regular round and triangle pieces. Change it up a bit make it more fancy.
 
MSI Magus, I don't know if you saw my thread about gettin engaged or a wedding complication but I am in the process of planning a weddign too. Every girl is a bridezilla to some extent, there are just varying degrees, on a scale of 1-10 my STBW is probably an 8 or so...pretty high. She is attention hungry and loves it when it is "her day" (valentines day, her birthday, anniversairies). She is pretty down to earth on everything else but loves this holiday/event crap.

Only you can decide what to do, you must stick to your guns and hold your ground on somethings but do you really want it to be about having Pizza at your wedding.

And look at who this advice is coming from: My friggin name is PittPizza and I LOVE pizza. I delivered pizza for four years in college and loved that job. I could eat it everyday, but I wouldn't want it at my wedding. Lemme correct that, My fiance (like yours) wouldn't want it at our wedding.

The mohawk rocks though, so it seems your fiance may put up with some things mine won't. Man, maybe my advice is changing now that I think about it.

You know what dude, just say fuck it with what other people think (like I would with my Crocs!
 
wow man, you do sound like white trailer park trash..... Pizza on your wedding day as the main course.... you might as well have the wedding at Pizza Hut then... or go all out and have it at McDonalds.

guess you're trying to save money for video games....

man, your girl hit the jackpot...
 
I think Wubb hit it right off. Serve it as a side appetizer -- you'll sort of be filling people up in the process -- and make sure its known that this is "your guys" pizza place. Have a nice little sign made up and do your platter idea. Then it will sound cute as opposed to cheap.

I hate to say it, but weddings (in practice - not ideals, folks) do have a lot to do with family members. I used to think otherwise until last year when I went to three weddings. Families (ahem, women) get CRAZY. And if her family isn't psyched on pizza as a main course, you'd stress a lot less if you simply abide by their wishes. Take out a loan for a couple hundred and get something banging.


People talk about the food the entire wedding. It's worth not being a cheap ass in this instance, IMO. And consider, these people will probably be spending a grip on your wedding gifts.
 
Why not serve it at the rehearsal dinner as a side dish? Problem solved. God I am awesome.

Colty's right. Assuming you spend your life with your woman, you don't want her family thinking you're a tacky cheap asshole for the rest of your life.

Because women are assholes when it comes to weddings. They want all that "perfect wedding" bullshit, and have had their entire lives to mull over about it.
 
[quote name='coltyhuxx']I think Wubb hit it right off. Serve it as a side appetizer -- you'll sort of be filling people up in the process -- and make sure its known that this is "your guys" pizza place. Have a nice little sign made up and do your platter idea. Then it will sound cute as opposed to cheap.

I hate to say it, but weddings (in practice - not ideals, folks) do have a lot to do with family members. I used to think otherwise until last year when I went to three weddings. Families (ahem, women) get CRAZY. And if her family isn't psyched on pizza as a main course, you'd stress a lot less if you simply abide by their wishes. Take out a loan for a couple hundred and get something banging.


People talk about the food the entire wedding. It's worth not being a cheap ass in this instance, IMO. And consider, these people will probably be spending a grip on your wedding gifts.[/QUOTE]

hehe I can understand. Iv went to 4 weddings in the last year and a half. All the woman in all the familes went nuts.....they went nuts even for my cousin who didnt want a freaking wedding but to get eloped and requested something small. My aunts spent $1,000s on silly stuff. One of them made a "candy buffet" which consisted of over $1,000 worth of candy set up in dozens of giant vases. I might add I hate my cousin for letting her do this because I would have freaking LOVED that at my wedding but my fiancee cant let my aunt do it since its already been done!

As for the food....it wasnt being a cheap ass. The nice place that catered my cousins wedding costs less then this pizza would. Can understand the wedding gifts thing too....cousin pulled in almost $9,000 cash.
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']Can understand the wedding gifts thing too....cousin pulled in almost $9,000 cash.[/quote]
Hmm...

1) Get married
2) Get gifts
3) ???
4) Profit!
 
Hell fucking yes it is tacky to have pizza as the main course. Maybe you have smaller pieces as houres d'oeuvres. That's the only way that it wouldn't be tacky.
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']hehe I can understand. Iv went to 4 weddings in the last year and a half. All the woman in all the familes went nuts.....they went nuts even for my cousin who didnt want a freaking wedding but to get eloped and requested something small. My aunts spent $1,000s on silly stuff. One of them made a "candy buffet" which consisted of over $1,000 worth of candy set up in dozens of giant vases. I might add I hate my cousin for letting her do this because I would have freaking LOVED that at my wedding but my fiancee cant let my aunt do it since its already been done!

As for the food....it wasnt being a cheap ass. The nice place that catered my cousins wedding costs less then this pizza would. Can understand the wedding gifts thing too....cousin pulled in almost $9,000 cash.[/quote]

Sorry, I always assume everyone here is a cheapass ;).

I think you should incorporate the pizza into your wedding. It sounds unique/gourmet -- and nothing like Pizza Hut.
 
[quote name='coltyhuxx']Sorry, I always assume everyone here is a cheapass ;).

I think you should incorporate the pizza into your wedding. It sounds unique/gourmet -- and nothing like Pizza Hut.[/QUOTE]


hehe dont get me wrong I am a cheap ass, just saying the pizza isnt cheap. Iv put price limits on my fiancee for what we are spending. Im sorry but its stupid to pay as much as you do for a good used car for a wedding. My cousin spent $10,000 on her wedding which is just stupid!
 
