Ever had a girl cheat on you?

Been cheated on once. While she was at work I left a letter at her house saying that she'd never hear from me again, and she hasn't.
 
Kind of...like I've never had one cheat on me in like a relationship, more of a makeout thing...she was a bitch anyways. Though it sucked finding out about it.

[quote name='Warlock TCK']I've had two girlfriends cheat on me.

It sucks. You just call them out on their shit, cut ties and get over it as soon as possible.[/quote]

Great advice right here, though a few of my friends, after finding out their GF's cheated on them, just did the same thing to them. :/

But honestly, just cut ties with a GF who cheats...there are other fish in the sea, as Troy McLure would say.
 
I had one cheat on before, and its something you usually dont get over. In this case it was one of my "friends" so it was kinda worse than a normal situation.
 
[quote name='karmapolice']I had one cheat on before, and its something you usually dont get over. In this case it was one of my "friends" so it was kinda worse than a normal situation.[/quote]

Amen my friend.
 
I straight up dumped her ass. Sleeping with the ex....that was it. One time, no warning, no going back.

Be strong...there's a woman out there who WON'T cheat on you.

TBW
 
[quote name='Dark Slayer120']Sure have.

Walked in her house and saw her and my best friend having sex on her couch.[/QUOTE]

So what happened?

I've sometimes wondered what I would do if I caught a friend with my girl. Do you keep the friend and dump the girl or vice versa or both? Fortunately I've never been cheated on (that I know of).
 
Both would have to go, it doesn't have to happen to you to know what you'd do. How can you be friends with someone who didn't respect you enough to stay out of your girlfriend? How can you date someone who didn't respect you enough to keep your friend out of her? They both go.
 
Happened to me a few times, I always have a 3 strike policy except when it comes to cheating. See, I only do serious relationship, assess the relationship after a few months and keep going if there's chemistry between us. Getting cheated on when you're in love is quite the traumatizing experience, but then you get over it and realize shit happens.

Luckily, I ALWAYS get the satisfaction of them crawling back and saying they made a huge mistake and their life has turned to shit. I know, it's horrible, I'm a horrible person, bla bla bla, you can't stop me from enjoying it to its fullest, LOL!
 
No, I haven't. But I have decided that all girls are selfish liars. So none will ever again have the opportunity to cheat on me.

What I've had done to me is much worse than cheating...
 
[quote name='MorPhiend']No, I haven't. But I have decided that all girls are selfish liars. So none will ever again have the opportunity to cheat on me.

What I've had done to me is much worse than cheating...[/quote]

I hear ya there, don't forget to mention how manipulative they are! There are definitely things worse than cheating.
 
[quote name='MorPhiend']No, I haven't. But I have decided that all girls are selfish liars. So none will ever again have the opportunity to cheat on me.

What I've had done to me is much worse than cheating...[/quote]So she fucked your dog, then ran over it with her car?
 
Yes. End things and move on, no matter how much they apologize and say they love you. If they truly loved you, they would not have cheated, plain and simple.

It hurts and makes you feel like shit, but don't blame yourself. They're the inadequate one who couldn't control their own impulses and betrayed your commitment to each other.

Luckily, I ALWAYS get the satisfaction of them crawling back and saying they made a huge mistake and their life has turned to shit. I know, it's horrible, I'm a horrible person, bla bla bla, you can't stop me from enjoying it to its fullest, LOL!
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Exactly, let them wallow in regret. Maybe then they will learn and their next relationship will have less "trouble."
 
Had something kinda funny happen last night. I went and saw "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" (which pretty much reminded me entirely of my situation with my ex a few months back... funny ass movie too). For those who haven't seen it, basically this guy is dating an actress for 5 years and she dumps him for another guy. He decides to go on a vacation to Hawaii and ends up running into her and her new guy and the awkward hilarity ensues...

So after the movie, I drop my friend off and decide to grab a burger on the way home (it's like 1am). I'm going through the In N Out drive through, and who do I see sitting right inside the restaurant? Yep, my ex and her new boyfriend that she left me for. I was slouched down in my seat with my hat down so they wouldn't see me, and of course I had to sit at that window FOREVER waiting for my food. Luckily they didn't spot me (I have a very easily distinguishable vehicle). It was at this moment that I realized what a cosmic joke my life has become. I'm living in a movie without the comic relief.
 
I honestly dont know if my last GF cheated on me or not. She started distancing herself near the end. At first I thought it was just the fact we had less time to see each other, but I didn't press the issue since there was no real proof of anything. Anything was possible I suppose.
 
[quote name='MorPhiend']No, I haven't. But I have decided that all girls are selfish liars. So none will ever again have the opportunity to cheat on me.

