Your current life state, positives & negatives

[quote name='specialk']And you my friend listed all things that can be fixed.
Hair not that great? Cut it short.
Not dressing fine? That really can be remedied easy. You can probably throw something together with what you have. I could go on, let me know if you want me to.
Don't wear cologne? Then do.

Seriously, alot of times it's decisions we make that keep us from being confident (in this case with girls). And these decisions are cyclical...I don't have a girl b/c of above reasons, and because I don't have a girl, I feel no reason to clean up or attempt. Let's break this.

*edit - lol tmk, I just looked at your pic in the family album...how can you have bad hair, looks like you keep it buzzed.[/QUOTE]Well, actually, I was meaning, despite what shampoo I use, I still have flakes in my hair at times. :whistle2:(

[quote name='pittpizza']I'll play. Seems thereapuetic.
- Planning a wedding (which I beleive is a waste of money) sucks

- I fear death[/QUOTE]IF I ever get married, I don't plan to even have a big wedding. Costs for wedding stuff is inflated IMO.

I think pretty much everyone fears death, but won't admit it.
 
Good:
- I'm healthy.
- Bought a 360 a couple months ago. Loving it.
- College is going well so far, with a 3.9GPA.
- New job in my field, being paid twice as much as I was before. AWESOME.
- Able to start saving a lot of money, thanks to said job.
- Small but very good group of friends.
- Basically have everything I need and most of what I want.
- Have been consistently working out since January. Starting to get back my old muscle.

Good and Bad:
- Have a car with no payments, but it has a 144k miles on it now. Hoping it will hang in there for at least another year or two.
- Live with decent roommates but they smoke way too much pot. Moving out with a good friend in August.
- Broke up with my girlfriend of 1.5 years a couple months back, kind of awkward right now. Interested in a new girl who seems very, very cool. Came out of nowhere into my life.
- Have about $4,000 in debt, but it is only student loans and I could pay it off quite easily.

Bad:
- My mom is batshit insane. Started suffering from personality disorders and has stolen over $50,000 from various people. Will probably face jail time in the future.
- My sister is socially retarded, because of my mom.
- I'm social but not extremely. I don't like to just hang out at random large parties. I prefer smaller groups. This might not be a bad thing but I feel like it is sometimes.
- I have trouble motivating myself to do schoolwork sometimes, but I do well when I do.

[quote name='The Mana Knight']I understand since I sometimes feel I'm too ugly and crappy looking to get a girl; however, girls don't really go for looks I hear.[/QUOTE]
Looks matter to everyone. To some, more than others. We tend to date people who are on the same level of attractiveness that we are. Girls tend to date guys who are taller than them.

However, sometimes an ugly guy will get with a supermodel, and on a rare occasion an ugly girl will be with a hot guy. I don't like to use the term "ugly" either, because it sounds so mean, but let's face it; our society has a type of look that it considers "beautiful." It's real.

Go with what you can change. Confidence. Not arrogance -- there's a difference. I have a good friend who is not much of a looker. I mean, seriously, he is not anything special. But he has so many girls flock to him because he's the most confident guy I know. And they're beautiful girls too. It amazes me. He really believes he can do anything. Develop some charisma.
 
Pros:
+I'm healthy
+I got many friends
+I got a job I like (I could use many more hours tho)
+I am over the average at school without any effort. I guess I could yield +95% but I just don't give a poop.
+I have a bright future
+I'm a 16 year-old eBay seller, developer and dish washer...

Cons:
-I'm poor for the first time in a while (omitting the 3000$ for my car) and I still gotta get a 230$ bike and GTAIV
-I'm not a chick magnet
-My parents are terribly limitting (gotta be home at 9, go to bed at 10...)
-I'm bored right now.


I will give my life an 8 ...outta 10.
 
