[quote name='Goonie85']Yes, you all have helped tremendously. Thank you so much. I have learned much.
1. This is clearly my fault.
2. I am a bad mother and wife.
3. I'm obviously sending the wrong signals and to make sure they know I'm not interested I should talk only about my husband, so they know I don't want them.
4. I should be ashamed of myself, as I am fat, ugly, and cheating on my husband in spite of those obvious downfalls.
Thank you to those of you who actually joined a conversation and revealed insight, without being a total douche.
Also, I'm not trying to get sympathy. I thought this was an off topic forum and I wanted to vent. You don't like, don't look and certainly don't respond. You make yourself look like an a-hole, not me.
Thanks also to the people that had something nice to say, and reassurance that only certain people act a certain way. I feel better knowing that not all you guys suck!!! Haha, j/k.[/QUOTE]
I will say it's not really fair to cherry pick which comments you feel are valid. Some people in this thread have been idiots and only lived up to the retarded caveman stereotype. But others have provided solid, worthwhile information. I know if I created a thread about something that was truly bothering me, I'd damn sure take the time to read all the responses. If you're willing to just make assumptions and lump all of us into the same category, then maybe that's your problem in making friends.
This is not to say it's YOUR FAULT...but you can't think a solution to your problem is going to be found in 2 minutes. Not all guys (nor girls) are even worth being considered for friendship...regardless of your gender. Even if you remove sex from the equation, you STILL get people who are flakey, selfish, immature, untruthful, arrogant, etc, etc, etc. Rather than just trying to solve one aspect of the problem, maybe it's better to look at it as a whole.
Find a guy who's actually a decent person, and maybe you'll find a decent friend. Although if you're looking for a guy who wants to scratch his balls in front of you, I doubt you'll have much success. In my opinion, this is the typical female problem (in both romantic and platonic relationships). You look for something so specific, and then complain when you discover what other personality traits come with it.
Did it ever occur to you that a guy who actually respects you might not feel comfortable scratching his balls in front of you? Whether you want to admit it or not, men and women are different, and people will act different when around members of their own gender. I just don't think that has anything to do with sexual tension, but more due to having a respect for the opposite gender, and a recognition that you're a part of it. That has nothing to do with whether he wants to
you.