Last year, I made a post that was almost infamous. CheapyD even mentioned in the CAGcast.
Those that don't recall, it was basically my suspicions that my wife's constant time spent on the computer were not all innocent. It turns out that my suspicions weren't as bad as I had expected, I asked her to cut back on the computer. Things settled and we were back to "normal."
Fast forward to the past two weeks. She had been spending alot of time talking online to one person in particular. Two weeks ago, I came home from work and something feels out of place. I checked the phone logs and saw that she was on the phone for over an hour (ending right before I walked in the door) to a Midas in Ohio. I know the guy she's been talking to lives in Ohio.
The next morning, we get into a huge fight and I flat-out accused her of something going on. I left for work, but felt terrible about the whole thing and only worked a half-day, so I could go home and make it up to her. I get home and half of the house is empty. She moved out.
The following day, I talked to her and got the truth. She had been planning to move out since about Wednesday, and recruited her family to do so by demonizing me as some bad husband/father. That night the real truth comes out. She "accidentally" fell in love with this guy, Kevin. She doesn't know how or why, but it happened. His wife had just left him in the recent weeks.
We end up talking all night and she breaks down, looks me in the eyes in tells me she wants to fix our marriage. I ask her to break contact with him and she tells me she will. She calls him the next day and supposedly tells him to give her some space.
Fast forward another few days. We went out on a date and ended up having amazing (what I thought was make-up) sex. Two days later, same thing. The following day, she goes to see our counselor, and then that night, after fighting with her parents, tells me she changed her mind, she doesn't want to fix our marriage.
Then to yesterday. I finally got ahold of Kevin's wife. We talk for a good while and she is in absolute shock. She never left him. She never knew what was going on. They hit a rough patch, she lost her job and moved back home. The plan was for her to move back and get everything settled, then he would follow. He apparently had other plans, as he's planning on moving here now.
Now comes the big part of it. As most of you know, we have a 3-year-old daughter. She has been a completely different state of being these past few weeks. And while I had concerns about this guy, especially since Erin never met this guy in-person, I am terrified for her well-being.
After talking with his wife, I learned that he's a chain-smoker, a heavy drinker, smokes pot (and has dabbled in heavy drugs), and owns two handguns, not to mention a criminal record. I refuse to let my daughter to be exposed to that. What gets me is that this guy has so many vices and habits, all of which she is against. She hates smokers, she hates alcoholics, she hates drug addicts.
Erin says that she will make him change. I don't see that happening. If he wouldn't change for his own wife, who he had been with for 7 years, I don't see him stopping all of this cold-turkey for someone he's infatuated with.
There is more to this, but these are the main details. I'll post more later, but I have to get to the counselor's office.
I hate the internet, all it does is ruin marriages. Five years of marriage down the drain.
Those that don't recall, it was basically my suspicions that my wife's constant time spent on the computer were not all innocent. It turns out that my suspicions weren't as bad as I had expected, I asked her to cut back on the computer. Things settled and we were back to "normal."
Fast forward to the past two weeks. She had been spending alot of time talking online to one person in particular. Two weeks ago, I came home from work and something feels out of place. I checked the phone logs and saw that she was on the phone for over an hour (ending right before I walked in the door) to a Midas in Ohio. I know the guy she's been talking to lives in Ohio.
The next morning, we get into a huge fight and I flat-out accused her of something going on. I left for work, but felt terrible about the whole thing and only worked a half-day, so I could go home and make it up to her. I get home and half of the house is empty. She moved out.
The following day, I talked to her and got the truth. She had been planning to move out since about Wednesday, and recruited her family to do so by demonizing me as some bad husband/father. That night the real truth comes out. She "accidentally" fell in love with this guy, Kevin. She doesn't know how or why, but it happened. His wife had just left him in the recent weeks.
We end up talking all night and she breaks down, looks me in the eyes in tells me she wants to fix our marriage. I ask her to break contact with him and she tells me she will. She calls him the next day and supposedly tells him to give her some space.
Fast forward another few days. We went out on a date and ended up having amazing (what I thought was make-up) sex. Two days later, same thing. The following day, she goes to see our counselor, and then that night, after fighting with her parents, tells me she changed her mind, she doesn't want to fix our marriage.
Then to yesterday. I finally got ahold of Kevin's wife. We talk for a good while and she is in absolute shock. She never left him. She never knew what was going on. They hit a rough patch, she lost her job and moved back home. The plan was for her to move back and get everything settled, then he would follow. He apparently had other plans, as he's planning on moving here now.
Now comes the big part of it. As most of you know, we have a 3-year-old daughter. She has been a completely different state of being these past few weeks. And while I had concerns about this guy, especially since Erin never met this guy in-person, I am terrified for her well-being.
After talking with his wife, I learned that he's a chain-smoker, a heavy drinker, smokes pot (and has dabbled in heavy drugs), and owns two handguns, not to mention a criminal record. I refuse to let my daughter to be exposed to that. What gets me is that this guy has so many vices and habits, all of which she is against. She hates smokers, she hates alcoholics, she hates drug addicts.
Erin says that she will make him change. I don't see that happening. If he wouldn't change for his own wife, who he had been with for 7 years, I don't see him stopping all of this cold-turkey for someone he's infatuated with.
There is more to this, but these are the main details. I'll post more later, but I have to get to the counselor's office.
I hate the internet, all it does is ruin marriages. Five years of marriage down the drain.
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ed in the head. Like.. to come home and she MOVED out? That's messed up--and again, if it wasn't for your daughter I'd say "Good, let the lunatic leave".
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