Pros
+ I like my job it could pay more but can't complain too much.
+ Have no debt whatsoever
+ Enjoy time with my girlfriend
+ Love my family

Cons
- Family/Girlfriend gets on my nerves because they don't know how to manage money properly (They always over spend then come running to me to bail them out.)
- Wish I had more savings because of first Con. (If they repaid me just some of what they owe me I would be happy but they always seem to find ways not to.)
- Wish my girlfriend would get out of credit card debt so I can marry her because I don't want to assume her debt in marriage. (Been in credit card debt for years and got out of it once before when I helped pay for it then she ran it back up again.)
 
I guess I should stop stalking you guys and actually post mine. This is a good thread.


-Negs.

Lost my best friend of 15 years to a rare form of cancer late last year.

Having been born extremely poor and in the ghetto has jaded me to most things

A hand full of my middle/high school friends are either in jail or dead.

Being the poorest of my friends makes me slightly jealous of how easy things came to them.
-One got a full ride scholarship for b-ball even though he can barely add. Now gets paid a shit load playing over seas.
-Another who never even attempted to go to college makes 80k being a circuit city manager

Putting myself through college with no help (as my parents didnt even want me to go) has put me so far in debt I want to just rob a bank....though I worked 2 jobs and was on scholarship for soccer (wasnt a full ride) the entire time.

Though still love it...found out my career isnt as super awesome as I thought it would be.

*Have an extreme fear of dying before I am 25. I will explain at the bottom.



Pos+

Have always been known as a geek in a jocks body which makes me fit in with everyone.

No social anxiety what so ever. Always the center of attention, was always popular.
(note: Not snob popular...I hung out with goths,geeks,skaters,jocks,snobs.)

Also have ZERO qualms about anyones personal beliefs since I have none of my own. Muslim, Catholic, Lutheran, Satanist..its all good with me.

Achieved life long dream of working in television.

Have a great family with close friends and a great girlfriend who I would marry if I wasnt so far in debt.

Through a horrific amount of hard work put myself through college and moved out of the ghetto.

Look forward to the future as I have worked hard to set up things that should pay off later.

*I actually got this from school. Again, I grew up poor and in the ghetto. One day around...late middle school, 8 grade maybe we had a all school assembly. The guest speaker went on about how we shouldnt sell drugs,dont join a gang, blah blah blah. The thing he said that really stuck in my mind was how poor black men are 15x more like to die before the age of 25. It was noted that with no other criteria than being black...and poor. 2 things that you really have no control over. I think of that every single day.
 
Good:
+ Have great family and friends
+ No serious health problems
+ About to finish sophomore year of HS
+ Constantly improving at playing guitar
+ About to get my drivers license ( also have my grandfather's old Buick waiting for me when i get it)
+ i have a working 360/ i play my Brother's PS3 and Wii
+ Currently have a 3.14 GPA

Bad:
- Not living up to my parents academic expectations and feeling guilty for it.
- Have an on again/off again relationship with depression
- No job, no money
- Have no idea what the fuck i'm going to do after high school
- High school
- No GF ( i have strong feelings for a girl, but too nervous too ask her out)
- A little overweight
 
Yo Soodmeg, awesome job at pulling yourself up out of a bad situation instead of falling prey to crime and violence. You deserve major props.
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']I understand since I sometimes feel I'm too ugly and crappy looking to get a girl; however, girls don't really go for looks I hear.[/QUOTE]

Ninja, please. You do not look like Brian Peppers or anything. Your looks are easily good enough to get you a girl once you get some damn confidence.
 
+Have a good job considering my skills.
+Make pretty good money, all the overtime I can handle.
+Work pays for my schooling.
+Live rent free on 35 acres in a nice house where I can enjoy my favorite hobby, shooting.
+Have everything I need, and buy basically what I want, when I want.
+Family cares about me, as do my limited amount of friends.
+I live in America.


-Pretty sure I've been depressed most of my life, but my personality will never allow me to seek help.
-Have some health problems, likely caused by the above.
-Am completely unmotivated in things that should matter to me.
-Family is completely disfunctional. They're mostly selfish and pigheaded.
-I make no effort to hang out with friends, even though I want to.
-At this rate I'll probably hate my life in a few years.
-Never been in a real relationship, pretty sure I'm hung up on a girl and have been for the past 5+ years even though I know nothing will ever happen and I don't even want it to at this point.
 