What I've had done to me is much worse than cheating...[/quote]

Your capacity for pain is just as much as your capacity for pleasure. Also, have fun mentally abusing the only girl you love that loves you back because of your own feelings of self inadequacy and then regretting it when she realizes how much of a dick you are and cheats on you.
 
[quote name='GTzerO']Your capacity for pain is just as much as your capacity for pleasure. Also, have fun mentally abusing the only girl you love that loves you back because of your own feelings of self inadequacy and then regretting it when she realizes how much of a dick you are and cheats on you.[/quote]Not to be rude, but what the hell are you blabbing about? No. Seriously. I want to know because what you said has absolutely zero to do with my situation.
 
[quote name='MorPhiend']Not to be rude, but what the hell are you blabbing about? No. Seriously. I want to know because what you said has absolutely zero to do with my situation.[/quote]

" So none will ever again have the opportunity to cheat on me."

Maybe I just read into that too much, but it looks you implied that you'd never date anyone again. If you didn't, then you'd be flawed because if you're in a relationship there's always an opportunity for someone to cheat on you. I said your capacity for pleasure is as big as your capacity for pain, which is pretty self explanatory. And you were very vague ( and pretentious ) about your " situation".

I'll admit that the last part was pretty out there, but it seems as if you have feelings of self inadequacy. If you didn't, then you'd think " so and so girls cheated on me and are bitches" instead of " all women are selfish liars". Anyway, that last part was probably just projection.
 
[quote name='GTzerO']" So none will ever again have the opportunity to cheat on me."

Maybe I just read into that too much, but it looks you implied that you'd never date anyone again. If you didn't, then you'd be flawed because if you're in a relationship there's always an opportunity for someone to cheat on you. I said your capacity for pleasure is as big as your capacity for pain, which is pretty self explanatory. And you were very vague ( and pretentious ) about your " situation".

I'll admit that the last part was pretty out there, but it seems as if you have feelings of self inadequacy. If you didn't, then you'd think " so and so girls cheated on me and are bitches" instead of " all women are selfish liars". Anyway, that last part was probably just projection.[/quote]hmm.. I still don't really see what point you are trying to make. I was purposely vague because I didn't want to steal the thread and I really don't care to fan my relationships all over the net. But to clarify (since you seem so interested), no girl has cheated on me. I have never cheated on a girl. And I wouldn't date the type of girl who was capable of doing such a thing (or at least I try to avoid it and have done a pretty good job so far). And before anyone says that everyone cheats or anything like that, you know, there are still people in this world who value themselves enough to not pass around their virtue like candy on Halloween.

My feelings are based solely upon the idea which I have found to be true. Girls are dishonest and selfish. And yes, at the moment I don't plan on wasting my time or emotions on such creatures. I still "hang out" with and work with primarily females, and have a good time doing so. All the while, I still treat them as ladies, even though I'm not "interested" in them and I don't plan on "dating" any of them anytime soon.

I thought that was called being a good friend and a gentleman. But somehow I guess I got mixed up and it makes me abusive, a "dick" and wallowing in self-inadequacy. Also, I guess it makes my friend's wife wrong when she told me I was "too nice of a guy" after she asked me why I hadn't removed my ex from my friends list on Facebook if it makes me so sad to see her new pictures posted on my news feed and I told her that I really want to but I don't want to hurt her feelings if she were to find out I had done so. I guess that makes me a pig-headed jerk, huh? *oink*

(If my tone reads as if I'm angry, I'm not. I often come across that way.:))
 
[quote name='Diiz']So after the movie, I drop my friend off and decide to grab a burger on the way home (it's like 1am). I'm going through the In N Out drive through, and who do I see sitting right inside the restaurant? Yep, my ex and her new boyfriend that she left me for. I was slouched down in my seat with my hat down so they wouldn't see me, and of course I had to sit at that window FOREVER waiting for my food. Luckily they didn't spot me (I have a very easily distinguishable vehicle). It was at this moment that I realized what a cosmic joke my life has become. I'm living in a movie without the comic relief.[/quote]:grouphug:
 
Well being a female that was cheated on by a guy... Seriously pissed me off.

I went to a desert party with a friend of mine, drank a little, talked with some old friends. Had a good time.
My Ex was at his Aunt and Uncle's house house sitting and keeping an eye on his two cousins.
He was a pathetic, druggie arsehole.

He ended up getting drunk with his cousins and their friends... Smoked catnip just to see what happens, popped quite a few pain pills and ended up having sex with a 14 year old. -.-

I have no clue where he is in his life now but last I heard he was massivly into drugs, living at his mom's house and they ended up having to relocate to a cruddy part of town due to not being able to afford anything.

