Girlfriends and Video Games

-MaStEr ChEiF-

-MaStEr ChEiF-

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Well, I think that its time to put down the games and finally move onto more important things. A girlfriend is the last thing i expected, but i really love her. I just want to spend alot of time with her so we can go on more dates and stuff like that. I just don't know cause putting down the games is gonna be harder to do than say. Has anyone else had to go through this?
 
No. A girl should accept you for who you are. My girlfriend doesn't care how I spend my free time as long as I spend enough time with her. It's when your leisure starts to interfere with your life that you have a problem. Not that I've really been a big gamer as of late anyway... but I do other stuff (studying, hanging on the Internet, watching TV whatever).
 
lol wut

There's no way I'd ever date someone who made me or encouraged me to stop playing videogames. But I did find someone who likes videogames just as much as me, and we often play our single-player RPGs side by side. If you gave us more details about the situation, OP, we'd probably be able to help you more. But I don't think it's worth it to give up videogames for some girl. If she wants you to/makes you do that, she obviously doesn't respect you.
 
First of all, if you change to be something she wants but you don't want, you'll hate her for every fucking minute. Second, you're changing something that is not harming anyone in the first place so why be concerned about it?
 
[quote name='PhrostByte']No. A girl should accept you for who you are. My girlfriend doesn't care how I spend my free time as long as I spend enough time with her. It's when your leisure starts to interfere with your life that you have a problem. Not that I've really been a big gamer as of late anyway... but I do other stuff (studying, hanging on the Internet, watching TV whatever).[/QUOTE]

This is pretty much it. My old GF was tolerant of my gaming when she wasn't around, however, when she was around she would drive me insane whenever I tried to play anything. Recently she has become interested in the Wii and wants to play games on that. So maybe you should get a Wii and make your gf a gamer. I don't like the wii much so I can't take my own advise, but maybe you can.
 
Unless you're bored of gaming, don't give it up. Especially just to please someone else. They should like you for ALL that you are, inlcuding being a gamer.

I made the smart move and found a girl gamer, and married her. :)
We have lots of fun playing stuff like World of Warcraft and Rock Band together.
 
Is this the same "Master Cheif" whose mother got into a tiff with random members in the Lifestyle forum? I just ask because "love" is quite extreme. Most adults reserve that word because--

Anyhow, preferably, people should accept you for as you are. However, when you commit to a relationship, you must, ya know, actually participate in the relationship (although this varies on the persons involved and the situation). Though, if you're as young as I think you are, relationships at your age are simply a learning experience. So, if you think you need the experience, do as you must.
 
Ok, well basically i haven't asked her whether or not she likes games, but she is surrounded by them all the time and never asks to play them. but then again, i have never invited her to play. and yes its the same master cheif.
 
.....14
I know, i'm a little young to be bringing up "love", but i really like her
i have known her for a while and she means a lot to me
 
Profile says 14. No offense, man, but you have no idea what love is. I'm not knocking you. I thought I knew what love was at 14, as well. But once you get older, you'll look back and laugh at how ridiculous the whole situation was.
 
[quote name='-MaStEr ChEiF-']Well, I think that its time to put down the games and finally move onto more important things. A girlfriend is the last thing i expected, but i really love her. I just want to spend alot of time with her so we can go on more dates and stuff like that. I just don't know cause putting down the games is gonna be harder to do than say. Has anyone else had to go through this?[/QUOTE]

Get yourself a SNES and some sweet games that are easy and fun to play. Just to name a few: NBA Jams TE, Donkey Kong Country and the Mario All-Stahs!
 
[quote name='-MaStEr ChEiF-'].....14
I know, i'm a little young to be bringing up "love", but i really like her
i have known her for a while and she means a lot to me[/QUOTE]

So you aren't even really dating her yet? Why did I even bother to give thought to my reply? Kid, if you don't even know if she likes videogames or not, or if she'd stop you from playing them, you need to become closer to her before you even ask stuff like this.
 
Eh? I don't get it. Are you saying you like her, but you're not sure if you like her enough to stop playing video games and go out with her?
 
I interrupt this conversation to respectfully tell the OP to "stick it in her pooper".

I now return you to your regularly scheduled thread...
 
You don't have to stop playing video games ever, really. Just adjust priorities. If you're deciding that spending time with a girl has a high priority than playing games that's fine, but you don't have to stop playing games when they don't interfere.
 
If you haven't stared at a knife for thirty minutes. You ain't been in love. If you haven't hatched a plot to take out anyone in your way to your goal. You ain't been in love. If you don't have the phone number of all your friends on speed dial for a moments notice of a huge shitstorm. You ain't been in love. If you don't have two grand set aside to run like hell. YOU AIN"T BEEN IN LOVE.
 