As much as i don't want to do this, here goes.

Pros:
+ I'm in college, which is more than most of my family can say. Only two other people in my extended family graduated from college.
+ I've managed to pass every single class so far and have kept a 3.0+ GPA
+ I have a job which is ridiculously easy
+ I'm relatively healthy
+ I'm the most articulate and well spoken person i know, between both friends and most of my family.

Cons:(mostly related to college)
- I'm paying for college with student loans, by the time i'm finished i'll be heavily in debt.
- While i do not qualify for any sort of grant or other free ride, my parents cannot afford to pay my tuition either.
- Thats been a sore spot for me since i started college, why didn't my parents ever save any money for that?
- Education is not really appreciated in my family, if you aren't doing some sort of manual labor, you aren't really working hard. This has led to me feeling unsupported in my pursuit of an education.
- Neither of my parents really have any interest in my education, they don't make any attempt to understand any of it, especially my father.
- I'm in danger of not passing my accounting 2 class this semester, something i'm ashamed to admit.
- On top of all that, if i don't finish school soon and get out of this house, i'm going to lose my mind.
 
Good

+ I'm alive.
+ I'm only a year away from paying off my truck. Only 32,000 miles on it. :)
+ My job pays decently with good benefits.



Bad

- My job is absolutely fucking killing me. It's to the point where it is affecting my sleep/health. I'm so tired most of the time I don't want to do anything but go home. Not to mention, there are other issues I won't go into.
- I have very little time for realtionships or anything else because I spend so much time at work. Often 55 - 60 hours per week. I'm salaried so I can't do much about it.
- Although I am making progress with my debt, it's still more than I want it to be.
- I have a degenerative condition in my knee. My knee still gives me trouble ten years after I originally hurt it playing basketball in college. This is despite physical therapy.
- My mother is absolutely terrible with money and I end up bailing her out of jams she keeps getting herself into at the expense of my own plans.
- I just found out a guy I absolutely schooled at basketball in highschool is playing professionally in France. It was always my dream to play professionally somewhere, but I stayed hurt in high school and only had one healthy year in college.
 
[quote name='Troopa']Yo Soodmeg, awesome job at pulling yourself up out of a bad situation instead of falling prey to crime and violence. You deserve major props.[/quote]

Thanks man. But I cant take all the credit. The before mentioned friends were the only reason I got out. We made a pact long time ago that all of us would get out..so whenever one of us would drift the other 4 would be right there to set them straight. (also my dad being a cop in the same city kept us out of really illegal stuff)

Everyone makes fun of me for this but it was very imporant to my life. I got the words Tick Tock tattooed on my wrist. It serves as an constant reminder of how much time I had until _____ (finishing high school, saving for college, finishing college....etc) It might be stupid but it helped a lot on those days I just wanted to kill myself. I put it on my wrist so I would be forced to look at it all the time. Whatever it takes man...whatever it takes.


[quote name='JolietJake']As much as i don't want to do this, here goes.



Cons:(mostly related to college)
- I'm paying for college with student loans, by the time i'm finished i'll be heavily in debt.
- While i do not qualify for any sort of grant or other free ride, my parents cannot afford to pay my tuition either.
- Thats been a sore spot for me since i started college, why didn't my parents ever save any money for that?
- Education is not really appreciated in my family, if you aren't doing some sort of manual labor, you aren't really working hard. This has led to me feeling unsupported in my pursuit of an education.
- Neither of my parents really have any interest in my education, they don't make any attempt to understand any of it, especially my father.
- I'm in danger of not passing my accounting 2 class this semester, something i'm ashamed to admit.
- On top of all that, if i don't finish school soon and get out of this house, i'm going to lose my mind.[/quote]


I dont know if we are suppose to comment on others but I would like this to you JJ.

Ease up on college (I know that is very hard to do) but like I said...I came from literally nothing. The whole college loan system is heavily flawed. It sucks ass for everyone involved. The reason your parents didnt save up enough is probably because they just couldnt like 90% of the rest of the world. The cost of living rises every single year while salaries basically stay the same. Colleges are business...they are there to make money first and education second. So as they raise their prices for basically the same quality ever year it makes it harder and harder to afford.