Do whatever you and your wife agree on, it's your marriage, who gives a fuck what other people think? That day is about you two... now if your wife is against it, you might have to do some compromising.
 
There was pizza at my wedding, but it was served along with chicken nuggets and french fries on the kids table. I wouldn't serve pizza as the main course.

Honestly do what your wife wants. This is her day... you are just a participant.
 
if you think the marriage will last let your fiancee have her way. pizza is tacky man no matter how good it is look for other food alternatives maybe you could do a pizza roll hourdouvers or something but the main course should be some kind of meat. chicken is always cheap and you can do it in many diff ways same for fish so look for somethign in that realm. main thing is this is basically her moment no matter how much youre paying for it ( unless her family is paying for it which they should be) if shes unhappy about any of it she could end up hating you for it over time believe that. pluss if she spends alot you can use that against her when you decide to buy soemthing expensive down the road.
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']hehe dont get me wrong I am a cheap ass, just saying the pizza isnt cheap. Iv put price limits on my fiancee for what we are spending. Im sorry but its stupid to pay as much as you do for a good used car for a wedding. My cousin spent $10,000 on her wedding which is just stupid![/quote]

10k is less than half the nat'l average, which is around 25k.
 
[quote name='pittpizza']10k is less than half the nat'l average, which is around 25k.[/QUOTE]

Pretty sure it's near or at $30k now. Disgusting. This is why I want a small wedding with very little frills. You figure with the housing crisis, people would rather get a down payment on a house than a fucking one-day wedding. :roll:
 
[quote name='Dead of Knight']Pretty sure it's near or at $30k now. Disgusting. This is why I want a small wedding with very little frills. You figure with the housing crisis, people males would rather get a down payment on a house than a fucking one-day wedding. :roll:[/quote]

Fixed.

It's this stupid ass fucking Cinderella fairy tale cultural indoctrination bullshit that is really fucking over all of us CAG who weren't lucky enough to find one of the very few girls who don't buy into this bullshit. It is a one day fucking party ladies!!! ONE DAY!!!!

"But its the most important day of our lives!!!"


Ugh. People have advised me (and you OP) to just say "fuck it" and bite the bullet and just do whatever the bride wants. It may be easier in the long run but I'm stubborn, love holding my ground, and hate giving up.
 
[quote name='pittpizza']10k is less than half the nat'l average, which is around 25k.[/QUOTE]

Which is disgusting. I mean seriously thats the down payment on a fucking house. Seriously weddings are one of the best examples of whats wrong with America. People whine about debt and credit card companies yet they get themselves into it.

I put a limit on my fiancee of $2.5k which I know is very small, but when you add in my family helping and other factors it doesnt seem so low. Even if none of my family was helping realistically id probally up that number to closer to $4k, the $2.5 just gives her a number to aim for and then she can go over....vs saying $4k and then she spends $6k.

Really I dont understand this whole giant blown up fancy pants event weddings have become. Its so stupid, weddings used to be purely about the joining of souls, the joining of familes. My guess is like so many things people act stupid over what happened is the expanding of the middle class made it so people could afford weddings more in line with what had traditionally been a wedding for the rich. So they did...and because they did susy down the street had to....then naturally it just spread to where the standard was an overblown fancy event.

Seriously im the type of guy that when I die I want people to toss a party not a mopey event. So its hard for me to wrap my mind around spending $10k-$30k on some fancy white tie event at what SHOULD be a party. I just got married, I supposedly did it because im with the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. I want to pop champaign, dance and sing not worry if people are getting greese on their ties or if the party favors are being well received.
 
[quote name='pittpizza']Fixed.

It's this stupid ass fucking Cinderella fairy tale cultural indoctrination bullshit that is really fucking over all of us CAG who weren't lucky enough to find one of the very few girls who don't buy into this bullshit. It is a one day fucking party ladies!!! ONE DAY!!!!

"But its the most important day of our lives!!!"


Ugh. People have advised me (and you OP) to just say "fuck it" and bite the bullet and just do whatever the bride wants. It may be easier in the long run but I'm stubborn, love holding my ground, and hate giving up.[/QUOTE]

Hehe this is part of why im willing to compromise so much with my fiancee and take so much shit from her mom. Because you know you found a good girl when she agrees to a $2.5k wedding and understands first that this is supposed to be a party but second we can have an event without jeopardizing our futures. And she understand how disgusted I am with the whole big event idea. We played the Mega Millions the other day because it was up to 250 million and she asked if she could atleast spend $5k on our wedding if we won. Loved her more then ever at that moment, gave her a kiss and said make it $10k(which id still be pissed about).
 
I didn't read the whole thread but having worked as a bartender at many weddings...I have NEVER seen pizza being served.

And yeah...its too 'white-trash' for a wedding. You are going to have to face it dude...you will have to pay up the ass for your wedding whether you like it or not. You can be a cheapass gamer but not a cheapass groom.
 
[quote name='lilboo']Imma serve hot dogs at mah weddin.[/QUOTE]

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Anyone see "My Redneck wedding" on CMT? Sooo funny. Oh back to the OP, no on the pizza, how bout little ham sandwitches and crackers?
 
"How about those little weenies? They come with this red sauce. It looks like ketchup, it tastes like ketchup, but brother, it aint ketchup!"
 
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