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[quote name='rodeojones903']Maybe, maybe not. We don't really know the circumstances, unless they were talked about in another thread. What issues does the mother have? I mean the guy is going to have a mohawk for the wedding. :D[/QUOTE]

Better to have a mohawk and be a good guy then to be a douche that makes jokes about others because they have a haircut that isnt the norm.
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']Better to have a mohawk and be a good guy then to be a douche that makes jokes about others because they have a haircut that isnt the norm.[/QUOTE]

On any other day no one cares. I just would see it as a nice gesture to your family and people you invite for that one day to not go with the mohawk.
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']Head rush first off this is a suit and tie wedding. ...snip
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So a suit and tie and hand tattoos and a mohawk and catering and aunt berthas casserole?
Are you in a band? Because if you're a rock star you can pull this kinda stuff off and not look like you're taking the whole thing as a joke.....otherwise...

Second no reason to be rude about pizza. Just cause you have a stick up your ass doesnt mean others might not appreciate the thought. Again I want my wedding to be real, not some stupid show.
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A wedding is, at its core, a stupid show. For your wife. Get used to it, its probably the last wedding she'll have for at least 4 or 5 more years....its all her, you just shut up and let her do what she wants and you'll wind up a happy man. She doesn't do it right her first time, she'll want to TRY IT AGAIN.

And thats why the Katamari cake is a great idea and fuck you for saying we will only be married for three years.
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The best way to get your revenge on my hurtful words are to prove me wrong, so I hope you're married 20 years from now. But a Katamari cake is gay. A Super Contra cake would be ballztastic.

Sorry but most people have big overblown events like you and guess what *gasp* most people get divorced. You ever stop to think that by having pizza even if not a main event item and having a Katamari cake which is something we both love we are getting our marriage started off on the right foot?
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Uh, I ain't marrying you...don't convince me, convince HER. And to me its more like "Yeah they're taking this whole thing REAL seriously".

Dude all you need to do to complete this picture is fly her off to Reno to take your vows!

It starts off wtih us being us and worrying at least somewhat about us and not the rest of the world, it starts off with us spending alot...but not so much that we could have bought a freaking car or put a down payment on a house with what we spend. Besides while im a new school kid having hand tattoos and a mohawk, im old school when it comes to getting married. Its part of the reason we are having a bit of a pot luck and its a big part of the reason we arnt signing papers. Because marriage is supposed to be about the binding of two souls for eternity not all this other worthless shit others care about.
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Then why are you asking about this crap on the interwebs, where idiots like me can chime in with our 2 cents? DO what you want........but since you asked for peoples opinions, you are getting them. I think your wedding idea sucks, I think you should listen to your wife, comb your fucking hair, and make her proud in front of her parents...then, the next day, go back to being "real". Because if she's all down with your ideas, you wouldn't be here bitching, would you?

Its because America is a disgusting capitalist society where people care more about impressing other people then being themselves and its because we have let womans have this stupid run away fantasy for years.
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So don't get married, or stand before a judge. Otherwise, you suck it up like MAN!

thought would be great and turned out to be a big expensive headache they didnt enjoy so the second wedding was a small event.
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Thats because they are divorced and broke. If the parents are paying, go big. If YOU rae paying, unless you are wealthy or own lots of internet businesses or make porn films, then keep it small because they are bills you will be paying for YEARS for *ONE DAY*. Just tell her "Look, this is important to me too, but we can't AFFORD all this...". If you are mature enough to get married you are mature enough to figure out a budget and stick to it. "Sure, get a $4000 gown...but that means we have to feed our guests on nothing but Pop Tarts and tap water".

Im glad I created this topic. Its really made me realize what I want to do. She ruined our engagment crying over what her mom would think for hours....
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What her mom would think? Yikes.

on the right foot. I wont get pizza for the main course but I am getting it as a side. It can sit right there next to my "tacky" Katamari cake while my music everyone hates still gets played every few songs!

Thanks for the input everyone. Talking through this helped.
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Why not do this: Have an after-party with pizza and beer...let her have her wedding, and you do some small cheap shit for a handfull of select guests....do it the next day or the day before or whatever, but don't turn your wedding into an extended bachelor party dude. Fight the small battles. Choose Carrots.
 
[quote name='rodeojones903']On any other day no one cares. I just would see it as a nice gesture to your family and people you invite for that one day to not go with the mohawk.[/QUOTE]

Y'know, just forget it. MSI thinks he's living in an era where having a mohawk haircut is dangerous because it isn't "mainstream." He's deluded into thinking that the greater society is stuck in some kind of puritanical "Footloose" mentality, and they'll suddenly be shocked into recognizing some sort of Marxist epiphany based upon how "society" forced him into his mohawk - and thus, the revolution will begin.