My girl who comes from and upper middle class family parents save most of their lives to send her to college. Guess what? After 2 years most of that money was gone. And she still had to take out loans.

In order for parents to save up for their kids college they would have to be money a horrid amount of money away every year, hope to god nothing big comes up that takes their money away....hope they dont get laid off, econ drops.

There is just so many things that goes against the just saving up for college of yesteryear. Not to mention the day of 4 and out are quickly disappearing as school require more and more to get their precious little paper. For most people they have 4 years, internship/field work/ lab work....ETC. There is so much more that goes into just going to college now then it used to be and every step of the way cost money.

Just to make you feel a little better....if that even does.
 
the good:

have a great girlfriend
have a nice car that I like a lot
have lots of time to do whatever I want

The bad:

cant find a job (which is why I have that free time lol)
father is no longer able to work, and will be going on permanent disability
due to father being unable to work, parents are losing their home to foreclosure
due to my lack of job I will be losing my car unless I can ebay enough to make it another month

so I am not enjoying life at the moment. Hopefully things will be getting better soon. I put out tons of applications daily to everyplace I can think of, but no bites yet. :cry:
 
The good:
+ I haven't been in any major accidents recently.
+ I'm getting financial aid money for school. Basically a free ride.

The bad:
- I haven't had a relationship in a couple years.
- I've lost almost all relationships with friends recently. Real life and online, too.
- It's April, so this is when all the work is piled on. I have 2 group assignments and a giant essay.
- I've been gaining weight and it's hard not to.
- I'm sick of being at home.
- I'm also CURRENTLY sick.
- I haven't been social in a long time.
- I'm unemployed.
- Lots of trouble with my parents. Not between me and them, but themselves.
 
[quote name='JohnnyFoxDarko']The good:
+ I haven't been in any major accidents recently.
+ I'm getting financial aid money for school. Basically a free ride.

The bad:
- I haven't had a relationship in a couple years.
- I've lost almost all relationships with friends recently. Real life and online, too.
- It's April, so this is when all the work is piled on. I have 2 group assignments and a giant essay.
- I've been gaining weight and it's hard not to.
- I'm sick of being at home.
- I'm also CURRENTLY sick.
- I haven't been social in a long time.
- I'm unemployed.
- Lots of trouble with my parents. Not between me and them, but themselves.[/QUOTE]

:rofl: Loser.
 
+Summer's around the corner
+Going to check in and see what crap I have to pull off to finish up with college
+Work is.. work
+Great company, family, friends, girlfriend, etc.

-No money after my sexy TV (totally worth it. I've had to bum around for two weeks though)
-Confused about a lot of things
-I keep feeling like there's something more out there. Almost like I'm missing the big picture.. I just need to disappear to the beach for a week or so sometime in the near future. Sitting on the beach with your feet buried in the sand always clears your head..
 
+ Have a good job, although the pay could be better.
+ Have the best girlfriend a guy could ask for, although we can only see each other on the weekends.
+ Decent amount of money saved up.
+ Living at "home" for free.
+ No major health problems.

- Currently sick and can't go to the clinic until Wednesday.
- Ridiculous college loans.

Yeah, that's all I can really bitch about. I have some shit I could whine about, but what's the point? I'm lactose intolerant, but I don't really mind. I have a bad back, but oh well, it's my fault. I have bad ankles...

- Bad ankles.

OK, I'm done.
 
[quote name='Soodmeg']Thanks man. But I cant take all the credit. The before mentioned friends were the only reason I got out. We made a pact long time ago that all of us would get out..so whenever one of us would drift the other 4 would be right there to set them straight. (also my dad being a cop in the same city kept us out of really illegal stuff)

Everyone makes fun of me for this but it was very imporant to my life. I got the words Tick Tock tattooed on my wrist. It serves as an constant reminder of how much time I had until _____ (finishing high school, saving for college, finishing college....etc) It might be stupid but it helped a lot on those days I just wanted to kill myself. I put it on my wrist so I would be forced to look at it all the time. Whatever it takes man...whatever it takes.