Pfft, if she's 14 then she probably plays video games. Seriously, what the fuck do you kids do these days besides play video games? I'm sure even she can watch The Hills for so long before she wants to kill something, so my money is on she plays video games too.
 
if she makes you happy she makes you happy continue your relationship or whatever it may be at your age. but DO NOT change yourself to possibly please her. just be you, if she dont like it, forget her.
 
she also won't respect you if you change yourself for her as changing yourself for her whims means you're a bitch.
 
When I met my girlfriend, she had an NES, Metroid, Castlevania II, Mario 1, 2, & 3, Paperboy, Zelda 1 & 2, Mega Man 1, 2, & 3, and Kid Icarus tucked inside the entertainment stand next to her sister's Dreamcast.

Now we've started a band together playing Rock Band along with my future brother-in-law.

There is hope.
 
They grow up so fast. :roll:

14? Finally time to put down the games? Really.

Hell, I'm almost 26, still get my guy pissed at me for ignoring him and playing RO all night.

Like right now. Especially since I told him I was doing my homework. :whistle2:\"
 
[quote name='Moxio']One time I saw a girl, but I got scared and ran away! :\[/quote]
Good, she would've torn your head off and force you into something horrifying called...A COMMITMENT!
 
[quote name='Moxio']One time I saw a girl, but I got scared and ran away! :\[/QUOTE]

Good. You don't want to catch cooties, do you?
 
Sounds like you're very young. As you grow up, you'll spend less and less time on gaming and other hobbies as you take on more responsibilities, dating, marriage, having kids etc. etc. are a part of that.

But as for high school dating, never give up something you enjoy for a girl. Spending less time on games due to being more social and going on dates, hanging out with friends etc. is fine and is a healthy thing IMO. Games should just be a hobby to fill time not a major part of life IMO.

But you should never totally abandon hobbies for a girl--hobbies are something you should have to fill time when not together etc. and there's no reason for a signficant other to expect you to give up an innocent hobby as long as it's not an obsession.
 
Being fourteen myself, I can relate. Don't say "you really like someone". You are just setting yourself up for disappointment. 99% you/she will break up with you, and you changed your life for her.

Go out, do shit, and have fun. Don't screw yourself over changing your life so a girl will like you. I'm not saying to not go and ask her out. Just don't change. Just keep telling yourself that it's not going to last, so when the bomb drops, you won't sit around and mope all week (something teens do WAY to fucking much). In HS, find a girl with your hobbies/interests. When you get older, you can look for a wider demographic.


I also second the comment to stick it in her pooper
 
Trust me from experience my good friend stick with the video games because the girlfriend will only drain your money more rapidly then the games. I have had the same girlfriend for 8 looooong years and everytime I think about buying gaming stuff I have to pause and think of how much I will need to spend towards helping her because she is in a serious amount of debt and I have no debt whatsoever. The main reason I dated her was because we both were into gaming but now I wish I could have gotten out a long time ago. Her debt is the main factor in me not marrying her since I know once that happens I will have to assume her debt.

Don't get me wrong I love her with all of me but her finances are starting to take a toll on my mental being. I just want to not get a call or text message every other week telling me that I need to help her with paying something. Matter of fact just in the last 2 weeks I had to help pay off her 3 months in back payments for her car which the company she is leasing through have sent out someone to try to repo her car several times because of non payment.

Sorry, I didn't mean to get that personal but I needed to let off a little steam because it helps me deal with what I'm going through. Sometimes I just don't want to be bothered but that comes with loving someone no matter what they do.
 
Dude you're 14... there's a very high probability that this "Relationship" won't last. Have fun and learn from it. You got another 10 years or so before you can even consider something serious.
 
It is much easier to introduce your gamer habits to her early, while she is (presumably) open minded. A good girlfriend would accept you as you are. If she doesn't accept you then she wasn't worth it. If you toss aside who you are and try to bring it back later on, she will wonder why and fight you every step of the way.
 
at your age, have fun and don't take relationships too seriously. have more fun going out in groups :) it's way more fun with way less silent moments.

as for giving up gaming, don't change yourself for any relationship (unless it's just straight up unhealthy). if you grow up and start phasing things out, that's cool. but if you're like she likes this or doesn't like this, it's only a slippery slope until you get to: "i really like this girl who does crack. I'll pick it up too." i know it's kind of a stretch, but you get the point ;)
 
Huh? Nah don't quit playin' games, just play 'em in more moderation. And if you do love her, or are close to it... just make her more important than fragging games. Doesn't mean ya gotta stop totally though. But hey, whatever works.
 