Still waiting for the news report stating he over dosed off crappy drugs in a ditch... still waiting...

I can say the whole live your life as best you can is good advice though. I have a very decent paying job, I have an amazing guy in my life, I have an amazing group of friends and darnit... I'm paying only $242 a month for a 2009 Scion TC... 2 Sun roofs I mean come on... who ELSE has that. >.>
See! Not cheating gets you a cheaper car payment!
 
[quote name='Dandeschain']Never had one cheat on me. There would probably be trouble though as I am employed in "waste management"...[/quote]

Honestly, where else is a better place to dump bodies than in the Meadowlands?
 
I dated a girl that dumped me and then was dating a different guy about a week later...

Yea, that should qualify as cheating... knowing her, it would have to be a slim to none chance that she met him right as we broke up and then turned the horse right around to date him.

As far as I know, she's doing way worse than I am, so I guess thats good in the sense that I did the whole "live your life to the fullest" or whatever that quote was said earlier. But I don't see myself as the type to wish bad things upon someone...
 
[quote name='SerenityKry']I'm paying only $242 a month for a 2009 Scion TC... 2 Sun roofs I mean come on... who ELSE has that. >.>
See! Not cheating gets you a cheaper car payment![/quote]

It's funny you mention that, driving my 06 tC at the end of a long day always cheers me up whether I had to deal with shitty people or what not.
 
Yeah, and I just drank a twelve pack in about an hour and punched through a couple of walls and a door. Bro. Really a high point in my life.

I went on a wicked bender for a couple weeks, then cleaned up and started seeing someone else.

There really is nothing better than having your ex call you at 1:30 in the morning from a club to tell you about how much "great sex" she's having since you threw her ass out and how "hot" the guy is that she's going home with. Which will invariably be followed up with a phone call at 1:30 in the afternoon from her bedroom crying about how she misses you (assuming you didn't let her little stunt the night before get to you). And if she's crazy (they usually are), this will happen like clockwork every Friday and Saturday, most Tuesdays, and every third Wednesday for at least two months. That alone almost makes it all worthwhile.
 
[quote name='defiance_17']
There really is nothing better than having your ex call you at 1:30 in the morning from a club to tell you about how much "great sex" she's having since you threw her ass out and how "hot" the guy is that she's going home with. Which will invariably be followed up with a phone call at 1:30 in the afternoon from her bedroom crying about how she misses you (assuming you didn't let her little stunt the night before get to you). And if she's crazy (they usually are), this will happen like clockwork every Friday and Saturday, most Tuesdays, and every third Wednesday for at least two months. That alone almost makes it all worthwhile.[/quote]

:rofl::rofl:
 
... I dunno. It's probably happened at some point. I've honestly never really given it a lot of thought.
 
[quote name='dastly75']It's funny you mention that, driving my 06 tC at the end of a long day always cheers me up whether I had to deal with shitty people or what not.[/quote]
Tell me about it, that car is awesome... Throw open the sun roof, turn up the tunes and make the drive home, it's pretty nice and relaxing.

Tis the answer to any and all problems, buy a Scion tC. When someone cheats on you, once again it is the answer, buy a Scion tC. :D
 
Now that you mention it, no. My abusive ex-husband did, though.

[quote name='seanr1221']Now, we just have causal sex.[/quote]Perhaps there are people who can have casual sex. I remember reading a study (forget who did the study so I can't reference it), which found that when men have sex, the part of the brain that's stimulated is related to enjoyment, euphoria, that sort of thing. When women have sex, the part of the brain which is stimulated is directly related to emotional bonding.

I don't believe something is gospel just because 'some study' found X, Y or Z. But after reading it, I had to admit that I could very easily believe the 'women bond through sex.'

[quote name='sp00ge']Yes. End things and move on, no matter how much they apologize and say they love you. If they truly loved you, they would not have cheated, plain and simple.[/quote]To amplify on that theme, there may be a lot of, "it was because you weren't _______" or "it's because you're ______." Folks with true love for their partner don't punish the other, they work something out. You may not get exactly what you want, but it's a relationship. It isn't about YOU. It's about the both of you.

There's also the "it'll never happen again." When a person loves with a pure, selfless love there would never have been a first time. Perhaps they'll change, but I'm of the mind that if a person can hurt another they claim to love once, they can hurt again.
 
Yup. I walked in on her and my best friend at the time. I should have seen it coming too, especially since I started out as "the other dude."
It hurt pretty bad at the time and it messed me up for any chance of having serious relationships for a while, but in the end I got to learn about myself. And you don't get better life-lessons than that.
 
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