I dont know if we are suppose to comment on others but I would like this to you JJ.

Ease up on college (I know that is very hard to do) but like I said...I came from literally nothing. The whole college loan system is heavily flawed. It sucks ass for everyone involved. The reason your parents didnt save up enough is probably because they just couldnt like 90% of the rest of the world. The cost of living rises every single year while salaries basically stay the same. Colleges are business...they are there to make money first and education second. So as they raise their prices for basically the same quality ever year it makes it harder and harder to afford.

My girl who comes from and upper middle class family parents save most of their lives to send her to college. Guess what? After 2 years most of that money was gone. And she still had to take out loans.

In order for parents to save up for their kids college they would have to be money a horrid amount of money away every year, hope to god nothing big comes up that takes their money away....hope they dont get laid off, econ drops.

There is just so many things that goes against the just saving up for college of yesteryear. Not to mention the day of 4 and out are quickly disappearing as school require more and more to get their precious little paper. For most people they have 4 years, internship/field work/ lab work....ETC. There is so much more that goes into just going to college now then it used to be and every step of the way cost money.
Just to make you feel a little better....if that even does.[/quote]Maybe i'm just a little resentful towards my parents, i don't know. My two cousins (brother's sister's kids) are going to have it much easier than i have. Both my aunt and uncle went to college and got an education, so they make more money and were able to save for my cousins' educations. My dad could have, my grandparents offered to send him, his sister, and brother, but only my aunt went. Sometimes i wish he had, might have been easier on us as a whole.
 
I was too busy to post when this thing was first going around, so here goes:

Pros
+Not incredibly unhealthy, but I have this funny feeling in my right abdomen sometimes...
+Great girlfriend who I'll probably marry within the next 2 or 3 years
+4.0 GPA, which doesn't mean much to me, but will hopefully mean something to graduate school
+Had a half-tuition scholarship and a little other financial aid, so my loans coming out of undergrad are only looking at around $20k
+My car isn't dead yet
+Living at home so no rent and free food
+I'm taking some time to learn guitar, which I've wanted to do since I got the guitar when I was like 14

Cons
-I need to lose some weight and I sometimes think that funny feeling in my abdomen is some tumor or organ on the brink of explosion and when school ends I think I'm off my parent's health insurance
-Need a job before grad school that doesn't suck
-Undergrad is ending and I have no idea what the fuck to do for a year until I hopefully go to grad school
-Loans will need repaying after probably a 6-month grace period
-No idea what grad school to go to and hope I can just stay at this college, but that might not be too likely
-I have a paper and an English project due on Thursday and Friday respectively which is hell for me because I always wait until the last minute.
-My car is half-dead, the transmission is a POS and likes to jump going from 1st to 2nd (automatic)
-Living at home, which is annoying
-I'll be damned if I can do a fucking barre chord, it's like my finger is defective

That's about it, overall I don't have much to complain about, at least not until school is over.
 
[quote name='seanr1221']Let's see...

+ Good job
+ Good education
+ Good house life
+ A roof over my head
+ Single

- Can't really think of any[/QUOTE]I can think of something negative, Mana Knight found you on Facebook. ;)

[quote name='SpazX']I was too busy to post when this thing was first going around, so here goes:

Pros
+Not incredibly unhealthy, but I have this funny feeling in my right abdomen sometimes...
+Great girlfriend who I'll probably marry within the next 2 or 3 years
+4.0 GPA, which doesn't mean much to me, but will hopefully mean something to graduate school
+Had a half-tuition scholarship and a little other financial aid, so my loans coming out of undergrad are only looking at around $20k
+My car isn't dead yet
+Living at home so no rent and free food
+I'm taking some time to learn guitar, which I've wanted to do since I got the guitar when I was like 14

