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I was debating whether or not to post this, but inspired by theduck's thread and I guess The Mana Knight's post, I'm just going to throw it out there and hopefully get more point of views on what I should do.
A little background on me: I'm a 20 year old female college student. I just got out of my first relationship about 4 months ago. It lasted about a year and a half or so. I was kinda in a funk for awhile, in the mindset that "OMFG, I'm never going to get over him..............." But this changed when I met him.. (let's call him Vega).
So I met Vega a few weeks ago (who's 19). I wasn't too impressed by him at first, but then we gradually grew to become good friends. He's one of the few people that I can just sit around with all day and just talk. Yep.. just.. really *talk* and nothing else. It isn't even important what we talk about most of the time, it's just being around him... and he says it's the same for him. He just enjoys being around me as I do around him.
So anyways, as we spend more time together, I guess I started to feel a small spark for him. It didn't glow too brightly though because I wasn't sure if I was over my ex and he kinda gave off this vibe that he didn't want a relationship. However, a few nights ago, the spark started to glow more brightly as I realized just how much I enjoyed his company. So I sat there, tormented awhile because I didn't want to risk our friendship or anything by making a move (he... gets freaked out whenever I touch him.. like lightly on his shoulder or such). However, out of nowhere, later that night, he tells me he "really, really likes me". I was stunned as I've never seen/heard him be so blunt about that before.
So... since he said that.. I kinda started imagining us going out and whatnot. BUT there are some caveats:
1) Well... I asked him the next day what he meant by "really, really liking" me. He says he ..wasn't sure -_-. He's confused. He knows he likes being around me, but.. yeah.
2) He has a lower self confidence than even me, and...well.. that's pretty damned low :x
3) He's intimidated that I have more experience than him. He's had a "girlfriend" once upon a time, but...it wasn't ...sexual whatsoever. It leads me to number 4..
4) He used to be bulimic, which brings up a whole cadre of issues. According to him (who got this from his doctor), it pretty much screwed up puberty for him, and he had no sex drive throughout high school. Now he claims he's starting to develop one.. but..
5) ; I've talked to a few friends about this, and they say I might probably be incompatible with him because of his lack of interest in sex later on down the road. I want to say that I could overcome this hump, (excuse the pun -_-), but what do you all think? :/
6) He's the most shyest person I have EVER met. If I even look at him for more than a second or two, he gets jumpy.
Ahh, I guess this is getting too long. Basically, to sum it up:
I really really like this guy. I want to be his girlfriend, but he's too shy to make a move. I've made it clear I liked him (I've even said it outright to him) and such, but he usually changes the subject. He says I make him confused.. he's never felt this "way" (and whatever that "way" is, is a mystery unto him, because he's never had feelings for anyone romantically before, or so he says) before. I guess I should take this as a cue to just move on, but... he keeps dropping hints he likes me too (calling me cute, saying how he wants to make me happy...). Plus... I don't know if I should even make a move, really. However.. I don't know, the more I hang out with him (and we've started hanging out with each other a lot.. at least 3 times a week now. He blew off other friends to be with me), the more I just want to reach out and hold his hand and just hug him for the longest time. I don't want to screw up our friendship if I'm reading the signs wrong... advice please @_@
EDIT: So after all of your input today, I'm slightly less torn than before. I DO want to take it slowly and acclimate him to make him more comfy with me, but... at the same time, a lot of you have said I'm probably wasting my time on someone who may not reciporate how I feel, ever. With that taken into consideration, I guess I really do need to just go for it. I need to know if something will ever develop. I'm seeing him tomorrow, I'm going to say we should go to the beach. So, how should I "go" for it? Just ask him outright to be mine? XD
So another Edit...
I think I might really have a chance with him. I was meaning to save any meaningful conversation for tomorrow, but he came online, so we talked for a bit before he had to go.. this is just a snippet that gives me hope ;;
Vega(7:59:04 PM): but the beach early?
