[quote name='strongpimphand']what the....
PLAYBOY....NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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mane? That's like Rule #22 in the "you just don't do THAT" handbook.
You don't date women at your job. You don't date women at your apartment complex. And you don't date women who are close to your family.
First reason: You WORK with the women at work. You mentioned she was ugly when she first got hired. Well, you constantly work around an ugly woman and she starts to soften up on you! I've had that happen plenty of times. Horse faces become smooth because I got friendly with 'em.
Not only is it against company policy to have a relationship most of the time, but, it's dangerous if the shit don't work out. Try your hardest to turn this situation into a positive by asking her to bring along a few friends because your friends want to see that movie too. Smartest way to get out of a potential bad situation! Strength in numbers.
You don't want to work around a woman that might feel jilted, or a woman that might start to blur the lines between work and play.
Second reason: By messing with a woman in your apartment complex (or dorm if you got 'em) you're shitting too close to where you eat, literally. That's a huge no-no. Same reason as work.
You ever try to avoid a woman? If she lives nearby you, she can scope out when you're lying. Women are typically vindictive...and nosey. They ain't like a man, who will take shit at face value. You tell me you're out, I believe you unless its obvious you're lying. You tell a woman, and she wants to mentally and physically track you down. Once again, bad if your friendship/relationship turns sour
Third reason: You don't mess with someone who is close to your family because when yall go sour, your family won't care. They'll still want to see her!
So basically, what I'm telling you is unless you're planning on networking off this woman, you're making a mistake. Congrats on working up the courage of asking her out and such...but you don't shit where you eat. That shit rarely works and feelings typically get hurt.[/QUOTE]
OMG so very much this. I made the mistake of going out with a girl I worked with, and on the second date I found out how dumb she was, which was a huge turn off. I tried to end things nicely, but I eventually couldn't stand working with her any more and had to quit. I found a better job within a week, so overall it was good move, but if you like your job, you don't want to date anyone there.
[quote name='2DMention']I have the same problem, but I don't really work at it too much.
And I think it's impossible for shy people to have confidence.[/QUOTE]
Before I started dating the woman who is now my wife, I thought the same thing. I was very shy, and kept hearing about needing confidence to get women. The best advice that I heard was that you don't actually need to be confident. You just need to be able to fake it. It may sound weird, but it made sense to me. I was slowly able to meet women, and eventually started the relationship with my wife.