[quote name='bardockkun']Good, she would've torn your head off and force you into something horrifying called...A COMMITMENT![/quote]


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[quote name='PhrostByte']No. A girl should accept you for who you are. My girlfriend doesn't care how I spend my free time as long as I spend enough time with her. It's when your leisure starts to interfere with your life that you have a problem. Not that I've really been a big gamer as of late anyway... but I do other stuff (studying, hanging on the Internet, watching TV whatever).[/quote]

Yeah, I completely agree.

I've got a girlfriend and she isn't really into games all that much, only old school and modern (ps2..err..) FPS games. I've been trying to steer her into a RPG direction, but she isn't really into all that. I keep telling her that Final Fantasy VII is the best, and she says she wants to play it but never gets around to it, I can tell she doesn't want to play and she's sparring my feelings, lol.

So, I am going to make her play Final Fantasy X since I told her it was a romance type RPG and there's Chocobo's. She's like "WTF is a freakin' Chocobo?"

*mouth drops*

Told her what it was.

"So, when ya wanna start Final Fantasy X?" lol
 
I was with a girl for 4 years. One day she turned off my xbox while I was in the middle of a Heated game of Capcom vs SNK. She said "You don't listen to me". I had to throw the bitch out.
 
[quote name='-MaStEr ChEiF-'].....14
I know, i'm a little young to be bringing up "love", but i really like her
i have known her for a while and she means a lot to me[/QUOTE]

Alright, this is starting to sound a little emo or something. Don't worry.. she'll dump you, and you'll end up playing some strategy RPG or something trying to pass your free time. 10 years later, you'll be chasing tail on nights of barhopping, and kicking said tail out of your apartment the first time she turns off one of your games when she stays the night to watch Rock of Love or something.

At 14 and getting that wrapped up in someone is unrealistic.. just remember to wrap it up when you do the deed, so your future gaming funds aren't depleted by child support.
 
I'm mixed actually. Part of me wants to continue playing games and if girls won't like me because I play games, then so be it.

Another part of me wants to stop playing games and work on getting a girlfriend, since I've been single all my life and usually lonely. I seriously feel the main reason a girl won't date me and want to just be my friend is because I play too many games (along with being too nice).

But I don't really know to be honest. I have other things to fix in my life before I probably should have a girlfriend anyway. Many here have probably heard about some of the stuff in my blog anyway (the girlfriend entry). However, I'm almost 12 years older than the OP.
 
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your 14, your not in love. I am not trying to be mean, but you can't even drive yet so you really haven't met enough people and done enough things to commit love to someone.

On the video game issue, like everyone else here I agree that you shouldn't be trying to change yourself for something, especially at your age. Be yourself and try to enjoy yourself.
 
[quote name='-MaStEr ChEiF-']Ok, well basically i haven't asked her whether or not she likes games, but she is surrounded by them all the time and never asks to play them. [/quote]

I've decided a comment about my balls is inappropriate at this time. I'm exercising discretion.
 
[quote name='The Mana Knight']I'm mixed actually. Part of me wants to continue playing games and if girls won't like me because I play games, then so be it.

Another part of me wants to stop playing games and work on getting a girlfriend, since I've been single all my life and usually lonely. I seriously feel the main reason a girl won't date me and want to just be my friend is because I play too many games (along with being too nice).

But I don't really know to be honest. I have other things to fix in my life before I probably should have a girlfriend anyway. Many here have probably heard about some of the stuff in my blog anyway (the girlfriend entry). However, I'm almost 12 years older than the OP.[/QUOTE]

It's not the videogames that are the problem with you getting women, it's your self-esteem and confidence. I'm pretty sure I've mentioned this before.
 
Exactly. Games or other hobbies won't stop you from getting women or making friends.

It's lack of self-esteem and confidence that leads you to spend all your time playing games, reading about games online etc., rather than going out and being social, meeting people and thus preventing you from even having a chance to get women.

I turn 30 this year and have been gaming since I was 5 or 6. I've never had a shortage of friends and have never had problems in the dating arena and I'm confident in myself and socially active. Of course, I've never been obsessively into games or anything else either. Hobbies are just hobbies, they should never get in the way of life, or be used as a shell to avoid even trying to have a life.
 
[quote name='-MaStEr ChEiF-'].....14
I know, i'm a little young to be bringing up "love", but i really like her
i have known her for a while and she means a lot to me[/QUOTE]Ahahaha.

[quote name='Moxio']What are 'girls'.[/QUOTE]

What are "question marks"?
 
My GF complained about me spending too much time gaming but i talked to her and found out that she just felt left out, I have been playing alot of tf2 lately so I talked to her and found out that she wanted to play with me, so I told her i would get her a pc so she could play with me and she hasnt nagged me about it since. It isn't going to hurt you to game less, but maybe you could try including her in your gaming. either way best of luck
 
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