I say this in full disclosure as someone who rocked a mohawk for 4 years (*snif* - it was fuckin' BEAUTIFUL, too - a nice 8" fan of pillarbox red). It wasn't all that dangerous when I did it, and it sure isn't dangerous 11 years later. No amount of Tish n' Snooky's Manic Panic, bondage belts, or painted leather jackets make someone a "rebel."

I don't think MSI realizes that "the rebellion" has been commodified such that a mohawk is no longer rebellious - it's just tacky and common. One does not show up to a wedding in a "Pabst Blue Ribbon" baseball cap (with mesh backing) - but then again, one does not make the mistake of thinking that such an item is "not mainstream."

[quote name='HeadRusch']Get used to it, its probably the last wedding she'll have for at least 4 or 5 more years...[/QUOTE]

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

I should take that seriously - and I am - but still...:rofl:
 
[quote name='mykevermin']Y'know, just forget it. MSI thinks he's living in an era where having a mohawk haircut is dangerous because it isn't "mainstream." He's deluded into thinking that the greater society is stuck in some kind of puritanical "Footloose" mentality, and they'll suddenly be shocked into recognizing some sort of Marxist epiphany based upon how "society" forced him into his mohawk - and thus, the revolution will begin.

I say this in full disclosure as someone who rocked a mohawk for 4 years (*snif* - it was fuckin' BEAUTIFUL, too - a nice 8" fan of pillarbox red). It wasn't all that dangerous when I did it, and it sure isn't dangerous 11 years later. No amount of Tish n' Snooky's Manic Panic, bondage belts, or painted leather jackets make someone a "rebel."

I don't think MSI realizes that "the rebellion" has been commodified such that a mohawk is no longer rebellious - it's just tacky and common. One does not show up to a wedding in a "Pabst Blue Ribbon" baseball cap (with mesh backing) - but then again, one does not make the mistake of thinking that such an item is "not mainstream."


:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

I should take that seriously - and I am - but still...:rofl:[/QUOTE]

I know your a grumpy lonely ass guy that just enjoys nothing more then trying to upset other people since its the only human interaction you seem to be capable of getting....or atleast your sick enough in the head that its the only kind you care about. But honestly first you have insulted me in the past over the mohawk...if I didnt care then I wont now. But second I wont care because I have a mohawk because


1. When I was a kid I wanted to be cool. So you ALMOST got it right

2. As I got older I realized it was a stupid reason but realized how comfortable I had grown to feel in it mohawk as well as how fly I look in it.

3. Because its cheap. Honestly I look damn good in a flat top as well, but a flat top costs like $10-$15 every 3 weeks. A mohawk on the other hand as I said I look awsome in but my fiancee can just buzz my hair for me every month or two and it costs us nothing.

So ya started off when I was like 15 and a headstrong kid that thought having a mohawk made me king cool shit. now its just convient....God that makes me an old man now I think.
 
btw now that iv got my answer the mods can feel free to close this. Im sure that now that rodeojones, myverjervin(or however the fuck you spell his silly name)and headrush are here it will be nothing but a circlejerk of trying to hurt people and grumpiness.
 
No, I say you keep this unlocked and update us on what happens on the big day. Prove the naysayers wrong.

Hope you have a nice wedding day.
 
[quote name='Strell']FFS

SERVE IT AT THE REHEARSAL DINNER

HOW MANY fuckING TIMES DO I HAVE TO SUGGEST THIS?

PROBLEM.

fuckING.

SOLVED.

Criminy.[/quote]
You're such an ass...:lol:
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']Better to have a mohawk and be a good guy then to be a douche that makes jokes about others because they have a haircut that isnt the norm.[/quote]

Besides, at least it isn't a mullet.:lol:

Oh wait i just made fun of mullets....ah well.:lol:
 
One of my buddy's eloped. That's a badass move - but it has to be played right to get buy-in.

Once you're going down the wedding route you're pretty much screwed.

MSI Magus - I like the way you think. One of the things I really want to avoid is buying a diamond because I don't think celebrating life-changing events should necessitate funding wars in Africa. Then again, on the other hand most women are fucking nuts.
 
[quote name='camoor']One of my buddy's eloped. That's a badass move - but it has to be played right to get buy-in.

Once you're going down the wedding route you're pretty much screwed.

