[quote name='HeadRusch']For the record, fat doesn't make you fat. Carbs dont make you fat. Overeating makes you fat.
The easiest way to lose weight is to exercise semi-regularly (get your heart rate up, sweat, get your metabolism going), reduce your caloric intake, and stick to a high protein/low carb diet.
Without carbs your body can't retain tons of water, and it has no cheap source of sugar to make energy out of, so it burns your fat instead. I eat pizza (a few slices) each week and I continue to lose weight on a low carb diet. The hard part is accepting that in order to lose weight you really have to eat lots of little meals during the day. Grazing is a good idea......your body loses much more weight if its always got a little something in the stomach, as opposed to eating 3 large meals a day. The body will burn up what it can use and, yep, store the rest as fat....so try to avoid the 3 large meals......if you have to, make breakfast the big one.
Yes, I am an expert in weddings AND weight loss.
PS: Why aren't you working...panic and anxiety is treatable with medication. You probably wouldn't have such a hard time with the parents if you were, you know, employable...and had something to offer their daughter besides companionship.[/QUOTE]
Lost 150 pounds. Think I know a little about weight lose. Was just focusing on fat because pizzas fat intake is so high. The truth is that ya carbs are worse for you, and the best thing you can do is lower carb intake while exercising. However far too many people make the mistake of lowering their carb intake just to let their fat intake go through the window which is really unhealthy. Because of that I dont like to tell people hey fat isnt important go ahead and have greesy pizza and wings.
Compltly agree that grazing is the way to go. Whenever I lost the weight I ate 4 or 5 small meals a day vs 3 big meals. Another big key though is water.....seriously drink lots and lots of water. First off people often mistake thirst for hunger, but second off if you drink a bottle of pop its something like 20-30% of the carbs you were supposed to have in a day. People seriously suck down in pop/juice/kool aid what they are supposed to eat in carbs for a day and dont realize it.
And sigh.......I thought you were going to have made it a whole post without an insult. Seriously why do you have to be insulting? I appreciate the advice on the anxiety attacks, but if you just put it more along the lines of "her parents might feel better about your ability to provide finaically wasn't risky" or something vs the only thing you can provide is companionship. You would have made a perfectly appropriate post vs being insulting.
But just to answer your question anyways let me ask you a question. What is more important, someone that provides for you financially or emotionally? Since the start of our relationship iv spent so much time helping and working with this girl and provided for her in so many ways. People have to lean on each other....I just have to lean financially instead of emotionally like most people. Her dad was physically and mentally abusefull to her, a former boyfriend had hit her and she had been raped twice. When I meet her I couldn't even hug her alot of the times without her freaking out. I can understand that her parents would have concerns as do others like her Aunts that care for her about me providing for her financially. But seriously I can just as easily respond to them where were you when her life was falling apart around her? Where were you the last 20 years of her life when she was confused, scared and depressed? In 3 years iv taken their daughter and made her not just happier then ever before....but stable for the first time. Hell I even sent her home to live with her mom for a month at one point and then again later just to make sure first off that being with me was what she wanted but second off that I was indeed what was helping her. Most of me hoped she would run away......it would have killed me...but at the same time maybe she would be normal now and yet find someone that could provide better finacially. But at home she started falling apart again. So ya know people can say what they want, but iv been the only one to nurse her back to good mental health(often at the expense of my own mental health), iv been the one that has built up her ego so she can stand on her own, iv been the one that helped her find her passion in life and iv been the one thats encouraged her and watched her bloom.
Besides that on the financial end they got her into a horrible car loan that cost her $1,000s. No one helped her with her schooling even though they had the money and when she had her numerous health problems no one helped her financially then. Since iv been in her life she has gotten herself proper insurance, payed off $1,000s in debt and is now investing in an IRA. Her friends her age that are with guys that work may be better off in the short run......but I gurantee even with me not working we will do better then anyone else.
So again ya I dont work. But we spend a lifetime teaching people that whats important is the type of person they are. All im doing is living up to that standard. We tell people to live to that standard and then why do most people get divorced? Either because their spouse isnt there for them....we hve went through the hardest times and iv been there so we know that isnt happaning, or because of finacial fights...well we are poor already and have been for years now. If we can survive now we know finances wont break us up later. In 3 years iv turned this girls life around finacially and emotionally. I wish I didn't have to lean on her financially, and I wish I didn't have to lean on her when I have my panic attacks. I feel horrible that any event we go to she spends so much time checking on me vs visiting with people. Its why I went back to college and im going to be going back to see a shrink. I dont think im going to end up finishing at school....but iv fought the panic attacks and went back and tried really hard in hopes of creating a better life for us.
Just to end this horribly long post(sorry so many of my posts are so long, I am a horrible ranter)iv tried the medication and it wasn't really helping. I'm sure there is a type out there that will or a balance of the right medications. But the few I tried messed with my personality really bad and just changed who I was. Iv also seen far too many friends take medication and become a completely different person...and yet be unable to recognize how messed up they are. I dont want this, my family doesnt and my fiancee doesnt. So iv learned to instead live with the panic attacks, I keep hoping ill find work I can do or that ill be able to learn to completely control them(I thought I could a few times and went to look for work just to learn otherwise). Iv learned to control my depressive swings(though I still have days once or twice a year I cant get out of bed)and iv learned to control all my other problems.
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