[quote name='GuilewasNK']On the contrary, I know they are unreasonable and I never said they are completely accountable for their actions, although at ten you are expected to know right from wrong.
If a child has extreme behavioral disorders then all the good parenting in the world won't make a difference. There are plenty of parents with one really great kid and one kid that turns out to be an asshole. Ultimately the kid chooses to go along with what the parent says (for whatever reason) and ultimately some children can't be controlled and it is absurd to think bad parenting is always the reason for a bad kid. It is the contributing factor most of the time, but not all the time. Kids can be bi-polar, manic depressive, hyper-emotional and as illogically beligerent as any adult.[/QUOTE]
Then let's get this kid signed up for therapy and really deal with her problems. I agree that at the age of ten, you SHOULD know right from wrong. But if you don't, whose fault is it? I'd most definitely say the parents. I've actually known people who have called the cops on their own kids before, and while those kids may have been difficult to handle, it doesn't excuse the parent from knowing how to deal with them.
I won't deny there are cases where children have diagnosed medical problems that prevent them from "acting right", and parents who go above and beyond the call of duty to "fix" that child. But in the vast majority of these cases, you'll find a parent on drugs, a parent who pays more attention to their career, a parent with wacky religious beliefs, or a parent who's just lazy. Hell, even with a diagnosed medical disorder, there's a strong chance the disorder was brought on BECAUSE of one of those factors.
These kinds of stories pop up all the time with kids going off the deep end and abusing/torturing/murdering their peers, and everybody is so quick to blame music, TV, video games, etc. But 99% of the time, it comes back to bad parenting. You argue that a child can easily be as illogically beligerant as any adult, but I have to ask, how do they become that way? Are we arguing nature vs nurture here?