MSI Magus - I like the way you think. One of the things I really want to avoid is buying a diamond because I don't think celebrating life-changing events should necessitate funding wars in Africa. Then again, on the other hand most women are fucking nuts.[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I talked her out of a diamond ring, she loves the idea of picking out an antique ring and my engagment ring is solid gold and so will my wedding ring.
 
Hell yeah! Have the reception at a place like Pizza Street (or CiCi's Pizza). It's $3.99 for all you can eat. $4 per person for all the food your guests can eat. That's a CAG special!

No the wife wasn't too fond of my idea. We had our reception in the reception hall of a local golf course.

EDIT: Oh and my idea of adding video games to the Target registry was shot down as well:cry:
 
[quote name='Chitown021']Hell yeah! Have the reception at a place like Pizza Street (or CiCi's Pizza). It's $3.99 for all you can eat. $4 per person for all the food your guests can eat. That's a CAG special!

No the wife wasn't too fond of my idea. We had our reception in the reception hall of a local golf course.

EDIT: Oh and my idea of adding video games to the Target registry was shot down as well:cry:[/QUOTE]

Shes agreed to put one item on the registry thats a video game. I told her I thought it would be tacky and stupid if we put a bunch of video games on the registry and no one would do it anyways. But maybe if there is a long list of household stuff that she wants and then under Ryans section all it says is PS3.....maybe just maybe a few people will pool together and buy that 1 item for me. Doubt it....but might try it. Chances are we wont even bother registering anywhere and just let people give cash. Then I can pay off some of the wedding and maybe grab a PS3.
 
not sure if you've addressed this already but I was wondering why you were having a wedding without signing the papers to have it recognized by the state. I don't know if this is true in every state but I was under the impression that in cases of medical emergency your wife will have no say in your treatment without legal recognition of her status as your wife.
 
Why not just make ham and cheese sandwiches for everyone? Better yet you could just buy a shit ton of hot pockets and cut them up all fancy looking and they'd never know the difference. If someone asks just call it , "Le Haw Pawkets" (it MUST sound as french as possible) .
Go crazy with that shit, it's your wedding!

Quaker Oats rice patties FTW!
 
[quote name='blaked569']hey OP! fight the machine!...douchebag

bee tee dubs, i'm not old or grumpy. toodles![/quote]

This thread really brought out the ugly Americans.
 
why don't you get like a fancy pizza. So people will think you are chique instead of white trash. Maybe like a smoked salmon pizza or anything with a drop of cavier make people think its classy. Or something like Meatball Pizza with Grass Fed Angus Beef. Something that makes it out of the ordinary and not just Dom's Famous Pizza.
 
[quote name='MSI Magus']I know your a grumpy lonely ass guy that just enjoys nothing more then trying to upset other people since its the only human interaction you seem to be capable of getting....or atleast your sick enough in the head that its the only kind you care about. But honestly first you have insulted me in the past over the mohawk...if I didnt care then I wont now. But second I wont care because I have a mohawk because


1. When I was a kid I wanted to be cool. So you ALMOST got it right

2. As I got older I realized it was a stupid reason but realized how comfortable I had grown to feel in it mohawk as well as how fly I look in it.

3. Because its cheap. Honestly I look damn good in a flat top as well, but a flat top costs like $10-$15 every 3 weeks. A mohawk on the other hand as I said I look awsome in but my fiancee can just buzz my hair for me every month or two and it costs us nothing.

So ya started off when I was like 15 and a headstrong kid that thought having a mohawk made me king cool shit. now its just convient....God that makes me an old man now I think.[/QUOTE]

Bullshit. You're insisting upon wearing a mohawk to your wedding, which means you are unwilling to drop $10-15 for a flattop for your wedding day.

That's a convenient excuse if there ever was one.
 
OP,

1) I think pizza would be fine, but adding something else would make the whole atmosphere classier. Plus it seems like your fiance would perfer that.

2) Keep the mohawk if thats what you really want it. You seem to really want to keep it, and your fiance seems fine with it. So go for it. And congratuations about getting married.
 
Pizza isn't the best for a wedding, but going with some sort of unique, non wedding food would be cool.

At my graduation party I had lasagna (this really, really good kind from Sam's Club that everyone in my family still gets to this day after we ate it at the party), which just happened to be perfect because my party was on a somewhat cold and rainy day. It's been close to 3 years since the party and my parents tell me that their friends still remember that we had lasagna at my graduation party.
 