Sailor Chrono (7:59:19 PM): sure
Vega(7:59:27 PM): hmm
Vega (7:59:35 PM): if you want to
Vega (8:00:04 PM): do as much as possible in a day i guess
Sailor Chrono (8:00:11 PM): With you, yes
Vega (8:00:24 PM): whoa
Sailor Chrono (8:00:30 PM):
A little background on me: I'm a 20 year old female college student. I just got out of my first relationship about 4 months ago. It lasted about a year and a half or so. I was kinda in a funk for awhile, in the mindset that "OMFG, I'm never going to get over him..............." But this changed when I met him.. (let's call him Vega).
So I met Vega a few weeks ago (who's 19). I wasn't too impressed by him at first, but then we gradually grew to become good friends. He's one of the few people that I can just sit around with all day and just talk. Yep.. just.. really *talk* and nothing else. It isn't even important what we talk about most of the time, it's just being around him... and he says it's the same for him. He just enjoys being around me as I do around him.
So anyways, as we spend more time together, I guess I started to feel a small spark for him. It didn't glow too brightly though because I wasn't sure if I was over my ex and he kinda gave off this vibe that he didn't want a relationship. However, a few nights ago, the spark started to glow more brightly as I realized just how much I enjoyed his company. So I sat there, tormented awhile because I didn't want to risk our friendship or anything by making a move (he... gets freaked out whenever I touch him.. like lightly on his shoulder or such). However, out of nowhere, later that night, he tells me he "really, really likes me". I was stunned as I've never seen/heard him be so blunt about that before.
So... since he said that.. I kinda started imagining us going out and whatnot. BUT there are some caveats:
1) Well... I asked him the next day what he meant by "really, really liking" me. He says he ..wasn't sure -_-. He's confused. He knows he likes being around me, but.. yeah.
2) He has a lower self confidence than even me, and...well.. that's pretty damned low :x
3) He's intimidated that I have more experience than him. He's had a "girlfriend" once upon a time, but...it wasn't ...sexual whatsoever. It leads me to number 4..
4) He used to be bulimic, which brings up a whole cadre of issues. According to him (who got this from his doctor), it pretty much screwed up puberty for him, and he had no sex drive throughout high school. Now he claims he's starting to develop one.. but..
5) ; I've talked to a few friends about this, and they say I might probably be incompatible with him because of his lack of interest in sex later on down the road. I want to say that I could overcome this hump, (excuse the pun -_-), but what do you all think? :/
6) He's the most shyest person I have EVER met. If I even look at him for more than a second or two, he gets jumpy.
Ahh, I guess this is getting too long. Basically, to sum it up:
I really really like this guy. I want to be his girlfriend, but he's too shy to make a move. I've made it clear I liked him (I've even said it outright to him) and such, but he usually changes the subject. He says I make him confused.. he's never felt this "way" (and whatever that "way" is, is a mystery unto him, because he's never had feelings for anyone romantically before, or so he says) before. I guess I should take this as a cue to just move on, but... he keeps dropping hints he likes me too (calling me cute, saying how he wants to make me happy...). Plus... I don't know if I should even make a move, really. However.. I don't know, the more I hang out with him (and we've started hanging out with each other a lot.. at least 3 times a week now. He blew off other friends to be with me), the more I just want to reach out and hold his hand and just hug him for the longest time. I don't want to screw up our friendship if I'm reading the signs wrong... advice please @_@
EDIT: So after all of your input today, I'm slightly less torn than before. I DO want to take it slowly and acclimate him to make him more comfy with me, but... at the same time, a lot of you have said I'm probably wasting my time on someone who may not reciporate how I feel, ever. With that taken into consideration, I guess I really do need to just go for it. I need to know if something will ever develop. I'm seeing him tomorrow, I'm going to say we should go to the beach. So, how should I "go" for it? Just ask him outright to be mine? XD
So another Edit...
I think I might really have a chance with him. I was meaning to save any meaningful conversation for tomorrow, but he came online, so we talked for a bit before he had to go.. this is just a snippet that gives me hope ;;
Vega(7:59:04 PM): but the beach early?
Sailor Chrono (7:59:19 PM): sure
Vega(7:59:27 PM): hmm
Vega (7:59:35 PM): if you want to
Vega (8:00:04 PM): do as much as possible in a day i guess
Sailor Chrono (8:00:11 PM): With you, yes
Vega (8:00:24 PM): whoa
Sailor Chrono (8:00:30 PM):