Cons
-I need to lose some weight and I sometimes think that funny feeling in my abdomen is some tumor or organ on the brink of explosion and when school ends I think I'm off my parent's health insurance
-Need a job before grad school that doesn't suck
-Undergrad is ending and I have no idea what the fuck to do for a year until I hopefully go to grad school
-Loans will need repaying after probably a 6-month grace period
-No idea what grad school to go to and hope I can just stay at this college, but that might not be too likely
-I have a paper and an English project due on Thursday and Friday respectively which is hell for me because I always wait until the last minute.
-My car is half-dead, the transmission is a POS and likes to jump going from 1st to 2nd (automatic)
-Living at home, which is annoying
-I'll be damned if I can do a fucking barre chord, it's like my finger is defective

That's about it, overall I don't have much to complain about, at least not until school is over.[/QUOTE]Lucky you have a 4.0GPA. I tried locking myself indoors on weekends, goes several days without eating well, and stressing myself through the roof to try to get a 4.0 within my major, but every semester, I'd get a B in ONE class.

I know what you mean, because I may finally be done with college, and I have no idea what I'm going to do, and what I start with. I'm considering Grad School, but since I'm so broke (one reason I cannot see doctors over certain health issues I have), I better not go there and get a job. My problem with a job is that I haven't sent out my resume anywhere (showing jobs my terrible 3.59 overall GPA and other stuff) and they don't even know I exists. I didn't do anything because senior design was killing me and I had to assure my project worked (which now it mostly does).

I'm going to make another list later in this thread.
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight'] My problem with a job is that I haven't sent out my resume anywhere (showing jobs my terrible 3.59 overall GPA and other stuff) [/QUOTE]

:rofl::rofl::rofl:

Wow, you really have no self-confidence, do you?

You're not gonna get a job unless you send out resumes. Your problem is not your "terrible" :roll: GPA, it's your confidence.... or complete lack thereof.
 
[quote name='Dead of Knight']:rofl::rofl::rofl:

Wow, you really have no self-confidence, do you?

You're not gonna get a job unless you send out resumes. Your problem is not your "terrible" :roll: GPA, it's your confidence.... or complete lack thereof.[/QUOTE]I was actually being sarcastic there, but in reality, my GPA isn't up to my standards.

Don't worry, I'm building a lot of confidence after my senior project has been done pretty much. :) Still have a lot left to gain.
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']I can think of something negative, Mana Knight found you on Facebook. ;)

Lucky you have a 4.0GPA. I tried locking myself indoors on weekends, goes several days without eating well, and stressing myself through the roof to try to get a 4.0 within my major, but every semester, I'd get a B in ONE class.

I know what you mean, because I may finally be done with college, and I have no idea what I'm going to do, and what I start with. I'm considering Grad School, but since I'm so broke (one reason I cannot see doctors over certain health issues I have), I better not go there and get a job. My problem with a job is that I haven't sent out my resume anywhere (showing jobs my terrible 3.59 overall GPA and other stuff) and they don't even know I exists. I didn't do anything because senior design was killing me and I had to assure my project worked (which now it mostly does).

I'm going to make another list later in this thread.[/quote]A 3.5 GPA is not that bad, i know people with GPAs in the 2 range.
 
[quote name='Troopa']Maybe with some hard work we can be as cool as Moxio. I'd love to poop 3x a day. You're my hero.[/QUOTE]

[quote name='JohnnyFoxDarko']Show me how to poop like you.

Keep in mind I don't have a tennis racket to shove up my ass. :cry:[/QUOTE]

:cool:
 
+Getting a good education (halfway towards my bachelor's)
+I have an apartment with great roommates
+Great friends
+Awesome new car
+Single
+Laid back job
-Could stand to lose weight
 
[quote name='crazytalkx']
+Single
[/QUOTE]I dunno what's so great about being single. Does it have to do with having more money to spend on yourself or something? I thought relationships were suppose to find happiness in two people.
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']I dunno what's so great about being single. Does it have to do with having more money to spend on yourself or something? I thought relationships were suppose to find happiness in two people.[/QUOTE]

I can list many things off the top of my head: Don't have to deal with a person's drama, more money, less problems, can do whatever you want, etc. etc. etc.

Just hook up with girls if you want the sexual part. You're young. Relationships are to find who you want to marry.
 
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