[quote name='Kaijufan']
At my graduation party I had lasagna (this really, really good kind from Sam's Club [/QUOTE]

No.

No no no no no.

fuck no.
 
I don't want to try it. I got homemade ish up ins, and there is no way Sam's Club is better than that. Whether you are buying it out of their freezer or getting it from their "deli" (or whatever the hell they call it), there is no way it is better.

But I chalk that up to Italian privilege more than anything else.
 
[quote name='Strell']I don't want to try it. I got homemade ish up ins, and there is no way Sam's Club is better than that. Whether you are buying it out of their freezer or getting it from their "deli" (or whatever the hell they call it), there is no way it is better.

But I chalk that up to Italian privilege more than anything else.[/quote]
That's true, the best homemade anything is going to be better then the best frozen food. However, it's easily the best frozen lasagna I've ever had, which is great for lazy people like me. :D
 
I'm having a wedding in September as well. Believe me I'm on your side as far as budgeting and all that is concerned but I wouldn't think twice about having pizza. I'm very happy with our caterer, we are actually having pasta - it can't be that much more expensive.
 
i got more money in gifts than my wedding cost. Vegas FTW.

The 'reception' was in this fancyish 'outside' Italian resturant in New York, New york.
 
[quote name='mykevermin']Bullshit. You're insisting upon wearing a mohawk to your wedding, which means you are unwilling to drop $10-15 for a flattop for your wedding day.

That's a convenient excuse if there ever was one.[/QUOTE]

No, its not that I wont drop $10-$15 for a haircut for my wedding. Its that im comfortable in a mohawk and its now me. My fiancee hates me in a flat top and has asked me to have a mohawk. Its like when we first met she hated facial hair so I shaved it all off to be more attractive to her. Well I HATE shaving so after awhile I couldnt help but be true to myself and grew my facial hair back out. Now anytime I shave my fiancee cries because my facial hair is gone....because its just not the me she knows. Ya I could go and get a flatop and pay the $10-$15, hell for my wedding id be happy to pay $50 for a good haircut. But the point is that a mohawk is just me. The wedding is for us not them and we both love the hawk and thus I will rock it.

If I wanted to be the kind of asshole your presenting me to be id paint my nails. I paint my nails all the time, yet havnt been doing it much and wont for my wedding because I know above my hair and everything else it drives my mom, mother in law and aunts up the freaking wall. My fiancee also doesn't care for it that much thus I wont do it.

*sigh* cant believe I wasted time on you, I really should just put you back on my ignore list. Everytime I take you off its the same thing, you insult people for no real reason.

As for the last several posters *wonders why everyone still thinks this is about the cost*
My cousin with the $10,000 wedding used a caterer that was cheaper then the pizza we were looking at. Sitll thanks everyone for input.
 
I'm back! Happy Thursday.

Magus I'm glad to see you're still fighting the good fight.

Lilboo actually had a great idea (italian food theme) you can get your pizza and she can get a "respectable" wedding. Strell's idea wasn't even that bad, though he is still a huge douche (love ya strell!;)).

So are you like a punker or a new waver or something? I hate labels but I'm just trying to get a mental picture of exactly what the fuck is going on here. Gimme some pics of you and your fiance!

It's a good idea to have a long engagement, sounds like you've had some issues with this chick/her family and I'm glad you're not rushing into things. How old are you OP? I only ask b/c it seems your fiance is still really tied to her parents and don't seem to want you to be the one tasked with taking care of thier little girl.

Has it occured to you that they don't want/didn't want her to be with you b/c of your appearance? You sure she likes it? If yes then keep on punkin out b/c punks not dead but it might save all parties some headache if you would just conform out of a sign of defference/courtesy to her family at least for a day.

This is all off topic though and has nothign to do with pizza which I love. Whoever said teh guys would love it and the women would be snarky about it is completely right. They would all be talkin shit and phoning their friends about how trashy it was, which of course would not prevent them from scarfing down hot cheesy goodness at the wedding and loving every bite. Sucks SOME (
 
[quote name='pittpizza']I'm back! Happy Thursday.

Magus I'm glad to see you're still fighting the good fight.

Lilboo actually had a great idea (italian food theme) you can get your pizza and she can get a "respectable" wedding. Strell's idea wasn't even that bad, though he is still a huge douche (love ya strell!;)).

So are you like a punker or a new waver or something? I hate labels but I'm just trying to get a mental picture of exactly what the fuck is going on here. Gimme some pics of you and your fiance!

It's a good idea to have a long engagement, sounds like you've had some issues with this chick/her family and I'm glad you're not rushing into things. How old are you OP? I only ask b/c it seems your fiance is still really tied to her parents and don't seem to want you to be the one tasked with taking care of thier little girl.

Has it occured to you that they don't want/didn't want her to be with you b/c of your appearance? You sure she likes it? If yes then keep on punkin out b/c punks not dead but it might save all parties some headache if you would just conform out of a sign of defference/courtesy to her family at least for a day.

This is all off topic though and has nothign to do with pizza which I love. Whoever said teh guys would love it and the women would be snarky about it is completely right. They would all be talkin shit and phoning their friends about how trashy it was, which of course would not prevent them from scarfing down hot cheesy goodness at the wedding and loving every bite. Sucks SOME (
 
i say you shouldn't get married.. you need to have everyone on the same page.. if you both are truely in love it can wait another year while you settle down everything with the future in laws and such.

however.. if this is truely truely going to go down regardless.. I don't think pizza is a bad choice.. (Pizza is just as conventional as any other food these days.. if you can order it from a high end speciality restaurant the better.. ) I think if me and my girlfriend got married and we decided on Pizza there would be absolutely no complaints from either side of the family ... especially if we got some really great speciality pizza from some local places around from where we both live (we'd have to have 2 weddings one in NC and one in UT.. both have amazing pizza places)

just don't get like a pizza hut pizza.. that would be very tacky.. the only high end "chain" that I could think of that would be where you live would be the California Pizza Kitchen.. no one would complain over the quality/taste of that pizza.. this is all of course if you can't find a high end local restaurant..
 
A woman wants to marry you?

Pizza on your wedding day? How stupid can you be? Even if there was the wedding with 15 people having pizza is insane. Unless it's really nice tiny pizzas, but otherwise stupid and insane. She should return the ring now because this will end in a divorce within 3 -5 years.
 
You cannot chose which aspects of your wedding will be casual and which will not be. If you want pizza, great, but you just assigned yourself to ultra casual wedding reception. Expect lots of sun dresses and khaki pants. No ties.
If you want to have it more on the dress side you cannot have pizza, regardless of how "fansy" you make the pizza, its still fuck ing pizza!

The best suggestion was to do pizza at the rehersal dinner. I can get behind that 100%.

BTW I have to say this is one of the most enjoyable threads I have ever read since I became a CAG. Well done everyone!:applause:
 
I think you are taking your critics the wrong way Magus. Its not that we are trying to insult you. We are just trying to get the point across that it would be a nice sign to her parents who seem to not like you. From what you have posted it seems they don't like you because of your appearance and because of your issues and reasons why you can not work. They might think that in the long run living off disability won't provide much of a life for their daughter. My best friend suffers from really bad panic attacks, but he has prescriptions that help out.

It just seems like a good first move towards changing her parents mind, which it seems she really cares about but you don't.
 
[quote name='mykevermin']It's quite evident that he was fishing for validations of his viewpoint, and when he didn't get them, became defensive.[/quote]

This thread, in that aspect, really is not all that different from my "would you wear crocs" thread. I, like magus, figured when I created it that most people would say no, but just wanted some opinions on both sides. One way or the other, it is possible to express yourself without adding insults like "you'll be divorced in 3 years" and IMO it is these responses to which the OP got defensive about.

SO to me it doesn't seem like he was fishing for validations, but just fishing for opinions, which he got. He already said he was appreciative of those who gave some constructive views.

But...here I go again, stickin' up for the lil guy.
 
[quote name='rodeojones903']I think you are taking your critics the wrong way Magus. Its not that we are trying to insult you. We are just trying to get the point across that it would be a nice sign to her parents who seem to not like you. From what you have posted it seems they don't like you because of your appearance and because of your issues and reasons why you can not work. They might think that in the long run living off disability won't provide much of a life for their daughter. My best friend suffers from really bad panic attacks, but he has prescriptions that help out.

It just seems like a good first move towards changing her parents mind, which it seems she really cares about but you don't.[/QUOTE]

rodeo ill try appealing to you seriously just once then ill chalk you up as the same type as mykvebitchinhving or however you spell his name and head rush. My problem isn't with the critics. As I said I EXPECTED people to disagree with me. In my head I thought hmmmm this might be tacky...iv said that a few times. I also had posted at yahoo answers before here and gotten like 25 out of 30 people responding its cheap or tacky. I expected people here would respond that it was tacky,but posted anyways to get some suggestions and think half the people might not think so. If half didnt think so I might have ran with the idea thinking screw the uppity people, but if even at a video game message board which is going to be male dominated people respond badly. Well ya its obviously far too tacky. My problem was with critics that like myhiefwjaif and head rush that were flat out insulting. I really dont mind criticism and I can deal with insults, hell I had a whole table of people at my cousins wedding try and pick a fight with me over my hair and I used to weight 350 pounds....so seriously iv lived my whole life with it.

But people that are insulting in the sense of you and your fiancee will never make it or saying stuff like man your fiancee should dump you. Those are the people I have problems with. Ill ignore it from here out, but it intially got my goat Ill just take it to mean they are fat lonely losers that can never find someone, or people lucky enough that they found someone but their bitter assholes because their personalities have wrecked their own marriage...

If you have critics go ahead and give them, like I said I really dont mind. People that have suggested stuff for mending wounds with her parents I appreciated and some even had good suggestions. Hell I think I posted a topic here after we got engaged and listened to many of your advices on this very issue. Iv taken alot from this topic too. But there is a difference between giving a criticism(which many people did)and being an insulting asshole for no reason.

Real fast on the subject of her parents. Its not that I dont care about trying to fix things. If you read previous posts you will see that first off her mother has insulted me time and time again and I just took it on the chin. Second you will see that I posted that I paint my nails and it drives her nuts, thats something temporary so I always whipe my nail polish off when going to their house. Third you will see I talk about being respectful, doing the dishes etc etc when I go over then. Most of my time at their house has been spent being helpful and polite....iv YET to have a battle with these people or say anything rude. Finally for Christmas this year her mom had seemed to come around on me. The few months leading up to Christmas they had been treating me almost like a member of the family. They had started inviting us to family events again, took us out to lunch a few times and while at the house were being very nice, respectful and treating me like I belonged there. Well in addition to this her mom got me a 360 for Christmas. I was blown away that she got me such a nice gift....so I wrote them a thank you letter. In the letter I made it clear that I was thankful for the gift, but I told them ya know im even more thankful that it feels like we are getting along...that it feels like your welcoming me into your home which means far more then the 360 even if it was one of the best gifts I ever got.

Iv tried.....iv tried hard. So again I appreciate people saying that I should try, but I dont appreciate the insults, and I dont appreciate that iv made it clear how hard iv tried and yet people here make it out that iim not compromising enough. If ya have a response cool, if you have more critics or suggestions cool. But if your going to act like the others just tossing insults dont bother responding because just like them ill toss you on the ignore list.
 
[quote name='pittpizza']This thread, in that aspect, really is not all that different from my "would you wear crocs" thread. I, like magus, figured when I created it that most people would say no, but just wanted some opinions on both sides. One way or the other, it is possible to express yourself without adding insults like "you'll be divorced in 3 years" and IMO it is these responses to which the OP got defensive about.

SO to me it doesn't seem like he was fishing for validations, but just fishing for opinions, which he got. He already said he was appreciative of those who gave some constructive views.

But...here I go again, stickin' up for the lil guy.[/QUOTE]

Exactly. I figured the response would be an overwhelming no. And was thankfull for peoples suggestions. It was the asshole comments that I got defensive about. Man I dont know why I keep giving people like myvkhbitchfew and headrush multiple chances taking them off ignore. Seriously....some people just have no manors and cant express themselves without insulting others.

And thank you pita for actually reading my posts and appreciating what they are.
 
[quote name='pittpizza']This thread, in that aspect, really is not all that different from my "would you wear crocs" thread. I, like magus, figured when I created it that most people would say no, but just wanted some opinions on both sides. One way or the other, it is possible to express yourself without adding insults like "you'll be divorced in 3 years" and IMO it is these responses to which the OP got defensive about.

SO to me it doesn't seem like he was fishing for validations, but just fishing for opinions, which he got. He already said he was appreciative of those who gave some constructive views.

But...here I go again, stickin' up for the lil guy.[/QUOTE]

Eh, yes and no - once people began suggesting very reasonable compromises, such as having it at the rehearsal dinner, or going w/ an Italian theme at the wedding itself, he would just write off and disregard such suggestions. It's fine if he doesn't want to compromise (after all, it's his wedding and not ours) - at the same time that I simply don't see this openness to opinions you speak of - he asked for opinions, and immediately began defending one side of the equation. That's not trying to gauge attitudes at all, IMO, and is seeking for validation under the guise of asking an open question.

Asking a question and then telling people why you prefer one side and aren't open to considering the other is not at all seeking an opinion.
 
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